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Just MC...Long haul, short haul, ranting, weeping, laughing all encouraged. Oldies and newbies very welcome

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liahgen66 · 22/02/2010 21:46

Ok, feel a bit scared actually starting the new thread but here we are, for however long (or short) our time here may be.

Off you go ladies. Welcome () one and all.

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Allthe8s · 10/03/2010 13:13

Hi Ladies, Welcome HappyGirl cinnamonswirl and Spottysox I am in early this afternoon with some Italian apple cake, made it yesterday and thought it would turn out naff but was actually delish!

mummy369 sorry you have had a few bad days, things will get better I promise and you will probably find that those few pounds will go once af (or red tide of doom - lemon I like that) rears her head, I put on about 7lbs and had horrific water retention in the run up to AF and lost all but 2lbs once af had been and gone. I had to buy new jeans which I was gutted about but I actually felt much better for buying them and much more comfy! Don't be too down you have been through a lot and a slice of choccy cake wont do you any harm, maybe go for a walk around the park later this afternoon to balance it out (my counsellor always reminds me to go for a walk when I feel shit - 20 minute walk is the best antidepressant!)

Ladies I have never used a OPK either and have a good idea when I am ov'ing and have fallen pregnant 3 times straight away. I am hoping I will be as lucky this time (although DH doesn't think it's lucky!) Although I wish I had one now because after 14 days of AF (or RDT!!!) I have no idea when I have ov'd but last night I had what I would say is Ov pains and some other signs but I am due on Saturday so thought I might be period period.......maybe I will have a WTF cycle this time .....whatever happens we want to ttc next cycle.

Hope you are feeling better GLB!

xxxx

Allthe8s · 10/03/2010 13:16

Get well soon unbuffy. Agree Polly re the weight was just saying the same to Mummy.......

Muser · 10/03/2010 14:15

I have my beta HCG levels, I'm down to 283 (from 750 last week). We're getting there. I really don't recommend ectopic pregnancy to anyone, it's so damn long.

Allthe8s · 10/03/2010 14:17

Good news Muser

wannabeamum · 10/03/2010 15:38

Hi All

Lots happening on this thread as normal, its great that everyone supports each other. Goodluckbear I can sympathise totally with you and your feelings with your BF and her scan. My BF at work had her booking scan last week (I would have been having mine the week before) and is full of it - and good for her Im really happy her pregnancy is going well obviously, but as we chatted about it a little ache in my heart began as I wished for what could have been.

Really stupid question but once turns up (please come soon - never thought Id say that!) how do I know when Im at day 10 of my cycle? Is that 10 days after the starts???

Thanks!

slimyak · 10/03/2010 16:33

Yes your right day one of cycle is the day the horrid AF appears.

If you can't ask a stupid question here, where can you ask - on mumsnet noone can see you !

Re above I too am a post MC porker. I had 3 months ( MMC showed at 11 wks dev on 12 week scan )of carbicide as nothing else would ease the nausea. I wasn't exactly delicate before. So now I find myself after a Christmas of necessary comfort eating and drinking, TTC about 1.5 stone over what I would like to be.

Maybe I need to kill two birds with one stone and start high impact SWI and burn some calories at the same time.

My lard retention also seems very resistant to healthy eating.

Pollyanna · 10/03/2010 17:00

slimyak - that's exactly right - carbicide . I'm about 10lb heavier than I was pre-pg, and would end up enormous if I got pg again now (like you carbs are the only thing to ease nausea).

BunnyBaby · 10/03/2010 17:06

Slimyak another 3 mth carbicider here and 10lbs heavier than when I got Bfp. Also Mmc showing 11 at 12 weeks so snap.

Trying to be healthy but it's hard as I am comfort eater too. Give me any excuse. Have managed to shift 3lbs but that's it - sigh

littlemiss72 · 10/03/2010 17:08

I also struggling with the weight gain, I'm at least half a stone over my usual weight and have tried really hard to lose it.. hoping will help.

I've been back in the gym and cut down on my food intake but shifted nothing so far!

Supposed to be working from home today, can't get motivated at all and spent most of my day planning my wedding

Moofold · 10/03/2010 17:34

Me too lassies. I usually try to stick to weightwatchers so came off that in Oct when I got BFP and immdediately put on almost a stone. Then MMC at 12 week scan in December followed by eating whatever I liked plus wine every night for 2 months = no clothes that fit. Before my scan I had got all my maternity tousers and jeans back out and was wearing those for comfort. I started to show very early due to non-existant stomach muscles being trashed by first pregnancy and C section. I made myself buy bigger size trousers as maternity clothes after MC was too depressing for words.

