Just MC'd .. Come and join us for the long haul (newbies always welcome!) - Vol 3

[LeeWT]

Hi all, old and new, this is the thread where all moaning, pieces of tmi, discussions and virtual cups of tea and biscuits come together to keep us sane .. or at the least insane together!

Morning all, just been reading up on what i've missed, i dont get on much at weekends, the kids dive on the laptop and dont let go!! Congrats to the BFP's excellent news! Welcome to the new ladies, wish you weren't here IYSWIM. Nothing much to report here, lots of SWI going on, had a positive OPK, but had hardly any EWCM, so not quite sure whats going on there, hasnt stopped us from trying though.

Hello everyone, I'm a newbie to these TTC threads although have been trying for a year or so. Had a BFP earlier this month but sadly started to miscarry on Saturday. Am still bleeding and feeling pretty low now.

Please lovely ladies who have been through all this, tell me how long you waited after mc to start ttc again. I want something to look forward to.

Hi,

I have been lurking and am feeling a little bit like an imposter (I recognise some of you but I've changed my name). I was on the due Nov 09 thread but had an ectopic, then the due June 10 thread but had a MC at the end of November.

Had one cycle, 30 days post D&C, first day was 22nd December. Am feeling really sick all the time at the moment plus a few other symptoms so I nipped to the pound shop and purchased a couple of cheapie tests.

Last night (well 3 mins after I returned from town if I'm honest ) I got a faint BFP - did another one this morning (ok 4am, woke up and couldn't wait) and got a stronger line.

Sorry I know I am going on and prob a conception thread is not the best place to post when u have a BFP but you cound like you may understand just how scared I am now.

This is third time lucky or I think I will give up, I don't think I can go through the pain again.

I have now had 2 ectopics and then a MC, at some point u need to give up (just in case you may be confused by my 3rd time lucky, this is the 3rd pg with my current DP who has no children - I have 2 teenage sons).

Thanks for listening xx

Congratulations on your BFP Thirdtime. I know you must be worried, but hang on in there.

I hopefully will get pregnant again and I imagine that it will be the start of another stage of worry rather than the excitement my last two BFPs have given me. My first pregnancy resulted in my lovely two year old DS so when I fell pg again it didn't cross my mind it would be anything other than fine. I was a little cocky really. This mc has hit me sideways. I can therefore sympathise with you, but look after yourself, and take things day by day and hopefully you'll get a lovely baby.

My current mantra - draw a line under this sodding mc, get it over with, start again, hope hope hope.

Hi Dirtgirl and Hi ThirdTimeLucky

Dirtgirl - after my mmc in July, we waited for one complete cycle and then started to try again. Lo and behold, I fell pregnant right away, but sadly we lost that baby in November. All the guidance I received last summer said that there's no reason why you can't start trying immediately, but they advise you to wait one cycle, largely to make it easier for dating purposes.

ThirdTimeLucky - gosh, we completely understand how you're feeling so please don't worry about gatecrashing this thread rather than a pregnancy one. After all, we've got a whole host of ladies on here who have all recently found out they are pregnant and are going through the exact same emotions that you are. So pull up a chair and settle down as we've all got a spare ear or two for listening.

Thanks both - here's a thought I've been having too - what are the chances that my hcg level still being raised after MMC in November (even though I had a AF in Dec)??

You may regret the offer of the chair, quickly move it before I sit down!

If you had an AF in December, then I think your hcg levels will be fine.

However, again I totally understand as I had the same concerns as you with my second pregnancy - in the end, I called my local Emergency Pregnancy Unit and they called me in to have some blood tests done to establish that was indeed a new pregnancy. Maybe worth giving them a call?

Thank you viv

Hi all

Louisesh - sorry for making you a worry "wart" rather than worry wort!

But I'm in true worry wort form at the moment. Dirtgirl is right - it is another stage of worry but I keep reminding myself to take it day by day. This whole business feels like a bad game of snakes and ladders at time. Here's for hanging on to the snakes

How are you doing Lee - have you managed to keep your news quiet?

Dirtgirl - welcome. sorry to hear your news but you are in very good company here. I started to try again immediately afterwards. With hindsight, I was probably very obsessive but I think as Cheepz describes, I was trying to compensate and take some control back.

