Just MC'd .. Come and join us for the long haul (newbies always welcome!) - Vol 3

[LeeWT]

Hi all, old and new, this is the thread where all moaning, pieces of tmi, discussions and virtual cups of tea and biscuits come together to keep us sane .. or at the least insane together!

Just out of interest, have any of you tried acupuncture? I'm thinking of giving it a try as a friend of mine has just gotten pg after 2 mc after a few sessions. Be interested to hear your views.

Help me Ladies,i was on the October bus thread and they suggested i try asking if my symptoms sound like an ectopic/miscarriage to anyone here .
last week(sunday) AF came 5 days early.By my calculations i should have come on Thurs/Fri.
Well AF has been very odd,lots of brown spotting (sorry tmi) only red when straining ,very light to the extent im only wearing pant liners and nothing is on it most of the time.Getting a fair bit of cramping and bachache,but its getting less in last 2 days and im very irritable.
Whats going on? im usually really heavy so much so that i wear 2 night-time Always at a time.Im also very regular. I have tested several times and all been negative,tested this morning and it was negative
.Just a bit worried as i have had an ectopic before.It was 13yrs ago and i dont remember bleeding with it just intense side and shoulder pain before collapsing.Any advice please.

MrsRigby's amazingly wonderful DH writing this:

MrsRigby is ok, just had some stressful days and has been too tired to post recently. No great news from our side.

MrsRigby passes on her best wishes and 'good luck' to everyone and I'm sure she'll be posting again soon.

Ladies, got room for another? Had MMC in Decemeber - discovered at routine 12 week scan. ERPC followed 5 days later and now 8 weeks on am about to try again. I have mixed feelings; desperate to be pregnant again terrified of another MC.

First pregnancy happily resulted in amazing DD and was almost textbook apart from breech so foolishly hadn't given much thought to things going wrong second time round. I've had spells of feeling stronger emotionally then get floored again unexpectedly with grief.

I've spent some time on the miscarriage threads so will be good to be on here with others going through the same emotions TTC. I've read through some posts (there are so many!)to try and get to know the names and stories - I'm so impressed with everyone's support and strength after going through the ringer yourselves.

So hope its ok to join you and goodluck to everyone!

Oh, I'm on day 18 of my first cycle since MC. No such thing as usual cycle length (would average about 33 days though) therefore ovulation happens anytime between 18 - 36 which is a joy. Have I missed anything?

mrR - thanks for update...any news on when scan will be?

Hi all
welcome to all the newbies - sorry you're here, but am sure you'll find support. Depending on whether I'm having a glass half full or empty day, hearing of so many other stories makes me feel reassured or depressed that MC is so sadly common. Moofold that black/white feeling you describe of TTC after MC resonates so strongly

lia I remember with my ERPC I bled for only about 4 days, and then stopped, and then about a week later I had an enormous gush (when I was in bed) and there was blood everywhere. In my slumberous state I thought it was the start of a new period. Sadly it wasn't... just a stained mattress . Bloody bleeding is a pain.

Had a night out last night up in t'big smoke; had to pretend I was driving later on so I wasn't drinking... got away with it!

Hope all ok with everyone: SWI, 2WW, bumps and all.

x

Morning all

Been meaning to post for a week or so but a combination of first full week back at work,suprise family visits and being incredibly knackered has meant I've only managed to occasionally lurk and run.
MrG has also just bought Champ manager and has stolen the lap top so unless he buys me my very own for my birthday next week I forsee problems.

Don't quite know where to start....

Lee how you doing? So sorry to hear about your Nan, She sounds like my kinda lady.
May she rest in peace.

Lee, TFLS, Louise, MrsR and TheKurgan Massssiiivvveee Congrats on the BFP's!!!
Wow, May you all have very a long and boring 9 months.

Waves to all the newbies.
Recognise some from stalking buses, other threads.
So many sad experiences, I'm sorry.
This is a good place to be.

Awwww... Viv BFFN ,that is shit me luvvie,
Hope you're ok.
You are so fab at giving out great advice and always saying the right thing.
Have a little word with yourself

Littlemiss be good to yourself, expect nothing but don't be suprised by anything.
Glad to hear you got through it, just gotta ride it out. Hope you're getting loads of TLC and taking it easy for a few weeks.

Me... God only knows what's going on?
Geordie accent Deey 32 in the Gazebo hoouuse and AF has not yet paid a visit.
As part of a task to save her sanity MrsG has PO(2)S!
MrsG has failed the tasks and therefore will not be getting a baby this month.
What MrsG does not know is that her body will be continuing to kid her that she is indeed preggers by sporadically making her feel queasy, boobage throbbings,mood swings and just for good measure constant EWCM.
If MrsG makes it through the next week without losing her mind* , leaving her job or killing someone she will be given a new ov chart and the Gazebo Hooouuussee meeaates can get back to SWI.

