Emmsys Onwards & Upwards part VII - hand-holders and hair-strokers welcome!

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Shiny new thread for us

The race is on for the first BFP!

morning everyone..

I completely agree that this thread has helped me through lots - as did the Emmsy Angels thread in the MC section.

A quick story... I arranged to meet up with my cousin one time - probably just over a year ago. She sent me a message saying sorry but she couldn't make it cos she had had an MC at 11 weeks that day. I obviously replied straight away - but I was totally freaked out - why was she telling me this?! Surely you don't tell people that - why didn't she make an excuse? I didn't even vaguely know what to say to her. I saw her a few weeks later - and she talked about it alot - and I just listened. but still wondering why she was sharing the info.

Fast forward to now - I now totally understand why she wanted to talk about - I wanted to talk to people about mine. Obviously i felt guilty about how I was about hers... and I also decided not to tell anyone that I know except for my sisters and my parents. But I really really needed to talk about it... so the Emmsy's thread was my complete saviour - finally people to talk to who understand.

I am so totally and about how I felt before I experienced an MC. But you really do have to know what its like to get an idea sadly...

Anyway - just though I'd share that with you all. You are all fab

I have no news at all - opk's all been negative so far - so either I'm not using them right - or I've not ov'd yet!

Am at work today - back to jury service on Monday!

Thanks Neeko - just had a lurk back to see who was around & at the length of my message. Def need to keep away for a bit. As Iggys story says, its just about the need to talk, and be listened to, rather than feeling like your boring people who dont wanna hear it, cos that just makes you feel even more crap about things. .

iggy thanks for that little story. I have to say I knew one girl who had a miscarriage a couple of years ago, and I thought nothing of it when it happened cos I knew how common it was now I feel bad for thinking that (she has 2 lovely DSs now though )
You're so right that you just don't know until you've been there. I think you're so strong having not told anyone but your family.. I told loads of people at work and quite a few other friends because I wanted them to know why I was so down etc...
Sorry the OPKs aren't working out yet but hope you're still bding in earnest I'm only 3DPO and already itching to test

Sorry 4ever only just noticed I x-posted with you earlier...so glad to know you're not far away.
I think you hit the nail on the head- you and dh ARE coping well with this! I've told you before about a couple I know who've had 4 mcs and completely fell apart, serious depression etc. They are coming through it now but was so sad...so yes, I think you're doing amazing! And boating sounds lovely

Ooh enjoy your weekend with your friends Neeko we're off to yet another wedding tomorrow but won't know anyone else there which is a bit rubbish.

Hi everyone and lovely to hear from you 4ever . So glad you enjoyed your massage and have sorted alot of things through in your head. Your presence is always here on the thread even if you're not physically on here typing, don't ever foget that, OK? I'm off to church on Sunday and you will be in my 'reflection' prayer @ 12pm.

Neeko - have a great weekend with your guests, are you rustling up something nice for tea? Hope you're tackling the housework as I type . Thanks for counting with me, getting more and more anxious but have my lucky pants already laid out .

Vjay - ah waiting in for the workmen, 'tis a tedium (is that a word ) but they might be cute you never know .

cupcake - sending masses and masses of babydust to you this weekend. I know what you mean about weddings where you don't know anyone. One word - alcohol. It may be your last weekend on the bevvy for oooh, 8 months .

Iggy - hope you get a +OPK soon!

baking - fingers crossed for rescan on Monday

Waves to everyone else, back to work but TFI Friday - yay!

Ladies, my hospital bag is packed , apart from nursing bras, which mothercare won't sell to me until I'm 38 weeks, so will go in next week and tell a little white lie .

Quick one for me as ive got guests staying over tonight, got to get bedding on spare bed etc.
Lovely to hear from you 4ever-you are never far from my thoughts, stay strong lovely lady.

Ginger-sorry AF got you, hope its your turn next month.

Blue-Thinking about you tomorrow my lovely, big hugs. Lets hold hands and get through the next couple of days. Im off to the top of a hill on Sunday to release a balloon with a message to my lost angel, an emotional day me thinks.

VJay-Yeyyy to getting the hospital bag packed.

I,ll be on here sometime over the weekend, have a good weekend everyone.

That sounds lovely Annie - releasing a balloon, will be thinking about you too. I'm ok, been quite thoughtful today about tomorrow but look down at my bump and fngers crossed that this little one will be 3rd time lucky. April's EDD hit me much harder as it was the first reminder I've had to go through. Can't help but think what might have been but we create new memories, thank goodness.

Vjay - well done for bag pack, its just sooo exciting .

Have a lovely weekend everyone, big hugs secret 'Emmsy' handshakes .