Threetimesluckypleasexx - welcome on board. Please don't feel like an imposter - great to have you on board. Sorry you've been through the ringer. I completely understand how scary it feels. Not an expert but I would have thought it would be impossible to have residual hcg levels after AF. But like VivC says, it might be worth a phone call just to put your mind at rest.

liahgen66 - welcome - so sorry to hear your news. Hope today goes as well as it can. I found this site in the middle of my m/c and it has been a life saver. I'm 41 and had a mmc at 10 weeks last week so understand the feeling that time isn't on your side only too well.

MrsR - I really feel for you sweetie. Please stop being so hard on yourself - and put away those wicked tests until the weekend - they are the path to madness . You will get your BFP - probably when you least expect it...

Barrenb - completely understand you may need some space from the ttc business but please don't ever feel you can't have a good vent here if you're feeling low. Puppy sounds gorgeous. Tell the nosey inlaws that Fido Junior IS the grandchild if they wind you up

CakeandFineWine - fingers crossed for the scan. Let us know how you get on.

Cheepz - good sign that your cycle is returning to normal so quickly.

Hopefully - sometimes I found you just had to forget the enthusiastic part! I never really appreciated it when people spoke about ttc sex but now I do!

Goodluckbear - hope the spa was yummy.

Thank you ladies, you've made this a very welcoming thread. I think it is the place I need to be right now. Am trying to be normal in RL and get on with things but it is nice to find a gentle thread where people understand.

Thefatlady - ttc sex is utterly depressing imo. I find it a total chore.

Hi all,
just want to drop in quickly and say hi!

Welcome to all newbies. It's sad that you had to find your way here. That said, I do think this is a particularly helpful and supportive place to be. For me this thread was always about looking forward. I hope it will be for you, as much as it was, and is, for me.
A particular welcome to Liah - you don't know me but I know you as I've been lurking on the August2010 thread. Too scared to join for fear of jinxing things, but I've been glad to read of how everyone else was doing. So sad that you had bad news. I hope your DC and DH are being extra nice to you. I'm still very worried the same thing will happen to me, my own 12-week scan is 8 days away now.

So now we have SEVEN recent BFPs on here... 4 of them being very recent... wow! I really feel for you all. Not in a sad, but rather tense sort of way. It's not so long ago that I found the 2ww replaced by a loooong 8ww (to the first scan) and I just know that it's not an easy place to be in. The emotional turmoil is not helped by the hormonal changes, the nausea and tiredness... I hope you have very understanding people around you, and if you need to vent, please do! Don't beat yourselves up about not feeling unreservedly happy and excited about this BFP.

Although the grads list is starting to look really impressive, the TTC list seems to be growing at equal speed. I hope you will all get your sticky BFPs when the time is right. My thoughts are with you.

What a lovely welcoming thread this is. I've been reading but not contributing (lurking??). In fact, over the weekend I think I had a bad delayed reaction to my mc. When it happened (21st Nov) I was surprised not to feel too devastated. I think I was just relieved to have survived it - cos the physical pain was excruciating.
We started TTC after first AF (19th Dec) and I think I secretly thought it would happen quickly. So when AF came last week I think that's when it hit me.
Like some others here, I feel time isn't on my side - 39 - and there is that ever-present feeling that you (I mean, I) try to ignore that it might never happen. Oh, sorry for the doom and gloom. I'm def feeling it.
Sorry to hear about other mcs, especially those who have had recurrent ones.
Congrats to all the BFP - I can imagine the tense mixed feelings - of wanting to feel elated, but being a bit scared to. God, this is tough. Anyways, onwards and upwards, as someone else said! Very very nice to have a place to share xx

Hi,
I was someone who was on the TTC and post m/c threads for a long time, just wanted to tell you all to keep your spirits up if possible. I had 3 m/cs and had hit the age of 45 with no baby in sight: now I am the 46-year old mummy of a dear little DS(conceived naturally after an HSG test apparantly pushed some adhesions out of the way! Pregnancy managed by Dr Rai at the recurrent miscarriage clinic at St Marys). Miracles can happen!

