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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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The BESH 30's TTC: "Shall I get me rat out, Doctor?"

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ChoChoSan · 02/02/2010 16:14

The Palace is open and the anti-freeze is flowing - Blue Bols 50p a shot! Two for one on Archers and orange, for the classy BESHies (the ones who keep their hats on whilst undergoing an internal examination).

We have Vampire Bill and Brian Cox in the Dungeon, and David Mitchell and Brian Eno tending the bar....

OP posts:

Muser · 11/02/2010 16:10

Apparently round about now would be when an ectopic started appearing. But I'm sure it's not ectopic. Maybe I just have one of those blighted ovum thingies.

CUNextTuesday · 11/02/2010 16:28

Maybe - I had one of those - you'll be given some options of how to deal with it, if it is. There's a few of us that can give you some advice if you need it xx

PollyPoo · 11/02/2010 16:37

Good luck this evening Muser - I hope you get some answers. Thinking of you.

Muser · 11/02/2010 16:42

Just been called. I'm having a scan at 4pm tomorrow. I asked the nurse about hope and she said it was probably going to be bad news. Hormone levels may be over 1000 but progesterone levels are not good. So now we just have to figure out what's going on.

Ectopic not really feared due to lack of symptoms, so more likely to be something else.

ginhag · 11/02/2010 16:43

Hey muse am so sorry mate. Fucking utterly shit.

You are right re hormone levels n scans tho. If the levels are too low then all they do is say 'well we still don't know where it is' which is not at all reassuring. However I do agree that you need to know what the fuck is going on. If they seriously think you are at risk of ectopic they should be busting their arses to find out.

Have you had any more spotting? Any pain at all? If so what,and where?

Am hoping for the least bad option (which of course is still awful) which would be mmc. And with that you could easily have building hsg (though slower than normal pg obv) as part of the pg (not the boc) is still growing. That's what happened to me with my mmc. I was still 'pregnant' at 12 weeks!

So if you're 'lucky' it will be that and not ectopic (as you already know so why the fuck am I blithering on....)

as cunty says there are a few of us about you can talk to if need be...

I wish there was something I could say or do to make this better. Is horrible when the only thing you can hope for is something totally shit.

ginhag · 11/02/2010 16:45

Sorry x post muse... dunno if I said anything useful anyway...am thinking of you loads.

ginhag · 11/02/2010 16:48

Also,please punch me if I sounded like a patronising twat just then...

Muser · 11/02/2010 16:53

No it's helpful stuff gin. This especially: "Is horrible when the only thing you can hope for is something totally shit. "

That is exactly how I feel. I had to ask the nurse about hope because otherwise I'd torture myself. But when the "good" option is an mmc it's pretty fucking awful.

And it's all so much more real now. Last time was just like a period and it was crap but it was all done with quickly. This is so much worse. And I am so scared.

MrM is rushing home from work as we speak as I am a mess.

iggypiggy · 11/02/2010 16:56

muser this is all fucking shit for you. Please to look after yourself as much as possible. And for MrM to look after you too.

ginhag · 11/02/2010 16:58

muse am sending massive cuddles. Good that mr m coming home. And I totally understand why you are scared.

You'll get through it lovely,you will. And we're all here for anything at all that we can do to help.

The bit you quoted,that's exactly how I felt at Xmas see. So you are not alone. Not that that helps a fucking jot but I do know how you are feeling. And my heart totally goes out to you.

And anyone who thinks that is not beshie behaviour can kiss my arse.

CUNextTuesday · 11/02/2010 17:12

gin I'd pucker up but Hom would get arsey again

ginhag · 11/02/2010 17:14

cunty am still that I upset him! He's a lovely bloke as well...

CurlyCasper · 11/02/2010 17:24

More hugs for muser here. I've just caught up with what's going on. I'm so sorry things are unfolding in this way, and that you weren't able to get the right answers/action sooner. Please take care of yourself. Hope the scan reveals the lesser of the evils. (of course, I really hope it could reveal something better).

CUNextTuesday · 11/02/2010 17:29

You didn't upset him - he was in an insecure mood but I managed to persuade him that a lady who is married with a kid and who lives 200 miles away is unlikely to be in a lesbian relationship with me. I think he was mollified by that

If I were you I'd be flattered - only the very best for his girl! If you was a minger and that he wouldn't have given it a second thought...

ginhag · 11/02/2010 17:35

cunty

HawaiianCuntShine · 11/02/2010 17:42

Muser I agree with what GinHaggy and Cunty have said. If it was an ectopic they should be busting balls to get you in there and get it resolved. So since they are waiting until tomorrow, leads me to believe it's the smaller of the two piles of shit! The horrible thing is the waiting and not knowing, while they seem to take their sweet-ass time! Glad to here Mr.M is rushing home to be with you. If you need more shoulders to snot on, we're definitely all here.

rollerbaby · 11/02/2010 18:00

Muser just caught up and wanted to echo everyone else. So, so sorry you're going through this. Hope Mr M is home now and looking after you.

ginhag · 11/02/2010 18:01

muse hope mr m is home with some real life cuddles. And some gin xx

Muser · 11/02/2010 18:05

Thanks all. MrM has arrived and just having someone else here has made me much happier.

He also gave me my Valentines Day present early to help take my mind of stuff. Am now installing my new iPhone.

I'm not sure what to expect from the scan tomorrow. He's coming with me, so whatever it is we'll get through it together.

Scorpette · 11/02/2010 18:06

Oh Muser, am so so sooooo sorry for you. Seems like you have a choice of Nightmare A, Nightmare B, Nightmare C... and so on Can't believe you casual their attitude seems. Also think that if there was even the merest suspicion of ectopic then they should've been scanning you up goodstyle there and then but at least you're going in tomorrow. Them saying they dunnio what's going on is not acceptable - make them see that they can't keep fobbing you off as it a living hell, mentally and emotionally. And would be a good idea to let work appreciate what's going on; don't risk looking like a shirker cos they don't know what's going on for you.

Am always here for you and have baked you this obscenely calorific chocolate fudge cake Thinking of you xxxx

Scorpette · 11/02/2010 18:08

Aw, Mr M sounds a honey. Make sure he spoils you rotten all night

HawaiianCuntShine · 11/02/2010 18:25

That's the best way Muser getting through it TOGETHER! lovely!!!

HawaiianCuntShine · 11/02/2010 18:26

sorry - didn't mean that to sound too enthusiastic. I was just happy MrM is there and going with you tomorrow.

Muser · 11/02/2010 18:26

Ooo, cake good. Have just spoken to my line manager and he said "don't worry about anything, don't look at your emails, come back when you're ready."

ginhag · 11/02/2010 18:34

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