Just MC...Long haul, short haul, ranting, weeping, laughing all encouraged. Oldies and newbies very welcome

[liahgen66]

Ok, feel a bit scared actually starting the new thread but here we are, for however long (or short) our time here may be.

Off you go ladies. Welcome () one and all.

Bigmuther one step at a time, you have been through a terrible time. Your emotions are all over the place and sadly only time will help to heal your heartache.

I felt completely numb for weeks but had to come to terms with the fact that it just wasn't meant to be this time, DP was very supportive however I'm not sure he completely understands.

I can't begin to imagine how hard it is for you both right now, I'm sure you DH will come round eventually. Feel free to rant on here with us all, we have all been through it and share your sadness. big (hugs) x x x

BigMuther I'm glad that you came back,after popping in a few weeks ago.
Take your time and don't worry about ranting here, we all do it when we need to.
Is MrBM just worried about you.
I went though something similar with MrG.
He said that it didn't mean that we were not on the same page, it's just that my health and sanity was his first priority.
Give yourselves a bit of time xx

I really need to shift myself or twunt will be making notes if I'm 5 seconds late.
Who's the boss again???

Laters xx

Sending you lots of love BigMuther - MrsG speaks a lot of sense when she says that MrBM (or can I call him BigFather? ) might be worried about you.

spotty - hope things haven't been too bad for you overnight and that you're doing okay.

Today's my last day in the office before our weekend en France avec beacoup de BAI (boffing avec l'intention)

I'll bring you all back some pain au chocolat and maybe some french saucisson...

xxx

Ooooo la la ! Viv

Hey Spotty - hope things are going ok today, not sure if you are still having the ERPC, and if so, if that will go ahead today?

Lots of you guys need a big hug today I think, so I'm making a new traditional - the Friday GROUP HUG. Gather round ladies, yes, you too Liah, squish BigMuther in the middle a bit, Polly, Elmmum squeeze in by MrsG (no need to bring saucisson at this point) - and the rest of you ladies, don't be shy now. Viv, G1lda, Clareanna, Littlemiss - do a bit of crowd surfing on the top, hug from above and all that.

Now hug it out ladies, hug it out!!!

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MrsG - you're the boss.

Is that the correct answer? Jeez I hope so, I hope it doesn't turn out he's the boss. I presume he is IN HIS HEAD.

xxx

That reminds me, I did crowd surf once at a Frank Black gig, oh a VERY long time ago!!!

Happy Friday all, lets hope the spring sun dusts itself off and gets back out there for the weekend.

Still chucking at Viv's beaucoup de bofferey weekend. Bon chance!!

spottysox hope you're ok, saw your messages yesterday.

No more spotting since the one event on day 12 so in 2ww now. Boobs are feeling fuller which may indicate progesteron increasing, we'll see.

I conceived DS this very month 3 years ago, so would love another December baby! Though don't want to gear myself up too much. As such have not jumped onto any buses. I think I may also stay away from grads threads as there was too much heartache for lots of us on mine and I don't think that's healthy. Together with watching too much news in the Haiti earthquake and crying about the dead children and orphans. This time I'm wrapping myself in cotton wool.

Have a good Friday everyone! Though it's pissin it down here!

Hellloooo! Barrenbrook pokes head round door and guiltily waves for lack of attendance

So much has happened again, it's nye on impossible keeping up if you don't get on here every day. My job gets in the way, it's sooooo unfair!

How are we all?! Hello to everybody, have just scanned through the 10 (yes 10) pages I've missed out on Goddamit.

Bigmuther Sorry for your loss , and a belated welcome

Spottysox Hope you are doing OK and have avoided having to have ERPC. Thinking of you.

Muser Good news on the levels, here's to them carrying on dropping.

MrsG Welcome back, your posts have had me giggling, along with yours Slimyak, Unbuffy, Viv and GLB

So, CD14 according to my CBFM today and am peaking, later than usual but I guess post MC your cycles are never the same. I had two really clear strong lines on the CBFM sticks the past two mornings so everything's obviously working and back to normal (ish)

Have a good weekend girls

PS Can I join in with the group hug??!

Happy friday all! I have come to join in the group hug - think I need it!

Need some advice ladies, I am having a mini panic/breakdown - I have my appointment at hospital a week on monday for recurrent mc, it has just dawned on me that my dp is not at work so can come too. what do I do?!?!

I havn't even asked him yet, but am so stuck as to what to do. He's lovely, but seems to have coped with the mc's better than me, for some reason don't want him to see me getting upset but also might be nice to have hime there if i do....