*Bit late??

I know AF sometimes takes a while after ERPC but I'm sure previously I've been bang on 27-28 days later? Eeek!

Morning all, hope your all keeping well. Rainy Sunday morning here in London.

Woke up this morning thinking .. I'm not pregnant anymore, awful feeling!

I'm hoping to go back into work tomorrow, it's going to be hard but I need to keep busy. Only my lovely boss knows so I have no explaining to do as such apart from the fact I've been missing all week.

moonfold I share your fears, we both desperately want to try again however I'm really scared in case I go through the same thing again. Lets holds hand through this and support each other!

welcome moofold and totallyfloaty sorry you have to be here

mrsgazebo nice to have you back! i see that you are on the wtf cycle, first cycle post mc. my af took 6 weeks after the first mc and five weeks after the second. apparently thats quite normal and tfls/meita/cheepz could tell you of worse, longer cycles. i think it just takes a while to settle down.. but fingers crossed in case a bfp is on its way..

love your BB update and sympathies on championship manager

x

Oh my gawd MrsG bit late indeed.. nice to see you though!

DP has been taking care of me bless him, I do wonder how all this has affected him though.

waking up is tough, isn't it? Just like you LittleMiss I woke up this morning, and just as I came to realised I'm not pregnant any more, then also realised I feel dreadful. Completely washed out, just can't move... DH reminding me that it's most likely just the anaesthesia still wearing off. I'm on the same day as you post ERPC, I can't quite believe you're going to work tomorrow, that's incredibly brave, I can't face getting out of the house today, let alone even getting up and dressed.... getting into work tomorrow would be a superhuman effort! All power to you if you do, but maybe better to just try to get out to the shops if you need distraction? I'm frankly dreading going back to work, it's long hours, hard work and can be stressful at the best of times, right now I'm not strong enough. And to top it all, there are three girls in my team who are all likely to be pg imminently one I know is trying, one I think is, she kind of let it slip but I didn't want to ask outright, and one just back from honeymoon..... that's going to be three really tough announcements to get through and I'm the only one with kids already, so I do tend to get the queries on anything baby related...

I thought I may as well keep myself busy updating the list for today -- hope I haven't got anything wrong - I am still a bit woozy... really sorry if I have. Moofold, have added you in. I completely empathise with how you feel going through one easy pg and all being fine and assuming that's how it would be next time... I really don't think it's all sunk in for me yet, wish it could all have been the same as last time

I was reading through all the rest of the thread yesterday afternoon -- some v sad and also some v funny posts - you lot write so well!! Viv I love your name, and reminds me we have a bottle of the stuff that was waiting till after the baby, so I guess we use it instead for a romantic night in as soon as we're ready to try again! And for the fun 'us' stuff have booked our favourite restaurant for a treat next weekend.

Lee so sorry to read about your nanna, sympathies. I remember when I lost both mine, it is so sad, but I found it really helped to talk about them and all the great memories, and in a way that keeps them with you.

Liaghen hope you're feeling better - and others, good to hear of post ERPC experiences, it does help have an idea of what to expect, all v light just now but I guess I need to keep the mattress protector on just a little longer

Sunday's list
MrsGazebo TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 1 CD32
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL27 cycle 2 CD30
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD29
effilump TTC#5 UCL28 cycle 1 CD27
samanthab123 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD26
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF#2 CD25
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle WTF CD25
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 10 CD24
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle WTF CD24
Sarahlou TTC#3 UCL27 cycle 2 CD23
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 6 CD21
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 8 CD20
just1moreplease ttc #3 ucl 30 days cycle 1 cd20
Moofold ttc#2 UCL~33 cycle1 CD19
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 5 CD18
lucyt66 TTC#1 UCL34 cycle 2 CD18
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD12
Unbuffy TTC#2 UCL? WTF CD12
Liahgen66 TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 (post mc) CD10
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD6
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD6
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 3 CD5
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD4
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 11 CD3
Albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle WTF CD3

PENDING STATS
goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
dirtgirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
allthe8s TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
muser TTC#? UCL? cycle WTF CD?
Polyanna TTC#6 UCL27 WTF CD?
LittleMiss72 TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010

Hi all, i have a question re bleeding...

