Mid 30's TTC--Gin Palace Two: Spawn of the BESH

[SarahAbroad]

Hey all...

Hope this thread name is okay...just moved the Gin Palace around the corner before we ran out of space!

See you soon. The bar's open!

ginhag - oh yeah, she's not stupid. But she'll comprehend: 'Ah, she's hoping she's preg but isn't going to say anything till she's sure, so I'll bite my lip until I get confirmation/permission'. If I AM updiffed, as soon as I tell 'em, she'll be all 'I KNEW it!'. My Dad, however, will not have picked up on any inferences, so it will be a surprise for him at least

Well, talking of parent-types, am off for a week tomorrow to The Land That All Human Expression (And Food With Flavour) Forgot, aka TYF's family home in Devon. His family are lovely (well, apart from his elder brother, who, as far as I can tell, is fashioned from pure beige), the house is nice (they are well-off: have a lake) and it's a great part of the world, but no-one expresses an opinion or says anything remotely emotional, even 'warmly acknowledging' something nice someone does for another. they bring new meaning to the term 'emotionally repressed'. And the cooking, Jesus. Because I have food allergies, she gives me things like a giant lump of goat's cheese or a plain chicken breast. And that's it. Even though there's loads of things I can have. And she gets mardy if I want to cook for myself. Aaaaargh! Great for weight loss, I guess.

Okay, moan over. Now tell me, if The Rustiness of Doom is due a week on Monday, would it be reasonable to do one of those 'up to 6 days early' pg tests next Saturday? Bah, why can't they bring one out you can test the day after you've ovulated?!

Oh dear.... in laws can be tricky! What food are you allergic to btw? Do you have an Epipen? I'm allergic to nuts, shellfish, strawberries and sesame.

Testing before the day AF is due is a waste of a good text - trust me!

um, waste of a good test. Stupid Malbec.

Skater do not have any anaphylaxis allergies luckily - sorry for you if you do

I wrote briefly about allergies the other week: am allergic to wheat, gluten, dairy, yeast and all sugars, and a few random things (like aubergine). This sounds a lot, and it is, but she cooks v plainly. She does things like makes a roast dinner - which I can have minus the gravy (and can make own gravy with the meat juices anyway in 1 min) - and she'll dish out a roast dinner for everyone and then give me a plate with a big lump of cheese on it. When I (v nicely) point out that I could have the same meal, she says she forgot and all my allergies are too confusing. I wouldn't mind, but she made me write out a list of what I can't eat and she put it up on her kitchen noticeboard and judging by the amount of comments from other family members and neighbours, she discusses the issue and me endlessly She's not being a bitch: TYF and his little brother both hate eggs and mushrooms and she regularly makes them omelettes or things with mushrooms in (she insists on being alpha-mum and cooking all the meals for 'her men'. V annoying). She's from a huge Catholic family and they have no boundaries and no experience of anything 'different' being taken into consideration. I also get sick to the teeth of her and the whole extended family constantly asking me about having allergies and treating me like I'm a freak and going on about what I'm missing (er, thanks?) She asks me if I want anything buying in for when we visit, but although I describe things in minute detail to her, she then gets things she thinks I might 'fancy instead' and then gets furious when I politely tell her I can't eat them. I know I sound really ungrateful and petty, but it means I have to either lug a week's worth of food down there (5+ hours in a crap freezer bag is hardly ideal for freshness) or buy my own food when we go down there - they live in the middle of nowhere, so finding somewhere to buy from is a nightmare - and I'm skint and they are practically millionaires... and my Mum cooks at least one meal a week for TYF and asks him what he would like and does really fancy recipes with expensive ingredients.

Aaaaaaand breath. Sorry, that was a v long, self-indulgent rant there. Have been cooking up huge amounts of grub this evening to take and eat/freeze. Will be the very model of delightful, middle-class manners and (nearly) DIL perfection. Even if I have to keep nipping outside to have a big sweary tourette's, as she doesn't approve of swearing (even 'damn'!). SIGH. Seeing as I'm from the Peak District, where we use 'bugger' as a term of endearment every 5 mins, trying not to is a nightmare.

Will let my madness belief that I'm updiffed keep me cool, calm and collected...

Sorry, that really was too long and I sound a right brat

haha @ Scorpette

Well... my parents don't discuss emotions, emotions are something common people have. She's a bit la-di-da finishing school in Switzerland type and my dad is from the Highlands where they don't have time for emotions because they're too busy eating porridge with salt or hunting haggis. Ergo I was in my 30s until I experienced an emotion, apparently "pissed as a fart" isn't an emotion. This is where my darling jailbait comes in handy, common as muck, heart on his sleeve Glaswegian. He might be barely out of short trousers but he's taught me so much about feeling/emotions. I've taught him to ski, ride horses & shoot pheasant! I hope you have a pleasant week anyway - forget the food, 'tis only food.

Skater We were told there had been terrible rain in the UK this week but hardly a drop over here. Bizarre. I've actually been feeling really sorry for Liz Jones of late, her columns have seemed very "raw". She seems to have finally realised that a lifetime of chasing 34" hips, designer handbags and materialistic shit has not brought her happiness... and now she's 50, in debt up to her eyeballs and has realised it all means nothing. It's not an enviable position to be in at all. Poor woman needs a hug, a shit load of therapy and a cream bun.

ginhag any news?

Must look up that Liz Jones one - being Johnny Foreigner I don't know here at all. Fun times ahead.

Nocoffee fantastic news - when are you due? And you may NOT fuck off.

On that note can we call the next thread "TTC AND up-diffed"? Will be good karma.