Also, like others experiences, I don't want my dp to feel he has to "perform" when I think he's starting to think I only want to have sex to get pg (ahem, maybe that is true sometimes )

Sorry for the rant. I have been for all of my hospital appts and scans on my own in the past, feel like I'm quite a strong person most of the time but also feel embarrassed if I start blubbing in front of people.

Thanks and big friday hugs to anyone else who needs it! ((()))

Barrenbrook, Sakura - snuggle into the group hug. And that goes to everyone!! You too Bunny!! Friday group hug is now mandatory.

Barrenbrook - glad to hear the CBFM is showing peaks, a good sign, and good that it's only slightly later than in other cycles. Hopefully a good weekend ahead.... ?!

Sakura....hmmmm that's tricky. I was similar with my scans and appointments, I even went to the hospital for the ERPC without DH (and kept repeating the phrase "you're a big girl, you can do this on your own" throughout). He came with me to one scan, a couple of days before the ERPC, and I cried and he got upset and bought me sweets to try to stop the crying. Problem fixing male behaviour at its best. So....I guess it depends - you could take him for the support, but at the same time, you don't have to take anyone as sometimes it can be easier to manage things on your own (i.e. you don't have to worry about anyone else).

So....I was no use there at all. How do you think you would feel if someone else was there (i.e. DP or anyone?)? Would it be helpful or less so? Big hug in the group hug!!

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Hello everyone. I can't remember who asked, but I don't tell him I need to swi, but like Clareanna I am making rather more effort than previously so he has guessed! Also because I don't know when I am ovulating (if at all) the possible fertile period is quite long - so he is getting knackered!

It would just be nice to be able to share the pressure I feel to swi, but I can see that I will have to trick him.

spottysox hope everything is ok with you today.

Sounds like we're all in need of the group hug today - joining in with transatlantic good vibrations (dudes)

sakura big hug- I know exactly what you mean. All i can suggest if it's any help is to think about what type of support you'll need and who in your life is the best person to give you that at this time- might be worth talking to dh explaining how this is likely to make you feel and how you'd like him to respond/ help? It can be good to have someone there who can ask questions and take notes too

barrenbrook hello!!
viv Bon chance!!!

So... Small rant time- dh and I went out last night for quality time away from his family who we're staying with. I found myself at slightly the wrong end of a pitcher of beer (classy) and made a comment like "still can't believe I'm not pregnant" (its 8 weeks since mmc at 12 weeks) to which he replied " I can't believe you're still thinking about that."
WTF?!
Erm yes, almost every hour of every day!!
In his defense he meant- I thought you were doing better and had got over it more (I've been trying to be positive with him )
dh was also made redundant a week after erpc so has got a lot on his plate. However this has meant a rather frosty end in sight for our hols with little or no likeihoos of swoi the way i'm feeling!! ( which depressingly is a bit pre menstrual....)

Hi everyone,

Clareanna that sucks. Basically. I've just written and deleted four different suggestions of how to deal with him, but don't really think any would work. Perhaps basically if you're putting on a bit of a front for him, let it go so he can really see what's going on in your heart. But I don't know. Sending my best though.

Sakura it might help to try to take someone, if not neccessarily you dp. Mine was total crap when we went in for my erpc, I ended up having to fight the dictors (misspelling but I think I'll leave it as that!) to get the proceedure that day (after 7 hours waiting, all prepped etc.) My mother came to the scan the day before, and she was very helpful as she remembered all the questions to ask and stupid facts like 'how old are you' which I know sounds ridiculous not to know the answer to but when you're not thinking straight etc. Also, if you have to drive to the hospital, it would NOT be a good idea to drive home. You could always tell your dp that - that you need him to help transport-wise. That might allow him to be helpful but not to feel pressured. Also if he tells his work 'I have to take my wife for an operation' they might be more understanding too. Hope this helps.

Goodluckbear joining in the hug on the outskirts due to claustrophobia and indigestion (and Lotus position - calm still continues, 'tis MOST peculiar)

Pollyanna, best wishes; again can't think of anything, if it were me i'd be punching him out and then climbing aboard - two birds, one stone. Idea though - have you tried taking advantage of his, ahem, morning position? Too sleepy to argue, won't take too long, and a nice way to wake up (for him) (apparently) - plus you get the goods so to speak.

Viv - enjoi le boffing en France! Quelle lucky femme!

Spotty Thinking of you x

Anyone else, here is a slice of Zen and some hot buttered crumpets. Here's to Friday night!

xx

DOH - must remember to bring my pencil next time.

