Just MC...Long haul, short haul, ranting, weeping, laughing all encouraged. Oldies and newbies very welcome

[liahgen66]

Ok, feel a bit scared actually starting the new thread but here we are, for however long (or short) our time here may be.

Off you go ladies. Welcome () one and all.

Hi everyone, I am clearly not logging on enough to stay up to date with this thread! however will try my best to in future...

Urd, I love that poem you have just posted, was very close to having a little blub except for the fact that I am at work and might have got some strange looks from colleagues! It really sums things up for me, hope u don't mind but I have made a little note of it in my diary

Anyway, I have an appointment at the EPU at the end of this month ( after having 3 mcs in a row) not really sure what to expect, anyone had anything similar? Any words of wisdom would be much appreciated!

Sending out positive thoughts xxx

Aw Urd, that's lovely (and has made me cry)

On the final night of our honeymoon in Thailand, DH and I had a private dinner on the beach during which we let off two chinese lanterns in memory of the two babies we'd lost. The hotel staff kept saying newlyweds should only light one as it's for good luck, so in the end I had to expain why we needed two.

So we lit the first one in honour of the baby we lost in July (mmc) and watched it go; by this point, I'm a sobbing wreck.

Then we lit the second in honour of Gracie who we lost the week before our wedding at 14 weeks. We let it go. And the little bugger got stuck in a nearby tree.

It sounds awful when I write it down - especially as the hotel staff had to try and poke the lantern out with a pole before the whole tree caught alight - but it made me and DH laugh through the tears as it very much felt like our little girl was trying to tell us something.

Afternoon everyone.

Hippy I would complain. That's what the Patients' Charter is there for - and how are doctors/consultants ever going to learn if they make mistakes that are not corrected? He will probably never discover that he mistook a corpus luteum for a cyst unless he is told so - in which case it's only a matter of time before the same thing happens again, to some other poor person. But that does not in any way stop it sucking for you. A lot.

Urd also nearly a wreck and a mess at your pome. but holding it together, just about.

Viv, no ideas but sounds v. peculiar. Have you poas again/ done ov test? May be late ov?

On the Buffy front, we're still all colds-a-gogo... urgh - pass the decongestant (that word just took 8 attempts to spell. and still not sure it's right. think i'll stick with lemsip in future.) dh and i went out (!!!) to dinner last night - v posh restaurant we never go to, v delicious food I'm certain, and could taste none of it . He kept telling me how good it was. ah well. Would have put it off but babysitter booked etc.

Also, i know it's stupid to symptom spot on, like, day 18, but i've had indigestion for some days and i feel really sick too. plus constant need to pee. must keep blaming the flu... must keep blaming the flu... must not get hopes up...

ps don't tell anyone in rl I'm being a wishful thinking numpty - it's all part of the **ing jealous stage -

pps waves to all non-name-checked folkses, and best to all - yummy Friday pastries, let me add some high cocoa solids, low fat (due to conversation earlier in the week) brownies to the table!

I'm all weepy here reading the latest posts. Urd that poem is just beautiful and just sums it all up perfectly.

Viv lovely story of your honeymoon, sad story obviously but a very thoughtful thing to do.. Re the pains I'm not sure.. potentially early ov pains? I do personally get left pelvic pain all the time but that's just crazy old me and there is no real timeline to it..

I've now given up alcohol and caffeine.. getting the lack of caffeine headaches today but hopefully it'll be worth it!

I'd be surprised if it's ov pain as I'm only on day 6, but I suppose it's possible. My one brief look at google suggests it may be a cyst due to the egg not being released like it should, but I'm too scared to look any more as google 'ovarian pain' and you get reams of scary stories!

Viv STEP AWAAAAY FROM THE GOOGLE!!! Tis the devil's work.

Hi again all,

unbuffy just wanted to add to symptom spotting - I have to wait 1 more week to test and am also looking out for symptoms like mad, currently I think I have to wee more, been feeling a teeny bit sick now and then, oh god its hard not to get hopes up isn't it?!

If you don't mind me asking unbuffy, do u use the first response tests where u can test a few days earlier or do u wait until missed period? Just being nosy really!

Thanks xxx

Hi Sakura i use cheeepies (Tesco offers!) as am broke, but can slip those into the trolley when dh is paying and he don't complain. bless 'im. Have just joined a Step Away From the Tests thread to attempt to keep me on the straight 'n' narrow - would do a link if i could but total computer ignoramus - come see... hang on, will find title and get back to you [puts Sakura on hold, here's the musak]
da da daaada da...

It's called 'I'm back to help all you premature testers STEP AWAY FROM THE FIRST RESPONSE!'

Sorry again about crap computer skills

Haha thanks unbuffy - I am also a bit rubbish with computers so no need to apologise! I'll go and have a look on that thread now, think I may need it in next few days, eek!

Will also have a look for tesco cheapies next time I'm in, fab.

off to step away thread now xxx

Oh Viv - just popped in briefly and read your honeymoon story with tears in my eyes. That's beautiful - I reckon Gracie was trying to cheer you both up xxx

Urd - that poem is so beautiful. Really sums it up for me. Thank you.

Sorry haven't scanned back - this thread is moving so quickly nowadays which is great.

Hope everyone is doing OK. I've noticed SWI getting adopted all over MNet at the moment!

Has anybody done today's list btw? I would, but see previous comments about srapness. I mean crapness. I wouldn't dare as am bound to cc it up completely, or lose it, or somefink. [stupid emoticon]

See, that was supposed to read 'c*ck it up'.

