Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul.

[MumOfBaby]

Hi all.

Needing some extra support this time round as have just had a MC. We are trying again straight away. But I've a feeling it's going to take ages. Got pregnant first month trying last 2 times. I have 1 DC- 11 months.

I want some people to join this thread who are ready to hold hands and help each other through the TTC.

Good luck to all.

...if I get to CD50 is there some sort of prize?

i think there should be

we never did the bd last night - had a row about how little we bd instead .... nice

apples i think there should be

Evening

Thought I'd just update the list.

Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 CD48
Chamois TTC#1 UCL ? cycle ? CD38
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL ? cycle 1 CD37
LittleOneMum TTC#2, UCL 33, cycle 0, CD34
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD33
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD33
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD28/29
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD28
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 4 CD25
VivCliquot TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD23
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 1 CD14
Waiting TTC#1 UCL 26-33 cycle 1 CD12
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 1 CD12

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt (suspect molar pgy / mc weds 2nd sept)
boodleboot BFP 21st August
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September

cheepz your not alone, my DH and I also had an argument, about his parents and DS going into nursery. We never bd either .

Supposed to have sex tonight, but considering he's started drinking whisky (apparentely only the Irish and the Americans spell it as whiskey), I can't see it happening.

We'll see...

well we got one in the bag - and it was a corker. have decided to make a concerted effort to make bd not be all about baby and abit more about dancing, we'll see. Have been feeling crampy today so thats good but not so much ewcm so not sure

em, trixel, barrenbrook and tfls - news please!

chamo, littleonemum -- you holding up alright at the top there with mrsr and apples who we know are not alright

zayja - not heard from you for a while, hope things are going ok

tiger - hope you had an ok weekend too and are not stressing too much

xx night all

Thanks Cheepz - had a nice weekend. The bleeding hasn't come back, which is good. Not sure if I'm imagining it, but my boobs feel a bit sore and am feeling tired all of the time... Only a day to go, then I can test again.

I have noted, by, you know, casually going back through posts, that Meita came to the end of her post mc WTF cycle at CD46.. I am still going at CD 49 on Monday. That means, well, firstly, I WIN, but secondly I didn't want to win this..

tigerbear it sounds positive that your no longer bleeding and have pregnancy symptoms, though I know that can still happen after a mc , but I have my fingers crossed for you. Really hope you still get a positive/pregnant/two lines when you test .

applesaretheonlyfruit prepare to have your record broken, I'm on CD38 at the moment. When you get your period in the next couple of days, I'll still be waiting for mine and waiting and waiting and waiting and waiting...

I really hope everyone has either got a period or BFP or is ovulating.

And not stuck in no mans land like me, on CD38 (have I mentioned I'm on CD38 and no period or BFP) with no hope in sight and not a clue as to what is going on.

Aarghhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa aaaaaaaaaaaaa .

Monday's list:

Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 CD49
Chamois TTC#1 UCL ? cycle ? CD39
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL ? cycle 1 CD38
LittleOneMum TTC#2 UCL 33 cycle 0 CD35
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD34
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD34
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD29/30
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD29
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 4 CD26
VivCliquot TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD24
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 1 CD15
Waiting TTC#1 UCL 26-33 cycle 1 CD13
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 1 CD13

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt (suspect molar pgy / mc weds 2nd sept)
boodleboot BFP 21st August
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September

Tiger, I am keeping my fingers crossed for you SO much. I even lay in bed last night and wondered how you were!

Well, things are very odd this end. Had a massive fight with DH last night (Tiger, sounded just like yours) - he started it with the 'well, you've been very difficult to live with this month' type comments. AAARGH! I've just had a MC, you idiot... Of course I've been hard to live with.

and then, this morning, having concluded that a 35 day cycle is weird even for me, I tested again and yes, BFP! I can't honestly believe it, as I haven't had my AF since the MC... Jesus.

Having MCed last month I am far from getting excited though...

Oh and Cheepz we rowed about how little we BD as well, with DH saying 'You can't really want another baby if you're not BDing more'... Men! I totally sympathise.