Well everyone must be having an exciting Friday afternoon/evening...it's v quiet here!

annie and blue is this weekend your last EDDs? thinking of you both. Thanks for the babydust blue I think I managed to catch it al (hope so anyway!)

Vjay yay!! One step closer to the big day now

Have a lovely time with your friends Neeko

I emailed MNHQ about them publishing a book on miscarriage/pregnancy loss...they got back to me really quickly, v impressed. They said it has been talked about before and that they will mention it to the editorial team again to see what the publishers think hope we do all get to impart our wisdom someday girls!

Sorry x-post blue... hope tomorrow is ok for you...just keep rubbing your bump!

evening lovely ladies

all your posts yesterday had me nearly in tears too, but you were all so right with everything you said. i really think i would have gone mad by now if it hadnt been for all you ladies, its so good to know there is somewhere private you can go to get away from the world where someone understands you.

i'm feeling a bit at the moment, hence my staying away for a few days.

hope everyone is ok, and that you all have lovely weekends

Evening ladies just a quick post annie and blue will be thinking of you tomorrow- think the balloon idea is so sweet x
Oh cupcake thanks for asking yes I did find my book someone had put in my slot in the filing cabinet!

Exciting you have hospital bag packed Vjay!
Hope you all have a lovely weekend- at work all weekend but will try to post x

Morning girls!

Sorry for being unsociable yesterday, I got in from work and fell straight to sleep and just woke up 13 hours later. This going back to work is tiring stuff! I'm off till Tuesday now and so is DH so we're supposed to be decorating the dining room.

Cupcake good idea to contact MNHQ about a book on miscarriage, there's definitely a need for a book like that.

Thanks for keeping us posted 4ever.

Well done for finally getting that bag packed Vjay!

Thinking of Annie and Blue for their EDDs. Big hug x

Annie & Blue thinking of you both today, love the idea of the balloon, hope the day passes with peace and thoughtful reflection.
cupcake Well done you on contacting MNHQ, it would be a fantastic idea to do a book

Girls I have to say your posts have been very emotional even more so as I feel that I can't post on MN anymore due to a "relative" tracking me down and reading my posts following a family fallout. I just don't feel comfortable putting anything personal on here and that is a killer as we have all supported each other through so much stuff.
I am still lurking though but don't be surprised if I don't write anything about me. If I have anything to update perhaps I should contact you all on the email address?
Thank you all for the smallest and biggest things you have all said
Mollie

We'll miss you Mollie, please do carry on lurking and do keep updating us via the email address.

If your "relative" is still reading this I hope they are proud of themselves. It makes me think that maybe I should remove my photographs to reduce the chances of anyone finding me on here.

morning all

thinking of annie and blue today xxxx

Morning girls...mollie so sorry to hear that, feel really sad for you but yes please do update us via the email! We would love to hear how you're getting on, and obviously see pics of LO when s/he arrives

aw mollie thats so sad, hope you're ok hun. Don't forget email.

thoughts are with you annie and blue.

4ever take care hun

big waves to everyone else

Thanks to everyone for your thoughts re my EDD of my last lost angel, tomorrow.
mollie-Aww you,ll be missed, take care of you and bump, and make sure you keep in touch with us all by email. at your bloody relative.

mollie we will miss you xxxxxx

two fingers up at mollies relative...., bad relaative but ha ha you lose out on seeing her beautiful baby in a few months....

See mollie/budda we are all sticking up for you!

Hope you are all getting through your personal dates/ worries and anything else troubling you this weekend...

Im sick and came home from work too rest, ill be lurking till i can muster the strength to post more

Big hugs to you all xxx

Oh mollie sorry you have to leave us, sticking two fingers up too......... You won't be forgotten on here but it won't quite be the same without you. Don't worry we will still keep in touch just out of sight of prying eyes.

blue and annie thinking about you this weekend, hope you are feeling ok.

barbie hope you are not too sick, tell your lovely DH that your scottish friend prescribed some tlc your way.

Hope everyone else is having a nice weekend.

mollie please don't go, why don't you come up with another new name, put on our special email so only we know who you are. It's so sad that some people spoil this, it's a very special place for us, and should continue to be so, for you and all of us.

annie and blue tinking of you both xx

barbie hope you're not feeling too ill hun xx

thinking, not tinking , I'm very very tired today

Or maybe when we next get a new thread we call it something really strange that Mollie's relative will never guess, even maybe put it in the wrong topic too. Then we can email a link via the email system so only nice people get to know where its hidden and no nasty relatives.

where is everyone????

I went back to work today but thought i was going to come down with a bad migrane, had all the symptoms but managed to sit in one of the treatment rooms in the dark until it passed, still a slight headache but thankfully no migrane

annie thinking of you today.....