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Just MC...Long haul, short haul, ranting, weeping, laughing all encouraged. Oldies and newbies very welcome

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liahgen66 · 22/02/2010 21:46

Ok, feel a bit scared actually starting the new thread but here we are, for however long (or short) our time here may be.

Off you go ladies. Welcome () one and all.

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AlbaDeTamble · 07/03/2010 08:50

Just reread, by catch up, I mean catch up on here with all your news, I'm not a crazy woman who just has to know the latest goings on in chuggington etc... But that's rather how it sounded! Oops

AlbaDeTamble · 07/03/2010 08:59

I shouldn't post in such a hurry. Barrenbrook, sorry I think I sounded a bit heartless there, and dismissive of the little bean you lost. I'm in one of those hopeful and trying to be positive moods this morning but I know all too well that doesn't always help. Really crap to have had this happen to you.

Hopefully · 07/03/2010 10:49

Morning!

BFN this morning for me, despite AF being late . I know I'm almost certainly not PG, but do wish AF would put in an appearance if so, so I can stop clinging onto hope.

DS is not in the happy place this morning - he's fallen over twice and is now tantrumming...

Hopefully · 07/03/2010 10:49

(I did cuddle him when he fell over - the tantrum is unrelated! I'm not in the habit of ignoring my son when he's actually hurt...)

Unbuffy · 07/03/2010 11:18

Morning everybody, it's lovely and sunny here and hope you've all got the same. Lots of waves and love to all x

Wish my small one would watch the Dread Beebies once in a while, but she has absolutely noooooo interest. And a horrible cough that kept her (and me) up half the night. as yawn face...

randomimposter · 07/03/2010 11:24

unbuffy how old is your cherub? DS was totally disinterested for ages, way past his chums. Then with all the snow in January I tried again, and he likes bits of it, but gets bored quite quickly (un)fortunately. He's 21 months. Sorry about the rough night - it's a killer.

and for alba... chuggington, chuggy, chugg..... x

Curlylox · 07/03/2010 11:34

Morning everyone, I hope the sunshine is helping in lifting your spirits...as it is mine. Had a terrible week, sobbing on the station platform and in the office, thought wtf is wrong with me so called the Dr's. Dr called me back and explained that I'm normal and I'm grieving! I thought after a couple of weeks I would feel ok, as fortunately not experienced loss/bereavement before. It's now four weeks, some days I feel ok others not. No sign of AF, am def not BFP as no SWI, just not been in the mood, funny as thought I would be especially because of what happened. Maybe will feel different once AF has arrived and gone??? Think I may need changing on the list to WTF??

redandyellowandpinkandgreen · 07/03/2010 12:32

Thanks Jollster, don't feel quite ready to move to pregnancy yet so I'll just hover around here for a bit and lurk mostly!

Unbuffy · 07/03/2010 13:07

Jollster my (currently not so d)d is 14 months. just refused lunch, screaming tantrums all morning, very unhappy baba. I've put her to bed as think she is v v v v tired - tried that this morning and she wouldn't go down, so not holding out vast hopes . Bit of a 'grit your teeth and count the seconds until bedtime' day. My favourite!

Curlylox don't worry, I still have very rough days 6 weeks on. But generally I'm out of 'miserable' and into 'f* jealous' - I believe this is the accepted next stage... Something for you to look forward too

littlemiss72 · 07/03/2010 13:48

Hi all, still no sign of AF certainly WTF cycle going on here!

Congrats to red lurk until your ready hunni, no harm in that.

I'm also past miserable on to F-Jealous, I keep seeing all these pregnant women and wondering if it will ever be my turn. DP commented on it yesterday whilst having a long walk in the park

Managed to get through three hours in the hairdressers and came all blonde and wonderful again, hangover cured! Never ever try yager bombs.. ffs what was I thinking.

Lazy day for me today, DP locked away in the study, going clean the house, pain my nails and enjoy the peace and quite.

