Feisty & Fabulous at 40+ more adventures of TTC

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Actually now I feel guilty using up the last post of the thread - hope this will do as a continuation

TFLS (funny how none of us can abbreviate you any other way...) LOL at parents' bathroom. I don't have any children at present and I am big time about telling my father, should 'it' ever happen. How sad is that???!!

rowing your point is serious as well as amusing. Not that I'm intending on any child of mine (if...) having to wheel me around, but my gran is 91, my mum is 68 and my dad 72. 'tis not funny, retired people looking after retired people. Mind, my gran refuses all state help, too, so that doesn't help . I keep shouting (mentally!) at myself that I mustn't be like that when ancient.

My first cycle on my fancy monitor and I have a peak! I ovulate! Woooh!

Oh mabh - you can call me Fat! Mind you, TFLS makes me sound a bit like the Times Literary Supplement (puts on pretentious face).

When I was pregnant I felt the same about telling my parents. Think they have given up hope now!

Good news re the peak - rock on!

I was thinking about Zita West's comments about trying every couple of days and was wondering if there was a reduction in sperm quality if you tried every day (god - I never thought I'd be obsessing about things like this ). Anyone know?

TFLS I've heard both options on whether every other day is better than every day. Thing is, the stat of Zita's that stuck in my mind was something like, people who BD 15x per month get pregnant 50% quicker than people who BD 10x per month. She puts that down to people guesstimating their ovulation date wrong. But given that we can't get pg when not ovulating it still sounds to me as if, the more, the more likely!

I think every day is too often as the troops don't have time to mature - you don't want raw recruits wandering about asking each other what to do now do you???

Listened to my Zita West Cd last night - positive visualisation stuff. V good and calming. I'm on day 18 and just hoping for a long LP this time. I had all kinds of pains today but no spotting so I just told myself that it's just my endo responding to all the hormones buzzing about - could mean good stuff is happening. I'm gonna stay positive until i see red (literally - haha).

Hi Mabh, funny to see you over on the other thread - we do wander off and have a look about but we always come back to our old gang don't we .

TFLS laughed so much at you splashing the old pre-seed about your parent's bathroom - if you weren't ttc you would never get in to that kind of a situation would you?? v.funny.

hippy lol at inexperienced recruits. Thing is, I say to DH we're on the critical week and he thinks, 'great - shagathon'! I don't think the every 3 days thing would wash, and I can't stop him doing whatever he does in the bathroom before he brushes his teeth in the morning, anyway .

Shaves, presumably

I now have pre-seed, nudging the monitor, monitor sticks, pregnacare and HPTs in the drawer. FGS you lot, what have you done to me ?

Let the squirting begin.

Hi all,
just popping in to see how everyone is faring.
It is very soggy here, but at least no flooding or high winds. What a terrible Autumn - I'm putting up my Christmas tree to cheer me up.
When do you guys do the decorations?

Hi all -catching up with you all as life has been revolving around work and moving house.

So sorry Tetley to hear about the MC. Big hugs from me to you both. Hope the comments have gone away - it must have made things so hard for you.

As predicted AF got me right in the middle of viewing a house . Think we may have found our new house though [touching everything wood she can find emoticon]. It's a lovely old cottage but only 3 bedrooms which would start to get a bit tricky if we did manage to produce #2. A very expensive bluff to call on your body but I think it's also a sign that we are mentally moving on.

DH went to produce another sample this week, he didn't find it quite so bad this time so we wait to see what that result was. My hycosy is on the 2nd December so I've got a couple of weeks with no bd and I'm missing it already .

Rowing decorations don't go up in our house until December and we're humming and haa-ing about waiting until after DDs 2nd birthday on the 16th Dec.

Hi! You are all right about pre-seed, you don't need anywhere near as much as they say . I know this is the Lakes, but there's one place I don't want one...

Rowing decorations? Now??? Don't your kids go bananas?

9.8inches of rain expected overnight here! Cripes! Still, they are saying high winds but I think they mean 60-70mph, and the record here is 125mph (now that was breezy). We probably won't flood here as we are up a hill, but we might not be able to go out as we would have to cross a major river, and it's all over the place already. Schools shut, roads shut, shops flooded. Yikes.

It's still raining here as well. We went swimming this afternoon, in a bid to get DS tired, the water was not warm at all so we spent about 20 minutes in the showers after, trying to raise our body temperature to that of a normal living person. Brrr!
I think my DS would be cool with decorations, not that interested, unless they are chocolate, in which case he would secretly eat them and hide the wrappers.
Spiral poor old DH having to give samples, it seems a bit more 'involved' than giving a blood sample.

rowingboat hah! I was looking at some really cute chocolate christmas decs at the weekend and decided that we better hadn't get them for our 3yr old niece in case we gave her the idea that the glass ones are edible too.. eek.

Raining like armageddon here.

Hi there, doing the 2ww I think now, not so sure about my cycles but didn't get as much BD in as hoped due to tiredness on behalf of DH. Gotta get him less stressed out about work! You'd think he'd been jumping at the chance but men are funny creatures. Maybe I've just not been vocal enough about TIMING being important....

