The continuing adventures of The First Time Frolickers!!!!

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Somebody come and join me quick, I'm lonely!!

Sky27 TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 24? CD91
chico193 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL36 CD69
Stellybelly TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL? CD53
Hamsterlover TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL34 CD46
CJ2007 TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL26/7 CD36
claireinthecommunity TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL29-31 CD28
WhiteRoses TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL23-49 CD26
YorkshireTeaDrinker TTC#1 Cycle 13 UCL 30 CD23
Muser TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL30 CD21
honeymoo TTC#1 cycle2 UCL? CD20
aly323 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-? CD16
addie81 TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 27 CD16
Calyx TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL 25-26 CD14
bunnygirl80 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 29 CD14
chalky3 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL40 CD12
vix206 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 27 CD11
Ozziegirly TTC#1 cycle UCL 27 CD10
blueberry noo TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 31-32 CD8
pixiestix TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL28 CD6
Kaloki TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL ? CD5
Zippys TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL34 CD4
Homebound TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-32 CD2
NovemberAli TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 30-34 CD2
kkas TTC#1 Cycle 5 UCL?? CD2
Confuseddoiordonti TTC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 27-28
CD?

Graduates:
Trying4Baby1 BFP 21Aug
Kaystar BFP 27Aug
Pepperonipizza BFP 12Sep
Fulhamgirl BFP 18Sep
Ladyemmalou83 BFP 13Oct
bluesnowfalcon BFP 14 Oct
Spirael BFP 7 Nov
Curlycasper BFP 11 Nov
TishTosh21 BFP ???
Sevans BFP 15 Nov
EmsieRo BFP 16 Nov

Oh and I forgot to say. First bfp was on the 8th x

Congrats on the BFPs!

So, I got a BFP too. Which is, umm, interesting. I am technically CD11. My period last time came a week early. After I had been convinced I was knocked up due to symptoms. 3/4 days proper bleeding, not as heavy as normal but worthy of my mooncup.

Started spotting today, thought period was starting again. Decided to POAS before bed as I was suspecting a chemical pregnancy. Instant line appears. Go get my Clearblue digital, hardly any pee left so didn't expect it to work. It declares me 2-3 weeks pregnant.

I should be bouncing around really happy, but given my bleeding and current spotting I'm thinking this isn't a keeper. But I don't know what I'm meant to do now...

I'm jumping on the band wagon - BFP, BFP!

Congratulations HypotheticalMummy That's fabulous news.

Muser I hope the spotting goes away soon. I don't know what the bleeding you had last week means but there are plenty of stories of women who bleed early on in pregnancy and then go on to have healthy babies. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Muser congratulations on the BFP's, I bet you are pg! I would go straight to the GP and ask for bloods (I think?) With symptoms and good positives on the different tests, it sounds like the bleeding may be a red herring.... I'm really keeping fingers crossed for you.

Hypotheticalmummy wooo hooo congratulations to you! Soon not so hypothetical eh This is a good month for our BFP's, best of luck xx

I was going to come on and have a moan (sore neck with arm pain. Busy busy diary at work. Bloated and AF starting. Can't have a cig and really want one, stopped smoking last night)... but guess what, Muser and Hypotheticalmummy's news has actually cheered me up. Well done girls!

So pleased for all the BFP's, I know you will be worrried about the bleeding Muser but as said I would get yourself down to the docs and hopefully eveything will be fine

Please dont anyone take this the wrong way as I am totally over the moon for all of you who have got BFP's so quickly but there is there is a little bit of me that is so jealous , I dont want you to think I am raining on your parade or dulling your joy but the more months that pass and the more people I hear of who fall pregnant straight away makes me question what is wrong with me, why cant my stupid body get prenant. We have out xmas do soon and I was so certain I would have been pregnant for it. Each month goes by, working out when I would be due and when I could tell people, thinking about how the major events in our life like birthdays and holidays will change, yet the seem to come and go and I am still here not pregant and feel like I will never be.