LittleOneMum thats brilliant news - very exciting, another grad - thats 2 this month so far!!

Fingers and toes crossed for you, as you say early days and you are bound to be anxious having only just had the mc but theres no reason to think that you are any more likely to have any problems or have that happen again just because it has happened so quic

PS - its good news for me too that you don't bd very often but still made a bean - i think last night was our only shot at it for this month so if i do get pg dating it will be easy ;)

does anyone think its worth another go cd15/16?

LITTLEONEMUM congrats.. i know its hard to be happy but if you look back at mine and stressy's posts around this time you can see we were both panicked and tearful instead of excited..

after a couple of days tho i just thought i have to try and be happy and positive for this bean coz its not his/her fault about what happened. and i know that i had a bad experience but every bean deserves your hope and love.

hope thats ok to say but i was talking to dh last night about hopefully being allowed by the drs to try again in 6 months and really that if i do get pregnant again even with two mcs under my belt that i've learned that you cant control things and you cant protect yourself from the process you just have to go with it..

And yes i'm still hanging about here a bit, you guys are wayyyy more fun than the miscarriage boards

good luck littleonemum and tiger

xxx

Lee I am really crossing my fingers for you too.

Cheepz I think that as long as you do it on the right day... !

Hi ladies

Hope you're all well and a big hurrah for littleonemum What brilliant news.

I'm on day 26 of my cycle and starting to get nervous about getting AF. Have been getting crampy twinges since Friday, but have also been feeling nauseous on and off, so am hoping it's good news rather than bad.

On the plus side, my hen do was totally and utterly brilliant (and ever so slightly drunken).

Love to all x

Hello ladies!

It's been a while... I've been reading along but didn't have the leisure to sit down and write. MIL has been here for the weekend...

First of all, big WOWs and congratulations and happy hugs to becky and Little !!! I'm so happy for you, and reading your news makes me happy for myself too, as it reminds me that it will happen for me too, some day. So I'm anxiously awaiting more good news from both of you - do keep us posted on any further BFPs and so on! (Particularly chuffed about becky graduating although you had already anounced to be stealing my place at the bottom of the list keep us updated on the four-magpies-twin-boys front, will you?)(oh, and little - I don't think I've properly said hello to you yet - anyway, hi and welcome here, it is a good place to be as you have probably already found out - although I'm sorry for the reason that leads us here. DPs and DHs can be quite difficult in the post-MC time. I'm sorry yours is being no exception! Did you tell him to shut up? How did he react to the BFP? I hope you don't mind me shifting you to the graduates list.)

Second, Lee I just want to tell you that you have been in my thoughts. I'm glad you are still hanging about here a bit. It's amazing how calm you appear to be about it all; isn't it true that the MC experience doesn't just make us lose our innocence, but (after the worst pain and sadness and rage is over) it does also make us a little bit more wise? Your story made me, once again, put things into perspective. Btw, has it been confirmed to be/have been molar pg now? Or are you still waiting for results? Either way, I'm truly so sorry that this has happened to you.

tiger it sounds like you have had a very rollercoaster-type of emotional week... hang on in there. Bleeding could be anything - it happens in healthy pregnancies. But more usually it is a sign that something is going wrong. If I were you I would try not to get my hopes up too much for that test you will be doing soon. But I know what it feels like, that time when your rational mind and your emotional feelings just won't agree. So I am hoping for you that your test will show a surprise BFP and all will be well! And if not, please never tell yourself you don't have the right to be sad! However short it was, you were pregnant, and losing that is sad, very sad. You have EVERY right! I had only known for a week that I was pg, when I MCed... but still I was shattered and blown to bits like I have rarely experienced anything before.

apples the waiting is baaaaad... isn't it just. Hang on in there. AF will arrive, sometime. Or, wait a moment - is there any chance you are pg? Anyway, for you I'd gladly give up my place at the bottom of the list. I remember too well the relief when AF finally arrived. I'm thinking of you.

zayja hmmm any news? I'm hoping your cycle prooves to be longer than usual this time. Perhaps even much longer. Such as, 9 months or so?

