Big day on the postings . . . where to begin? With the bedridden . . . Hey Nanoo get up if you want to . . women have been told to lie down and take it for ever . . . my clinic just said no tennis or horseriding, which considering that they, along with yoga are my favourite forms of exercise seemed a bit mean. Yoga got the thumbs up though. And LL stay there, right where you are . . . this could be serious and it's not worth it (if you were even thinking about getting up). My friend had a similar situation, unfortunately she gave birth. Her little boy is fine - but it was very touch and go for two months. They both had to stay in hospital for the rest of term (and then some) and it's amazing to me that he is completely normal. It sounds like you got there in good time though, and my mum had a similar thing with me at 7 months, as did my best friend and both pregnancies went to full term. Also, I am totally with LL about the 'quality' stuff nanoo - I just think they need to make a decision so they have worked out some guidleines (and fair enough, maybe it's better than pot luck), but that's all they are. There's no ryhme or reason to any of this stuff.
LL loved your story about your wedding dresses - I remember reading addvertisements for similar sets when I was doing a essay on the role of photography in weddings (basic theory, no one cared too much about them until they could be photographed - that was when they became a staged event as we know it). It seemed rather sad at that time that all those women were selling their unused dresses, but your story puts a positive twist on it.
I'm glad you liked my idea of a post IVF thread Bumpless, feel free to get started - though I am not going to join you quite yet. I think there is so much to deal with and still more decisions to be made - DE, Adoption, remaining childess . . . but it does need a new forum. I suggest calling it "When IVF fails . . . " or "Life after IVF . . . with no children'. I know that sounds a bit negative - but it needs to pop up when people are doing searches . . . I have already starting reading a bit about what happens to couples after IVF, apparently depression rates are very high. The good news is that the divorce rate is suprisingly low - less than 10%, much lower than the general population so ? Who knows, but I think after all this treatment and support from links like this it will be weird to be cut loose.
I am having my own little battle with an old dear friend who I have managed to offend and would like some advice from you bods. He got married a few years ago to a woman of 38 and they became pregnant pregnant pretty easily. They had a child, and then a miscarriage. Anyway the complication is that she is a homeopath, and those of you who know me know that I am quite skeptical about alternative therapies. Anyway, after the miscarriage they had about 6 months of trying and after treatment with acupuncure are now pregnant. So he writes me this email saying I must try it - look we've had sucess! Now my position on this, is considering they have had two pregnancies prior to accupuncture this is not at all conlcusive, and I just felt like he was bragging. So I didn't reply. He emailed again and I told him what I thought - that it was really thoughtless of him to compare our situations (we've been TTC for 5 years since I was 36) and now he's gone silent on me . . . I think it all comes back to a conversation I had with his wife about 5 years ago when she said in her philosophy of health "you are in control of everything that goes on in your body" which I reacted to angrily because my godmother was dying of cancer (kicking and screaming all the way). Anyway yaddah yaddah yaddah, I hate this business and how it makes you so jealous of all your friends and resentful of their successes . . . . I know you guy's will be supportive and so I'm not really asking advice I'm just venting my frustrations and having to deal with all the implications and prejudices, and blame pointed against not being fertile !!!