Emmsy's in weeble land....Where weeble's wobble but don't fall down!

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Here's to another happy thread!

The fun, the laughter and the tears will get us through, and help the weeble stay forever upright

Just a quick post to say I'm lurking and would also like to extend a big hug to everyone who'se feeling down today.....MN need to create ways to show love, kisses and hugs like they do with the smileys

Have had a bit of a day today but will post about it when everyone is feeling a bit better as I always feel so paranoid about upsetting anyone on here

Oh girls. Not been able to log on today .

We can all relate to all the life post-mc scenarios - the 'life goes on' mentality we have to be seen to be adopting, selfish friends, unhelpful comments, ungrateful pg women . BUT we're all here not feeling that, not putting a limit onto how long we grieve or remember and maybe we should remind our RL family and friend's that its not always OK that we maybe do want to talk about it and so what if it makes them uncomfirtable, deal with it. One of the reasons my sister and I had such a barny in Berlin was to do with my last year and her lack of understanding at what mc actually means to you once the acute rush to hospital is over. They can sympathise with the initial news and operation etc. but the silent aftermath is deafening .

MLS - I hope and pray you get good news on Thursday, you've said you feel this lo is a fighter, I hope to God she/he is x

Love and neeko group hug to all xx

Just logging on whilst waiting for the taxi to whisk me off to some sun

have a great week. I will be lurking for news.

CD1 here - just glad the uncertainty is over ...

Oh Jools sorry the evil witch got you but glad you'll have some peace of mind on holiday. Realx, have fun and have a cocktail or ten! Big hug if you need it.

have a meeting now, but I'll be on later.

jools spect you are on your way by now and I am glad that at least you can soak up some late summer sun with those carefree cocktails, hope you are ok.xx

fifi I am so sorry that during my woe is me rant yesterday I completely forgot to say hello. I felt It is a horrid feeling of not being in control of the hormone rollercoaster. It kind of hits you in the face like a wet kipper whenever you least expect it. Just go easy, do the bare minimum, ha yes I know kids, weddings to plan, life etc but you know what I mean. Thinking of you.x

sabs come and tell us we all want to go ouch I might start a sweep stake with a 101ber

mls hope you are taking it easy and progressing a minute at a time. What time is your scan tomorrow?xx

4ever morning sunny lady, hope you are as ok as possible today.
You are right bottling stuff is pretty futile, I exploded like my great grannys ginger beer in true drama queen style and ddh did lots of wringing out shoulders.

I am quite sure that you can spot an emmsys male cos they will generally have soggy shoulders

Popping an embarassed head round the door - Thanks so much to all of you for yesterday! Im glad I wasnt alone, not glad you all felt a bit crappy & too of course! Good release methinks, am gonna brave it & see bf with dd today & try a gentle chat..

Jools damn that AF but what a great way to deal with it by jetting off to sunny shores! Enjoy the sangria, sun and whats that other thing begins with s again?

LovelysweetNeeko you are just such a nice lady & thanks so much for the heaps of support yest, now as I said, you have beanie & kids to teach so please dont be worrying about us wobbly weebles too much! xxx

Mermaidthebrave Im glad you let some of those bottled up feelings out, even if it resulted in your ddh having very soggy shoulders, he sounds like a lovely solid man.. Thank you also for relating, all the lovely emmsys weebles made me feel not so alone. Its v refreshing when you have these feelings, that you dont want to share, but then everyone here can relate & say me too... Its a cure in itself.. Hope you feel better for it today sweetie? xxx

MLS sorry if the oh woe me ness of yest didnt help your need for positivity, as mermaid says, its one minute at a time.. Im taking half day but just shout if you need too, I'll be here all day tomorrow sending super sticky positive thoughts to you.. xxx

Barbie sweetheart, I noticed you didnt post back & really hope you know that I do understand what a great day of achievement it was for you 1 year on with your situation all turned around, I was a bit self absorbed so apologise! Looking forward to hearing your latest mad mishaps! xxx

4ever i couldnt post back due to having a migrane still hanging around...the migrane that is so forgive lack of posting for next 12 hours until i can shake off the bugger!

