DH has agreed with me and said we can start TTC now

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I came off the pill two weeks ago and the plan was to start TTC mid November after two cycles.

I've been worried about my pill (cerazette) having a lasting effect, plus my anaemia and just generally being a worrier so mentioned it to DH on Friday evening. Saturday morning we had some fun and I think having to use condoms may have pushed him to change his mind. Plus, having read all these conception books, I'm pretty sure I'm ovulating (boobs bloody hurt and discharge changes)-DH is worried it's a 'missed opportunity'. So, have we had sex since? Nope. Fair enough we've been doing our house up so were knackered but I made sure we got back with 'an evening' free last night and he flipping fell asleep as soon as he got into bed. Am now worried we are missing an opportunity!!

Thank you for reading my excited and mildy ranting post.

Evening, I've got a doc app on mon after work. I might see if i can get a slightly earlier scan, would be nice to have one before xmas but i'll be surprised if it does happen, if not ill just have to wait til after.

Still don't really feel pregnant and im now 6+2, i hope some symptoms will come along shortly!

Also it's just a chance to tell the doc all my worries and let her reassure me! Everyones advice on here is so so helpful but its nice to have a professional one-on-one talk.

Good luck at docs tonight!

Glad you've got your appointment.

Turned out ours was with the nurse who knows nothing about anything (any problem we have she said she didn't know about and it seems she doesn't normally do new patients either-she was very efficient giving DH the flu jab though!) So, I've got an appointment with a doctor on Wednesday to get my iron levels checked (the nurse agreed that was safest). The nurse literally just wrote 'pregnant' on my file, told me to eat well as I'm veggie then told me to exercise more.

Told my in laws last night who were very pleased and MIL was worryingly calm although was a bit concerned by my current wish for a home birth and told me birth was worse for the person watching (ie. her darling son). Told my parents this morning who were very happy, laid back (like normal) but also gave more practical advice (my Mum was typical her and said decide nearer the time)!

Still only feeling sick if I'm hungry so not feeling so pregnant but am still unable to sleep on my front as my boobs hurt when they're squashed. DH has finally admitted that my boobs do look different-surely he should notice more than me?! Have been trying to stay awake all afternoon so that hasn't changed!

I think they do scans from 10 weeks so see what you can persuade them to do!

I hope my doc is more efficient than your nurse! We are going to tell MIL when we next see her i know she will be pleased because she was really happy when we said we were trying and wanted us to tell her as soon as anything happened.

Im not telling any other family members til after xmas...maybe sometime near the birth!
I know of some people having scans at about 8 weeks if they're really worried something is wrong but ill just talk to doc tomorrow and see what she says.

I still dont feel preg although i feell like my boobs are bigger but dont know if thats my imagination. DP agrees with anything i say about my boobs!

Good luck for Wed. Ill let you know how i get on tomorrow.

Ah see we didn't tell anyone apart from my sister and best friend we were trying as didn't want the added pressure of being asked. If people asked, we said 'once we're settled into the new house' as we figured it'd be 6 months before they had the guts to ask!

I'm feeling sick again today and am so tired it's no longer funny. Am waking up feeling like I need another night's sleep.

DH is telling his best friend tomorrow who has had the 3 failed IVF attempts so that him and his wife are prepared. I know with them it's better to tell them so they're aware than spring it on them later down the line. I know they'll be pleased for us but I just feel so sad for them.

Hope the doctors went well!

Hello, just back from the docs, i think i have the nicest doc in the world. She said congratulations and went through all the foods i can and cant eat and told me when the midwife will get in touch and reassured me that no symptoms is very normal. I feel really excited now like this is really happening i cant wait to have a beautiful little baby in my arms.

I hope things with your DH's friends goes ok. Im sure they will be very happy for you.

Im looking forward to telling MIL but not my ffamily im not looking forward to their reactions one bit.

Your doctor does sound lovely! Mine is away(not that I've met him yet anyway) so I've got locum on Wednesday. To be honest, I know exactly what I'm meant to do and not, I just want her to tell me that the wrong part of my tummy being swollen isn't odd and that my iron levels are fine.

Still knackered and have only had about 30 mins not feeling sick so far today. About 4 times I thought I actually was about to be sick and would have to confess all. Be glad about your lack of symptoms!!

Why are you not looking forward to your family's reaction? I thought MIL might over react but she's been quite level recently so we risked it. She was excellent earlier whilst on the phone as she seemed to understand why I was wandering up and down the High Street at lunch trying to find something that wouldn't make me feel sick! DH saw her this evening and said he was impressed she was 'normal' and wasn't being a bit 'young people these days' about it. I think she suffered herself from her level of understanding!