Today my WTF woe continues. I am producing obscene amounts of CM (hope no one is eating!) and have cramps all over. OPK still negative and temp has dipped. WTF! I am wondering how much longer I can feasibly stay at the top of the list with nothing happpening. I just want another chance to get pregnant - is that too much to ask?

I won't pass cake or wine or we'll never get into our clothes!

clareanna · 10/03/2010 17:56

Morning all- just been catching up on all the posts on my phone so apols in advance for not namechecking everyone. Hello to the new people (waves) sorry you've found yourself here but hopefully it will be a great support to you!
I will join in the post MC flubber rants- have put on weight with first pg that I never totally lost, weight left after MC and weight thanks to general WTFyness.. Am now in California (poor me winks) surrounded by tanned aerobised moms feeling like a big white jelly- problem is can't get brian to do anything about it other than whinge...
muser - glad you're finally getting somewhere
cheepz- yay!!! So excited!
Mrsg- put me off my breakfast! (who am I kidding- nothing puts me off my breakfast!)
congrats on the bfps - boo hiss to the afs (did we decide on another name? Agree af is ghastly)

To help our health kick here's some fat free egg white (!) omlettes mmmm....

barrenbrook · 10/03/2010 19:04

Moofold Are you sure you haven't gone and got yourself updiffed?????!!!

Muser Glad to hear all is gradually getting back to normal matey

Allthe8s MMMMMMMM, Pass the apple cake, sounds divine!

Unbuffy Sorry you're feeling pants, get your good self well soon. I like the idea as an AF replacement and am with you on wanting to do battle with anyone/anything when shows up.

Hello to HappyGirl, Spottysox & CinnamonSwirl

So, went to Drs tonight to get it recorded that have just m/c'd again, Dr didn't seem concerned and all my blood test results came back normal. She wouldn't give me DH's swimmers result though so he has to ring tomorrow to get them. Kind of puts my mind at rest that nothing (obvious) is wrong.

I guess it's time to test the post miscarriage fertility!

Moofold · 10/03/2010 20:09

Barrenbrook, the thought had crossed my mind that the cramps may be implantation. However, I can't see how that can be possible with my BBT chart. Both times I was pregnant before there was a clear shift which remained high. This time I got an increase for about 4 days and now it has plummeted again. To be honest, it feels exactly like the onset of AF aka RTD aka .

Glad you didn't get any bad news at the docs - that is encouraging. Go for it!

Clareanna I've spent some time in LA before and completely empathise! All the women are like sticks with salon hair and perfect white teeth. Its such an artifical weird place and made me feel like a blimp - even though I was about 2 stone lighter than now!

Curlylox · 10/03/2010 20:17

Evening all just a quick message.....please update me on list as AF arrived this morning!
Going to read posts and catch up on this thread whilst eating my dinner.

hippychick66 · 10/03/2010 20:35

Hi all, I haven't been on for a couple of days - Dh says I'm on here too much. But he's upstairs so I've snuck on - don't tell him will you

Just wanted to ask happygirl1 when is your GP app?? If today - how did it go?? Hope you are able to try again soon.

I like the idea of instead of stupid aunt flo.

My friend at work has her 12 wk scan on Monday and is taking her young son along. I was happy for her but all i could think was thank f*ck we didn't take our boys to our scan. We had an emergency scan 3 days before I was meant to be going for the nuchal cos I had started bleeding.

Obviously we wouldn't have taken them cos things were looking bad. But all I kept thinking was imagine if they had been in the room when we found out there was no heartbeat - I got quite upset about it and am praying like mad that hers is all ok. After what I've experienced I would NEVER take my children to a scan.

I had to cancel an anti natal hosp appointment today and check that my 16 week midwife appointment had been cancelled. That was totally pants!

I said to my DH, I should be looking forward to feeling flutterings in my belly and instead it's empty and our poor little foetus has gone He is very supportive but really what can you say to that.

Made the mistake of watching my first, 'One born every minute' yesterday. In the words of Julia Roberts - "Big mistake, Huge!"

hippychick66 · 10/03/2010 20:39

By the way I'm off the wine now - was just getting far to easy to open a bottle nearly every night and if we are going to ttc again then I need to knock it on the head.

Can i interest anyone in a glass of well known sparkling grape juice - goes by the name of shlo........

liahgen66 · 10/03/2010 20:40

((())) hippy it sneaks up and bites us on the bum when we least expect it doesn't it?