Sorry I didnt think that I would go off on one quite so much, sat at my desk now with tears streaming down my eyes, struggling to see the keyboard and people due in any minute!! Will pull myself together and sorry If have ruined the good mood, I think I just need to let it out every now and again or else I will go mad!!

Congratulations Hypertheticalmummy and Muser.Wow, is this a sign of lots of Christmas babies to come?

Muser, the bleeding that you thought was an early period sounds like an implantation bleed. There are plenty of reasons why early bleeding doesn't have to be a bad sign. Hopefully it's just your little bean settling in and making him/herself comfy that causing the disruption.

Great news both of you. What a lovely way to start the morning.

Aaaw zippys, you're not raining on anyone's parade, goodness knows, if you can't sound off on MN where can you? I know how you feel (cycle 15 here!), but the fact is it just takes some of us longer. This info is from the NHS Choices website:

About 85% of couples will conceive naturally within one year if they have regular unprotected sex. Of 100 couples trying to conceive naturally:

• 20 will conceive within one month,
• 70 will conceive within six months,
• 85 will conceive within one year,
• 90 will conceive within 18 months, and
• 95 will conceive within two years.

There doesn't appear to be much rymme or reason as to why some of us get lucky immediately and others have to plough on for a year or two.

A technique I use for controlling teh disappointment is to give myself a target date for conception (e.g. April) and start planning to expect a pregnancy then. That way you can plan for your January baby and if it happens earlier its great, but if it doesn't, well, it doesn't matter cos you're not expecting it. Might sounds a bit bonkers, but I am expecting to conceive in February, and every time it doesn't work I tell myself it doesn't matter, my time is going to be February Actually that does make me sound like a bit of a loon, but it is (sort of) controlling the panic for me.

Even better, set yourself a timescale for what remedial action you are going to take. Give yourself a target date for when you go to the doctors. I was planning to go to the Drs in the New Year, but I've got fed up of waiting and am going tomorrow. Its primarily just to get the ball rolling on possible diagnostic tests (cos I won't need intervention - I am going to conceive in February - damnit!!). Whilst you do have to give Mother Nature a fair crack of the whip (i.e. a year), I think having a plan for what you might have to do to help her out can make you feel like you are a little more in control of the process.

Most importantly, carry on doing what you're doing and vent here. It will be worth the wait...

congrats both of you!

And whilst I'm being such an active poster (working from home this morning - no one can see my screen!) here's today's list:

Sky27 TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 24? CD105
chico193 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL36 CD83
Homebound TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 30-32 CD71
Stellybelly TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL? CD67
WhiteRoses TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL23-37 CD40
MadameG TTC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 28 CD39
honeymoo TTC#1 cycle2 UCL? CD34
aly323 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-? CD30
addie81 TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 27 CD30
Calyx TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL 25-26 CD29
Hamsterlover TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL34 CD29
bunnygirl80 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 29 CD28
chalky3 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL40 CD26
Ozziegirly TTC#1 cycle UCL 27 CD24
blueberry noo TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 31-32 CD22
pixiestix TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL28 CD20
CJ2007 TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL26/7 CD20
Kaloki TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL ? CD19
Zippys TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL34 CD18
NovemberAli TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 30-34 CD16
kkas TTC#1 Cycle 5 UCL?? CD16
claireinthecommunity TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL29-31 CD13
Eleanora TTC #1 Cycle 1 UCL 33(?) CD13
YorkshireTeaDrinker TTC#1 Cycle 14 UCL 29 CD9
Sevans TTC#1

Graduates:
Trying4Baby1 BFP 21Aug
Kaystar BFP 27Aug
Pepperonipizza BFP 12Sep
Fulhamgirl BFP 18Sep
Ladyemmalou83 BFP 13Oct
bluesnowfalcon BFP 14 Oct
Spirael BFP 7 Nov
Curlycasper BFP 11 Nov
TishTosh21 BFP ???
EmsieRo BFP 16 Nov
vix206 8 Dec
Muser 9 Dec
HypotheticalMummy 9 Dec