Scorpette my dad has strong Aspergers I would say, or some general strong mentalness anyway. Asfor FIL, don't get me started....actually i will vent one day.

ski is it hot over in NL all summer, or it just a heatwave

donttry she was Anna Wintour-lite! Editor at Marie-Claire for years. I'm in the south and it's always bloody hot here, 35 is quite normal in july & august.

Woo! Congratulations, nocoffee. Echoing the 'who said you could leave now' sentiments - those who are updiffed need to kick about and tell us all the horrorsdelights of pregnancy.

Skater I think you'll find that's yummy Malbec. Had a very lovely red wine/late night gossip session with one of my best mates in the whole world last night, and everything seems much cheerier today. Even the sun is shining.

I think Liz Jones might actually be having another nervy b And I'm not sure where the "former" came from in that title.

ski only news is that my body is fucking about...

Bit of spitting again today (bright red blood)

has started to increase a bit tho is very far from being a trickle,never mind a tide!

However I think it's just an insanely slow starting RTOD.most stats I've read show implantation bleeding not that common,usually pink or brownish,and dwindles rather than building.mine is not exactly building much but am bleeding more than I was...

If I don't get a proper RTOD kicking in soon I will test,but more out of desperate hope than anything.I really can't be arsed with the rollercoaster of hope and despair that is ttc.and even if I do get duffed I'll be out of my mind with worry for at least 12 weeks after last time...

Blah blah fuckin' blah.I need another pint I think.

'ello ladies

Congratulations nocoffee - great news and big Vs to the daily mail...

So I tested on Saturday... inside the ketchup sachet was a tiny little cardboard stick about the width of a matchstick and twice as long. Got a very very faint line - so going to do another before I am willing to believe anything. It's definitely a line, but given the general unconvincingness of the device I think I'll do a couple - and also going to get the fella to do one as well to compare! So heck.... am a bit stunned at the idea at the moment - doesn't seem real...

On the symptoms spotting subject - I don't have any other symptoms at all at the moment. Have had a few months recently when I could have named half a dozen and clearly wasn't pregnant - so I reckon it's just another one of those things that you just don't know and just doesn't help - bit like everything else to do with getting diffed really...

Hey hadalongweeonastick

wooo hoooo!! That actually means you are duffed.even if you are in denial

as long as the test line had some colour in and you can see if without waiting for the light to hit in a certain way,and the control line came up...

YOU ARE FECKING PREGNANT!!

Woop woop etc

Sorry,have you fainted?

fuck me - 2 more preggers lushes!!!

well done Nocoffee and longwee you've done us all proud

and ditto everyone else. stick around and give us news. we might even stop smacking you around so much now

also, thanks for all the birthday greets ...

WOOHOO longwee!!!!! A line is a line, even if faint! Let's hope we're all going to be able to flick the Vs at the Daily Heil ASAP! Perhaps our bitter and twisted outlook on the world actually keeps our ovaries fresh and youthful?

I've gone 180 degrees and am now convincing myself that my 'symptoms' were just normal menstrual cycle crap I was noticing that I wouldn't pay attention to normally. Am bored of myself now.

Nearly- MIL cooked an actual nice meal that I could relatively enjoy, whoop!

Cheeeeeers cheggers!!

longwee that's the same test as I had. And the same (only ) symptom. You is duffed!

Did i say happy birthday to cheggers?

Had a nice swim in sea and cycle by river today, so all thoughts of running away to Zeeland have been banished. Looks nice tho ski (spent a few obsessive hours looking before i realised the sun was actually shining behind the firmly closed blinds).

BTW the test was described on the website I bought it as 99.98% accurate....

Hmmmm yeah, it probably is true but I think I will stay in denial land for a while longer yet as the reality is just too much for me to comprehend... And I will also certainly be staying in the gin palace (if you'll have me) - accidentally looked up what it's done by 5 weeks and found something that said it has a brain and hands and a beating heart already. Surely that's gotta be a load of bollocks - it's only the size of a pinhead isnt' it? Anyway, can't cope with that kind of shit yet..... Fuckety fuck

longwee and nocoffee - Hooray! Many congratulations!

nice one Scorpette. but did you manage to curtail your northern gob?

was tittering yesterday thinking of fellow northerner stifling sweariness with posh southern rellies.

well, my blokey may be southern but is not actually that posh. he still had findus crispy pancakes and arctic roll in his childhood repertoire

longwee hands already

err... sometimes i forget that this TCC malarky is about more than just getting that blinking line .....

Cheggers that's exactly it - we started trying about 6 or 7 months ago - I was far from convinced about kids at that point but given our age and the fella's keenness and the fact it might take a couple of years it seemed like the right time to give it a whirl. So the next few months I spent symptom spotting and obsessing as to whether it would ever happen - and I forgot to get used to the idea of not only getting pregnant but actually having a BABY (then a child, then a teenager...) with a personality and feelings and tantrums and the need to be completely looked after for years and the potential to get completely fucked up by its parents. And now I'm pregnant and absolutely fucking stunned by the whole thing. And I've got 2 days to write a report on the strategic direction of one of our projects and all I'm doing is staring out of the window and googling what the fuck do you do once you know you're pregnant.

Realliy sorry to all the lushes who would swap places with me any day, but it's so good to have somewhere to say all these things when you're not telling anyone else in the first few weeks.

So, since this isn't RL who's up for a round of tequila slammersl.....

Longwee!!! Yay! Up-diffed! Hurrah!

I'll have a slammer please. Or two. or three.

I have absolutely no idea what I would do if I got a line. I think my head would explode. Concentrating on one hurdle at a time - the only way I can even consider the SWI/TCC party.