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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Trying for February baby?

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StarryEyed · 10/05/2005 09:47

Hi

I am new to Mumsnet and was wondering if any Mumsnet users trying for a baby would like to chat. I have a dd who is 2 and want another baby desperately. I have only been trying for one month and thought I was pregnant last month but was wrong. I got pregnant within a month with dd and thought the same would happen again. Could use some baby dust.

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flamesparrow · 16/06/2005 08:56

Dana - I was like that from day 8 to day 15 (poor man didn't know what hit him)... and now I have no interest.

Good to know when I ovulate, but poor Boy is gettin very mixed signals!!!

homemama · 16/06/2005 08:58

Morning,
AF appeared to arrive yeasterday but has gone again this morning?!? Obviously she didn't like the decor! You'd think after 18months there'd be more than a couple of hours worth. I don't know whether to start counting days or wait for a return visit?
As DS is my first, is this normal after stopping BF?

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StarryEyed · 16/06/2005 09:29

Hi girls

So much for having my DH on standby. Things are VERY busy at work and he came in at 10pm last night and was too exhausted to do the deed and I felt I couldn't jump on him again so no BDing last night. I think I OVed on 14 June and did BD twice that day but you never know do you? Not terribly hopeful so we will see.

I hate being in a desperate rush every month around OV time - if only we had the time to spend trying to get pregnant I wouldn't be in such a state every month but hey ho. Couldn't start TTC earlier because I was on medication until Jan which could have been lethal for a baby. Was given the go ahead in March to start TTC but DH only agreed to give it a go in April. I wish I could have started much earlier.

Sorry for the moan but I did so want to have a March baby like my DD but not very hopeful now. Roll on the 2WW.

Will catch up with all of you later. Have to start work now or will be fired!!

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desperatehousewife · 16/06/2005 09:51

what is cd? i'm getting lost in all these acronyms!

Dana · 16/06/2005 10:32

desperatehousewife - cd = cycle day. I get a bit confused too

Starry, sorry you are feeling a bit down. Twice on the day should be enough though, so don't give up hope just yet. Moan all you want though, that's what we're here for

Homemama - Can't really remember what happened for me after DS, but think it can take a while for AF to go back to normal. Must be frustrating though

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StarryEyed · 16/06/2005 11:24

Thank you.

Can't really moan to DH. I hope so but I'm not very good at telling when I've OVed because I haven't had to do it before. Just to be sure I am going to BD today (if I can grab DH first) and tomorrow. Not looking forward to the waiting.

Desperatehousewife - glad to see you back. How are you? Where are you on your cycle day? Don't worry about the shortforms - you get the hand soon enough

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desperatehousewife · 16/06/2005 12:23

Hi Starry,

on cd 12 (do you count the first day of your last period?)

Not sure I even want to try this month - am still kind of hanging on to the idea that I need to shift quite a bit of weight before I try.

!

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StarryEyed · 16/06/2005 13:49

Hi DH

Yes I do. Nice to hear from you anyway.

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flamesparrow · 17/06/2005 08:33

Due today

desperatehousewife · 17/06/2005 08:34

FS, how obsessed and derranged do you feel? It's a vile feeling isn't it. A bit like PMT, you become totally led by hormones and not in control!

Good luck - will keep everything crossed for you!

flamesparrow · 17/06/2005 08:42

Lol - not feeling too bad right now... will probably be rocking in a corner by the end of the weekend.

My periods were so irregular before the pill, that I can't really rely on "due today"... I've been advised to wait til NEXT Friday before testing.

desperatehousewife · 17/06/2005 08:46

omg. Wer'e here for you! We'll try and keep you sane...

flamesparrow · 17/06/2005 08:51

We can run a poll on how quick I'll crack and test

QueenFlounce · 17/06/2005 08:54

Thread crashing once again to say GOODLUCK to you all!! Flamesparrow..... I give you til 3pm today. Could be a honeymoon baby? My dd is.