Yeah i forgot to ask about the tummy being huge cos mine is too but only after i eat, it gets so bloated like a balloon has inflated in there so let me know what they say!

My friend said she didnt feel any different til week 8 when she felt really sick, but just for that week, it had gone again by week 9. So maybe its still a bit early for my symptoms, its so different for everybody anyway.

Im not looking forward to telling them because they will be angry. They want me/DP to have a really good job first (DP has got a good job just not fantastic pay at the mo) and ideally be married etc. My mum is quite traditional when it comes to that. My DP's dad will be equally hard to tell as he can be really scary! My DP's sister didnt want to tell him she was pregnant either so its not just me!

Maybe I could come up with some inventive ways of telling them without actually having to say the words out loud cos i just know i will die of embarrasment if i had to do that.

ohhhh can i join.

Dh has just agreed to TTC and I had my coil removed last week then promptly came on my period. It is the non-hormonal one so everything should just remain the same.

This will be DC3 for us and our last one and I am determined to enjoy every moment, from conception to morning sickness (euggh) to labour... every last second.

Work is nearly over so dont have time to read the whole thread but will do tomorrow.

Take care ladies.

Hi mixed!

This is both our first baby so we're really excited and are in pretty much the exact same postition almost to the day!

I like how your on MN at work, wish i could do that!

Did you have symptoms with your first 2? I just wondering as i dont have any at all and i like to get as many different people's experiences as poss.

Hello, how're you doing?

Mixed I used to be able to MN at work and then they blocked anything interesting. Cleverly though, you can still use things like Amazon to do Christmas shopping....

So, I told my doctor about my 'stomach' going hard above my tummy button and she said 'that's odd, I wonder why that is'. I was filled with confidence!! She did say she couldn't imagine it was anything to worry about though. She gave me a full blood count check which will come back on Monday. It's daft as all I wanted was my iron levels checked and it doesn't do that. So, I imagine I'll be back there next week!

Be glad about your lack of morning sickness. Yesterday I don't know how I got ready for work and DSS to school as I kept having to rush back to the toilet and wasn't even sick. My diet is up the wall as I'm eating what doesn't make me feel sick at the time which seems to change by the hour. The doctor told me it was a good sign and I asked her who for! Getting fed up of it really as I don't even know what to buy for myself when doing the food shop and I'm wasting loads of money buying random food every lunchtime. How people at work haven't noticed I'm eating hourly and odd food, I have no idea.

My parents are traditional but then in some ways I am I guess. I wanted to be married and own a house before having babies but then we're all different and we all have different aims. I'm adopting DSS next week and it'll be wonderful knowing we're all legally family and the way it's 'meant to be' but then I don't think there's a normal anymore! My friend kept telling me what the government would pay me the other day until I pointed out she was an unmarried single Mum so by doing the 'right thing' and giving my child as much stability as possible, I wouldn't get any money. She was quite shocked as she didn't even realise! But, I think emotional stability is more important than financial and there's no way I could have got through the last few weeks of feeling crap without DH being amazing, doing nearly all the cooking, all the washing up, dealing with a dispute with our old letting agents (so I didn't get stressed) and generally doing everything at home whilst I sit on the sofa looking green. He did laugh this morning though when he found me sitting in bed eating a ginger nut but apart from that he's been perfect so far!

When we told DH's parents he just came out with 'we're having a baby' after 20 mins of pointless conversation whilst he worked out how to tell them. My parents, I just told them that we were having a baby and they'd be grandparents again-they were typically pleased. My Dad's culture is very for children so he's been looking quite excited but a little concerned when I mention feeling sick! I told the youth workers I volunteer with last night as sometimes the kids muck about and we need to stop that happening near my tummy. I won't tell the kids til the New Year but it was lovely having them all so pleased for us.

Oh and by the way, 7 weeks today and apparently he or she is now 1cm long-amazing!!

Hi im glad everything seems to be going ok for you. Shame about the excessive sickness though! I get very tiny waves of nausea but nothing anywhere near what your experiencing, it must be awful.

Thats great news about adopting your DSS, it must feel good to know you'll be a complete family soon.

Im 7+3 today, i just told DP he/she is 1cm long .

We're telling MIL today as we know she is going to be so so pleased. Im going to wait at least til the new year to tell DP's dad and my parents (if they dont guess before then). We were talking about it this morning, DP reckons my parents kind of have an inkling as they keep dropping hints about NOT having kids yet! I dont care though if i want a baby then im gonna have one! Ive got my own flat, ok ish income, me and DP are very stable, theres no reason why we shouldnt. They are just very big worriers!