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ElmMum · 10/03/2010 20:46

Hello all, I've jumped from page 9 to the last page as would really like to join in but have got stuff to do this evening and can't spend another 3 hours reading this thread! Will finish reading it over the next few days, so apologies if I double up other questions or say anything amiss.

Just wanted to say...

  1. I'm sorry for all the sadness and loss and frustration you've all suffered. This thread is brilliant and I'm really glad I've found it, even though I'd love to never have known anything about miscarriages.

  2. I am totally clueless about all the acronyms on this thread...! Can anyone do a glossary of what they all mean. Would be really helpful.

  3. I am miscarrying at the moment. Started bleeding at 10 weeks (have been bleeding now for a week and a half, seems to be slowing right down now).

Going for a 2nd scan next week to check if it's all finished. Then have been advised to wait for 3 months before ttc again.

Don't know why I miscarried. I'd already obviously miscarried before they scanned me, so all they could say was there was no sac on the scan so presumably I'd already passed that. So can't say when baby stopped growing or anything like that.

Am a mass of mixed emotions about everything at the moment. Seem consumed by the practicalities of whether we should ttc straight away or wait to finish the college course I'm doing. If this pregnancy had worked out, the baby would have been born in Sept so the plan was to take a year out at the end of first year and go back to do my 2nd year when the baby was a year old. Don't like the idea of waiting a whole year before ttc again as I'm 38 now. But if I manage to get pregnant before then, I'll be due smack in the middle of my final year, which poses problems.

Anyway, I'm very up and down about everything. It had all seemed so perfect. DD conceived on honeymoon first go. And it seemed, DC2 conceived on holiday also first go. But DC2 lost at 10weeks and now suddenly it all seems so fragile. And I look at DD completely differently and marvel that I managed to make her so easily, and wonder that I could have thought they would all be so easy. Confidence completely gone.

However, I know from reading the first 9 pages that others have had it much worse.

x

hippychick66 · 10/03/2010 21:33

Welcome elmmum I can try and help with some eg. SWI shagging with intent. BFP Big fat positive. BFN Big fat negative . UCL Usual cycle length. OPK Ovulation prediction kit. POAS peeing on a stick. WTF what the f*ck. TTC trying to conceive.

If there are any others that you are about just list them and someone will come along and help.

We are a great bunch, every single person on here knows how totally awful it is to think you are going to have a baby and then have that all snatched away and it means you never have to make excuses for feeling sh*t or apologise for TMI (too much information!!).

I agree about the whole thing of looking at your DC's differently, I had 2 easy pregnancies and assumed (naively so) that my 3rd would be the same (despite the fact that I was 43!!!) When we lost our little one at nearly 12 weeks it made me look at my 2 DS's and thing "How the hell did we make them so easily???" It certainly does make you appreciate the ones you have. Sorry to those of you ttcing your first - hope that doesn't offend.

I watched 'click' last night and it did make me think that I should enjoy the now and stop thinking - when I get a baby or when we move house or when i whatever. It is a good film and very sad in places.

lia thanks for the hug - I needed that.

Love to all.

Better get off now - grumpy bear is about. He's lovely really.

ElmMum · 10/03/2010 21:54

Thanks hippychick - that makes much more sense now!

wannabeamum · 10/03/2010 22:07

[elmmum] hello I'm glad you found this place I've found it a massive comfort since mc my first pregnancy in feb. I saw your posts on the other thread and just wanted to send you a massive hug.

[hippy] I couldn't agree more on the wine front and I think I need to follow your example- since the mc I reckon I've had a drink every night - that's bad isn't it...

I've just got a bfn - totally expected, yet I couldn't stop myself! Trying to feel positive, it's the anniversary of my darling mums death next week so march is always a bad month for me, coupled with the fact I thought I'd be making everyone happy by announcing my 12 wk baby is making it even worse. I'm wallowing now so will excuse myself before I get worse, mum wouldn'tike a wallowing wannabe!

wannabeamum · 10/03/2010 22:18

Sorryvmessed yp the bolding and spelling - using phone.

hippychick66 · 10/03/2010 22:38

wannabeamum big Hippy hug. So sorry you are facing the anniversary of your mum's death. Losing a parent is absolutely awful isn't it . It's over 5 years since I lost my dad and I still feel incredibly sad and miss him often.