Hello
I wondered whether I could join too. I've been lurking for a while and you seem like a very supportive group of people.
Quick history: got pregnant in April last year with what would have been my first child and miscarried at 10.5 weeks with what turned out to be an 'anembryonic pregnancy' - blighted ovum in other words. Since then have had two further very early miscarriages, both at 5 weeks exactly. Was gutted - especially the third time . I've been referred, and have my first appointment with a gynaecologist tomorrow. After giving myself a month off, I have been ttc this month as I figured I have nothing to lose (apart from my sanity!) and it feels better to be doing something than nothing!

Anyway stats, ignoring mcs, are:

TheKurgan ttc1, c1, ucl28-30, CD23

Hi TheKurgan, welcome and good luck tomorrow.

Redtabby - great story .

VIV thanks for your kind wishes..

GOODLUCKBEAR i m from Worcestershire orignally and my DHs from Derby but now we live in Wakefield its such a small world isn t it???? Spa sounds lush .We went to a beautiful spa last year in Nottinghamshire called Thoresby Hall is a warners hotel was fabulous.Was going to try and go new year is very expensive but the hotel,entertainment and food is excellant.

*TFLS ha ha!!!! I m cracking up!!!! Its because a LARGE part of my job comprises of treating patient's warts!!!! I m obsessed!!!!!!

H to DIRTGIRL and THIRDTIMELUCKY you will find lots of support on this site we ve all been through the crap soo can totally empathise....

Hi to everyone else X

Hi everyone,

Many many thanks forthe very warm welcome. I'm sorry yu are here now dirtgirl i recognise your name from TTc threads.

3rdtimelucky we all have our fingers very firmly crossed for you, please let it be a sticky one for you, (and everyone else at the start of the terrifying glorious journey that is pregnancy.

Well we haven't been ble to go in today, have to go to EPU weds morning for another scan to confirm, (wtf) and then refer to local hosp for the ERPC on Thursday. Am feeling quiet and in denial at the moment and was having this little conversation with myself earlier about how I would react when they told me there was a heartbeat. ( i am going mad, I know it's over). I still have my symptoms, feeling off my food and hungry alternately, the body is a cruel gamester.

I do feel as if I'm about to come on at any moment though and am going to the loo constantly to see if any bleeding has started, sometimes I wish it would then I wouldn't have to wait till Thursday as they would take me in I was told earlier.

On the plus side, (have always been a glass half full kind of person) when this happened to me before, I conceived my dd in the post bleed cycle, so no period, just the bleeding following the erpc then conception. AM really praying this time will be as quick, I really need to try again straight away and get back in the saddle so to speak. We even managed a joke today about back to shagathon week for Dh.

We'll get our turn ladies, all good things and all that.

Keep calm all you new BFP ladies, good luck to those waiting to find out and big hugs for those of us waiting for proceudures or waiting for Mother nature to take it's course.

(gosh sorry that was long wasn't it?)

Seemed to have missed some posts.....

REDTABBY a lovely story still time for me then at 39 with no dc.

Hi THEKURGEN and LUCY MEITA totally with you as this is my 4th bfp with no dc i ve gone past the stage of happiness or excitement more a sense of panic and dread that the same senario will be played out.Just taking it a step at a time if i make it past 1 week i ve done better than Dec when i had CP.Soo think its going to be a very LONG 2 months, if i get that far....Good luck for your scan X

Welcome to the new people. Sorry to see you here, iykwim, but hope that you make yourselves at home!

TFLS DP is in bed with a cold (I am out babysitting for a friend). Wonder how enthusiastic he will be about SWI when I return home at 9:30 To be fair we could probably miss a go (we are on the highly technical 'SWI every other day until AF comes' plan) and pick up tomorrow. When I conceived last time we hadn't been near each other for 5 days before I ovulated. Miracle sperm!

Lucy I know what you mean about the reality hitting you later. I really am fine at the moment (MC a couple of weeks ago now), but despite my best efforts to remain realistic I am really hoping I get pregnant this cycle (despite having not ovulated yet ). I think if I don't I'll find it really hard, knowing I 'should' be 2 months ahead of where I am. I may be hanging around here a lot in a state of deep gloom if AF gets me this month.

