DH has agreed with me and said we can start TTC now

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I came off the pill two weeks ago and the plan was to start TTC mid November after two cycles.

I've been worried about my pill (cerazette) having a lasting effect, plus my anaemia and just generally being a worrier so mentioned it to DH on Friday evening. Saturday morning we had some fun and I think having to use condoms may have pushed him to change his mind. Plus, having read all these conception books, I'm pretty sure I'm ovulating (boobs bloody hurt and discharge changes)-DH is worried it's a 'missed opportunity'. So, have we had sex since? Nope. Fair enough we've been doing our house up so were knackered but I made sure we got back with 'an evening' free last night and he flipping fell asleep as soon as he got into bed. Am now worried we are missing an opportunity!!

Thank you for reading my excited and mildy ranting post.

Yeah def going to keep a note of dates etc so i know whats going on. I havent got the best of memories!

Yeah ive been keeping off certain foods like mayonnaise and soft cheese so i can now have those again, and pain killers i even bought paracetamol as i couldnt take anadin.

Im really praying things are back to normal now and that next month will be the one.
The most annoying thing is i did feel preg so it was even more disappointing. But i have to face facts that im obv not so will keep on trying and waiting...

Ive always said id know if i was preg but like you i dont know how it feels!

Keep me updated with any news regarding babies and house moving!
Good luck

I came on this morning. Am now annoyed I've been avoiding chemicals and have now taken ibuprofen!! Will buy chocolate later as medicine.....

I'm glad I didn't feel pregnant as otherwise I'd be more disappointed but weirdly, last week I did feel pregnant so who knows.

I'm also glad that although I'm not pregnant, I know I'm obviously ovulating and 'back in fertile action' so I don't need to worry so much that it'll be a year before a period. My sister said at least now I've had a period there's less chance of twins! I've texted DH but the school he teaches in has no reception so he won't know til later. He knows I was having period type pains last night though so he won't be surprised. My best friend is back from Belgium today (she lives there) so we're going out later-think I'll be in the perfect mood for a drink!!

Im sorry to hear that, its a but heart breaking isnt it?
I bought a load of chocolate too and stuffed my face last night cos i was feeling down!

I know what you mean though by feeling pregnant because i did aswell. Hoping for better luck this month.

Im glad i now know that my body is working properly again, thats some good news about getting my period.

I was in bed with DP when mine came on so he knew straight away. Im sure your DH will comfort you about it later though, men like to feel protective of their ladies so they are good at comforting!
Its my DP's birthday today so we're going out for a meal tonight so ill prob have a drink or two!

Hi random hope your doing well. Havent heard from you in a while. Hows the house decorating going?
Hope everything is going well for you

Hello, I'm alright, house decorating is a bit manic! Spent most of the weekend and today with a migraine from stretching too far whilst painting door frames plus my back doesn't seem to like periods. Unfortunately I've got stuff on every night this week so can't get there but thankfully my amazing Dad is there at the moment painting (I'm about to go to a meeting my Mum's running as moral support).

Annoyed about not being pregnant and I spent most of the quiet moments this weekend (probably only got two actually!) being a little fed up but, to be honest, we didn't really 'try' too much and with everything else going on, I figure maybe it's God's way of telling me my timing isn't right.

How're you doing?

Oh the joys of decorating! Bless your dad, they are so handy when it comes to jobs like that.
Whats the meeting your mum is doing?

I keep getting little down moments but i keep trying to look on the bright side, whats one month in the grand scheme of things? Just hoping it doesnt take too long i dont do waiting very well!
We didnt really try either, we just went with the flow but as i didnt know my dates i didnt know when i was ovulating, but hopefully this month we'll try a little harder.

Getting on well in my new job, its only temp unfortunately, hoping to try and get a permanent position in Jan but not holding my hopes out too much.

We've decided we also want to get a house, even if its just renting as i cant put up with the people who live above us, they have a toddler who runs around and theres no carpet so its vv loud! So im about to start looking at how much houses are to rent in our area.

Keep me posted on any news, hope you have a good time at all these busy evenings you have coming up

So what is your job? Is there any chance of it going permanent? My best friend just pointed out that since I was so busy my body probably knew it wasn't the best time. She's probably right but it's still annoying as patience is the quality I lack most!

Does the toddler running about not put you off children?! I've questioned my wish to have children in the past when my niece was still taking 4 hours of screaming every night before she went to sleep... The house we're renting at the moment is a smallish two up two down with extension but was actually cheaper than the local 2-bed flats so I hope you get lucky.