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StarryEyed · 17/06/2005 09:06

Hi girls

I've got to moan again. Tried to do the deed with DH last night but he said he wasn't in the mood. WHAT!!! Honestly when you need him to perform he doesn't feel like it but when it is the wromg time of the month he wants to go at it like rabbits. What is it with him??? Totally fed up as we haven't done anything for three days now and I'm convinced this month is a gonner. Really sad and angry that he is not supporting me in this. I think he feels he is being used and he wants the whole thing to be more natural if you know what I mean but then if I had the time to do that I would. The frank answer is we are fighting against time and it is making me paranoid which does not help the situation. I was nearly in tears this morning from the frustration of it all.

Sorry girls. Thank you for listening. How are all of you anyway. Looking forward to the weekend? Doing anything nice?

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flamesparrow · 17/06/2005 09:08

He's not having second thoughts is he Starry?

homemama · 17/06/2005 09:36

FS, fingers and toes crossed for you!
SE, Sorry to hear about your situation with DH. My DH was complaining he felt used (and we've only been trying 1 month) because of the 'right, it has to be now' attitude I showed. We had a long talk about it and although he thought I was acting a bit desperate (Wait til he sees me in 6m if nothing has happened!!)he agreed to 2 'clinical' days as long as I promised fun and spontaneity the rest of the month. Although with a 7month old DS who still doesnt sleep, washing my hair is spontaneity! We'll see!
Hope you can resolve it. Good luck!

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StarryEyed · 17/06/2005 10:20

No I'm sure he hasn't changed his mind. It's just that he doesn't like it to be clinical and motivated by dates IYSWIM. I can understand that but I am trying to maximise our chances of conceiving at the same time.

Not easy. He thinks I have plenty of time yet but like the rest of you I am already obsessed after two months. Must try and have a chat with him this evening. He has been so busy it hasn't been easy.

I think I am coming down with something though. Don't feel well.

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MandM · 17/06/2005 10:30

SE - I think you're dh's response is pretty much the norm, unfortunately. It's amazing how the male brain manages to see things, and it's obviously not something we are meant to understand(!), but as my friend's dh put it 'I'm a man, not a machine'. Weird how they only think that for the most important 4 days of the month isn't it!

FS - I'm not even putting a bet on, you've probably cracked already!!!!! good luck!

homemama · 17/06/2005 12:27

SE, the 'coming down with something' could well be anxiety and frustration.
When my DH discovered I'd joined this thread, he asked if you were all a bunch of 'Desperate Dans' like me. Says it all really!

Dana · 17/06/2005 12:50

Homemama - how did he know?

Starry, hope you manage to have a chat with DH tonight. As the others say, I think it's a normal reaction. I would imagine that it can put them under a bit of pressure to have to perform and "deliver" at a set time. I think for a lot of men it also leaves a dent in their male ego every month it doesn't work (=they haven't delivered the goods) - does that make sense? Probably not rambling on a bit here.

Just as well I am off on my holidays tomorrow. Am really looking forward to it, haven't had a proper holiday for 3 years.

Sending lots of babydust in your direction, Flame, and keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Have a great weekend everyone, will catch up when back from holidays. (did I mention, I am going on my holidays? )

MandM · 17/06/2005 13:01

Dana - Are you going on holiday by any change?
Where are you off to?

homemama · 17/06/2005 13:03

lol Dana! It was a case of 'I'll show you mine if you show me yours' but that's a different thread altogether!!!

Dana · 17/06/2005 13:11

homemama

It's funny you should ask, MandM, because I am actually going on holiday tomorrow. Don't know how you guessed

I am going to the westcoast of Denmark in a rented holiday home by the sea (with Jacuzzi and sauna, he he )
Not particularly exotic, like the maldives , but should be nice all the same. Praying for good weather!!

MandM · 17/06/2005 13:49

Have a fab time! Scandanavia is sooo beautiful and jacuzis and saunas can provide hours of endless fun!