Big hugs to you all xxx

hi all just a quaick post just to say . jools sorry about AF but have a great holiday .

just got in touch with gracie she hasnt dropped off the face of the earth . she has damaged her phone and its died and has no internet so she will be on here soon maybe sunday or monday .xx

Hi all.
Been keeping quiet about me as I have my proper dating scan tomorrow and am feeling a little weeblesque. They told me to go by scan dates making me 13 weeks, but by my own white-coated-charted-and-checked dates I'm 12 weeks and that's when I found out about my lost LO last time I have no reason to doubt about tomorrow, yet the doubt is there...

Had a very frank discussion with my bf last night. Her EDD is next week (when mine would have been) and she's struggling a little because she has recently learned that another friend of hers had a MC back in March on the day that my bf's DH chose to send a photo of their 12 week scan to all and sundry. After months of avoidance they have discovered what happpened and bf is struggling to come to terms with the fact that this woman has said she won't be able to visit when the LO is born.
Anyway, it really made me think about everything that was said on here yesterday and I've come to the conclusion that we'll never get our old selves back. I told my bf the (poor) analogy that having a MC is like finding out about Santa - eventually you learn to enjoy Xmas again, but the magical spark has gone and you'll never get it back completely. Maybe that's why we try to keep Xmas magical for the innocent? Think it helped her understand but she (understandably) feels guilty for her friend and helpless to do anything for her.

I'd like to get the poor woman (who I don't know) and bring her to our greenhouse. we may have bad days but at least we have them together and are learning that as we can't go back, we'll just have to learn' love and somehow try to move on - together.

I really wish we could write that MC book. it makes me so to think of women out there in desperation and isolation.

Anyway enough philosophy from me Hope you're all well, or at least clinging on as best you can.

Morning Neeko, what a lovely post, I agree with every word. Feel sad for your bf's friend too, that must be so hard. Been thinking of you with your scan tomorrow, and you MLS of course. Not long now.

Buddha no I don't have an early scan booked. Been to my doc this morning to ask about baby aspirin- (she discouraged me from taking it but said it was up to me so I don't know what to do! Would only blame myself if I lost this LO ) anyway, she said no to a reassurance scan because 'you can't change the outcome anyway' but my Mum's bf is a midwife in this area and said when I mc'd that she would get me in for a scan next time so will call her later Was given the big pack of pregnancy stuff at GP's this morning and told a midwife would ring me soon scary.

Jools sorry evil af got you...enjoy your hols and yes, DRINK! I am gutted I didn't finish the lovely pear cider in the fridge before finding out about this lo! will have to give it to my bf...

cupcake I reckon it is an excellent placebo if nothing else and it is such a tiny amount of asprin that it is not going to hurt. I was recommended the disolvable one by the chemist when I asked.
to the blinking dr re scans but big thumbs up to your bf mum. hope you are feeling ok and trying to be as relaxed as poss.

neeko another scan day tomorrow, oh honey, will be thinking of you.

barbie your head again you poor thing, hope dh managed to get you one of those nice cool pack things and that it clears.xx

Sitting in airport.flight delayed 2.5 hours !

Lovely lovely Santa analogy Neeko and will be thinking about you too tomorrow.

Hope 4Ever and Mermaid are feeling less grey today. You have such lovely words for everyone else. I don't put emotions into words very well but you are in my thoughts

Strange mood here very hormonalemotional and tearful but happy and smiling at same time.

On hols without dp so no s e x but will be cd8 when I get back so hopefully he will have missed me lots !!!