Should be getting a call from my midwife soon to sort out all the paperwork and go through the dos and donts. I cant wait for that to happen actually as it will mean this is really happening.

Good luck trying to stay sane at work!

Random...havent heard from you in a while, just wanted to check everything is ok with you. How are you getting on? Hope to hear from you soon.

Hello, sorry I've not been on for ages.

Been feeling terrible and spending most nights on the sofa not moving as it hurts. Ended up off sick from work for a day last week and slept the whole day-I must have slept for 20 hours in a 24 hour period! Still feeling sick, still tired and starting to get fed up. Can't wait for 12 weeks when it will apparently all magically get better. If it doesn't, I'm going to cry....

How're you doing? Are you still not getting many side effects? If so, lucky girl!!

Adopted DSS last week and have a man over to discuss DH and I's will tonight. Hopefully then everything will be simple haha.

How did your MIL take the news? Told my brother at the weekend and he kept mentioning alcohol as I can't drink it. Git. Everyone that knows is being supportive though and I've started giving in to accepting help. For Christmas we have both sets of parents plus my sister and her family over so everybody is bringing something-there's no way I'll be helping if I still feel like this so it'll be good for DH. He's doing amazingly well and supportive but did admit last night I'm not really me at the moment and he's not liking it. I've always been known for my organisation, memory and general drive for doing anything and at the moment it's just not happening. I can't wait to get back to me either although my friends tell me the memory never comes back. Bugger....

Hope you're doing well!

Im sorry to hear your feeling so bad
I feel quite sick if im hungry so first thing in the morning is bad and at work when its coming up to lunch but apart from that still no symptoms really apart from needing the toilet more but that isnt every day either!

MIL was so so soooo happy! She had the biggest smile on her face and kept saying over and over "oh thats wonderful!" and she gave me a hug and kiss and said you must take extra care of yourself now, bless her.
We havent told anyone else yet as I'm still a little worried that something could go wrong but my theory is every day you get closer to the 12 weeks then the chance of something bad happening decreases just that little bit.

Ive got my first meeting with my midwife on 16th Dec at 8:30am and i start work at 9 so i really hope im not late as no one there knows yet and DP's sister is my boss!

I really really cant wait til the 12 week scan now, it feels so close!

I was told my first midwife's appointment will be an hour long so if I was you, tell her you're going to the doctors and might be late.

I ended up at the doctors this morning due to a sharp pain I get when I sneeze as NHS Direct panicked and said I needed to be checked. My doc says I'm fine and not to worry unless it gets worse. I'm glad he's calm as it makes me feel better!

Do you eat before you get up? I have a ginger nut first thing in bed and that gets me through to breakfast if I can face it. Today's theory is to eat when I'm hungry or starting to feel bad as I'm still not sure if it's hunger. Nothing seems to make me be sick so if I can stop the hungry sick feeling that'd be a start.

Glad you have a happy MIL! Someone told me last week about a couple of their friends miscarrying at 15 and 18 weeks so I'm still worried. We'll still tell people at 12 though as quite frankly, I'm amazed people haven't noticed. I'm getting fatter as well as constantly looking tired or ill. DSS seems to be noticing now too so I'll be glad when I can tell him I'm fine. DH and I keep saying the only good thing about feeling sick is you know the baby is doing well!

Do you get the 12 week scan? My sister said in Kent they sometimes don't do it til 20 weeks and then it's usually 23. I'll ask when I see the midwife but 12 weeks is New Years Day so only a week and a bit after I see her....

Well my DP is going to tell his sister so she will know the reason if i am late on that day.

I get a sharp pain when i cough sometimes I was a bit worried but it doesnt happen everytime and now you've just put my mind at rest!

No i dont have time before work to eat in bed cos i get up as late as i possibly can! Im usually ok by the time ive had a cuppa tea and a biscuit its just that first 15 mins when im still really tired.

I think miscarrying after 12 weeks is alot less common than before 12 weeks, its quite unlucky if it does happen after 12 weeks. I dont even know if you get a 12 week scan in Kent, i just assumed you do! Im sure my sister had a scan at 12 weeks and someone in my family had a scan a little while ago and that must have been around 12 weeks. I cannot under NO circumstances wait til 20 weeks to know that the baby is ok! If the midwife says i cant have one til 20 weeks im going to pay for a private scan.

Yeah my 12 weeks is New Years Eve! I doubt ill get a scan, if they do them at 12 weeks, in December though. Will probably be the new year.