I agree one month isn't a lot-I was just saying to my friend that it's exciting wondering and waiting, then sad when you're not pregnant and then exciting again-it's too many emotions in such a short space of time!

I went and painted doors after work and found my Dad has done the first coat on my entire kitchen. I told him how wonderful he was when he called me and said he'd run out of paint and would go and buy some tomorrow so if he got the chance he'd go back in. DH has told me not to mention this to his parents as he told them not to paint colours after they'd gone in to paint without telling us... Ah the politics of families!!

Im a customer service advisor for a printing company for schools. We're doing christmas cards at the mo. What job do you do?

Well ive got 2 nephews and one niece and am very close to them so i know all the ins and outs of child rearing! The kid upstairs isnt normal though, and neither are his parents so i just try to block it out. Anyway when its my kid ill prob find it endearing!

I agree with you about the emotional rollercoaster, its strange cos its as if i have almost platoeued, last month i was symptom spotting every day, paying very very close attention to everything my body is doing but now i know im prob not even ovulating at the mo im putting it to the back of my mind almost, but i know that as soon as i find out im pregnant ill be bouncing off the walls.

My DP's dad spent 4 hours putting our new wardrobe together and also helped us for about 2 hours with our gardening the other week. What would we do without them?!

I work for a firm who help design buildings (but aren't architects-we do the scientific bit). I do the accounts/admin side so unfortunately am constantly doing credit control at the moment as like most building companies we're struggling-there have been redundancies and we all took a 10% pay cut.

I'm eagerly awaiting the school Christmas cards although as my Mum points out, with 3 grandchildren's cards to buy we all send each other the same cards!

I've often wondered if it is more endearing when it's your own child-DSS can be very endearing and I sometimes worry other people think I should be telling him off but, he's also more annoying as I get it 24/7.

I know what you mean about the plateau! I've not really taken much notice now and since my boobs are back to normal, it's not bothering me. We're so mental with the house at the moment that it'd be a miracle if we get 10 mins of conversation let alone sex! I keep thinking 'oh we really must try' and then thinking 'but I just want to sleep' and that's that! DH did say the other day that it'll be better when we're not DIYing constantly and that maybe my body can't cope with it all-he may be right.

It's funny with our parents as normally I'm very independent (always put my own furniture together when I was living at home etc) however currently I just want things done quickly and well and don't care how it happens! I think it's because of DSS as I'd be alright living in a building site as long as a couple of rooms are done but it's not practical or fair for an 8 year old. The day after we move my neices are coming for the day to keep him busy whilst DH and I unpack boxes...

Yeah it can get annoying if you have to put up with it 24/7, i enjoy my niece and nephews company but in small doses. My sister calls them the brat pack!

My friend told me from day 10 is when you can start ovulating, so she said we should be having sex on day 10, 12, 14, 16 etc and its day 10 today! Im going to the cinema tonight with my DP, and being a friday and not having work tomorrow we'll be having a different kind of early night!

My family is very close knit.My grandad is in hospital as he had a stroke about 9 weeks ago, hes not going to recover from it the docs said and hes just getting over blood poisioning so its not looking too great at the mo. So I try to go down there at least once a week (its about 25min drive away).
Everytime i go to the hospital though i always think this is probably where im going to give birth, its a strange feeling.

So when do you move into your new house?

That's bad news about your Grandad. I've only got one grandparent left (my Dad's Dad), he lives in Cyprus and is the one who was least involved/helpful.

I don't like going to hospitals with DH as he's spent a lot of time in them with his first wife before she died-he doesn't mind but I feel very aware of what he links hospitals to. I'm not sure which hospital I would end up at if we move as we're 'between' the closest ones with birthing units.

I'm a few days behind you. According to the books if you have sex every 3 days it's enough so I'm hoping we'll go for that if we have any energy left.

I've been stuck at a church thing all day whilst my Dad has been doing things in the house-I didn't know he was there until he called and asked where our tool box was!
Either I or DH will go along to the house later and we'll be there with my parents tomorrow. Unfortunately DSS seems to have picked up yet another cold so I hope he doesn't get worse as that'll throw a spanner in the works!

We move on the 29th (a week Thursday) but, our carpet is being done a week Monday so we're in panic mode!

