TTC after a Miscarriage - Keep Trying!!!!

[Diddle]

Well ladies, its about time we had a new thread, the old one is getting very long. Plus I think we need another fresh start, with lots of positive babydust:

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Get a big handful girls, i think we all need it.
I was trying to think of something great and positive to put, but this TTC lark is getting us all down, i'm fed up of trying, but we will all succeed eventually, our times will come.

It will be much better for our little ones to have a good start when our bodies are truly ready to carry them.

nic I'm the same as you. Last month I started to think I was pg (feeling dizzy, etc) so tested, was -ve, then allowed the thought to creep in ... "but it is still early so maybe ...".

Not doing it this month.

If I count the first day of last period as day 1, then I'm on day 26. If it doesn't arrive then I'm going to wait till Thursday. Or maybe Wed.

Afternoon all,
Still resisting doing a test but not doing very well! I've had one of those afternoons with all these thoughts going round and round in my head. The thing is yesterday I felt awful and sickly but today, and probably because I had a reasonable nights sleep, I don't feel so bad. Keep thinking I'm now imagining all these "symptoms" that I've had except I've still got the aching boobs and don't really feel pre-menstrual. And with every ache and pain, I seem to think my AF's arriving. I can see me getting to tomorrow afternoon and doing a test just because I need to do something!

Hi all. Well a bit of positive news today - have finally managed to get another GP practice to take us on. No idea what they'll be like, but they can't be any worse. Now just need to wait for a couple of weeks until the paperwork is done, and hopefully we'll get some more postive response from them.

Good for you LunarSea, I was wondering today how you were getting on. You're right- they can't be any worse!

Excellent news Lunasea! Hopefully now you can get somebody to listen.

Great news lunarsea.Your on your way!!!

xx

Evening ladies

Busy day at work today but a lovely old customer bought me some flowers for being nice to him-bless! Temporarily took me away from my obsession with testing.

wishingchair-my day 28 is also Thursday so that is the day AF is due. I have done that many -ive tests this last week and thinking that maybe it is just too early to test and that I must have ovulated late-no chance. AF will arrive on Thursday I'm sure. I refuse to buy any more tests and next month use the few I have left a couple of days before.

Sooo-Diddle,petunia and wishingchair-one of us four has to get a BFP (which won't be me but will increase the odds for me next month)

LunarSea-Brilliant news on the GP front-v.difficult getting into a new practice.

My new week's resolution then is to not obsess about peeing on sticks!

Bye for now and love and hugs to everyone.

xx

Hmmmm-I see we have some of you defecting to the 'other' thread. Do we smell?

I am just spreading myself about a bit and hopefully bringing more luck

Oh-OK then-I'll let you off. Just this time though!

Night night all
x

Morning everyone,

So has anyone tested?? wishing chair have you?

Lunarsea - great news re the new GP. Hope this is the start of something fab for you!
Hope you're all hanging in there and resisting those early tests!!
I was sure I ovulate tomorrow (based on my dates) but no smiley face in my clearblue OPK today. Any ideas? Should I be worried? and, perhaps the most stupid question of all- if I'm having AF's does that mean that I must be ovulating???

spub - afraid you can have AF without OV. Maybe you're just OVing a bit later than you thought.

Oh kack. I had a hunch that might be the case. I will keep testing over the next few days. It's just that since my m/c the 2 AF's that I have had have been 28 day cycles so it seemed pretty sensible to assume I'd ovulate 14 days after the start of AF.
I'll keep testing over the next few days and hopefully get the smiley face.
As I like to be prepared for the "worst" - what happens if I don't get the ov surge?
Does anyone know how you'd broach this with your GP and what would happen next?
Am probably over-reacting and will post tomorrow with a smiley but you guys know everything so I thought I'd just ask!

how can you get AF without OV, when AF is caused by the eggs?? I am confused now.

Lunarsea - Excellent news about changing GP' lets hope they refer you straight away.

Spub, will do a bit of investigating for you.

You can have A/F without ovulating.
A/F is the lining of the uterus coming away. The uterus prepares itself for possible implantation whether OV occurs or not. Many women with infertility problems have regular periods but may not be OV regulary. As FF tells us taking temps is the only way to confirm whether OV has occurred.