Am quite relieved not to be pg this cycle as would have been celebrating my 40th at 11+5 which was time of worst mc and would be in a knicker checking meltdown

jools I nearly put hope you are not stuck in the airport, never mind cocktail hour can start early you are on holiday
by the way you always put things well and things will work their way to being untangled. Travel safely and merrily!

Cupcake I second Mermaid's view re: asprin and placebo affect. i've bene reasurred by several health professional's that it has no side effects... Hope you get your early scan sorted ( at your Doc - do they not understand how vital these scans are for our sanity??).

Neeko lovely analogy and will be thinking about you tomorrow as you head off into bigpantland. Really about your BF friend and timing of scna photo etc. Scan photos should not be put anywhere other than in wallets or on here so no-one can stumble across them by accident .

Barbie hope your lying down with cool flannel on head x

MM belated Happy Anniversary for yesterday. Hope you and DH had a lovely meal together .

Sabs - please share what is worrying you. This thread is for us all small-big panters and everyone's anxieties/shit days are just as imporant as everyone's elses...

Colleague at work had a little boy yesterday, 2 weeks early. So happy for her. She and her DP had a monumentally bad 2008 (perforated bowel on holiday needing emergency surgery, undiagnosed chrones disease, ovarian cyst (her), rare skin condition they thought was bone cancer (him). She visited me after my 2nd mc early Jan and said 2009 was going to be our year and to look ahead. It does turn around...

Hello ladies, hope everyone is feeling a bit better today. If not, I'm still giving out hugs to anyone who would like one

neeko good luck for tomorrow. Also am i right in thinking mls also has her scan tomorrow? Have a hand to hold from me if it is...

jools have a great holiday...Sending some baby dust your way for when you get back. I'm sure your DH will have missed you loads

mrskate nice to hear from you. I was wondering where gracie had got to but good to hear she'll be back soon. Hope everything's ok with her friend as well. We had a bit of a chat about that situation on FB a couple of weeks ago.

4ever how did it go with BF? Hope your feeling better today

vjay hope your still finding time to lurk...We want more photos please! Ive packed my camera into my hospital bag and cleared out the memory along with finding extra batteries. As long as DH doesnt find it and decide to snap away whilst im in labour!

lionstar my EDD buddy, how you feeling????

Hello to blue, mermaid, fifi, buddha, cupcake, iggy, hoping, barbie, mm and sorry to anyone ive missed

So I had my normal midwife appointment yesterday and when midwife was feeling my bump, she couldnt find the head. There was something next to my rib, but she thought it was too hard to be the bum! So she booked me in for a scan which took place 3 hours later to check if the baby was in breech or not as for all my previous appointments baby's head has always been down. She said it was more for piece of mind than anything else. Luckily scan showed that head is definately down and the body part at the top is definately the bum! Talk about buns of steel, definately doesnt get that from me! Also the measurements showed that baby, who at 34 weeks was 6 pounds, is now, at 38 weeks, 8 pounds 13 ounces! I'm only 5 foot 3, am so worried about how this baby is going to get out!! TMI alert but medics have always had problems examining me whenever Ive had smears and last year during my miscarriage, but im hoping it will turn out ok.

Also having trouble sleeping as im getting really stressed about DH's job situation which I know is not good for the baby or DH, so trying to stay positive.

Hello ladies, hope everyone is feeling a bit better today. If not, I'm still giving out hugs to anyone who would like one

neeko good luck for tomorrow. Also am i right in thinking mls also has her scan tomorrow? Have a hand to hold from me if it is...

jools have a great holiday...Sending some baby dust your way for when you get back. I'm sure your DH will have missed you loads

mrskate nice to hear from you. I was wondering where gracie had got to but good to hear she'll be back soon. Hope everything's ok with her friend as well. We had a bit of a chat about that situation on FB a couple of weeks ago.

4ever how did it go with BF? Hope your feeling better today

vjay hope your still finding time to lurk...We want more photos please! Ive packed my camera into my hospital bag and cleared out the memory along with finding extra batteries. As long as DH doesnt find it and decide to snap away whilst im in labour!

lionstar my EDD buddy, how you feeling????

