Just MC...Long haul, short haul, ranting, weeping, laughing all encouraged. Oldies and newbies very welcome

[liahgen66]

Ok, feel a bit scared actually starting the new thread but here we are, for however long (or short) our time here may be.

Off you go ladies. Welcome () one and all.

Afternoon, all

A bit less zen-like today - returned from swimming with dd (knackering) to discover dh covered in plaster dust and new oven not fitting into alloted space - swearing and low blood suger - great combo . However, have eaten leftover cold pizza (no oven, my excuse) and feel better... zen like calm returning... unfortunately bringing inevitable symptom spotting with it. Ah well.

Hugs to Alba and Hippy and everyone feeling a bit blue.

re MrsG and the Thread Pet - wonder if we should start a new thread for Lecherous Ladies TTC. In order to get swi on the menu, like, and get us into the mood. Purely for scientific purposes, of course .

hello ladies, been a while as am too tired and sick most of the time to do much other than work and look after toddler. not complaining though, spent long enough here trying to still appreciate every day

have been keeping up to speed and had a fe comments

mrsg nice to see you abck and in fine fettle, loving your thread pet scenario and am thinking we need one on the grads to hold hair out of face and provide milk and crackers to all the vommers (there are a few!!)

viv dead jealous of your office eye candy - I work in an IT department where you can imagine eye candy is thin on the ground - now geeks we have in abundance

newbies asking about how soon to try, this time around i got pg straight away after mc, mc in jan, pg in feb - although was early mc and had pretty normal cycle afterwards - used CBFM so was clear on when was optimum SWI.

all those feeling blue. after first mc last aug the first 3 months of trying were grim, always hoping and trying but nothing happening, after that things started to get let crazy, alway disappointing when I found we hadn't made it that cycle but not like in the first ones where its all you think about and counting the days

alba i had bloods after 2nd mc in jan, didn't wait for the results just carried on trying as normal, also got results showing nothing unusual which is a double edged sword, it means there is nothing to blame for the mc - but more importantly it means there is no reason for it to happen again

anyway just dropped in to see you all. seems like there are lots of people at the top end of the list so lets hope for some BFPs soon, thats the best remedy on this thread, nothing like a BFP

love to all

Alba Hippy 'old birds can do it' shall be my mantra from now on.(please let it be true)
Had a scan today and nothing had changed so booked for an erpc tomorrow. I could have waited and gone back in 10days for another scan but they said it could take up to 4 weeks for things to happen naturally. But of course I come home and start googling etc and of course the things I read all happen to be risks and bad outcomes. Tell me it's ok.
Bigmuther Sorry for your loss. Hope the tests give you some answers and a +ve way forward

hi all,

I am sooo fed up it's unbelievable, have got the worst headache and just feel really pissed off. Day 8 in the Liahgen house and we shopuld be swi every other day, yesterday was an on day and I couldn't even be bothered to try, that's not gonna get me a bfp is it? Feel like it's never gonna happen, should have had our 20 wks scans now, saw a friend yesterday who's 4 wks ahead of me, glowing and looking forward to her hb. Obviously I'm pleased for her.

I can't seem to get out of this black hole. Gonna go out tonight and get pissed I think, I can feel some cocktails coming on, then jump on dh while I'm up for it, it's so sodding boring, just hoping that this time you've been lucky.

Dh said the other night, that he doesn't want to keep trying forever either, he wants to enjoy sex again and just start getting on with life. He dioesn't want to give up yet but said nor are we getting any younger.

Sorry haven't caught up with everyone's news, I've only come on here to rant cos I can't do it in rl, feel free to ignore my self obsessed moaning.

Liahgen - I'm with you about the wanting to enjoy sex again.. it's difficult.. very difficult when it's timed and as much as you try to keep it fun, deep down you both know that you have to do it at the certain time and for a specific reason

Hello all,

Liahgen & HappyGirl know what you mean, I want to enjoy it again but my mind is just on ttc. I feel terrible for DP as I know he's just performing to please me bless him. Although given half a chance he'd be at everyday

I guess we just have to stay positive, it will happen when the time is right. Go get pissed woman and jump on him later!