tfls oh bugger - a second wtf cycle, that's really not very fair. At least they're unusually short, not unusually long, iyswim? I'll grant you the position at the bottom if you wish. I'd be all up for a "cycle-day share" programme - you'd be very welcome to have some of mine!
Anyway, sorry to hear that AF got you, and so unexpectedly too, and that you've been having a rough time. Hang on in there. All good things come in threes - third cycle post MC will be it for you. Hey, it's already CD6 for you - activity time is coming up soon!

cheepz well, CD 16 is about when I start getting serious about the BD - but that's given my longish cycles. If you still have the CM, I'd not hesitate! I'm sorry to hear your DH has been, umm, unaccommodating. That's crap. Just when you get your head around to being in a more relaxed mode, more sage about it all... it doesn't really work when you miss whole cycles due to lacking BD activity. Still, it only takes once. So I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you.

chamois any news?
waiting being busy? upstairs, I mean?

mrsrigby you mentioned having PCOS, do I remember that right? Are you taking any meds for it?

everyone sorry if I've forgotten anyone. It has been a lot to catch up on!

Monday's list (revised for TFLS):

Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 CD49
Chamois TTC#1 UCL ? cycle ? CD39
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL ? cycle 1 CD38
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD34
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD34
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD29/30
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 4 CD26
VivCliquot TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD24
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 1 CD15
Waiting TTC#1 UCL 26-33 cycle 1 CD13
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 1 CD13
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD6

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt (suspect molar pgy / mc weds 2nd sept)
boodleboot BFP 21st August
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September

Oops sorry, small mistake there:
(still Monday)

Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 CD49
Chamois TTC#1 UCL ? cycle ? CD39
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL ? cycle 1 CD38
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD34
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD34
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD29/30
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 4 CD26
VivCliquot TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD24
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 1 CD15
Waiting TTC#1 UCL 26-33 cycle 1 CD13
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 1 CD13
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD6

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt (suspect molar pgy / mc weds 2nd sept)
boodleboot BFP 21st August
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September

btw TFLS at the rate you're going, you'll end up "overtaking" me soon. We really should start paying some researchers to come up with that cycle-day sharing programme.

Hi Ladies - hope you're all ok. Haven't caught up in a while so have just read becky and Little's news - congrats that's fantastic

Lee have been thinking of you ALOT - glad to hear that you're being philosophical about it and do hope that your nearest and dearest are helping you through.

I'm still plodding along stressing about everything (what's new?)Or in my case - the lack of everything (my boobs only really hurt because I've been prodding them so much to see if they hurt). Am also desparing at NHS and will be forking out for private scans . I know I've said it all along but I really don't feel like a graduate yet.

It's true that MC's take away the innocence.

Hope you're all doing ok with 2ww, BDing etc. Am thinking of you all - you're so much easier to "talk" to than DH and I daren't tell anyone else yet!

Wow! Exciting news littleonemum and becky - that's wonderful. Hoping for more BFPs yet this month.

Things are getting busy for me, so I may not be able to check in as much, but I'll certainly try. You ladies are too lovely to part with for too long. Also, there's bound to be more good news with each passing week.

I haven't POAS in a week now, starting to miss it, but I know if there's any chance of a BFP, it won't be 'til next weekend. Smack dab in the middle of the TWW!

Anyone ever seen the movie Forget Paris? A friend (who teaches film and TV production)recently recommended it ot me. I think it's a romance, but the couple have a hard time conceiving - she said anyone going through that can really relate.

Well, back to work now lots to do!

Actually, speaking of films, can I advise that none of you go and see The Time Traveller's Wife?

I went last week having read the book two or three years ago and I had completely forgotten that the female lead experiences a miscarriage*

Cue me sobbing throughout the middle 45 minutes of the film.

• Sorry if this is a spoiler - I promise it's not that much of one!

CONGRATULATIONS LittleoneMum - that is really fantastic news!!! Very happy for you. Thanks for thinking of me, when you have so much to be thinking about too! I think it's totally natural to be cautious, but try to enjoy it too!