Good luck TTC

My dads dad died a few years ago but we weren't close, he lived in Germany, my dad didnt even tell us he had died til about a year afterwards.

Im sure when your DH is there with you at the hospital he probably wont be thinking of anything apart from the matter in hand.

We would have sex every 3 days but thats not enough for us! I think we're probably still in the honeymoon period, they say it lasts about 18 months and thats how long it will be next month. Tbh though I think we will always be like it as we are 100% comfortable around each other.

My DP and I have just cleaned the flat together (bless) i did the hoovering and he did the bathroom. It feels so much nicer after a good clean i think.

Alot of colds are going around at the min i think its this time of year when the weather starts to get colder.
Not long till your in your lovely new house then
I bet your quite looking forward to settling in and getting things the way you want them.

We stayed with friends last night who have done a part buy/part rent on a house, 3 bedrooms. They have a 4 month old boy who is adorable and only woke us up once. I was playing with him for most of the morning, i forget the constant attention they need!
im ready im ready im ready...

I find it difficult when family aren't close. My parents still go to see my Grandad once a year and are involved, but he's still a little bit of hard work (not only because of the cultural differences).

Oh DH will be wonderful and I don't think he does link hospitals to that, but I don't like him being reminded of the awful time he had, so I tend to worry. He says it feels like another world though.

We used to constantly have sex, then we got married and I became very aware of DSS who goes through stages of not sleeping well and wandering into our room unannounced. Plus, in the mornings he's jumping about wanting us to do stuff with him so there's no morning fun unless you wake before 6am! Oh and the tiredness of working full time, doing the school run and looking after a bored 8 year old who has no-one to play with doesn't help. We're very cuddly and kiss loads (and in front of DSS) but at the age of 8 there's a line on what he'll understand/question. We're planning on introducing a 'if the door is shut, knock first' rule in the new house.

DH does most of our cleaning when I'm getting ready in the mornings. Unfortunately the house we live in is half boxed up and half messy at the moment so wherever I go I can't relax. I'm getting DSS's cold now so I'm trying to power through until we're in the house-DH was arguing with me about taking drugs for it last night but I refused in case I'm pregnant.

The house still has loads to do-we did a lot of work yesterday but I am starting to panic more. DH was in there this morning and I'm planning to pop over after work whilst he's cooking dinner at home so I can paint some more bits-we're a bit 'every little helps' at the moment!

I like the idea of part buy/part rent as it means people can get more whilst not losing all their money. We're lucky that we had a deposit so although we could do that if we needed to (especially since DH is a teacher), we hope not to need to so it's all our house. My best friend has a part buy part rent and in 25 years she'll own 25% of her house which depresses me but, as a single mum who works part time, it's much better than nothing.

We found out yesterday that DH's first wife's best friend is pregnant which I'm pleased about-they bought a lovely 4 bedroom house and it seemed a bit empty! DSS told his grandmother that they must be excited but a bit worried about the change-such a perceptive child!

I like the rule of 'if the door is shut, knock first' will def be introducing that rule when we have children that age.

I dont really feel any different now than i did last month, i should be ovulating on Thurs/Fri this week so im really hoping we get it this time.

My DP and I were going to do part buy/ part rent but his dad warned us against it (hes a property solicitor) he doesnt think its worth it so we just rented. We have money from a trust fund my DP was given by his grandad so we're going to use that for a deposit when we need it. We went to see a mortgage advisor who basically told us we wouldnt get a mortgage, i dont know if it would be different now DPs got a new job but we might wait til after the baby as it would be too stressful to try and do all that while pregnant.

Aw your DSS sounds very sweet! They come out with some funny things at that age, ive read whole threads about funny things children have said/ done.

Hope you get over your cold, its never nice feeling unwell especially when your trying to do 101 other things aswell.

Introduce it as early as possible! Our difficulties have been that the doors in this house don't close properly, plus DSS needed to settle in and telling him we were unavailable would have really made him feel unsure.

I've had very slight tummy cramps but nothing else. As I said to DH, it could be ovulation, conception or imagination and I suspect the last!

We couldn't have got a mortgage last year as DH was training, even though he had money from the sale of his last house. That said, they greeted us with open arms when we went so we were very lucky. We'll probably never have savings again!

My cold is now only bad during mornings and evenings so I think it's dust related. I've been getting migraines in the last few days but am avoiding pills as they open your veins up which I figure is bad if we have conceived.