Thats my understanding anyway...

Morning everyone - no need to test for me. AF arrived this morning. FFS - what do you need to do around here to get preggers??!!!

OK I know the answer but good grief. And OK I know I've only been at it for 2 months and it always took longer in the past, and yes DH was away for most of the right time this month, but you'd think one sneaky little swimmer would find its way! Are they blind???!!!

Am going to get some ov tests today - will keep them hidden from dh as he has an aversion to the 'weeing on sticks' variety of babymaking - but enough is enough.

But then I suppose I'm in no rush (god I sound mental today), watched Paul McKenna last night and a lady on there was pg and had a 6/7 year old DD and I thought it was so nice as she'd had all that time with DD and now she could also really enjoy her baby.

Guess it'll happen when the time is right.

Good luck to everyone else. SOMEONE has to have success this month

Anyone heard how Shelly's doing?

Hi everyone! Let me introduce myself if you don't know me already. I have 3 ds's (6, 5 and 2) , all healthy pregnancies, then last week I miscarried at 7 weeks. Was devestated - didn't think that would ever happen to me (stupid, I know ). I have been posting on MC threads, bu thtink I should start to move on from there now. I'm still heartbroken and greiving for the baby I lost, and I don't think that will ever go away, but I feel I should try and be positive now.

I would love to try again for another baby, not yet as it is way too soon, but definately by the end of the year. I am scared, frightened it will happen again, but I keep telling myself that I can carry a baby to term and there is no reason I can't again.

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that I will be around now, and after reading some of this thread, I know I'll get lots of support and love from you.

Hi baggybear - so sorry this has happened to you. Everyone here can appreciate what you're going through ... some already have children some don't, but all have m/c and are now facing ttc again. A scary prospect!

I have a DD (2 and a half) and lost my little one in Feb at 19 weeks, although he died at around 16 weeks. I've only been ttc again for the last 2 months ... only now do I feel ready to face it all again and feel positive about it.

You're right - the grief doesn't go away but you learn to live with it. Looking forward to get to know you and hopefully we'll all get to share some happy news!

Thanks wishingchair. I hope I'm welcome here because I can't help but think of those of you that have lost babies at a later stage than me, and who don't have children already. I almost feel like a fraud. I am one of the lucky ones and I'm aware of that.

I have been perusing this thread for a little while and know that some of you are eagerly waiting for the end of the month. I wish you all the very best of luck and hope we get to see positive outcomes

Hi Baggy,
Welcome to our happy (ish, mostly) gang of ttc campers.
Sorry to hear about your loss. My m/c was also at 7 weeks and I was really looking forward to having a brother or sister for my dd (2.7). The good thing about this thread is that no one is "judgemental" about anyone else's right to grieve or to want to get pregnant again regardless of whether or not you already have children and regardless of how many if you do. A lost baby is a lost baby and that's the one thing we can all relate to.

welcome baggybear, glad you decided to join us, again i'm so sorry for your loss, and yes we are all here to love and support you as much as you want us to. None of us are luckier than the other, we have all been through the same thing, and having children already or not makes no difference, we have all lost our child/children, please don't feel like a fraud you have as much right as anyone of us to be here.
Give yourself plenty of time to grieve, it will never go away but i can honestly say it gets easier.

Cori - Thanks for the Af and OV description, you're right, had totally forgotten my biology. Its all clear now. Makes me wonder if i should use OV tests next month, just to be sure.

Wishingchair - sorry Af has turned up, so inconsiderate isnt she . You sound ok though. Your body is obviously waiting till it is in tip top condition before letting your beanie hang on. Which isn't a bad thing just annoying when we are all so impatient.

For those newbies who aren't already on the stats thread, here is a link to it:

TTC after M/c Stats

Here you can add a few details for us all to see a bit about you, and it helps to have something to refer to when talking to each other, like where in the country we are, and how many children we alreayd have etc. take a look.

Cori and Diddle,
I will keep checking over the next few days just to make sure that ov does in fact happen! Had never considered that it might not....

neither had i spub, will be keeping a close eye on it myself next month.