DH has agreed with me and said we can start TTC now

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I came off the pill two weeks ago and the plan was to start TTC mid November after two cycles.

I've been worried about my pill (cerazette) having a lasting effect, plus my anaemia and just generally being a worrier so mentioned it to DH on Friday evening. Saturday morning we had some fun and I think having to use condoms may have pushed him to change his mind. Plus, having read all these conception books, I'm pretty sure I'm ovulating (boobs bloody hurt and discharge changes)-DH is worried it's a 'missed opportunity'. So, have we had sex since? Nope. Fair enough we've been doing our house up so were knackered but I made sure we got back with 'an evening' free last night and he flipping fell asleep as soon as he got into bed. Am now worried we are missing an opportunity!!

Thank you for reading my excited and mildy ranting post.

Yeah a week today will be 28 days for me so if no AF by then will def do a test. It feels like a lifetime to wait though!

Yeah im the same lol, ive never thought about it in so much detail, think my DP has run out responses!

Mine won't be til 11th October so I've still got a couple of weeks. But realistically, timewise it means I should be ovulating too.

DH seems to not understand a lot about conception (apart from the obvious) so I'm wondering if his first wife read the books and didn't tell him. I'm leaving them out for him to read and he's quite pleased he's involved.

I might wait til next fri tho as thats DPs birthday so if its pos it will be a good present

I read bits out of the book so he is quite informed now! Not sure if he really appreciates it but i like doing it.

That would be a fantastic present!

Let me know how it goes!

Of course i will!

Will no doubt speak to you before then anyway with more ailments!

Hi random

Thought I would check in and see how things are going. Any news on the TTC front?
Im still getting slight period pains but no period. Boobs are v slightly tender, i realised last night while on the sofa and was frantically grabbing them to see if i was imagining it!
I really dont want this to be a false alarm, ill feel like such a wally after everything ive said if my period comes now. Not to mention v upset

I've started getting back ache today like I used to with period pains but still no AF and it could just be a result of lots of DIY in our new house.

It's starting to drive me a little nuts as I know the chances are I won't be pregnant this quickly but, I'll also be disappointed if I'm not. Think we're quite similar with that, also got sore boobs still!

DH told me this morning whilst lying in bed that he was having 'conceptual thoughts'!

Aw bless your DH!
I bought i test today but havent used it, my DP wants to be here when i do and hes at work atm. Id prefer to use it first thing in the morning as well. He said to use it 2mo morning so about 3 and half weeks after coming off the pill, not too sure if it will be right but ive got 2 tests for £10 from tesco.

I kind of half think it will be neg but im really losing patience! I dont even know when my AF is meant to be due.

That's my problem-I wouldn't know when to test anyway! I was reading about it last night and of course it says tests before you're due on might give you a false negative. Well that only works if you know your dates! A small part of me is thinking that if I do get my AF at least I'll have dates to work from, but of course I'd rather be pregnant. I've spent the last 3 days really hungry and I don't know if that's the diet I'm on, being about to get my period or, being pregnant. So I'm eating slightly more but still healthily!

We plan to test next Sunday if nothing has happened as that would be the 28 days but, I may pop off to Tesco in a bit....

hehe, its so hard to wait isnt it? especially when you know the date you could poss test is coming up but its still that little bit too far away. It will be 28 days on Tues which isnt too far away now.

I feel the same way about the dates. I keep thinking the one good thing that will come out of getting my period is knowing the dates, but of course i would rather be preg.

Let me know how the will power holds up in Tesco!

I didn't get the time to go to Tescos so I think that's probably a good thing!!

Have you tested today?

I went to a gig with my family yesterday and my sister was being incredibly protective of me just in case I was pregnant and people bumped into me. She got pregnant just before seeing the same band so now she seems determined I'm pregnant too! Had period type pains yesterday and back ache but still no period. She said that happened to her too....

No i havent tested yet, i used all my will power not to cos i still think its too early, def gonna test on tues though if my period hasnt arrived by then.

Lucky you going to a gig! Maybe they are a special fertility band hehe
Ive been having period type pains as well still.
Was coming back from Tesco today and was only wearing a strap top and jeans but was VERY hot, the kind where your skin tingles and you need to shed layers! My DP said it was and that he wasnt particularly hot, was wondering if this is a symton as hormones can mess with all sorts of things. Im still getting that strange cheese-like (sorry tmi) discharge which im not too sure about

Sorry thats supposed to say 'My DP said it was me'

Ah see I've just started getting that type of discharge and yes I've been having hot flushes too but I don't know if that's periods, pregnancy or migraine!

Well done for the self restraint!

The self restraint was very hard to do!

I am praying with everything in my body that its not my period i really dont want it to come.

Just been at my DP's sisters new house, she has an 8 month old baby and we've told them we're trying and shes given me all sorts of tablets that she used while preg so im well stocked!
I really hate telling people im not preg whenever they ask

So am hoping for good news for both of us

Argh sooo fustrated.

Did a test this morning- clearblue plus and the result was inconclusive!

Dont know if you've used/seen then but they have a control window where a line is meant to show up but it didnt show up on mine so it hasnt worked!
I dont think i had enough wee
So annoyed ive wasted one of the tests though grrr.