Right, best get on with some work now!

congrats hypothetical and muser!!! i've updated you on the grad list. and fixed vix - not sure how i got the day wrong last time!

zippys i know exactly how you feel and have been in tears everyday this week about it too. please don't feel bad about venting - that is exactly what this thread is for.

only news from me is that i think another fertile time will have been and gone by the end of today, with only one BD to show for it. i'm never even gonna know whether i have a chance at getting pg because DH and I are just too busy/tired/stressed to DTD at the right time. and when I do try to initiate despite all of this, DH gets stage fright. so frustrating....

Sky27 TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 24? CD105
chico193 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL36 CD83
Homebound TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 30-32 CD71
Stellybelly TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL? CD67
WhiteRoses TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL23-37 CD40
MadameG TTC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 28 CD38
honeymoo TTC#1 cycle2 UCL? CD34
aly323 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-? CD30
addie81 TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 27 CD30
Calyx TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL 25-26 CD29
Hamsterlover TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL34 CD29
bunnygirl80 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 29 CD28
chalky3 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL40 CD26
Ozziegirly TTC#1 cycle UCL 27 CD24
blueberry noo TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 31-32 CD22
pixiestix TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL28 CD20
CJ2007 TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL26/7 CD20
Kaloki TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL ? CD19
Zippys TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL34 CD18
NovemberAli TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 30-34 CD16
kkas TTC#1 Cycle 5 UCL?? CD16
claireinthecommunity TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL29-31 CD13
Eleanora TTC #1 Cycle 1 UCL 33(?) CD13
YorkshireTeaDrinker TTC#1 Cycle 14 UCL 29 CD9
Sevans TTC#1

Graduates:
Trying4Baby1 BFP 21Aug
Kaystar BFP 27Aug
Pepperonipizza BFP 12Sep
Fulhamgirl BFP 18Sep
Ladyemmalou83 BFP 13Oct
bluesnowfalcon BFP 14 Oct
Spirael BFP 7 Nov
Curlycasper BFP 11 Nov
TishTosh21 BFP ???
EmsieRo BFP 16 Nov
vix206 BFP 8 Dec
HypotheticalMummy BFP 9 Dec
Muser BFP 9 Dec

xpost with yorkshire thanks for your supportive words and pep talk

Thanks so much for the post Yorkshire that has made me feel a lot better already! I also like your way of thinking.

I AM going to get pregnant in March next year (nice christmas baby) and if nothing has happened by May next year (one year on), which of course it will have done by then, then I will go to the doctors

Thanks, so much for cheering me up.

kkas> as long as you can get some action in you'll be ok. I hope this doesn't upset anyone too much, but I actually only did it maybe 3 times last month, but we did get it pretty bang on all the signs appearing. So you don't have to be at it all month long for the right thing to happen.

Hypothetical (well, not any more!) and vix congratulations, that is wonderful news, really fantastic.

Zippys I really do sympathise. ANother girl in my office announced her pregnancy this week with the usual " I didn't expect it to happen so quickly!" joy. I am so happy for her, but it didn't help when she said " we were going to wait longer, but my husband is a bit older so we thought we would try straight away".

Her husband is 32, which is MY age!

I had expected it to happen for me by now. I've been off the pill since May, I am healthy, I don't drink or smoke, I have regular cycles, my DH is healthy, non drinker non smoker - WHY isn't it happening for us???

I do know the statistics, but I just assumed "shag = get pregnant".

Glad it helped zippys, wasn't sure if I was exposing myself as a total fruitcake! So, you'll be getting a Christmas baby? Just a few weeks after us then!

I know knowing the stats doesn't always help Ozziegirly. I guess we all just assume we'll be in larger group who concieve by 6 months. But if 85% conceive within a year, someone has to be amongst the 15% who doesn't. Just feels a bit grim at times being in the conception remedial group.