House is nearly there! Just got tomorrow, then the flooring is going down on Monday and Tuesday, Wednesday the sofa arrives (and we start the last minute panic packing) then we move on Thursday. It's quite exciting as it's only been in the last couple of days that it looks like we could live there. Still can't walk through the kitchen due to the fridge/freezer and washer/dryer not being in place, but it's getting better!

How're you doing now? When can you test? My date is 5th Nov. If I am, DH's first MIL is staying for a few days a couple of days after so I might be in a state of shock! Think my parents have picked up on my lack of painkillers...

I had bad cramps on Thurs at work it was awful i could hardly move but didnt want to give anything away. It lasted all morning and went by the afternoon i dont know if it was ovulation or what. Ive got really sore nipples too and when i had that last month it meant my period wasnt far off. I really hope its not the same this month.

One of my close friends is trying for a baby. He hasnt been with his girlfriend very long but he seems very sure its what he wants. They did a preg test last night but came back neg, he was very upset and i know how he feels.

It must be very exciting waiting to move into the new house, we're really considering moving to a rented house somewhere, we're going to wait til i know if my job becomes permanent but if it doesnt we would like a house as the people who live above us just seem so inconsiderate they make bread at 7 in the morning on a sat! Weekends are my only chance for a lie in and they ruin it by making bread in a very loud, vibrating machince or their little boy runs around (which he was doing this morning) we have tried saying something but they just dont listen and its so fustrating!

I think I can test around 3rd or 4th Nov as last month it was 29 days but dont know if it will be exactly the same again this month, but if no period by 5th i will def do a test.

Paracetamol is ok to use during conception/ pregnancy so it might be worth trying a couple of those if your migraine gets worse. Its horrible having to sit and suffer not being able to take painkillers. I suffered from a splitting headache for about 6 hours and didnt take any tablets "just in case" typically i wasnt even pregnant!

See my cramps haven't been as bad as last month but I don't know if that's because I haven't just come off the pill or because I'm not on my way to getting my period. Started getting sore nipples in the last 24 hours though. Don't think I am pregnant but you never know.

Gave in this afternoon and took paracetamol. Got up this morning feeling terrible, went back to bed after breakfast and missed church which is annoying as my friend was there and only comes a few times a year. Knew I'd not get anywhere with the house if I didn't take the drugs and thankfully it seems to have headed it off. Just feeling tired now which I figure is expected!

The house is very exciting, especially now it's nearly there. I can't wait to go in on Tuesday after work and see it with the new carpet/flooring as it'll look like a home then. Still loads of packing to do and am desperately hoping DH and DSS get loads done whilst I'm at work in the next couple of days. Don't think we can get parents doing that too....

Our new neighbours are doing an extension so came over to discuss removing the fence and we agreed they could take a 'hedge' of ours down (only a metre long) but not the tree at the end to make it easier for them. MIL was painting by a window on Friday to see their digger (with the woman's step dad driving it) pull over our tree. Ran out there really quickly but it was too late. Am now waiting for planning to get back to me and need to get an extortionate quote for a replacement tree to give them. So furious as it was the reason I love the garden (and thus the house) plus we were more than reasonable and they weren't. Might be finding a solicitor tomorrow but don't want the expense.

We'll be testing about the same time!

Fingers crossed...

I really dont feel pregnant at all so im hoping i get a nice surprise. I keep thinking i should be feeling a million symptoms but i keep telling myself alot of women feel nothing at all, at least not for the first few weeks.

It must be exciting watching the house take shape, in a way its nicer to see things done in stages as if it was done all at once you wouldnt notice them all as much if you see what i mean!

nasty neighbours are awful, the worst thing is not getting on with the neighbours as it spoils the nice house you've just paid so much for.
My parents had a big to-do about people building houses at the end of their garden, it was green trees on a big plot of land that used to be the view out my old bedroom window and they have now bulldozed it all away and are building 2 houses. They had various letters from planning permission and we did a petition to stop them taking the greenery away but we wern't successful and there was a tiff about a certain piece of land and who it belonged to. It went on for months if not years. They still havent built the houses yet.

Yeah i cant wait its only a week away til testing now! i think im on day 20, still gonna have sex again tonight just in case

I don't think I've got the energy!! Came home to find our beds have been stripped, the living room is full of boxes from the loft and DSS's room is full of the rest of the loft. Moving day can't come quickly enough, even if I haven't done the packing yet!

