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Just MC...Long haul, short haul, ranting, weeping, laughing all encouraged. Oldies and newbies very welcome

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liahgen66 · 22/02/2010 21:46

Ok, feel a bit scared actually starting the new thread but here we are, for however long (or short) our time here may be.

Off you go ladies. Welcome () one and all.

OP posts:
clareanna · 27/02/2010 14:31

Am now laughing at general loopiness and how scared dh looked!!!
Had similar to your friend after San tropez tan and had forgetten when I got dressed ( leaving paper pants on) that my knickers were rolled up In the leg of my jeans... Cut to 10 mins later walking down busy road when I felt something fall out of my trouser keg onto the floor... The man behind me kindly picked the brown fake tan streaked pants up for me- oh the shame!!! Made me laugh just remembering

floweringcurrant · 27/02/2010 14:43

Hi all,
Need some company and this is such a lovely thread, can somebody add me to it please?
Had a m/c last April (fools day)at 11.5 weeks.
Since then have been trying off and on but timing has been pants. OH is happy not to use contraception but its very tricky getting him to take a more targeted approach. Anyone else find that? Desperately hoping it was better this month. My stats are TTC no.1 / UCL 28 / CD17.
Good luck to everyone x

Pollybloodyanna · 27/02/2010 15:22

floweringcurrant my dh is just like that, and was also for the baby we just lost. i can't even tell him if it is a fertile time as he then feels "under pressure". He definitely won't shag on a timetable, and this week has been too tired, had a sore throat, and a bad back. It really pisses me off tbh - he has made a decision on his own that he is not going to ttc and there has been no discussion about it.

I don't want to just "see how it goes" and shag when I feel like it and anyway his attitude puts me right off him anyway. grr

Sorry about the rant! You're not alone . (I keep telling him about more amenable dps on here who do swi, but he only wants to swoi)

Pollybloodyanna · 27/02/2010 15:22

and welcome to the thread floweringcurrant!

floweringcurrant · 27/02/2010 16:03

Polly thanks for that. Argh its very upsetting I know exactly what you mean ... I don't go there with the whole fertile days thing either but because I have become so hyper aware of them, I feel like I am being furtive. I'm 39 and I wish he would realise that he is not bleedin' Peter Pan either. Its a stresser leaving it to fate like this. I hope you're chances are good this cycle.

Moofold · 27/02/2010 17:42

Hello everyone -- and welcome redandyellow and floweringcurrant. Sorry you have to be here too but hope it helps you get through this.

Jollster, that is really heartbreaking news. Can't believe you are going through that again so soon. Take care of yourself.

Liahgen, hats off to you with your profession and coping so well. I have been busily congratulating myself for managing to visit a friend and her newborn. I even held him without falling apart (until later in secret at least).

I am contemplating doing a pg test. Have been getting cramps for over a week now and still no AF. I feel in my heart that it is not possible - particularly since I haven't detected ovulation or a temp increase! However, while I am continuing to enjoy so much red wine perhaps I will do one to be on the safe side. Then feel crushed anyway when it iis negative!

I am lucky with DH, he hasn't complained ever about SWI at the right times. Good luck to you ladies getting round that one!

Have a good evening everyone x

Unbuffy · 27/02/2010 18:39

Welcome ladies, this is a good place to be - to rant, drink tea and ask advice.

On which subject (great segue there) someone mentioned a little way back about weird af post m/c - Clareanna possibly I think? Opinions please - 2 days of af, then 2 days off, then on again today (typical - about 1/2 an hour after poas as instructed by confused dh - bfn of course. I told him so!) very odd and unlike usual (prepare for tmi here) which is fairly light and goes on for a week or so. Mind you it's all been a bit haywire since bf dd. Just not THIS weird.

btw G1lda, my mum swears that she concieved most of us (there are 4...) while with streaming cold (or hangover in one case) and also while v v drunk (as well as poorly - my brother. He LOVED being told that one boozy evening!) So bung the Olbas on the vaporiser, get the room steamy and good luck!!! Your dh won't know what's hit him...

Pollybloodyanna · 27/02/2010 18:49

I'm 39 too floweringcurrant - dh is in denial about how difficult it could be to get pg/stay pg.

clareanna · 27/02/2010 19:01

Am now laughing at general loopiness and how scared dh looked!!!
Had similar to your friend after San tropez tan and had forgetten when I got dressed ( leaving paper pants on) that my knickers were rolled up In the leg of my jeans... Cut to 10 mins later walking down busy road when I felt something fall out of my trouser keg onto the floor... The man behind me kindly picked the brown fake tan streaked pants up for me- oh the shame!!! Made me laugh just remembering

SarahMumtoAlex · 27/02/2010 19:04

Wow the thread is so busy its tricky to namecheck everyone, but a sad welcome to newbies. Also jollster sorry to hear your heartbreaking news. Do be gentle with yourself.

