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Conception

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DH has agreed with me and said we can start TTC now

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randomtask · 28/09/2009 10:22

I came off the pill two weeks ago and the plan was to start TTC mid November after two cycles.

I've been worried about my pill (cerazette) having a lasting effect, plus my anaemia and just generally being a worrier so mentioned it to DH on Friday evening. Saturday morning we had some fun and I think having to use condoms may have pushed him to change his mind. Plus, having read all these conception books, I'm pretty sure I'm ovulating (boobs bloody hurt and discharge changes)-DH is worried it's a 'missed opportunity'. So, have we had sex since? Nope. Fair enough we've been doing our house up so were knackered but I made sure we got back with 'an evening' free last night and he flipping fell asleep as soon as he got into bed. Am now worried we are missing an opportunity!!

Thank you for reading my excited and mildy ranting post.

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TishTosh21 · 28/09/2009 17:20

She sounds like she has a v unsensitive mother, you'd think her own mum would understand, she must be having a v hard time

Im sure she would be happy for you if you had a baby, she must have friends around her who have kids. There are ways of telling her which can are more sensitive than others.
It would prob make her feel worse if you didnt tell her, as long as you go about it the right way, im sure she will be pleased for you.

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randomtask · 28/09/2009 17:25

DH told his friend that we would be planning to start TTC once we were in the house so at least they'll be warned. But unfortunately it seems to be coinciding with their hopes of IVF not working out.

She has lots of friends who have babies and young children. At her birthday it was a 'family day bowling' and we found it so difficult as it seems some of her friends aren't very sensitive either. One announced (a week after the first failed IVF attempt) she was pregnant at a dinner party and another didn't even ask her about it.

DH once pointed out her parents to me at a garden centre then had to stop me going and telling them what I thought...

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TishTosh21 · 28/09/2009 17:29

Lol id be the same, having to really stop myself going up to them telling them what i think.

I think sometimes people dont really know how to act around your DH's friend, they dont realise they are being insensitive, im sure they are not all doing it deliberately, (except maybe her own mum)

She will be happy for you as you sound much more sensitive to her feelings than other people have been and she will be thankful for that.

TishTosh21 · 29/09/2009 09:24

Hi random

Anymore news on the baby front? Not being at work is seriously dragging I had to stop myself buying a test yesterday!

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randomtask · 29/09/2009 09:29

Surely you can buy it as long as you don't use it? Although that may be too much on the temptation front!

Didn't have to jump on DH last night, he was perfectly awake. He did laugh at me afterwards for saying 'keep swimming it's not very far' to my tummy though.... I think I'm going to enjoy this TTC lark!

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TishTosh21 · 29/09/2009 09:59

Yeah it would def be too tempting!

Haha thats hilarioud, i do that as well!! Im talking to my tummy saying find that egg little sperms! hehe my DP thinks im insane!

TishTosh21 · 29/09/2009 09:59

hilarious*

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randomtask · 29/09/2009 10:07

DH did say he was thinking it, just not voicing the thought. We talked a lot about TTC afterwards so it's just nice to know we're so together on it.

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mears · 29/09/2009 10:12

Is everyone remembering to take folic acid when TTC?

TishTosh21 · 29/09/2009 10:17

Yes! I started taking folic acid about 3 weeks ago, i have forgotton once or twice but ive got into the routine of taking it with every dinner.

Random- Me and my partner talked alot about it to and i was reading a preg book last night (the one advertised on here) and he said hes scared about having a baby but cant put his finger on why, i think its because its our first and its such a life changing decision. It prob doesnt help that i talk about it 24/7 though!

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randomtask · 29/09/2009 10:47

I've been taking folic acid for 6 months solidly and another 6 months before that on and off. The doctors and family planning nurses all told me that you should take it for 3 months but it's better the longer you take it. Can't remember the research figures though.

This baby (when it comes) will be my first and DH's second so he's in some ways a lot more prepared. But, he'd never held a baby before DSS and I'm an experienced Aunt and Godmother (as well as step mother) so we're not nervous about that side of things. More money and me lacking sleep/having a dodgy back.

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TishTosh21 · 29/09/2009 10:56

Yeah my DP hasnt had a lot of experience around babies whereas im an aunt to 3 and godmother to one of them. Have looked after them all alot when they were babies. My partner has never changed a nappy!
Yeah we are a little worried about if we'll have enough money and im not really prepared for the lack of sleep!