Im 9 weeks today and apparently he/she weighs 4 grams and is over an inch tall with fingers and toes!

It's all quite amazing really, isn't it!

I don't get up earlier, I just sit up, grab a ginger nut from my bedside table eat it then get up properly.

For some reason last night and this morning I felt more like me so hopefully things are improving. Annoyingly I'm starting to feel sick again and tired though so who knows.

I'll wait to see what the midwife says about the scan as I don't particularly want to spend £60 on something that won't change the outcome when we don't have loads of money anyway but, it'd be nice to know the baby is all fine. But then if people can miscarry after 12 weeks I don't think it'd put my mind to rest.

Damned worrying, it'll never stop!

no you'll never stop worrying about your kids! i think the worst is yet to come when they are in the outside world, at least when they inside us we know where they are and that they're safe!

I cant see why we wouldnt get a standard 12 week scan it didnt cross my mind we wouldnt get one but will have to wait til wed to ask mw. Id pay the money to put my mind at rest, as long as there is a heartbeat I will be happy.

Im not at work til Tues now so I can have a nice 4 day rest although when i say rest its more like cleaning the flat, last min xmas shopping and seeing family members, probably more tiring than going to work!

What a lovely thead, congrats to you both!

Man I spent the weekend at a wedding, a first birthday party and stuff at church. Bloody knackered now!

Your midwife appointment is this week? Mine is next Tuesday and I just want it now!! I don't think they do heart beats in the first appointment though as you can't always hear it. The hard part of my tummy is getting wider which is really funny and my back is starting to ache. DH's massages are getting more frequent!!

Finished the Christmas shopping on Friday night. Just the wrapping to do now!

Yeah I bet you are! We found out today my DP's dad is going to let us rent his flat from mid feb for the same price we're paying now and its a MUCH nicer flat and there will be no noisy people above us!
Will also help us when the baby comes as we wont have to worry so much about money.

Im really nervous about the midwife meeting i dont even know why! I think its more the fact I cant tell work where im going and as its half an hour before i start work im worried it will take ages and ill be late for work, so plan is to call work before i go and tell them im going to docs and will try not to be late.
Only got 6 days left at work before i have to find another job though as its only temp.

My tummy is looking HUGE, after i eat a meal i literally look 5 months pregnant. Even first thing in the morning though before i eat i have a little bump, cant tell if its baby or just fat though!

I've finished the xmas shopping too, all wrapped and ready to go, just got a couple of cards to send though.

Random...how did your booking in appointment go today and how are things for you in general?

Missing our daily chats!

Hope your all ready for xmas

Hello, sorry I've been crap lately. Feeling a bit less sick but even more tired! How're you feeling? Did you have a good Christmas?

Survived Christmas with 11 of us at my new house-was a bit of a squeeze but also very fun. First midwife appointment was cancelled due to the snow (found out when we got there...) so had it this Tuesday instead. Pretty much nothing interesting happened apart from she's going to try and sort my first scan for the next week. Annoyingly, DH can't come to any more midwife appointments as he'll be teaching and there's a good chance he won't make the scans either. Good news is, one of the antenatal classes is during the June half term so at least he can come to half of those! How was your booking in appointment?

Told DSS on Christmas Day, he was so excited that when he told everyone at church, loads of the ladies (who've known me since birth) cried which was really sweet/funny! He's been telling everyone he sees that he's going to be a bit brother so the excitement hasn't worn off yet. Now I just need to tell work!

I'm glad about your flat, it's one less thing to worry about and it'll mean you feel a lot calmer. What are you doing about work from now on? Does that mean you won't get SMP? I'm still not entirely understanding what all these maternity pay/benefits are apart from we don't qualify for most of them!

Glad your feeling a bit better, yeah Christmas wasnt too bad, i still havent told my parents yet! I want to wait til after the scan, which is on Tues 5th Jan , ill just show her the pic.

Yeah we're moving into the new flat at the beginning of Feb which isnt too far away now, im so so excited its such a lovely flat with built in everything!

No i wont get SMP unless i find another job but im not too fussed about that, it confuses me anyway!

My booking in app. wasnt anything too special, i had it in 2 halfs and the second time the midwife came to me, ive got my form ready to send to get my free dental health care and prescriptions. I havent booked any antenatal classes yet I wont pay for them so I'll ask my midwife if there are any on the NHS.

Oh and Happy New Year! Our babies are due this year

Had my scan today, everything looks fine, saw babys heartbeat,will post a pic on here later on when DP is home and sets up the scanner.
Really cant believe there is a little person in there! Its so amazing

Hope you are well!