Waves to bigmuther know you been through it all and some, nice to see you posting though. This is a lovely place to come and share your thoughts so do keep posting when you feel up to it.

I'll join you old birds quietly in the corner to until DP comes home then I'm back to swi

my dh is refusing to swi - it's driving me mad. Last night he went out and was meant to be back while I was awake but stayed out and got really pissed. he just basically refuses to have sex makes me so . I wish he would do it just to please me, but he keeps going on about what a chore it is. and if we do do it (sorry tmi) I have to put all of the effort in. It'll be a bloody miracle if i get pg.

Pollyanna that's tough.. It might just be a phase.. I def think the men find it tough 'performing on point' so to speak.. despite the fact that usually they probably want it all the time.

I just spoke to a friend of mine who was a mid-wife as have been quite worried about these pains I've been having the last few days.. I miscarried on 26th Jan, got a positive OPK last Thursday and I dunno in the back of my mind I was half hoping it could be a potential good sign but she seems to think that it's a sign my period is going to come early this month and will be really long and painful. I guess in one way it's good if it comes early as that means we can ttc again soon and cycle may be regular again but I think we'll both be devastated too.

Has anyone else had darts of pains in their pelvis a few weeks after MC????

TMI ALERT
Right so, I was worried about the erpc tomorrow but my little blighted ovum has decided to give me another choice as i've started to bleed. I'm now in tears as I've got it in my head that he/she knew how worried I was about tomorrow and has done this for me and let go. The scanning mw said this morning that it didn't look like anything would happen any time soon, but it has,
Dh is working late so I'm alone with the kids, no-one in RL knows what's going on so can't call anyone.
I don't want to upset anyone as I know it's raw for all of you but I have no-one else to 'talk' to.

Spottysox, big hug (()) I wish I could do something to help. You WILL get through it ok, and lots of support here.

What time is your DH coming home?

oh big big hugs Spottysox

Hi spottysox - big hugs (((())))) Here if you need anyone - will keep checking in over the next couple of hours.x

Oh, Spottysox, that's so tough. Can you speak to your DH and get him home earlier? It's good to have someone around even if there's not much they can do.

Really big hug (())

Thanks for the hugs, dh home about 10 hopefully. Kids in bed(not asleep) but out of the way so I can blub without feeling guilty for upsetting them told them i'd seen something sad on the telly. Going to bedd myself now, dosed up on painkillers (not working yet). thanks for being there.

I'm not sure how I'm feeling today. Went to the hospital this morning for a second scan and they did a pregnancy test which came back negative, so didn't bother with the scan as mw said the negative = nothing left.

This is obviously good news as it means I've finished mc and I don't need to have any interventions.

But obviously bit sad too because I'm definitely no longer pregnant now (not that I thought I was, but you know...)

So. Now just got to wait for . Usually have a 28/29 day cycle. We'll see.

Hope you're all feeling okay today.

Bigmutha, I've been thinking of you on and off all day. Really sorry about Charlie and just hope you're doing okay.

x to you all.

was just having a quick read on my phone, when I read Spottysox message, so have wrestled DP off the laptop...
Just to say it will be fine... can't remember if you've MC before (apologies) but the same thing happened to me... started to bleed awaiting an ERPC. Whilst at the time it felt scary, actually it was fine. Pain very manageable, just a LOT of blood. Just rotated between loo, shower and bath. DS (21 months) was only slightly distracted by mummy in a bright red bath when he was bringing me the Gruffalo to read to him...
Hope your DH gets home soon (and is more use than my DP was ).

Thinking of you.... you will get through this x

Wave to everyone else - all busy on here (and for me in RL) the last few days. WILL catch up and be back soon xxx

Was just going to ask if it was ok to have a bath and saw your mssg Jollster, that's where i'm going till dh arrives. thanks all

Thinking of you ((spottysox)). Hot water bottle may be good too? Is DH home yet? Take care of yourself.

Am also grumpy, but hoping RTD/ is about to get me then I might know where we stand. Then we'll have to find the energy to SWI 'properly'...well I say we, my DH2b seems to be keen, I am just exhausted .

