DH has agreed with me and said we can start TTC now

[randomtask]

I came off the pill two weeks ago and the plan was to start TTC mid November after two cycles.

I've been worried about my pill (cerazette) having a lasting effect, plus my anaemia and just generally being a worrier so mentioned it to DH on Friday evening. Saturday morning we had some fun and I think having to use condoms may have pushed him to change his mind. Plus, having read all these conception books, I'm pretty sure I'm ovulating (boobs bloody hurt and discharge changes)-DH is worried it's a 'missed opportunity'. So, have we had sex since? Nope. Fair enough we've been doing our house up so were knackered but I made sure we got back with 'an evening' free last night and he flipping fell asleep as soon as he got into bed. Am now worried we are missing an opportunity!!

Thank you for reading my excited and mildy ranting post.

Hi random,

I came off the pill 3 weeks ago and have been TTC since then, the hardest thing is to wait, its longer than usual as the pill can make your first cycle go haywire. Ive been told to wait at least 4 weeks before testing, ive had no period since coming off which is always a good sign!
Dont worry too much about "missed opportunitys" as you cant always be sure when your ovulating after coming off the pill. You may not ovulate at all for the first month so just have lots of fun with your DH but if you make it too controlled the fun gets lost and the obsession to become pregnant takes over your life. Just relax and see what happens in the first couple of months, if nothing comes of that then maybe start to take note of when your ovulating so you can take more control over it, but fow now just have fun!

Hi TishTosh

I was told to wait two cycles as otherwise there's a higher risk of twins but then I read your fertility nose dives after a little while so got nervous! Pretty sure I'm ovulating so am feeling better as I was originally worried I wouldn't get a period for ages.

The problem is we're both knackered at the moment as we've been spending 8 hours and 6 hours working on our new house at the weekends and DSS hasn't been well so keeps waking up at funny times. Not really helping with the 'have fun' aspect! DH has also just started working as a teacher. Really it's probably not the best time but we're both impatient and the house will be finished in a month!

Fingers crossed for your test.

Higher risk of twins!!? o dear god i hope im not in for a nasty shock haha.
Im v impatient too i just want to test right now but know i have to wait.
I dont even know if ovulated or not but i havent had a period since coming off the pill so im hoping for good news.
Maybe wait until your house is done so u arnt so knackered as u want to enjoy making a new life!

That was the plan-we'd start trying a fortnight or so after we move in. But, that might be too late if my fertility drops due to the pill...

I've been madly symptom spotting and DH now knows when my tummy is aching, when my boobs feel funny and what my discharge is like. Quite funny as he's used to me being quite lively and not mentioning these things and has spent most of our recent evenings with me saying 'ow' and such. TBH, I'd be amazed if I wasn't ovulating as all the signs are there (not that I've ever noticed them before...) and thankfully, before pill I was always regular.

The idea of moving it forward was that we wouldn't 'officially' start til November so less stress but I'm now just having to hide my stress.

Took all of my powers not to wake him up last night but I seem to not be sleeping well either now!

So can u just clear something up for me, are you actually TTC at the mo or are you waiting til nov?
Is it poss you may be preg now? Im obsessively symptom spotting atm as well, have been feeling generally off recently and a bit sicky with period type cramps (which is a sign of preg apparently!)
Im not at work this week as am in the middle of changing jobs so i was hoping this week would go quick (as it always does when your not at work) so i will test this weekend if my period hasnt come, so it will be 4 weeks since coming off the pill.
Have u had any bleeding since coming off the pill? Ive heard you can have withdrawal bleeding a few days afterwards, i didnt get this but wondered if u had?

I didn't get any withdrawal bleeding but did get cramps-didn't have any periods whilst on the pill though so wasn't too surprised.

We're going to start TTC or in DH's words, stop being careful... Don't think I'm pregnant yet-only had sex the day after taking my last pill and then the other day with a condom. Definitely getting all the cramps etc though. I've also been feeling sick but I got that when I started my pill (but no cramps) so much that we took a pregnancy test-in fact that's pretty much what prompted DH's proposal as he was upset it was negative!

I'd be going nuts if I was off work-I'm bad enough when I've got things to distract me!!

Yeah i thought it would be good to have a week off as it will go quickly but im just sitting here doing nothing going out my mind!
I felt sick when i started the pill also, its obv the overdose of hormones, which prob explains morning sickness.
We've been having sex since i came off the pill virtually every day, bar a few days when i had a water infection.
Id be quite surprised if none of those times worked!
Our original plan was to wait til i had a couple of "normal" periods before TTC but i became too impatient!
Your sickness could be down to the hormones from coming off the pill changing in your body as opposed to morning sickness but you never know!