Oh Hopefully you have just mirrored exactly how I feel - that I am nearly six months behind where I should be.

I knew deep down that I wouldn't get caught on the last 2 cycles because AF lasted too long, well over a week, but this one has been the first 'normal' one and I can't begin to imagine how I'm going to feel if its a no go this month (and I haven't ov'd yet either!)
I am taking comfort from the fact that the 'deep doom' lasts only a while and that it is replaced by optimism as the month progresses. x x

gosh, thread is veritable hive of activity at the mo which is great!

GLBear v.jealous of spa, man could i do with one of those, suppose night away last week was as close as i will come for a while!!

effi I always maintain its best to try abit of SWI whether there are any signs or not

dirtgirl welcome hon, sorry about your recent mc, hope you stop bleeding soon, I stopped a week ago and am seeing all the right signs now so fingers crossed its the same for you.

3rdtime BFP post mc is definitely not the same as BFP pre mc and noone from here likes to go straight to ante natal thread so pull up a pew and stop in for as long as you need

TFLS 1 day at a time lady, thats all you need to do

Meita hi special, nice of you to swing by, hope the next 8 days don't drag for you too much, feel so forrible for you that you can't enjoy the first 12 weeks of pregnancy with 1st child, feel thankful sometimes DS was born pre any mc's so was in blissful ignorance, its never the same again.. nearly there now though.

lucyt66 hang in there, 39 is defo not too late, when I saw the doctor last week after mc no 2 she said they would not even think about age as a factor for a good few years and I am 37 so try not to fret

redtabby thanks for coming and sharing, very generous and wonderful to hear your story

the kurgan welcome, although of course am sorry you have reason to be here. good luck with gynea tomorrow

mrsr, viv fingers crossed for you guys at top of the list, in my thoughts

lee boods jolls lou know you are about and hoping every day that you are all doing fine and that our little flurry of january beans are hanging in there

as for me, another 'high' today on the CBFM and EWCM all over the shop, couldn't be arsed to SWI last night as stayed up far too late watching 'how to lose a guy in 10 days' but am feeling like a little naughty naughty tonight - must be ovulating!! - so am thinking of ways to entice DH into some SWI action. Am expecting 'Peak' in next day or so and currently thinking why not give it a go, nothing to lose really! Feeling very calm compared to last time and to get pregnant now would not be like trying to replace last mc as it would have been first time around.

Hello everyone! Hi to all the newbies - welcome, and lots of hugs to you all.

I'm trying not to think about TTC this month in a serious way, if you see what I mean - I became too obsessed with dates and timing last month and it was all a bit much.
Have decided to have 'normal sex' instead of BDing, but just much more of it whenever we want, if that makes any sense?

And the golden role this month is to stay away from the early tests, following the madness of the 4 BFN's last month!

tigerbear you sound so chilled, I'll have whatever you're having - I am sure its the answer, we were totally like that over Christmas and next thing you know - pregnant - so it didn't work out, thats how it goes, but from now on chilled is how I am going to try and remain

Welcome newbies!

CONGRATS TFLS and louise - wonderful, wonderful news!

Just gonna post and dash - been sooooo busy with work and now ...just...need...to..lie...down...

hi all... it's SO busy at the moment on here which is brilliant and yet very sad all at the same time. Welcome to all the newbies; I remember how comforting I found this thread when I had my MMC last year. Even when I wasn't posting much, just reading was very helpful.
lia so sorry your next stage is being messed around and delayed.
lucy I SO remember that feeling first cycle post MC... I was convinced I would get pg again straight away. But no.

Anyway just a quickie as DS being quite challenging at the moment (now 20 months). Not sleeping very well and being extra "into everything". Am exhausted!! Am 6+4 today, and did another CBD this morning to see if I had moved onto 3+ weeks.... am so ; it didn't work; apparently I didn't pee on it properly (err I think I HAVE done it before you know) OR I didn't lay it flat (err I SO did!). So feeling a bit in limbo - am too mean to buy any more, so am just trusting in fate that bean is doing ok in there. Am tired, a bit nauseous and have carpal tunnel in my left wrist already, so signs are good IYKWIM. Midwife appt next Tuesday.

Good luck everyone wherever you are in your own personal quest x