Hahaha

And no more googling for me. It's Friday, it's nearly four o'clock, it's time for a nice cold glass of Sauvignon Blanc, non?

xx

Sauvignon blanc, yes please! But still an hour and a half to work. Boo.

Urd, love your poem and nearly cried over yours and Vivs Chinese lanterns. Just heard a colleague and his wife due 3 days after I was... Just when you think you've stopped needing to sob at work.... V happy for them though, they've been through it, more than I have, baby is by surrogate...

Viv - if it's any consolation if it is a cyst don't worry.. i've had them and have a 4 inch one at the moment.. they don't stop you getting pregnant and they don't cause MC.. my GP went to great lengths to tell me this..

ditto re. the poem - brought definite tears to my eyes. And the honeymoon story was beautiful. Thank you both.

Well after the saga of realising I didn't have a valid tax disc.... So today went to local DVLA office, left home 9.15am arrived there at about 9.40ish. That took an hour, then I left to go and organise my new work uniform. Had 2 options a) option 1 - through the city centre traffic b) option 2 - motorway, come off after 3 exits right by uniform place. Decided on option 2. An hour later arrived - thanks to motorway closure and huge traffic jam and being diverted through the city centre!! grr

We made it home 5 mins before DD's nursery start at 1 o'clock (actually I have DS1 standing beside me correcting my spelling - he just pointed out I wrote ! o'clock - sounds very apt it certainly felt like AARGH o'clock!)

The poems made me cry because it just sums up every thing I feel at the moment . My mc was mothers day last year so really struggling this week, don't really want to celebrate but dd is excited and dh being really supportive. Going to eat a couple of lemon muffins to cheer myself up.

Sorry for post being so self indulgent and hi to everyone.

Oh lord....
Thought I'd have a quick scan through after a day at the London Transport Museum with DS, and before putting him to bed... and now I'm snivelling over the keyboard. Back later...

Hi ladies, big waves to all and sorry for not name checking. xx
manic end of week lots of overtime and stress but my mum took me for a spa day today. Would recommend a body scrub/massage to you all as I feel so much better for it.

Urd I love your poem, so so bloody true. Viv love your lantern story. We had a complete chinese lantern disaster........ we scattered DD2s ashes in the sea at sunset in ibiza (DH had to call spanish embassy to check it was ok to take the ashes abroad, but they thought he was asking to take hashish into spain, when dh said no human ashes the guy was mortified but dh found the funny side as did I). On my due date we went to Brighton (to be near the sea, closest we can get to her) but were too chicken to send lantern off from beach so went up to the top of a remote hill, we chickened out again as it was so ridiculously windy so dh had to hold the burning lantern on the ground until it went out......we did giggle about what a pair of divs we were but felt really disappointed but then we noticed the moon had just come up and it was red. DD2 name is Ruby. After that I felt quite comforted.

Anyway I hope that you all have a lovely Friday night....now for the wine, Cheers x

Advice please, sorry to bust in like this. It's just sunk in and I'm panicking. My brother and SIL are coming for the weekend. They are trying for a baby (When dd was tiny, she said - I kid you not - 'I'd love a baby, you get a year's holiday' ). They seem to think in so many ways that it's going to be easy. conceiving, keeping, and having a baby.

They are both doctors. (better and better...)

My bro keeps getting all 'one in five...' and 'sometimes it just...' at me and medical and crap. HOW do I deal with this? I want to just SLAP him sometimes, he has NO IDEA. And they're both going to want to talk about pregnancy, and babies and everything, and... gaah. Where's that cynical they-have-no-idea-and-i-wish-they-would-shut-the-hell-up-emoticon when you need it?

Expect more rants this weekend.

Oh, hi everyone, by the way

buffy do they know you've recently had a loss? If not, perhaps you need to tell them, I know it wouldn't be easy but would save you getting upset and lots of wires getting crossed.

Hope it goes well.

So I have my period post erpc (42 days, exactly 7 wks!!) and it's really heavy, am using night time towels and changing hourly. Normally my periods are very average. Is this normal for your 1st post erpc period?

Last time I had this op, I got up duffed straight away so no period.

Any advice thank you very much.

Bugger Unbuffy, that's not fun. I read somewhere, probably here, someone responding to the MC percentages comment with a "well death is fucking universal but you don't mention that statistic when someone dies" or similar. I'd politely ask them to respect your feelings the first time they step over the line, then if they continue I'd whack them with something pretty rudely emotionally raw and hope they were shamed into shutting up. Actually I would probably think about it, but not actually say it, just hide in the kitchen muttering into a wine glass and weeping into the fridge. Which of course is perfectly acceptable behaviour too.

Bloody good luck with it.

And HI everyone else! Hope you are all full of Friday goodness and hope that by the time I have finished typing this that the thread hasn't moved on ten posts and I look like I'm coming in with a random rant!

Hi Laihgen, can't comment on ERPC and still awaiting first RTD, just wanted to commiserate - that sounds pants. Hope it settles soon and get back to usual, am sure everything's fine, probably just a thorough spring clean of the lady bits!

Am looking forward to RTD as it means we can try again, but on the other hand I am so sick of the sight of blood after the 'natural' mc that I really have had enough! Note to self - get up duffers asap - avoid avoid avoid rtd! Sadly won't be this month for me thanks to flu lurgy, not much S without or without I and certainly none at the appropriate time - grrrr!!