Friday tomorrow, have a good one everyone. Thinking of all those who have just lost, and anyone who's finding it all a bit crap at the moment

x

Spottysox thinking of you and hoping you and your dh are ok. x

Ahem. Someone appears to have stolen my period. Now I'm going to close my eyes and count to ten and when I open them I expect it to have reappeared and we'll say no more about it. Have I made myself understood?

Just. Want. To. Get. Back. To. Normal. Dammit.

Rant over. Hope everyone else is ok. All sausages present and correct? All hussy cat kittens home? (update please). All knobhead colleagues behaving?

Wishing you all well. Chin chin.

spotty how rubbish- hope you are coping ok- thinking of you

Pollyanna what us it with these men?! You'd think they'd be delighted with all the action wouldn't you?! When we started to swi for the pregnancy I mced- I made more effort that month than I have ever in a long time (suprise Brazilian etc!) and he said he felt like I was tricking him as I was never normally that keen and once I was pg I'd go off it for ages!! In my defense DS is 2.5 and I work full time so swinging from the chandeliers has hardly been at the top of my list... I think if poss try to keep the detail on when to a minimum and take control of the social calendar so you can ensure you have him in the right place at the right time iykwim!!! This is obviously easier said than done!!!

Elmmum- completely understand how you're feeling, I felt the same- wanting to get back to normal but desperately sad was no longer pg. Thinking of you - look after yourself

Morning all, ff it's Friday! Have a wonderful day all.

spottysox thinking of you hunni ((HUGS))

Fridays stats:

Moofold ttc#2 UCL~33 cycle1 CD59
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD50
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD46
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD46
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD44
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD40
Gi1da TTC #1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD35
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD34
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle1 CD34
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD30
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD29
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD29
LucyT66 TTC 1 UCL 33-34 cycle 3 CD26
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle 1 CD26
Unbuffy TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD25
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD23
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL24-32 cycle11 CD22
HappyGirl1 TTC#1 UCL 26-28 cycle1 CD22
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD19
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD19
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle1 CD17
BunnyBaby TTC #3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD15
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 12 CD15
slimyak TTC#2 UCL 26 cycle 3 CD14
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 12 CD13
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 4 CD13
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD13
Limelight TTC2 UCL35 cycle 1 (post erpc) CD12
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD10
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD10
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 10 CD10
Curlylox TTC #3 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD10
Liahgen ttc#6 UCL 26 cycle 1 (post erpc) CD8
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD6

PENDING STATS
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle WTF
hippychick TTC #3 UCL? cycle WTF
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle WTF
Mummy369 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 CD55 cycle WTF for sure
meatntattypie
GinaFB
Elmmu
cinnamonswirl TTC#? cycle? UCL 23-30 CD23
Spottysox waiting for MC scan 18/3

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on month 2 of 3 month wait
Jollster TTC#2 MMC2 26/02/10
MrsGazebo TTC#1 MMC6 Molar 8/1 on 3-6 month wait

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
Cheepz BFP 16th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010

mornin' luvlies
Oh Spotty huge hug and a large box of Thortons coming your way , hope today is brighter for you.
What sparkle said with the hottie bottie and be good to yourself.

Liah big squuuueeeezzzze cos you sound down.
How's it going?

ElmMum it's still like a punch in the guts even though you know the answer. Take your time and look after yourself.

Polly are you telling him when you need to SWI?
Don't.
It's a lot of pressure to "do it" when he has to.
I know it's us with the one track mind at the moment but unfortunatly the only way to get round this is to make lots of effort to SWoI too.
I know it's not always ideal but " it's for the greater good".

Gi1da I went 65 days (lost count)
Twunt off yesterday, HR will be calling me (hopefully) today.
Sausage present and correct.

Have a fab Fri xx

Thanks everyone for your warm welcome sorry not really up to speed yet with everyone.Still feel very& that i have to be posting on this thread,really feel bad as you have all been through the same thing,and some of you seem so positive,and don,t want to come on all self absorbed.Had a bit of a argument with dh last night talking about trying again when we can,and he does not want to he can see that i am in a really bad place at the moment and does not think i could cope with any more heartache.Thinks we should be happy with our lot as we have 2 ds,s who are going through the mill with us.