So if the control line wasn't there, surely that means it's the test that's faulty and not your wee?!I bought a pack of two tests from Sainsburys yesterday for £5. Couldn't see the point in buying an expensive one when they all seem to work. Will probably buy expensive ones if I have problems though!!When are you going to take the next one? I'm still planning on next Sunday.Spent the weekend painting so if I'm pregnant, my child might have an addiction to paint fumes and dust... DH kept telling me off for doing risky things but I'm just not patient enough to be careful when I'm probably not pregnant!

Have a feeling i might not have weed on the stick long enough

Yeah im only buying cheapy ones atm, if it looks like im preg i will buy a more expensive one to confirm.
Im going to test again Tues with first morn wee (not long now!) If it says neg but my period doesnt come will test again the following week and so on until either preg or period comes.

Your DH sounds v caring I had a v long discussion with DP last night as i basically felt he wasnt as interested in this life changing decision as i am. Hes just worried about money and losing out on time just me and him, but he talked to a friend at work who has children and he said he felt the same but cried when his DC were born! I think my DP will be the same. Hes a v sensitive person.

Sounds like your house decorating is coming along! Would def stay away from pain fumes though if you are preg as they can cause harm.
Good luck lasting out til Sun! Only a week to go now

Definitely first thing in the morning is meant to be best-hope it goes well! My plan is the same as yours-test on Sunday and if neg and no period keep going on a weekly basis....

It is difficult when you become a parent and I don't think anyone really realises what it does to your relationship. I went from being a single person to being married with a 7 year old and it was a bit of a shock even though I knew what to expect. Babies can at least be put to bed and kept in one place. DSS will appear when you wish he didn't, used to jump into our bed at 6am (when we were asleep) and often just follows you. The longest I've had on my own in the last year was a 5 hour car journey and DH and DSS were in a minibus behind. It was lovely!

I can understand your DP's worries but unfortunately you won't know what it's like until you have a baby. If I was you I'd keep talking to him about it as the last thing you want is him not coping when you need to depend on him the most.

House decorating is going well but we've now got 3 weeks left so we're in panic mode-hence I can't keep away from paint fumes. Thankfully they're all low VOC so I figure it's ok. Normally paint gives me migraines and these haven't affected me.

Yes I'm wishing the week away!

Yeah I bet that was such a massive life-change. He understands how much will change but i think the idea of it is so different to the reality. I try and talk to him and get him to open up as much as i can but hes the kind of person that keeps everything bottled up and it takes quite alot of pursuading to get things out of him, hes getting better though.

How come you only have 3 weeks left of decorating?

Test day tomorrow!! Ive started a new job today and no internet during work hours but will be on here every day after 5 with updates, so will let you know what the result is. Fingers crossed

That's okay, my work has some new secure thing that means I can't get on here or hotmail or facebook, but can buy things on Amazon!

My DH used to be like that but I think due to his first wife not always being understanding, plus him having to do everything when she was ill. He's wonderfully open now but it took a few 'talks' and me shouting a couple of times..

We move in 3 weeks (we're staying in our rented house whilst we're DIYing) but we want to get all messy work done before the carpets and flooring go in. Not really the best time to start TTC but we're both impatient and seem to juggle things well. I'm also waiting for the local courts to send me a court date for adopting DSS so I don't like to make things easy for myself! Hopefully things'll calm down in time for Christmas haha.

Good luck with your test - DH is amused I keep coming home and checking if you're pregnant!!

Hi,
Hope your decorating is going well
Good luck for the adopting seems like you've got alot on your plate atm! It will prob all settle down then go manic around christmas!

So took a test this morning and it was neg, which was really disappointing but at least my period still hasnt come so im still holding onto a little bit of hope.

Yeah my DP is like how can you find so much to talk about! Well you can tell your DH its a no sadly but will keep testing every week if no period comes.

Oh I'm sorry-maybe you are though, I'd go with the keep testing weekly thing too. I was telling DH earlier that last week I felt a bit pregnant mentally, whereas this week I don't. I think it's in anticipation for a negative pregnancy test. Thing is, the longer you wait for a period, the more you worry and hope at the same time.

Yeah we're busy-been at the house again tonight as DSS went to a friends house for tea. DH is currently sorting through his books to pack up-he'd bunged them all in so I told him we'd start off with our new house as unorganised as the current one!

Good luck and I hope you get your positive soon.

I kind of had a feeling it was going to be neg. Got even worse news though, my period arrived this morning, very heavy and painful so cant even mistake it for spotting, its def a period i sat bolt upright in bed and my DP was like whats wrong?? I told him my period had come and he hugged me and said im so sorry darling and i cried it was really upsetting.

Ive got to look at the positive in this though and at least i know some dates now and can tell when im ovulating and when my last proper period was.

Hope you get better news than me

Oh dear. I'd definitely agree that you now know your dates and also that it means the pill hasn't cocked your body up so your system is probably on top form! Hopefully this month will be it.I'm expecting to pretty much have the same as you. I've been getting slight pains today and I just don't feel pregnant (not that I know what it feels like but I'm sure I'll know)! We're testing on Sunday and I'm 95% sure it'll be negative but I still know I'll be upset. Like you say, the only positive is knowing more of what's going on.Make sure you write all your info down-I've kept a 'conception diary' of what's going on just so I can spot regular occurences and work it out from there.

Oh and if you're not pregnant, that means you can take the pain killers!! I've been not taking anything and my back is ruined from packing moving boxes. Think what'll what will annoy me most when I'm not pregnant is the fact I could have taken the back pain/migraine drugs!

Hope things improve soon. [big hugs]