Hugs to everyone and hope the weather isn't too bad

Is the weather bad?? Not noticed anything here - seems quiet and calm outside. Hope you're all OK in other parts of the country.

mabh think you're right re the thyroid. Never mind - I like the suggestion re jumping about! And at least I can jump - my sister has MS and can't jump at all anymore whereas I have a lot to be grateful for. A sluggish thyroid is nothing in the great scheme of things.

tfls - re the sperm quality thing, from what I've read, I think its OK (and probably much better) to BD every day if the sperm quality is good. However if the sperm quality is low, you are better to do it every other day to allow "the troops" (I love the analogy!) to regroup, train the new recruits etc. Also, if sperm quality is low, you want to allow time for the first batallion to clear out th battle ground before sending the second batallion in otherwise they'll have a much harder job making their way through to the front.

Hi all. Just resurfacing after 4 days in the trenches with sick toddler...oh boy, poor little thing was so listless and sad.He obviously felt really awful and just wanted total cuddles.I did almost nothing but sit in a chair and cuddle him. He won't take oral panadol, so had to use suppositries, so every time we approached the change table he would start screaming...blimey, I am glad he's feeling better.

It has meant that he hasn't been eating, and has been breastfeeding like a newborn...around the clock. He even got quite cross with the boobies, squeezing and pulling, probably because there wasn't enough milk!!

My poor Dh saw the bank statement yesterday and mentioned something about a heart attack, so it's probably just as well that I am not actually pregnant.Might just be the straw that broke the camel's back...However, the love and care everyone showered on DS while he was sick shows how loved he is and I know another would be equally so.

Anyway that's in the hands of fate/God/the universe/my hormones....

As for sperm quality...as a reversal patient, my Dh was told to "clear the pipes" every other day to get the numbers up, but when going for a sample to abstain for three days to get the possible result, but abstaining for longer than 5 days can have the opposite effect.
At first I thought it meant I would have to bd every other day (I can tell you it became a bit tedious!), but a bit of self-shagging was okay and my DH seems happy enough to oblige!

Evening all, I've also been looking after a poorly LO, but he seems better now. DH is a firm believer in the 'clearing the pipes' theory - love the phrase! Hope you're all doing well.

'pipe' so that's what he's doing .

gumblossom kiwi not good news about the sick toddlers. Glad to hear they're a bit better!

frosticle lol at the extended troops analogy! ref. weather. I live in the Lakes. We now have far more lakes that we can cope with, in shops, houses, road... bridges washed away. Eeek. I'd say thank heavens I live up a hill, but my heart goes out to those at the bottom of it. Seriously not funny.

BFP
Bluebell aged 42

Yeeeeeah!! Congratulations bluebell6!!!

Fantastic news! All the best

Hi Everyone, haven't forgotten you , lurking around and planning to dust down the preseed at some point and get back in the saddle...er...not sure about that analogy(!)

lotsaluv, tt

bluebell congratulations! And my age!!!

Spill! Details, please...

OOOhhh,Congratulations Bluebell!
Yes, please...spill...we want details: how long ttc,do anything different,special supplements etc???We all want to know!

Tetley, I'm not quite sure about the mental image of the saddle and the preseed...might be a slippery ride!

Hi everyone,
sitting here watching a film all on my tod, DP at work DS snoring.

Bluebell congratulations, what lovely news!

Tetley, not sure about the saddle either, but what the hell, if it works... thinks...I wonder who would be wearing the saddle...hmm...oh well better not ask. [slopes off]

Mabh is it OK where you are? It has been all over the news, the flooding and the aerial shots of the broken bridge, just completely collapsed. Very scary.

What's everyone up to?

How are the poorly LOs Gum and Kiwi.

My DS was being really whiney today, but tonight has a completely blocked nose and snot.
I actually did he neti pot on him and it worked! What! He is now breathing through his nose.
I had a biig sleep today so now I'm up all hours.
What are you guys up to?
Anyone braved the shops?

Hi All, sorry not been on for ages, been singing a lot! Got my Grade 5 on Monday week. eek.

Tetley, I'm sorry. Bluebell, congratulations.

Am due to poas on Thursday but have lots on before then. DS1 had a hernia repair in April that hasn't worked 100% so he's getting another operation on Wednesday. Have to get DH to take him as may cry. Again. Got dinner out this evening. DS1 and 2 have both been ill too - DS1 with cough and temperature and DS2 decorating the sofa with vomit.

Decorations normally go up in our house on 22nd December - DS1's birthday. May succumb before then though as a bit depressing in the Middles East without all the Xmas decorations outside.

And I hope everyone is okay with the weather over there. Looks bloody awful.

Thanks for all the advice on sperm quality - DH doesn't know that the quality of his troops has been so discussed!! All the men in his family seem to be highly fertile so I know what his views on quality would be!

Big yippppeee for Bluebell - that is such fantastic news. Congratulations.

Hope all the poorly LOs are feeling better and good luck on Wednesday ILoveGregoryHouse.

Hope you're all dry and safe.