I'm never good when I've got nothing to do-I tend to find potential problems on the net and get more wound up!

Sex every day-that'd be lovely! In our new house it'll be much easier as our bedroom door actually closes and isn't opposite DSS's. Hopefully he'll be more settled too and not wake up so much. We've decided we'll introduce a new rule of knock and wait if the bedroom door is closed-we'll tell him it's because he's getting older and tries to hide his bits if you walk in his room!

DH and I got married out of impatience so we're used to doing things quicker than planned! I think we'll struggle if I don't fall pregnant too soon and I'm always worried there will be problems.... I hate things that can't be planned and organised so nature isn't my favourite thing!

Surely if you've had sex most days you'll have conceived if there was the chance. According to the many books I've read, you should have sex 2 or 3 times a week and that covers all available eggs/sperm. DH thought that was great til I pointed out we're always tired.

If he dozes off later I may either wake him up nicely or with a big thump...

Yeah my nephew has got to the age where he wont undress in front of people, he hides behind the door lol bless.
My partner and I arent married yet but it is def on the agenda, have been given my mums engagement ring as she no longer wears it and have just had it re-sized and ive given it to DP so the rest is up to him! So i dont think ive got too long to wait.
I know what you mean about things that arent planned, i dont like not knowing whats going on inside my body, i keep telling DP how i wish i could see into my uterus to see if theres anything growing in there!

I'd like to think we've conceived after all the sex we've had, its usual for us to do it that often, we always have so it doesnt feel like a chore as some women ive talked to feel!
haha i like the idea of a "nice thump" lol

randomtask - you sound like me! I came off Cerazette in order to start TTC in August and had first period after 27 days. After reading all the stories on the internet I thought it might be ages for first cycle! Funny thing was though during my first cycle I had all manner of funny symptoms that you might associate with pregnancy - nausea, tender boobs, extreme tiredness - and like you also took a pregnancy test and we were disappointed that it was negative which kind of made us realise we definitely wanted to try now! Good luck!

wow 27 is a long time for the first period to come isnt it? or is that usual with Cerazette? I was on the combined pill so i dont know if that has the same effect.

TishTosh-we used to have sex that often but not since being married and knowing that DSS might come in at any moment. We also have the toilet downstairs so DSS would come down in the middle of the night if we were canoodling in front of the TV. He's at the age where he says 'ahh' if DH and I kiss but don't really want him to see more! I'm so sure I know what's going on inside me that I'll be really annoyed if I don't get a period or get pregnant. I'm the most impatient person I know...

Good luck with your engagement!

imkeepingmum - weirdly when I went on cerazette I felt sick but didn't have the other symptoms. Coming off it I don't feel that sick (and have been ill plus surrounded by paint fumes/dust for the last few weeks) but the cramps happened two days after coming off. Sore nipples is the weirdest thing as I've only had that once in my life before and that was pre going on the pill.

It was being disappointed we weren't pregnant and me considering moving out of my parents with a friend that made DH propose-he didn't like the idea of me moving out and not in with him. He's a sweet gentle man really!

I read that 28 days waiting for your first period was normal with single hormone pills. It can be sooner with combined pills but not always. What most people think is their period is the withdrawal apparently. Dunno though as i haven't had either yet!

Yeah neither have i thats why im going to take a test in the next week if my period doesnt come.
Aw random your DH sounds v nice! I lived with my DP at his Dads house but it started to get too restricted so we now have our own place.
I had sore nipples too! that was last week and its lasted for a few days.

OOOHH i hate waiting i need some good news now!

Even if I do manage to seduce/jump on DH, I'll leave it til 29 days after coming off the pill before I test-otherwise my impatience will cost us lots of money I don't have!

DH was living with his parents and me with mine when we got together. We moved in together (and obviously DSS) when we got married. The plan was get married, DH train to be a teacher, DH get a job, we buy a house (living in rented at the moment) and then have babies. Only the last one to go now and in just over a year! We also wanted a year to settle DSS to having a new Mummy and home so we're lucky that's gone well. DSS keeps asking about babies at the moment as he's absolutely desperate to have a baby brother or sister. Although he does say 'when we have our baby' so I suspect there could be some ownership issues....

I keep sitting at my desk either excited or frustrated. Just glad I've got the house to keep my mind busy!!