Happy Sunday all x

tigger15 · 07/03/2010 14:08

Hi barrenbrook I just came on to see what was happening and saw your good and bad news. I'm very sorry. I've also started accupuncture (quite weird but relaxing) and hopefully it'll work for us both soon.

BunnyBaby · 07/03/2010 14:39

Hi Curlylex I was exactly the same and still have those days now. All normal be gentle with yourself. Crying is healing so don't be tough on yourself xxx

Hopefully · 07/03/2010 15:37

Ho hum, AF has arrived. Another non-month for me . It's not in any way a surprise, but I was still holding out a smidgen of hope.

Anyway, onwards and upwards. This cycle is my last chance to have a 2010 baby, so I'm keeping my fingers crossed and will be leaping on DP at every opportunity!

clareanna · 07/03/2010 16:07

Morning all- breakfast time here! Just worked out that DH will be on a stag do at crucial time this month- argh. Am hoping for immaculate conception- that sort of happened with DS- swi on the Friday then he was away when I ov'ed on the Sunday .... Yet got pg. I'll just have to keep him busy before he goes!!!

hippychick66 · 07/03/2010 16:55

Hi to all. It's lovely and sunny and I am trying to feel positive today.

I still get upset and it's been 3 weeks since we found out our little one hadn't made it. I had one 'rush to the loo in tears' moment at work last week. I was trying to explain to my friend why I just didn't want to talk to anyone on the phone and ended up sobbing, "I want my baby back!!!!" Ahh well - happens to us all and is part of the healing process.

I got the closest thing to a positive on an OKP yesterday so am counting that. Will now count down to AF and then start trying in earnest. (No not with Ernest!!!).

Bleeding seems to have stopped today. So I had an intimate moment with DH today. We didn't SWI cos we both want one AF before that but we got a bit jiggy and I feel like a huge hurdle has been jumped over.

Jollster I hope you find out that you no longer need the EPRC, and that your body has done the job for them. How crap if you had to have both! Keep being jolly - you're fab.

Good luck to everyone SWI this week-end and those of you about to test.

Maitri · 07/03/2010 17:03

Hello everyone, almost a week since the 12 week scan showed a mmc and the mc is fully underway today. It's been a surreal experience but strangely comforting to know that our bodies are pretty good at doing what's best for us. I've felt everything today: terror, relief, panic, joy (?), humour... F*ing hormones. I am so grateful for this thread - just reading through the posts has made me realise that what I'm going through, physically and emotionally, is entirely normal.

Had a few hours of INTENSE despair yesterday when I noticed a Facebook post from a friend of mine. We conceived on the same day and therefore were due on the same day. Her post referred to her successful 12 week scan and their excitement etc. She meant no harm by it but Jesus, it felt like I'd been hit in the face. The emotions were unreal - absolute despair to the point that I was crying on the kitchen floor but it sparked some much needed tears. Not sure if that makes any sense to anyone. I've been quite upbeat this week and resigned to the fact that I've been heading for a miscarriage but I've wanted to keep strong for my dcs. I'm not great at showing emotions too freely but I agree so much with all the posters that crying really is healing.

Anyway, off to the hospital tomorrow morning as I was booked in for an ERPC but I'm assuming they won't bother now. I'm still cramping and bleeding but it's liquid rather than the jellied liver-type stuff of earlier (is anything tmi on this thread?! ).

Curlylox we were on the same a/n thread - it's lovely (in a sad way) to see you're on this one too.

hippychick66 · 07/03/2010 17:21

maitri Just want to give you a great big hug. How awful for you to have to read what you did on FB. (great news for your friend though).

I have a pregnant friend at work who was a bit behind me and she's recently had a great 12 week scan - (we found out 4 days before our scan that our little one didn't make it.)