However, looking in the bright side, by the time we finally succeed (and we will), we will be so well prepared and so ready for our babies.

I think turning the percentages into tens helps a little. 90% in a year doesn't mean much to me, but if it's 10 couples, and one of those won't be pregnant at the end of the year, it makes it more real to me. Doesn't help when you're that one couple though.

I really do sympathise zippy and everyone else. I am (hopefully) really lucky for it to have happened so quickly. But given my symptoms I am not assuming anything until I get to see if there's anything left in there.

Wow, a busy little flurry of BFPs there! Congratulations, vix206, HypotheticalMummy & Muser! Keeping my fingers crossed for healthy, happy, sticky beans for you all.

Many sympathies to everyone going through a rough patch at the moment. Don't lose hope, I'm sure it'll happen for you all soon! Autumn is a great time to have a baby, a lot of my very successful friends were born in autumn. So conceiving over the next few months would make for some excellent timing!

I know it often feels like it, but it's not wasted time for all the months where nothing happened. It's hard, but try not to let the entire world go on hold while TTC! I see it as an opportunity for both future Mum and Dad to work on improving their lifestyles so that future LO's have the best possible start.

Each month that passes, maybe pick one little new thing to improve... Like getting an extra 10 minutes of exercise per week, or surviving on one less chocolate bar. Or even something like sharing an extra kiss and a cuddle once per day! Each little thing helps improve the chances in the long run, and the longer it takes the better position you'll be when it does happen.

Kkas, I could have written your last couple of posts... even the "stagefright" part. I also went off the pill in May, but waited till July to start in earnest. Now, I wish we hadn't waited. It's tough. I'm trying to keep the same outlook suggested by Spriael. Each month, my overall health improves. I am getting healthier each month. I'm exercising regularly, eating better, etc. Either I'll get pregnant soon, or I'll have a kick-ass body.

I also agree with Yorkshire's ideas. We've agreed to keep going as we have been until February. If I'm not pg by then, we'll both go to the specialist. We've also talked about how far we're willing to go for a bio-baby and about the option of adoption and what each of us are open to. I know that I will have a child one way or another. I also believe that things happen for a reason, even though I often get impatient and depressed when they don't happen the way I feel they should.

Despite feeling sorry for myself, I really am always happy to see the BFP's (HUGE congratulations to Vix, HypotheticalMummy and Muser!!!!!!!!!). They do give me hope. I start to get concerned when we don't have any for awhile!I'm sure, intime, we'll all get to post one.

Evening all

No time for a lengthy post, but I wanted to congratulate Vix, Hypothetical and Muser - great news!

Hi all,

Wow - many congratulations to the new graduates!! That is wonderful news. Hope it's a good omen for the rest of us.

Sorry I haven't posted in a while - work is manic right now. Not very much to report here. Don't think I ov until next week (though as it's cycle 1 I'm not too sure). I was planning to watch out for EWCM but wasn't going to start with temping or ov sticks or anything else, rather just to take the 'see what happens' approach for the first few months. Would others recommend this or is it better to be more scientific about it?

Thanks also to those who posted kind words about unhelpful comments from relatives. Thinking about it, am sure my mother would be horrified if she thought that she'd managed to put us off TTC by moaning about looking after my sister's baby. We saw him at the weekend and he's sooooo cute!

Have a good evening, x

Hi all, just updating the list with my new cycle today. Home sick from work (neck/arm pain, nausea and odd vertigo sort of thing now and again - think it's the neck + AF ganging up on me!) Going to go for a wee sleep in a minute. That's one thing I'm REALLY going to miss if we ever do manage to conceive... the being able to go and crash out whenever I want... I love my bed!

Whiteroses gosh, I really haven't a clue what's going on with your body, feel for you though. I still think if there's no AF there's hope that it's a pregnancy? I've read that itching 'down there' is a pregnancy sign, are you still getting that? Fingers are still crossed for you (and everyone else of course)

Aly I'm with you on the everything happens for a reason. I really believe that. I hope you get lucky before you need to go to the specialists though Love your attitude 'either I'll be pregnant or I'll have a kick-ass body'

Spirael brilliant advice. I'm going to choose the extra kiss and cuddle per day (next month I'll start the 10 mins exercise!)