Yeah that was my plan too about waiting to test, we dont really have the money to keep trying every week!
Wow you managed to get alot done in that time! Ive been with my DP for 15 months now and living together (on our own) for just over 3 months. To some people it may seem a bit early but to us it really feels right and a good time.

Im the same with the excited/fustrated element too. I just really want to know either way so at least i know what to prepare. I even dream about having a baby! My DP thinks i talk about it ALOT but i cant help it cos apart from MN i have no one else to talk to it about as none of my friends are in this situation and i cant tell my family yet. Only DP's mum knows we're trying as we knew she would take it really well.

I agree about pregnancy tests which is why I'm noting everything about my 'cycle' down so I know not to rush testing in the future!

We were together for 9 months before getting engaged and then engaged for 9 months before our wedding. We didn't tell DSS we were together for 4 months, he got used to me being Daddy's friend first (DH's first wife died when DSS was 3) so in some ways we probably took longer than we would have otherwise! We've only just got to be my longest relationship but I knew with DH he was the man for me so couldn't see the point waiting-thankfully he's the same!

We've just bought a 3 bedroom house in preparation and nobody knows what to call it. Parents are calling it the spare room, friends are calling it the study and cheeky friends are calling it the nursery! My closest friends and sister know we're about to start TTC, my parents know it'll happen soon ish and my in laws don't really know but know that's why we bought the house we did. DH doesn't want his Mum knowing til after 3 months as she's a bit of a pain plus would tell everyone. I'm anaemic (but iron levels are fine) so we're a bit nervous. Will tell my family and closest friends when it happens though. Looking forward to it already!!

Yeah a couple of my friends know we want a baby but i dont see them v often so its not like i can really chat in depth about it. My sister is a massive blabber mouth so she would tell all my family, i would love her to know though as she's had 3 of own. (she started quite young).

We have a 2 bed flat so we do have a spare room if it comes to it (we'll have the cot in our bedroom to start with) but the spare room currently has a computer desk and wardrobe in it so not v roomy!

I want to get to 3 months before i start telling everyone too, just to be on the safe side.

That's the problem. My sister's theory was only tell people you could/would tell if you have a miscarriage. So I'll only tell people who I know support and love me. Unfortunately MIL is not only a blabbermouth but if something went wrong everyone would end up looking after her not DH and I. Both my best friends have a child (and my sister has two) so they're handy for talking to although neither of my best friend's children were planned... They've been waiting for me to have a baby since DH and I got together and are almost as impatient as me. Unfortunately DH's best friend is pretty much infertile (as is his wife) so they've had 3 goes of IVF already. We're dreading telling them already....

Our house has lots of cupboards which we already have decided are for buggies and stuff so we're prepared, problem will be if it takes too much time we'll have got used to all the space!

I was on the pill and got pregnant straight away when I came of it with DS1. Some people say you are much more fertile in the first couple of months.

Good Luck!!

That's what I heard which is why we've brought TTC forward (or will when DH isn't so knackered from a day's DIY tha the falls asleep). Damned man....

Yeah thats true babies stuff takes up so much space and being in a flat thats not good!
Yeah its not nice having to tell people that your preg when they're having trouble.
My DP's friend has just had a baby, as has his sister and brother all this year! so they are all looking to us saying its your turn next!

Hopefully it wont take too much time, you never know we could even go through this journey at roughly the same pace!

That would be good-we'd be able to swap notes still!

I keep desperately hoping that DH's best friend's IVF works and we can be pregnant at the same time but every time we've seen them recently they've been more uptight and aren't looking so well.

We told everyone (who were nosey enough to ask which was quite a few) that we'd start TTC once we've settled into our new house. Means we have about a year before we're nagged/asked. Will feel awful if people ask and we're not pregnant. Would also feel bad for them but I guess that's what nosiness deserves...

Lol yeah you def have to think about your own feelings atm.
I hope your DH's best friend gets what they want, its horrible not being able to have what u really want. It can also cause havoc on a rel as well so i wish them all the best.

Yeah it wouldnt be v nice to have to tell people your not preg but it will happen! We will both get what we want hopefully sooner than later.

DH's best friend's wife (incidentally they're also DSS's godparents) has rather unhelpful parents. Her Mum tells her you're not really a woman until you've had a baby (knowing she probably can't even with help) and even turned up to give her a lift to the IVF egg collection with her 3 year old niece for a 'day out'. I spend so much time being angry with her Mum for being insensitive, I don't want to be insensitive too but DH keeps telling me we can't wait til they have babies as it may never happen.