I'm sure you will be able to change your name one day to Im a mum - fingers crossed for you xxx

Night night.

ps. I re-read my post about wine - just wanted to say I didn't drink a whole bottle every night! It's just that as soon as I found out my baby had not made it I needed a glass of wine and after a long gap without alcohol it was remarkable how easily I got back in the habit. Lets hope we're both soon pregnant again and happy to drink shlo.....

tigger15 · 10/03/2010 23:05

Hi Elmmum sorry to see you joining the group. I conceived my ds on the 2nd go, the mc on the 1st go and here I start cycle god knows what and I don't want to check my stats but would be grateful if someone could update me because AF came this pm.

You'll work out what feels best for you whether to wait or not but give it some time until everything has gone and you begin to feel a bit more settled and then you'll know what feels right.

BTW my gp said to start ttc again as soon as the bleeding stopped and the hospital said wait one period for dating purposes.

Does anyone want to turn this into an unofficial jokes page on occasion to cheer us up each day? I volunteer for today's one.

The following are excerpts from church bulletins nationwide. Who needs professional comedians when everyday folks are just as humorous? (Note: You have to read this carefully to catch the funniest mistakes.)

Preach it!
The sermon this morning: "Jesus Walks on the Water."
The sermon tonight: "Searching for Jesus."

At the evening service tonight, the sermon topic will be "What Is Hell?" Come early and listen to our choir practice.

Suffer the little children
Our youth basketball team is back in action Wednesday at 8 p.m. in the recreation hall. Come out and watch us kill Christ the King.

For those of you who have children and don't know it, we have a nursery downstairs.

The eighth-graders will be presenting Shakespeare's "Hamlet" in the church basement on Friday at 7 p.m. The congregation is invited to attend this tragedy.

Sunday School: Children will be led in sinning and Bible study.

The Power of Prayer
Remember in prayer the many who are sick of our community. Smile at someone who is hard to love. Say "Hell" to someone who doesn't care much about you.

Don't let worry kill you. Let the church help.

Remember in prayer the many who are sick of our church and community.

After the worship service...
This evening at 7 p.m. there will be a hymn sing in the park across from the church. Bring a blanket and come prepared to sin.

Bertha Belch, a missionary from Africa, will be speaking tonight at Calvary Methodist. Come hear Bertha Belch all the way from Africa.

A bean supper will be held on Tuesday evening in the church hall. Music will follow.

Announcement in a church bulletin for a national Prayer and Fasting Conference: "The cost for attending the Fasting & Prayer Conference includes meals."

The peacemaking meeting scheduled for today has been canceled due to a conflict.

Ladies, Ladies
The ladies of the church have cast off clothing of every kind. They may be seen in the basement on Friday afternoon.

Ladies, don't forget the rummage sale. It's a chance to get rid of those things not worth keeping around the house. Don't forget your husbands.

Ladies' Bible Study will be held Thursday at 10 a.m. All ladies are invited to lunch in the Fellowship Hall after the B.S. is done.

The pastor would appreciate it if the ladies of the congregation would lend him their electric girdles for the pancake breakfast next Sunday.

Choir Practice
Next Thursday there will be tryouts for the choir. They need all the help they can get.

Eight new choir robes are currently needed due to the addition of several new members and to the deterioration of some older ones.

Miss Charlene Mason sang "I will not pass this way again," giving obvious pleasure to the congregation.

The rector will preach his farewell message, after which the choir will sing "Break Forth Into Joy."

Which Door Do I Use?
The Low Self-Esteem Support Group will meet Thursday at 7 p.m. Please use the back door.

Weight Watchers will meet at 7 p.m. at the First Presbyterian Church. Please use large double door at the side entrance.

The Members of the Congregation
Barbara remains in the hospital and needs blood donors for more transfusions. She is also having trouble sleeping and requests tapes of Pastor Jack's sermons.

Irving Benson and Jessie Carter were married on October 24th in the church. So ends a friendship that began in their school days.

No Good Deed Will Go Unpunished
Scouts are saving aluminum cans, bottles, and other items to be recycled. Proceeds will be used to cripple children.

Please place your donation in the envelope along with the deceased person you want remembered.

Watch Out for Those Potlucks
Attend and you will hear an excellent speaker and heave a healthy lunch.

The church will host an evening of fine dining, superb entertainment, and gracious hostility.

Potluck supper Sunday at 5 p.m. Prayer and medication to follow.

HOW Much Money Should I Give?
The associate minister unveiled the church's new tithing campaign slogan last Sunday: "I Upped My Pledge - Up Yours."

clareanna · 11/03/2010 05:21

Tigger- pmsl!!!