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randomtask · 29/09/2009 11:11

DH says I'm always calm and rational until I haven't slept well! I am getting better though as DSS does often come in at 3 in the morning when he's gone to the loo and found a spider! We knew we'd be ok for money (just) but DH got paid less than we'd expected in his first salary. We think it's just the tax is wrong so hopefully we'll be ok.

Maybe get your DP to spend more time with children? I can understand him being nervous if he doesn't know what he's facing!

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TishTosh21 · 29/09/2009 11:43

Yeah hes just a bit worried hes not ready but then when are you ever ready?
His brother and sister have both recently had children who we try and see often, it was while he was watching his niece roll around on the floor that he turned and said to me "we should have one of those" aww bless!

My partner has just got a new job which is paid better so i think we should just about be ok.

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randomtask · 29/09/2009 11:48

That was the thing with DH but his first pay packet has made us panic-we bought our house on the grounds of knowing we could afford it and me possibly not working...

I never used to feel ready to have children (despite many people telling me I should and boyfriends trying to persuade me) but once DH and I got together, I knew even if it was the wrong time, it'd be ok as we seem to cope with anything. But that's why he's great!!!

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TishTosh21 · 29/09/2009 12:00

Aw sounds like you have a v stable marriage which is nice!

Ive felt like I'm ready for children for a long time but just never found the right person to share it with til i met my partner I just know he will be a great dad.

Are you at home or working?

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randomtask · 29/09/2009 13:40

Yeah we're lucky. I think I've had the crap relationships and he's had the bad luck so we both knew we were onto a good thing. Plus we tell each other when we're annoyed and we're both too lazy to hold grudges!

I'm working I'm afraid. I went from being a full time worker who was single and lived with her parents to a full time Mum and worker who has bills to pay. Bit of a baptism of fire but I figure if I've survived the last year I can survive anything.

I do think it's about meeting the right man-I trusted DH from the start which is unusual for me!

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TishTosh21 · 29/09/2009 13:58

Yeah ive been unlucky in relationships too which is why i found it hard to trust men again. I find it v easy to trust my partner, hes a v kind gentle man.

So anything to report on the TTC?
Ive been having slight cramps but apart from that nothing else, still no AF.

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randomtask · 29/09/2009 14:08

No but since we only started trying yesterday, that's fine! Still getting slight discharge so hopefully I'm still ovulating and DH's sperm are either playing hide and seek or they reached their goal! Am hoping to be calm until we've had 3 unsuccessful months and then I'll behave like a nutter.

Problem is you never know what different cramps mean. So frustrating!!

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TishTosh21 · 29/09/2009 14:14

Does discharge mean your ovulating?
Yeah 3 really does seem to be the magic number, i think 3 months unsuccessful is as much as i could take.

I know! Obv cramps can mean your AF is about to come but ive read on other threads that cramps can also be a sign that the uterus is expanding, it can double its size in the first 8 weeks!

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randomtask · 29/09/2009 14:30

If you get 'egg white' type discharge it apparently means you are ovulating. I've got a book on order from the library which apparently a lot of people use.

I think after 3 months you start wondering why you're unsuccessful even though apparently doctors won't see you til you've been trying for 6. I'm going to try to be calm but I'm crap at it!

My sister was telling me earlier that she had tummy cramps and sore nipples with her first and thought it was just a really bad period.

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TishTosh21 · 29/09/2009 14:39

I think i had that kind of discharge a week or so ago but i put it down to having thrush! Now come to think of it i prob was ovulating.

Ill try not to get too disheartened if it takes 3 months though cos the pill can obv disrupt things.

OOOH i had tummy cramps and sore nipples! The soreness only lasted a few days though and they were separate to the cramps.

I think im reading way too much into this! I need to get a grip lol.

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randomtask · 29/09/2009 15:02

I had tummy cramps on Sunday (as well as just after coming off the pill) but I've had sore nipples for a week now. It's driving me mad!

I don't think I've ever been so aware of my body-hopefully I'll remain sane!

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TishTosh21 · 29/09/2009 15:11

Yeah I had them slightly on Sat night and quite bad yesterday morning and just slight twinges today.
Ive never really taken much notice what is going on down there ive just let it get on with it but now im noticing every tiny thing!
Do you know roughly when your AF is due?

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randomtask · 29/09/2009 15:37

Absolutely no idea as it'll be my first having come off the pill. Most things say 28 days so I'll test after that, especially since I've felt things going on.

I was saying to DH the other day tht apart from 'ow' I've never thought about any of it and now I can feel everything!

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