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The WIMBEWAI(N)F Club - Only a few more to find!

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BuckyAndCocktails · 02/07/2009 16:54

New thread girlies....running out of credit on the stupid hotel internet connection...so can't say anything..duh..

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digitalgirl · 21/07/2009 10:09

GG fingers crossed this BFP is a sticky one. Brown spotting is usually ok. Hope you get some reassurance soon.

Caitni · 21/07/2009 11:50

GG I've just replied to your message on FB - think I can help a bit - am about to pop into a meeting but will check in here/FB later xxx

GorgonsGin · 21/07/2009 12:02

hello there everyone

I've been to Hammersmith and spoke to a doctor who was sympathetic, but not much more than that . Caitni, they gave me some extra progesterone, which was lucky although they did it a little reluctantly. I got the usual spiel about bleeding being common in early pregnancy (I know, but this has happened - identically - before), that they couldn't do anything except advise taking it easy and waiting. They couldn't comment that it seemed to be identical to last time, i.e. BFP and bleeding in tandem. When I asked if it could be hormonal and if there was anything I sh/could take, he very helpfully told me that "if it's another early miscarriage then we'll see about doing some more tests" which he wouldn't elaborate on. They gave me a blood test to confirm the BFP, like last time, but effectively will do nothing it seems until I come up for my post-IVF review meeting. Great!

I still have brown spotting, which is light but possibly heavier than yesterday and some mild cramping, but I can't even go to our (only) bathroom to knicker check, because the tiler is there all day and it's minus a door. When I need a pee he has to go and stand in the spare room and hum a tune. The bleeding is not quite the same as last time which was bright red blood and severe cramping, but it's enough to have me freaking, especially because DH has gone away for work, so I am on my own (not counting the plumber!) and he told me not to "lie around all day feeling sorry for myself"

Caitni · 21/07/2009 12:10

GG am really rushing now but just wanted to say ((hugs)) - glad you got the progesterone (but check my FB message just in case) but it's awful that you're going through this when a) your DH is away and b) you've got a tiler in your bathroom. I think lying around is just about the perfect thing to do in this circumstance...

...right am now off to the meeting now!
xxx

GorgonsGin · 21/07/2009 12:26

Thanks for all your kind words Caitni, Picknmix, DG and MrsH.

Now the bleeding is red and I've got clots . Just had a huge cramp, so can only conclude that it's all going to be identical to last time, with a predictably crap end result of nothing . I am at a loss - I am only allowed 2 hours of euphoria at a BFP before my world comes crashing down. And I'm stuck at home trying to "take it easy" with the flat in chaos and I just want to scream at the plumber (who is lovely) to GO AWAY AND LEAVE ME ALONE! DH is in bl**dy Derby and not coming home tonight. Arghhhh!

PicknMix · 21/07/2009 12:51

Oh GG, I am so so sorry to hear that

Could you tell the builder to go home for the day so you can have some space? Is there no way DH can come back tonight?

I wish there was more I could do or say - would you like me to come up to see you? I'm kind of at a lose end today but I am full of cold (snot and no voice) so don't want to end up passing it on to you.

Please take care of yourself and let me know if you need anything xx

GorgonsGin · 21/07/2009 13:00

picknmix - you are so kind to think of me. I am being a right Moaning Mini today, sorry. Thank you for being lovely, but I'll be ok here and it's miles fro you. I am not much fun to be around .

I have thought about asking the builders to go, but really not sure what I could say to them, other than the truth, which I can't face saying to anyone apart from typing it out on this thread. I am in pieces and trying not to cry in front of them.

I have called and emailed DH and asked if he can please, please come home tonight, but can't get hold of him. I suspect he will not be able to

PicknMix · 21/07/2009 13:17

Just tell the builders that there's been a family crisis and could they please down tools for the day as you have people coming over. I'm sure they're compassionate enough not to ask too many questions...

Also, why on earth are you calling yourself a 'moaning mini'?! You are nothing of the sort. And I wasn't expecting you to be a barrel of laughs although, without a voice I'm not sure I can be that consoling. Its only a train ride away so if you change your mind....

I hope you manage to get hold of DH. If he can't come down here, could you get up to Derby to see him? Although, I'm sure you prob want your own things around you rather than a hotel room but at least you'd have DH?

GorgonsGin · 21/07/2009 13:44

The builders have gone - not sure if I'm crying more from the relief of being by myself with no hammering or the bleeding. I broke down in tears and asked them to leave because I had some "bad news and needed space". I startled them so badly, they started backing out the front door saying "Oh god, sorry, sorry, are you sure you are ok?!" while trying to pat me on the shoulder.

DH is trying his best to come home tonight. He wasn't too chuffed at the dismissal of the builders, but I don't give a flying f*ck . I spoke to him and he started um-ing and ah-ing about coming home until I burst into tears and begged. I don't think I can go to Derby - I'm in a lot of discomfort now and DH is with a team of people in the same hotel.

PicknMix · 21/07/2009 14:15

I'm really pleased the builders have gone now - not surprised your crying more now. The cost of a half day of builders pay is small price to pay to give you the space you need right now.

Really pleased you've got hold of DH and he's trying hard to get home to be with you tonight.

How are you feeling now? Is the cramping getting worse? I know you said the hospital said you just had to sit it out but did they say whether you should contact them if your symptoms got any worse?

Madoldbird · 21/07/2009 14:18

Oh GG I cannot believe this is happening again. I'm glad you've kicked the builder out & i hope DH will see that you need him at home.