Thanks also for the kind comments from everyone else.
It has definitely been an roller coaster over the past week - the bleeding stopped over the weekend, however I've just had some very light spotting today
I was going to be so good, and wait until tomorrow to do (yet another!) test, but caved in earlier - bought a twin pack of Superdrug own brand, and a twin pack of Clearblue Digital!! And did one of the Superdrug ones! It still says positive, and the line was quite strong, but not sure what to believe anymore. I'm going to do the Clearblue digital tomorrow morning, as then it will have been a week since I did the very first test. If it says 2-3 weeks I will feel more hopeful, however if it still says 1-2 weeks, I'll know things aren't as they should be, and will go to get checked out at the EPA.

Hi girls hope you won't mind me giving out about my dh since some other dh's are in doghouse too. He has been fantastic through the sickness of the pregnancy and the hospital bit of the mc but our dd is sick and he's under s bit of pressure with looming after us both.. He has work to do and can't do it and tbh that's always a bone of contention because he can't compartmentalise or switch off.

Hence for the last three days he has eaten the face off me for no other reason than he's stressed and wants to work. He's so angry and barely looks at me. And while I'm being strong and trying to be philosophical I cannot cannot cope with him doing this. If I ask him not to snap he says he's doing so much and how ungrateful I am. The fact of the matter is neither of or families has turned up or done anything and dh and I are exhausted and grieving and now killing eah other.

I feel really strong til he turns on me and then I lose all my composure. Any suggestions? Feel so down about it.. :-(

oh and Tiger def go to epu there are loads reasons for bleeding not all with bad endings xxx

Lee

sympathise soooo much - my dh finds it so hard to swithc off from work and feels the pressure acutely, he would far rather let me down than work, also when we rowed the other night it was because he was wanting to finish planning the stag night for which he is best man and write his speech which i know is stressing him but not something one would expext might be prioritised over making a baby for example.

I think one of the struggles in this situatioin is post mc with the gireving and emotional rollercoaster it is so much greater for the woman than most people can comprehend - even the dh, and they are often unable, uwilling or unavailble to provide the emotional support - they would rather find a solution that support through the experience of the problem.

I have told my dh he needs to watch his tone, but mostly I also rarely now rely on him for emotional support, if I have something I want to talk through that I know he wills truggle with - even if I would rather it was him I will talk to my Mum, a friend or you guys - anyone rather than try and lean on him and find he either collapses underneath me or worse throws something back at me that is harder to deal with in an angry or aggressive manner - I think sometimes he doesn't even know he is doing it - he is just being short because he is focussed on other priorities and I need him to be focussed on me and he just doesn't want to deal with the emotion

I now use another support network for things I know he will deal with badly, and also make sure that when we are going to have a conversation about something contentious it is in a pub or restaurant so we are away from the distractions of home and ds and he cant go off and work on the computer!

We are all here for you hon, so lean on us if you need to just unload, I think alot of men struggle and I don't suppose with your dh it represents a problem in your relationship - more a proboem that many couples face because of the differences between men and women

Hi all

leewt - I'm so sorry you're finding it hard - sometimes life is really shit. And I wish I could make things better... My only suggestion is to actually ask people to help you guys out with practical stuff - sometimes people don't want to assume that you need help/ don't know what would be helpful - but would love to help out if they knew it actually was helpful, iyswim. Big big hugs.

little and becky - fantastic news! I'm excited for you both. I hope you can enjoy being pg - tho I know it must be a bit scary too.

Have update list as mine was a day out. DH and I have been 'working at home' today My lunch breaks aren't usually that good !

Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 CD49
Chamois TTC#1 UCL ? cycle ? CD39
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL ? cycle 1 CD38
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD34
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD34
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD29/30
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 4 CD26
VivCliquot TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD24
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 1 CD15
Waiting TTC#1 UCL 26-33 cycle 1 CD14
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 1 CD13
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 2 CD6

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt (suspect molar pgy / mc weds 2nd sept)
boodleboot BFP 21st August
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September