Hello to blue, mermaid, fifi, buddha, cupcake, iggy, hoping, barbie, mm and sorry to anyone ive missed

So I had my normal midwife appointment yesterday and when midwife was feeling my bump, she couldnt find the head. There was something next to my rib, but she thought it was too hard to be the bum! So she booked me in for a scan which took place 3 hours later to check if the baby was in breech or not as for all my previous appointments baby's head has always been down. She said it was more for piece of mind than anything else. Luckily scan showed that head is definately down and the body part at the top is definately the bum! Talk about buns of steel, definately doesnt get that from me! Also the measurements showed that baby, who at 34 weeks was 6 pounds, is now, at 38 weeks, 8 pounds 13 ounces! I'm only 5 foot 3, am so worried about how this baby is going to get out!! TMI alert but medics have always had problems examining me whenever Ive had smears and last year during my miscarriage, but im hoping it will turn out ok.

Also having trouble sleeping as im getting really stressed about DH's job situation which I know is not good for the baby or DH, so trying to stay positive.

Evening Sabs Your body is amazing and when things are supposed to open down there, they will so try not to worry. Also the doctors have ways and means, if necessary. Don't worry they deal with it all everyday
It's natural to be over anxious at this stage, especially with all the things you have no control of. I'm sure that everything, including your DH's job will work out for the best.
I wonder if Lion is having any twinges yet?

Hi to everyone else. I'll text 4ever with the results of my scan tomorrow since she says she'll be around all day. MLS will hopefully be too busy gaping at her bean's HB to post for me

Night night. I'm weebling off to bed...

Meant to say lovely news about your colleague Blue. I'm a sucker for good news like that.

Thinking of you tomorrow MLS I am hoping and praying for a good scan for you and that bean is worrying you over nothing xxx

lots of love to you all and big hugs to moon and 4ever and anyone who needs one

Sorry forgot the lovely neeko you can have my other hand tomorrow hun for your scan xxx

Headache nearly gone but needed to pop into say all the best for mls and neeko today....everything crossed for the both of you. Im sure come the end of today the thread will be full of faces.

Hi to everyone else, ill catch up with you all soon xxx

mls huge thoughts for you and your dh today

neeko thinking of you too sunny ladyxx

barbie so glad you head is going at long last.

curly hope you are not dashing around too much.

MLS I am thinking about you my love... Sending positive sticky thoughts to you for today. Im sure you are in turmoil. Im praying that this will end as a happy day for you... Sending a hug an hour for you xxx

LovelyNeeko naughty lady not mentioning your scan! Go with whatever works as your coping mechanism tho hon, we all understand that... Will be holding your hand & also sending sticky positive thoughts to you too.. Beautiful analagy re santa.. Your poor bf & her friend.. V similar situation to mine, your bf had close edd as well? Glad you have a close enough relationship for it not to have driven a wedge between you like your bf's other mate... Feel for both of them..

I saw my bf yest but elephant was still in the room, felt wrong to do anything but gush over her new dd even tho it was quite hard being shown all the clothes/gifts ect. I dont want her to feel bad, or take away her special time by moaning about me, I saw the look in her eye when I held her 3wkdd & it said 'this should be you too, its not fair'. I know she sympathises but just doesnt totally understand, & am now accepting that she prob never will, & maybe one day Ill get to explain... Am getting past my resentment at lack of support from mates & applying the serenity prayer...! Has been hard cos 5 closest friends (4 were bridesmaids) 3 have now all been pregnant at same time as me, with 2 wks between our edds. 2 were preg same time as my 1st preg, & now bf pg same as my last one. 2 of the 3 were 2nd kids. Am the only 'childless' one. Longtime bf with 'issues' has nearly 3yr old & 15yr old & is absorbed with her anger/poss bi polar/craziness. So support aint readily flowing... But, we are all big girls now & thats why Im grateful for my lovely DH who is my true bf, I certainly couldnt live with any of my girls! Not truely resolved, but accepted & bitterness lost, so thats a start....