I had a natural mc last weekend, and have hardly had any bleeding. I had loads at the time, but was told after a scan that there is lots of womb lining left. Can I expect a huge gush sometime? also, I would quite like to have sex just for its own sake (mostly anyway ) is there a big risk of getting an infection? Bleeding has stopped again at the moment but who knows if it will start again...

Oh Alba I'm so sorry.
I must have appeared to be so insensitive and rude when this is so raw for you too.
Take it easy and give yourself time.
What's good for one is not necessarily good for another.
It will get easier and in the mean time you've found an amazing ,supportive thread choc full of lovely ladies that understand where you are at the moment. xx

MrsG, not insensitive at all! Your post was the one thing that made me laugh this morning, don't stop posts like that one

though what is really bothering me is the 'One Born Every Minute' trailer on this site, I know it's the perfect demographic here for them to get their target audience, but that title is sooo cruel when you've just lost one takes me back to being wheeled past the delivery suite on the way to theatre on Friday morning

Need more funny posts MrsG or I'll be bawling again

Know what your feeling alba I also have lots of colleagues at work who are pregnant, some recently announced and some just about to go on maternity leave. It's going to be hard but I have to think positive and so should you. ((HUGS))

Take one small step at a time, everyone is different as MrsG said. We are all hear for each other, I might even share my chocolate

I worked from home last week and could continue to do if I wished however I feel going back into the office might help me. I was going cooko last week at home, I work in my own office so worst case I'll just shut the door on them all.

If I hit a brick wall I'll just come home, no pressure. Little steps, day by day. Like you I think it's still sinking in!

A&E last night with severe pain and heavy bleeding......examined and confirmed cervix was open, sent home with codeine. Having a scan first thing tomorrow morning. Feeling numb, can't quite believe it and the tears keep coming

Oh bless you curlylox everything crossed for your scan tomorrow. Get plenty of rest in the meantime and try not to lose hope just yet. xxx

So sorry Curlylox
Hope the Codine is doing it's job and you are with people who are looking after you.

Morning everybody,happy weekend.

Chocs and hugs to Alba and Littlemiss - loads of sympathy for you right now.

Waves to Mrs G in the bb house! don't let those challenges get to you - it could be the jungle next...

Quick question: poas, bfn. This is good right as it means everything is now 'back to normal'? (12days after erpc) No risk of infection etc now? Why does nobody tell you the important stuff?! You lovely ladies excluded of couse - it's the nhs i'm ranting at!

good luck curlylox and bestest wishes x

Polly soz, meant to reply to your post and got distracted by MrG and FIL emptying the loft.
Not that I'm going to be much help mind you
I'm really sorry for your loss first of all.
I think as long as your cervix is closed you can crack on with the SWOI.
You'll possibly get clots coming out from the remainder of your lining.
Everyone is different though so I really can't help but I didn't want your post to go unanswered.

Good luck

Agree Littlemiss, the horrible realisation the first time you think about what has happened each morning its awful. Hopefully with time it will get better.

Alba, I went back to work 2 weeks after ERPC. First few days were dreadful then I found it was actually helping me get on with things - and that when I was at home I just spent all my time crying and being really down. That said, I had a very bad week again recently and wondered if I had been using work as a distraction and therefore not actually dealing with what is happening.

I also have pregnant friends and colleagues and that is difficult to deal with.

Sorry to read your post Curlylox. I don't know your history but sounds like you are having a tough time, my thoughts are with you

alba, sorry I didn't mean to ignore your post. I am in the same position as you - I'm sure that my close colleague and one of the mums at the school gate are going to announce their pregnancies - I'm dreading dealing with that. i am ok with heavily pg people, but feel nothing but resentment for people who manage to get past 12 weeks. Poor dh will have to deal with the fallout from that I think.

How would I know if my cervix is closed? I have another scan next week - do I have to wait for that or is there another way of knowing?

Also, a que about SWI and SWOI - are these new acronyms? Has the hideous bding been banished?

Pollyanna, felt a bit bad ignoring you but having ended up with erpc I have no idea how to tell when natural mc over with (all I know is I wasn't brave enough for going through it all naturally)

no doubt we're going to have a bunch of both expected and unexpected tough moments to get through... Have heard first period will also be tough, but starting to think positive. The SWI is I guess one thing to look forward to. I read back a bit to discover that the awful BD has indeed been abolised, the girls on this thread all 'shag with intent' instead!

my pg brain still with me so can't exactly remember swoi but I guess must be without intent? The days when it's because you want to rather than have to.

This and the sympathy, tissues and chocolate all helping me cheer up this afternoon. Time to get up and take DS to the park, poor boy must be sick of CBeebies