I'm feeling lucky on the topic DH at the moment, I think he's really begining to understand some of what ttc after mc is like. We're having our kitchen rebuilt with inevitable delays. And he said today that he thought it was particularly hard for me because it being upside down could make me feel like the house isn't ready to welcome another. Made me cry so it must have some truth. I was just pleased that he understood how it pervades the whole of life.

Unbuffy · 27/02/2010 19:04

deja vu clareanna

clareanna · 27/02/2010 19:06

Unbuffy- yes it was me- first af just like that too- 10 days in total on and off - hope it doesn't affect ov this month!

Is it wine o'clock yet?! I've got a nice bottle of red?

clareanna · 27/02/2010 19:07

Stoopid iPhone- apologies fir random dbl post - not sure how that happened?! This is wh. I don't feel I can be trusted with the stats list!

clareanna · 27/02/2010 19:09

Fir? For... Promise I haven't even opened the wine yet...

Waves at newbies...

Unbuffy · 27/02/2010 19:11

Definately wine o'clock, methinks... Red is fine, i have a bottle too

Unbuffy · 27/02/2010 19:12

Clareanna, perhaps you need to borrow my friend Brian? He's good at this sorta thing

randomimposter · 27/02/2010 19:49

thanks for such lovely messages - this thread is moving faster than I can ever remember - am going to have to up my mental concentration to keep up, which is hard at my age ...

Off to stuff face with chili... can't eat from midnight in case I get lucky and they can squeeze me in for my ERPC tomorrow. Me "nil by mouth" is not a happy prospect!

Tarra for now

Icedlemonmuffin · 27/02/2010 19:51

I have walked out of many shops in the last year with tears and snot running down my face because I have just fallen apart at something that would have never bothered me before. I just pretend I've forgot my medication !!

My funniest and most cringey moments are usually dds fault, like the time I come back from the toilet (dh and dd in supermarket queue) dd said 'mummy did you have a runny poo again and did you wipe your bum properly?'. I went red looked at dh and he said well did you? Just wanted the ground to swallow me up.

hippychick66 · 27/02/2010 20:36

Hi all. More red wine available if you'd like.

I have started poas to see if I'm ov-ing, but mainly just cos I am paranoid to see what kind of luteal phase I am gonna have.(I know it is pointless as cycles could be all over the bloody place but it makes me feel like I'm doing research). I'm not gonna ttc this month cos I have decided to have at least one af first.

Also I'm still bleeding (10 days after EPRC - is that ok?) and so we couldn't really shag with or without intent as they said at hosp no sex until bleeding stops.

I got the new tv guide today and read that Becky is going to have an MC. Then I felt bad for her - until hubbie reminded me that she - ISN'T REAL!!!!

Much love to all you lovely ladies (and Brian, our resident male!)

VivClicquot · 27/02/2010 20:39

Evening my lovelies,

Quick one from me to say Jollster my love, I am so utterly sorry for you. Hope you and DH are bearing up okay, and sending you lots of love.

Welcome to redandyellow and floweringcurrant - sorry you're here but you've found a lovely warm haven.

Hi to everyone else. We've just had BIL and SIL over - the one who pointedly asked me three weeks ago if I had "any news". Would you believe she asked me AGAIN, and then said that if I've not got lucky this month, then I should leave it next month as "you don't want a Christmas baby" ...

I managed to blurt out, "Quite frankly, given everything we've been through, I'd be grateful for ANY baby. I couldn't give a SHIT when its due." Am feeling strangely proud...

Oh and 7 dpo here - feeling very 'wet' and a few twinges but no other symptoms. I bloody bastard hate the 2ww

xxxx

Muser · 27/02/2010 20:55

God I wish I could have a drink. Stupid methotrexate.

clareanna · 27/02/2010 21:26

Viv- well done for saying something - sometimes you just have to stand up for yourself even if it makes people uncomfortable - my mum is constantly saying the wrong thing so you go girl!

Am currently feeling very cross with channel4- wasn't this film on last week?!

clareanna · 27/02/2010 21:28

Muser - big glass of virtual wine on it's way- please drink responsibly

sparklyrainbow · 27/02/2010 21:45

Well done Viv, it's good to get it all out isn't it! I made similar comment to colleague who was whinging on facebook about being near to labour/worried about being induced (erm, you're not even past your due date love?) and pointed out how she should just be bloody grateful she could (a) conceive and (b) carry a baby! She had it today

Clareanna hope your day got better and sorry to hear your sad news Jollster, hope you get your ERPC tomorrow. Take care of yourself.

Sorry you're here floweringcurrant and redandyellow and hope everyone else is having a good weekend

Gi1da · 27/02/2010 21:46