Morning Mermaidmylovely hows the weebling today? You're so stoic, selfless & strong, I really admire you & hope you know that & give yourself enough credit for your coping mechanism & ability to help others when you're hurting... Just wanted to make sure you knew that xxx

Cupcake I echo all emmsy weebles - take the aspirin. Iv heard of midwives saying ' oh is this another miracle aspirin baby'? Most of the causes of mc use aspirin as a 'cure' so it can only help. My consultant put me on it even tho no cause found at NHS. Hope you're doing ok and not too wobbly? xxx

Barbie glad the migraines gone & looking forward to hearing of your latest funny tale to tell today, whilst we sit here refreshing, waiting, hoping & praying! Love ya crazy lady! xxx

Blue thats inspring to hear about your friend.. Hoping know we both felt despondent lately, but maybe we gotta go through all this crap to come out stronger the other side like Blues friend, its not punishment its a test of strength eh?

Curly Im sure I speak for all emmsys weebles when I say we are missing you! Hope all is well in Curlyworld? How many wks now honey? Still chucking?

Mrskate glad to hear our Graciegirl is ok - I had been wondering! Pass on my love please! xx

Ahh Sabs please never feel you cant post honey, we're all on this journey together, bet that 3hrs waiting for the scan was hellish, & to find out babbys nearly a 9lb'er Poor you!!! LO will be woth all the pain tho, you sound very organised hon! xx

Right to work, Neeko at 11.30am, MLS at 2.30pm - all link hands & pray hard xxxxxxx

4ever are you still there? im at work, hiding in a locker room trying to eat out of the way of the crazy local ladies

The headache has gone...yipppppeeeee but not really any funny stories cos ive just been sleeping it off....oh hang on
last night i woke for my 100th 2nd wee of the night and looked across the bed room and screamed..woke dh and the dog.
Dh had thrown a white towel over the tall room fan and in my sleepy haze i thought i had seen a ghost....que a giggling fit while dh muttered about me being a loon

This morning i parked the car for work and as i was walking in thought to myself one of the girls in work is going to say she is pregnant...conversation in my head to what i would say etc etc.

2 hours later it was forgotten about until i asked why one of my therapist is constantly popping to the bathroom...and yes you guessed it i feel all strange...weird!!!

Getting slightly cramped in this cupboard, ill be back later to check on the girls....

Lovely mental image of you in cupboard with laptop on your knee barbie - as for the 'ghost' in your room - you nutter!

MLS - I hope you can feel all our positive vibes for this afternoon. We are all absolutely rooting for you and your lo and have everything crossed that when we log on later this thread will be full of smiley faces (please god).

Neeko - hope this morning passes fast for you too and you get your 'official' dating scan away with you later. I know the nerves will still be there, I was the same having had several scans including one at 11 weeks, still bricking it for 'official' one at 12...

Sabs - you are going to have a beautiful bouncing chubby baby. As neeko says babies know how to come out and help is on hand if you need assistance. The end result is more than worth it! Try not to worry too much about your DH, easier said than done I know (my DH was made redundant 7 years ago so know what its like)

Lovely 4ever - brave, stoic (to pinch your word) you seeing your bf yesterday, that must have been hard with said elephant in the room . I think you will be able to talk about it more easily when they're visiting you after the birth of your lo. Its a fact but I have felt more able to talk about my mc's as my bump has grown as I don't elicit the same pity as I did previously. The shoe WILl be on the other foot soon and you will be the one showing off the gifts and clothes and most imporantly your much longed for lo . In fact I'm I'm going to go as far as predict your pg by xmas!

Better shoot, housework beckons while DS is at playgroup - joy....