Bigmutha, glad and sorry to see you here, I really hope things get easier soon. We can help if you need virtual shoulders, and ime there's stuff you can talk about on here that stays very silent in rl. So take advantage of us, please. This thread has been fantastic for me, it's like having a proper gang of girlfriends who've all been through the same or similar crap. I hope it's the same for you - and anyone else who needs it.

Sakura just reread my post - makes it sound like you are going in for an op. Brian letting me down again. I meant, tell small fibs to his work if neccessary, and you're bound to get emotional which is not a good time to be alone, especially travelling. And it might even help your dp to see what you have to go through in hospital - if nothing else you won't have to relive it to him afterwards. Talk to him about it and see what he says, too.

Appologies for repeated posts, not really on the ball. Calm, but not collected! Hopefully that's it now...

Just had an ubber quick flick through and didn't have time to read much but just wanted to say to Bigmuther that I hope you soon feel better.

My two DS's were upset when we lost our baby. I just wanted to let you know that they are dealing with it much better now. Kids are very resilient and they will feel better soon. Wait for your period to return and then have a think with DH about whether to try again - your hormones and emotions are all over the place still. Big Hippy Hug. xx

Ahh thanks ladies, just having the responses has made me feel better!

Goodluckbear - Thank you, my dp is definately a problem fixing male like u say, I think if he can't physically do anything to make me feel better when I'm upset then he feels bad. Obviously not his fault but like u say, its just how he is. I think there are pros and cons to having him (or someone else) there, I just need to deicde which!

clareanna - thank you. I think the fact that dp will be there and be able to listen/ask q's/ remember things could be a good thing, I may well need that! I think the fact that I dont really know what to expect is making it hard to decide if he should come or not... I wish I knew what is going to happen!

Also, I think my dp rather underestimates the amount I think about mc, I would have been 12 wks last week but if I'd said anything I think he would have wondered what I was on about!! Sorry about the response u got from your dh, big hugs coming your way ((()))

Unbuffy thanks for your input too. Unfortunately my mum is away when I'm at hospital, like u say I think she'd be pretty good at remembering the questions I need to ask and also remembering the answers, haha! And do u know what, I think you're right, it could be good for dp to see what its like heading to the EPU again and just getting an idea of things. So thank you.

Anyway, I am off for a glass of wine and some half price easter egg I picked up earlier! Passing it round in case anyone else is in need

xxx

Morning all, wonderful group hugs going on yesterday!

Saturdays Stats:

Moofold ttc#2 UCL~33 cycle1 CD60
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD51
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD47
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD47
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD45
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD41
Gi1da TTC #1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD36
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD35
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle1 CD35
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD31
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD30
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD30
LucyT66 TTC 1 UCL 33-34 cycle 3 CD27
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle 1 CD27
Unbuffy TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD26
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD24
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL24-32 cycle11 CD23
HappyGirl1 TTC#1 UCL 26-28 cycle1 CD23
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD20
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD20
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle1 CD18
BunnyBaby TTC #3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD16
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 12 CD16
slimyak TTC#2 UCL 26 cycle 3 CD15
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 12 CD14
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 4 CD14
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD14
Limelight TTC2 UCL35 cycle 1 (post erpc) CD13
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD11
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD11
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 10 CD11
Curlylox TTC #3 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD11
Liahgen ttc#6 UCL 26 cycle 1 (post erpc) CD9
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD7

PENDING STATS
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle WTF
hippychick TTC #3 UCL? cycle WTF
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle WTF
Mummy369 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 CD55 cycle WTF for sure
meatntattypie
GinaFB
Elmmu
cinnamonswirl TTC#? cycle? UCL 23-30 CD23
Spottysox waiting for MC scan 18/3

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on month 2 of 3 month wait
Jollster TTC#2 MMC2 26/02/10
MrsGazebo TTC#1 MMC6 Molar 8/1 on 3-6 month wait

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
Cheepz BFP 16th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010

Morning all, off down to the bottom of the list I go. Glad that RTD is here but it's a crampy one for sure! Was hoping to go and walk the greyhounds today (not mine, at a rehoming place) but not sure if walking in the rain is my kinda thing today with this grinch in my belly. We'll see....

Sakura Wishing you well whatever you decide. I was glad of the company when I went to epu and for us I think coming with me made things a bit more real for dh, otherwise it was stuff just going on with me and with no experiences of hospitals he found it hard for it not just to all feel abstract.