Yorkshireteadrinker your advice and stats are great (as is your name!), thanks as it has helped me too.

Zippys I'm going to try positive thinking too, but April for me; my birthday's January, my twin had her baby in January so that's my time too. It's going to happen for you. It's only not happened for us yet so that we're posting on here and supporting each other when it's needed. Fact.

kkas what a bummer about the stage fright. What about not saying anything, just walking into the room with nothing on but high heels/nice undies and a big grin? I tried that last month and afterwards told DH it was ov time - he said he thought I had just been overcome by his masculinity and had to have him LOL!

I know I've missed people but this list is amazingly long, please know I'm sending good thoughts to everyone in the list even when I miss them out xx

Sky27 TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 24? CD105
chico193 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL36 CD83
Homebound TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 30-32 CD71
Stellybelly TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL? CD67
WhiteRoses TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL23-37 CD40
MadameG TTC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 28 CD38
honeymoo TTC#1 cycle2 UCL? CD34
aly323 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-? CD30
addie81 TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 27 CD30
Hamsterlover TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL34 CD29
bunnygirl80 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 29 CD28
chalky3 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL40 CD26
Ozziegirly TTC#1 cycle UCL 27 CD24
blueberry noo TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 31-32 CD22
pixiestix TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL28 CD20
CJ2007 TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL26/7 CD20
Kaloki TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL ? CD19
Zippys TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL34 CD18
NovemberAli TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 30-34 CD16
kkas TTC#1 Cycle 5 UCL?? CD16
claireinthecommunity TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL29-31 CD13
Eleanora TTC #1 Cycle 1 UCL 33(?) CD13
YorkshireTeaDrinker TTC#1 Cycle 14 UCL 29 CD9
Calyx TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL 26-27 CD1
Sevans TTC#1

Graduates:
Trying4Baby1 BFP 21Aug
Kaystar BFP 27Aug
Pepperonipizza BFP 12Sep
Fulhamgirl BFP 18Sep
Ladyemmalou83 BFP 13Oct
bluesnowfalcon BFP 14 Oct
Spirael BFP 7 Nov
Curlycasper BFP 11 Nov
TishTosh21 BFP ???
EmsieRo BFP 16 Nov
vix206 BFP 8 Dec
HypotheticalMummy BFP 9 Dec
Muser BFP 9 Dec

Hello everyone

kkas I've adopted the approach of not telling dh whether it's my fertile time when we bd. I think he's just pleased to get some action though!

Eleanora I was going to take the "see what happens" approach for the first few months. Then when I wasn't pregnant after cycle 1 I decided that I probably wasn't ovulating and would never conceive (I am prone to over reacting and very impatient!!) Started temping this month and it turns out that my temp did rise when I thought it would so the lack of baby after cycle 1 was probably down to DH being 10000 miles away at the critical point in my cycle!!!

My temps are down this morning so doubt I'll be joining the flurry of BFPs - although am only 10 dpo so am trying to convince myself this could be implantation dip! Not too concerned if it doesn't happen this month as mentally I'm aiming to get a BFP next month as testing day would be DH's 30th birthday so it would be a nice present for him. And I'll be able to drink over xmas

Sorry Muser I forgot to include you in my list of congratulations!

I know you're all correct about the percentages, and I know it WILL happen (positive thinking) but I just can't see why it would happen one month, but not another month, if you see what I mean.

If I am ovulating, and DH's sperm is ok, and we are shagging regularly at the middle of the month, why isn't it working for us?

I worry that the statistics don't take into account the people who are "target shagging" who presumably should have a better hit rate.

Ah well - I have plenty more to throw at the problem, OPKs, I may look into acupuncture/chinese medicine etc. I need to feel like I am actually doing something about it!