I just kept looking at her the other day and thinking, 'she's got a healthy baby in there!" Don't get me wrong I am happy for her but it breaks my heart that it's not me. Hate being . But can't help it. On the flip side i am incredibly pleased for her cos she has had her share of bad luck - which I wont go into.

It is still so early for you maitri you will have times when you just want to cry and when you feel like someone has just swipped all your dreams off you. Cry as much as you need to - before you know it you'll be ttc-ing again and obsessing about CM and temps like the rest of us. xxx

Maitri · 07/03/2010 17:43

Thanks hippychick!

Curlylox · 07/03/2010 18:33

Oh Maitri very sorry to hear your news and can completely relate to the despair, it comes in waves.....MN has been a source of relief, even if I haven't posted and just been lurking. Have taken myself off the radar (i.e. friends, school playground etc) when possible, which is possibly not the best course of action but just want to stop the world so I can get off and curl up in a corner. But have my DD to think of so must be brave. I do remember you from the other thread too. Unbuffy not sure if I'm looking forward to the "f jealous" stage, torture or what! Thank you bunnybaby for your kind words.

Newcastle16 · 07/03/2010 19:10

Having a really bad day, was at a friends happy occasion yesterday and got asked so many times if baby on the way. Its so good to have this thread and maitri so sorry for you. Hopefully things will get better.

Hippychick that is such a big hurdle re getting intimate with DH, my DH has been jst great but I just dont feel ready for ttcing yet im so scared yet i really want to try. Feel totally messed up. Back to work 2moro too just dont know how Ill get thru the day without crying.

Well hopefully a good week for us all, or as good as possible.

urd · 07/03/2010 20:26

Hi all,hope everyone is chilling on this Sunday evening.MAITRI sorry to hear about your terrible day, anything can trigger such despair I know what you mean, everything I've done this weekend I seem to have felt like that. DH at work all weekend and everywhere I seem to have taken my DD this weekend I keep thinking last time I came here I was pregnant etc, just torturing myself really.Anyway I hope you have a better day tomorrow.
CURLYLOX-I know what you mean about taking yourself off the radar, school etc it just seems easier sometimes avoiding everyone, don't know if its good or bad but some days it seems the easiest decision.
NEWCASTLE16- good luck tomorrow at work, I'm back Tuesday. I know everyone is going to feel really awkward, thats the worst thing. One day at a time I suppose.
HIPPYCHICK- that made me chuckle -trying with "Earnest".good for you, still haven't had any intimacy yet, any day now though I reckon.
Take care all..

UnderneathTheStream · 07/03/2010 20:45

Sorry to have newbies here on the thread, but nice to see you IYSWIM.

Talking about the despair thing ? I am 8 weeks on and it?s getting worse ? just don?t want to do anything now even stuff I normally like. When does it start to get better?

hippychick66 · 07/03/2010 21:03

newcastle good luck back at work. I had my first day back last monday. It felt very odd to walk in cos for me everyone knew what had happened. I kept thinking, "last time I was here I was rushing out the door having just started bleeding!" I had some wonderful conversations with people where they were very supportive and so many people had been through similar stuff.

I did have a complete wobble one day where i ended up in the loo with my best friend at work, crying and saying that I just wanted to turn back time - but in a funny way that moment helped as well.

You'll get your intimate moment with DH when you're ready.xxx

delilahbelle · 07/03/2010 21:34

Hi all

Really really wish I wasn't posting here - but I am.
I had chemical pregnancy after fertility treatment mid Feb, tested positive at 4 weeks, started spotting at 4+3, then full on bleeding at 5 weeks. Finally got a negative preg test, and ready to begin again.

Part of me feels a fraud - it was so so early, I really just had a heavy/painful AF. But to me it was a baby, and it took a long hard journey to get there.

Hoping the journey to our next positive will be shorter.

Newcastle16 · 07/03/2010 23:58

oh delilah belle so sorry to hear ur news, it doesnt matter how early its still a baby, take it really really easy over the next few days and u will somehow get thru this