Spottysox keeping an eye out for you and hoping you're doing ok.

A rousing G'Day to everyone else. And a salute to Viv for the TW quote.

Saturdays Stats: Mummy369 and Cinnamonswirl I moved you to the main list, hope that's ok.

Moofold ttc#2 UCL~33 cycle1 CD60
Mummy369 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle WTF CD55
Northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD51
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD47
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD47
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD45
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD41
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD35
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle1 CD35
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD31
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD30
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD30
LucyT66 TTC 1 UCL 33-34 cycle 3 CD27
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle 1 CD27
Unbuffy TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD26
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD24
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL24-32 cycle11 CD23
HappyGirl1 TTC#1 UCL 26-28 cycle1 CD23
cinnamonswirl TTC#? cycle? UCL 23-30 CD23
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD20
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD20
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle1 CD18
BunnyBaby TTC #3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD16
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 12 CD16
slimyak TTC#2 UCL 26 cycle 3 CD15
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 12 CD14
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 4 CD14
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD14
Limelight TTC2 UCL35 cycle 1 (post erpc) CD13
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD11
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD11
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 10 CD11
Curlylox TTC #3 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD11
Liahgen ttc#6 UCL 26 cycle 1 (post erpc) CD9
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD7
Gi1da TTC #1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD1

PENDING STATS
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle WTF CD?
hippychick TTC #3 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?

meatntattypie
GinaFB
Elmmu
Spottysox waiting for MC scan 18/3

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on month 2 of 3 month wait
Jollster TTC#2 MMC2 26/02/10
MrsGazebo TTC#1 MMC6 Molar 8/1 on 3-6 month wait

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
Cheepz BFP 16th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010

Sakura If I were in your position then I would ask DH. My DH came with me on all but one of the appointments I went to following my first m/c and again this time round. My jellyhead kicks in when I'm in situations like that and he seems to know what to ask for both of us. He does have some uses! I suppose you could tell him when your appointment is and plant a seed so to speak, leave the ball in his court if he wants to come?

Clareanna Don't hide how you really feel from DH. Putting on a brave face a coping to a man = she's fine. I hate to put them all in the same box but fellas do quite often take things as black and white and if you say you're ok, you're ok, unlike our female friends who can see straight through a 'I'm coping and putting on a brave face' face!

Just opened a bottle of Oyster Bay Sauvignon Blanc if anyone wants to join me in a glass or two on this drizzly Saturday night

Waves at Barrenbrook - just saw your name on the active list so popped in to say hi.

Oyster Bay Sauvingnon Blanc - hummmmm.

Hi everyone,

I'm a newbie on here, found out i was pregnant Wednesday from a first response, got a digital "pregnant" yesterday and then last night started bleeding (red blood) my period was actually due yesterday. today lot's of brown stuff on pad and when wiping (sorry i TMI)

I'm very lucky i have 2 DC, and this was going to be my 3rd.

I actually think i had a bit of shock when i saw the blood last night had a panic attack (i think) or maybe shock. nearly passed out, felt very sick etc, then calmed down called the NHS (it was 9pm) and he scared me saying if i heavily bleed call an ambulance so all night i was freaking thinking i was going to die from bleeding to death.

This morning i called the out of hours doctor as i was petrified i was going to have an eptopic pregnancy or something, and he was so nice and reassured me that it sounded like a "chemical pregnancy" as i havent actually missed a period, not to worry i will just have a normal ish period with extra cramping no need for hospiatl. So i have now calmed down (i'm a very anxious person on AD'S) and just told myself it's just a period the tests were wrong (even though there prob not) i find it easier to pretend it's not happening, anyone else done that?

I'm still scared as this is the first time anything like this has happend and i was very kindly pointed in this derection and told that all you ladies are lovely :-)

I've been lurking about and feeling sorry for myself, but have resolved to make more of a concerted effort with this thread as I feel a bit isolated. Our first month of TTC since MC hasn't been successful and I've been really low about it and my AF is very painful again. I think it's normal for things to be different after MC and this is only my 2nd AF. My cycles are about 37 days so I got a bit hopeful...

Anyway, I see I need to give some stats now I am properly trying. I think I know what everything means:
westyorkshiregirl TTC# 1 UCL 37 cycle 2 CD 4

Mumsie123 I'm sorry to hear about your bad few days. It's not good seeing the blood is it? I MC'd at 12 weeks and found all the things that came out really distressing, but the good news is that it does get easier to cope with it all. I found it better to confront the fact I was pg head on as it helped me get over it. Take comfort in each other (and MN!)