The planning officers visited next door and made them stop works today-we're not sure if that's just procedure or not. Certainly worried them though as they came round and have said they'll replace the tree from the girls Mum's farm and that they don't want bad feeling. Shame it took that to get the proper offer and still no apology though....

Our house now has most of the carpet, the rest of the flooring will be done tomorrow. I'm getting very excited waiting to see it-it's like Christmas!!

I don't feel pregnant but as you say, people often don't so I don't want to depend on that. DH offered me cider last night and I pointed out that I'd already possibly drugged our child, I wasn't getting it drunk as well. I haven't had as many cramps as last time but last night I did struggle to sleep-probably everything going round in my head. Just desperately hoping I don't start getting period pains. Silly really as we haven't had much sex, thus aren't actively trying but, will still be disappointed. I think I want to have my cake and eat it!!

Well people like that never apologise, its the same with the people upstairs they didnt say sorry when we told them they were making too much noise.

Ahh the house sounds lovely! Can you imagine christmas there? i keep imagining what it will be like here, it will be my first christmas in my own place!

No i havent had as many cramps either but im just putting that down to the fact that its the second month and things are settling down a bit.

It only takes one time so you never know it could be your lucky month, it always happens when you least expect it

Ah see it's that thought that is making me put up with migraines and try to go to sleep instead of my normal take the drugs approach!!

The neighbours managed to dig through the electricity supply today so they had to call EDF out. Meant our cavity wall insulation had to be stopped half way and our flooring man had no music or tea all afternoon. Desperately hoping it's back on in the morning as we need to put the freezer in place and also put the fronts on our kitchen cupboards. My Dad will be there and it'll be quicker wih his power tools. Good news is, our new floor will be finished and they look amazing-had forgotten the colours and was worried it wouldn't go. DH had already refused to re-paint if it didn't go....

Not sure about Christmas. Last year was my first not at home but my parents and in laws came over for lunch then we went back to my parents to see my sister and her family. Already trying to work out where the Christmas tree goes. TBH, my favourite part of Christmas is being Father Christmas. DSS still believes and shows his excitement well. Today he was running around the new house (with no shoes on) jumping up and down just at the new carpets!

I think you're right about the second month thing. I'm quite relieved really as that's the last thing I need!

Hope we get nice surprises next week. After tomorrow I won't have internet at home til the day you test!

Hi i know you prob wont get this til after we've both tested (if you are testing..)

I hope the new house is really really nice to live in! Im sure everything looks great after all that work you and your family put in.

Good luck with everything I will still post on here to let you know how my test went, hope its not too long til you get the internet back, i dont want to lose my MN buddy!

Speak to you soon! x

Hello! Should get internet back tomorrow at home but am back at work so get it from 12-2 (silly system)...

How're you doing? Any news?! I've been having slight cramps which I'm sure are a sign of me coming on.

The new house is lovely but filled with boxes and furniture that needs building. DSS's grandmother comes to stay on Friday and currently, you can't get through the spare room door. I'm hoping to attack that tonight and well, she'll just have to put up with the state of the rest of the house. She's very nice so I'm sure it'll be fine!

Hi

I havent tested yet, think its still a couple of days too early, im really gonna try and hold out til the weekend because if my period doesnt come by then then its looking good, i dont want a repeat of last month where i tested the day before my period came.

I still dont really feel pregnant but then i havent had any sure signs that my period is coming but then that doesnt necessarily mean anything!

Glad the new house is nice, i think its probably to be expected about the boxes. Even we had boxes and we hardly owned anything at that time. Im sure things will get sorted in the end.

Are you testing this month? I dont think im quite as obsessed about it this month but will still be very disappointed if my period comes. Keeping my fingers crossed for the both of us

See I know I'm due on probably tomorrow (if I have the same length cycle as last month) and last night my tummy ballooned so I'll be amazed if I don't come on in the next 24 hours. Feel very much like I will which isn't helpful when I need energy to move boxes and make space!

It's good news you haven't had any signs that your period is coming, I thought last week I was getting cramps but it's not surprising given everything that's been happening at home! This month we can start trying properly although we currently have no curtains in our bedroom or living room. Have discovered our bedroom door has a lock though.

We've moved from what was a two up two down with extension for tiny kitchen, small bathroom and small 'study' to a three bed with big kitchen, small bathroom but two toilets and a 'utility lobby' with loads of storage in each room. Still can't find where to put our stuff though!!

Keeping my fingers crossed for you!