It's utter crap and i know i cannot say anything to make things better. Surely the hospital will see a pattern developing here now?? The most important thing is that you take care of yourself (- and lie around as much as you want or need). Have a good cry and know that we are all here for you. XX

Caitni · 21/07/2009 14:22

GG am glad the builders have gone and that your DH is trying to get back. As PnM says a half day's work is a small price to pay for you having the space you need. Your DH needs to get back from Derby - this a "family emergency" - as you need to just put your feet up, with a hot water bottle/heat pad if you have one, and you need your DH with you for the love and support you need. Am really rooting for this little bean to stick. Am sure you're sick of googling but so many women have bleeding in early pregnancy and go on to have healthy babies. Here's to you being one of them.

PS Cannot believe the doctor at the hospital was so utterly insensitive

Madoldbird · 21/07/2009 14:27

Yes - just to add - What caitni says is absolutely right - the bleeding does not automatically mean everything is over (meant to add that to my last post and posted too soon).

GorgonsGin · 21/07/2009 14:58

MOB Caitni - thanks for the kind words, I am really trying not to lose hope, but i can't see it being anything other than bad news for me and the bean(s). The bleeding is like last time - heavy now with clots and cramping and is bright red . I dug out the remains of that bumper pack of bloomin' Tena Lady incontinence pads that DH mistakenly bought for me last time this happened. I had superstitiously not bought any sanitary pads and now I can't face going out the flat to get any.

picknmix - you are right. Half a days wages for the absent plumbers feels like nothing compared to gaining peace and quiet (even if I am unemployed!). I'm just so pleased to be able to cry in peace. I might even clear the dust and paint and grouting out of the bath and have a long soak.

Thanks for responding all day to my misery and for being there for me, ladies. I've never been more upset and you are all so brilliant.

Caitni · 21/07/2009 19:32

GG how are you? Hope the bleeding has stopped and that your DH will be home soon. Thinking of you xxx

MrsHappy · 21/07/2009 19:43

Oh GG it is so crappy that you think the same is happening again. Why the hell can't it just be straightforward for once? God knows you deserve it to be.

I hope the bleeding has stopped. I also hope your DH comes home and takes good care of you.

If there is anything I can do to cheer you up, just say.

digitalgirl · 21/07/2009 20:17

GG I'm so sorry you're going through this again . It's so unfair. I hope your DH managed to get home to you.

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BuckyAndCocktails · 21/07/2009 20:48

GG We have spoken. Sending lots and lots of hugs your way. xx

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GorgonsGin · 22/07/2009 07:22

hi there and sorry for not remembering my manners and asking how you all are. Any news? Please come and distract me with happy news

The bright red bleeding hasn't stopped and I have been having agonising cramps, clots, the works throught the night. It's such a violent reaction. My body is trying very hard to get rid of my beans - I feel like I am being scoured from the inside. My HCG test from the hospital was 72, so clearly +ve. I have to go back on Monday for another blood test to confirm the HCG is going down. I am convinced is no WAY it could go up after all this, so looks like it's all over. Again . I am redundant with no job and unable to conceive after two rounds of IVF. Doesn't do wonders for your self confidence, really.

GorgonsGin · 22/07/2009 07:24

p.s. DH came home . I was so pleased to see him.

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BuckyAndCocktails · 22/07/2009 09:01

GG . I am in the process of devising a hair brain plan to earn a few thousand extra pounds in a month so I can go on my girl's week away in September. Let't think of a plan.....maybe we could sell Preseed on Hampstead Heath or start a hotline .

Hey if they can do it on the apprentice, I can bleedin do it....Any ideas anyone?

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GorgonsGin · 22/07/2009 09:45

bucky - I think that KY Jelly is more likely to sell on Hampstead Heath than pre-seed, but it's a good idea!

Are you eBay-ing all your stuff to make enough money to go on holiday?

Funnily enough, I am job hunting today. There is not much out there, but I am considering applying to be a judge I think it will suit my bossy nature..

hello to everyone else.

GGx

PicknMix · 22/07/2009 09:55

Morning,

A judge eh GG?? Have you found many jobs to apply for? Really pleased to hear DH made it home last night, has he had to go back up there again this morning? Have the builders returned today?

I'm selling a lot of stuff as well Bucky - wanna go into business although I'm guessing your stuff is a bit more glam than mine. We suddenly realised we have 3 (yep, three) cookers sat in our barn, along with 3 dining tables and a tumble dryer we never use, a buggy bought for neices, nephews and godkids and various other bits of junk. Although DH has done that age old trick of finding things that he couldn't possibly sell even though he hasn't used them for years....

Where you off to in Sept? I'm going away with a group of friends to a villa near Toulon in France (went a few years ago, beautiful place) tres cheap as well as villa is free (belongs to friends family) and flights only £20!!!! Bargain!

I still have no voice, hence why writing so much - you guys are my only conversation at the moment

Caitni · 22/07/2009 11:05

GG sorry to hear that the bleeding hasn't stopped . Glad your DH made it home though.

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BuckyAndCocktails · 22/07/2009 12:35

I wouldn't say my stuff was glam LOL. CDs, Books, a 15 year old TV, an old sofa etc etc...Not even sure how to sell it. I have never had any success on eBay, apparently my stuff is too crap for anyone to want to buy .

GG I would LOVE to be a judge . Is it judges or barristers who get to wear the big wig thing...

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