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Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul.

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MumOfBaby · 01/05/2009 19:11

Hi all.

Needing some extra support this time round as have just had a MC. We are trying again straight away. But I've a feeling it's going to take ages. Got pregnant first month trying last 2 times. I have 1 DC- 11 months.

I want some people to join this thread who are ready to hold hands and help each other through the TTC.

Good luck to all.

OP posts:
barrenbrook · 29/08/2009 16:24

Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 CD40
Chamois TTC#1 UCL ? cycle ? CD32
becky78 TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 3 CD25
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD25
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD25
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD20
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD21
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL ? cycle 1 CD?+18
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 4 CD17
VivCliquot TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD15
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 1 CD6
Waiting TTC#1 UCL 26-33 cycle 1 CD4
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 1 CD4
GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt
boodleboot BFP 21st August
Stressy BFP 22nd August

Cheepz · 29/08/2009 16:44

i was quite chuffed to eb on day 7 alread - at least we can copy and poste your last list tomorrow (+1 for you though )

chamoiscreased · 29/08/2009 19:52

Apples you're not the only one who can't keep away from the Feb bus. Why do we do it to ourselves, eh?
Zayja - sorry you're having a hard time. It is all so unfair isn't it. Have some very un-mumsnetty hugs ((())) and try not to watch those programmes [hypocrite emoticon]
If it's any consolation to you I'm in my 20s and still wondering if I should have started earlier! I'm starting to feel quite cross with myself for trying so hard to prevent pregnancy for all those years, and cross with biology teachers and magazines for making me believe that you only had to have sex once to get pregnant. (and I know it can happen...but why not to us right now?!)
I'd second Cheepz's advice on having a project to focus on. I'm trying to look on the bright side of all this (often failing but never mind), every month that goes by is more progress on the house and my general organisation which I was intending to put off until post-baby. It does help.

MrsRigby · 29/08/2009 22:56

Evening .

I've been trying to post since this morning, but between DH and DS - aarghhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!

Went shopping this morning, can't remember what for, but basically it ended with DH and I screaming at each other and a traffic warden trying to break up the fight.

It was a VERY windy day.

Firstly, we went to withdraw money for the builder who completed some work on the house whilst we were away. Only 1 person serving (ON A SODDING SATURDAY). I told her we wanted to withdraw some money, she gave me a look and then asked how much. After asking for £650 of our own money, she told me (DH apparently knew we couldn't take out our own money when we wanted) that we could only take out £300 and that we would have to arrange in advance for a larger sum. Then when I presented my card, she had a go at me for not signing my card and then not carrying any ID . DH then stepped in and clarified that it was a joint account (should DH and I ever split, I'm fucked - everything is in his name and he deals with the money side of things) and showed his ID, which included an unsigned credit card and she then had a go at him (he maintains that he did sign the card, but the signature rubbed off).

So then we (I was in Starbucks buying a tall chocolate cream frappachino) made the mistake of going into the Early Learning Centre. DH showed DS a toy and DS immediately started crying when DH tried taking it off him, he was inconsolable - and so was DS. So of course we ended up having to buy it (Whizzy Mountain with 3 free construction cars) and as of yet DS hasn't really played with it, but DH and I have and it's great. Afterall that's why childrens toys were invented - for mums and dads to play with .

Sorry, I've just seen 2 great big spiders and DH has just seen 1 also - all within 30 minutes. He stepped on them all. My skin is crawling and I don't think I'll be sleeping tonight. First sodding wasps and now spiders, you get less insects in a tropical rainforest.

Anyway, where was I - oh yes...

So DH and I returned to the car to be met by a lovely traffic warden (I actually really like them - I have a very sadistic side). He had written a ticket and was just about to apply it to the windowscreen when DH started to go into a blind panic. We'd brought a ticket and DH had asked me to put it in view on the dashboard, which being the good wife I am, I did. So you'd think that would be the first place he looked, but in a panic he started tearing the car apart and had a go at me. I then started screaming that I did put the ticket on the dashboard and that the strong wind must have blown it. DH then found the parking ticket a bit further down the dashboard. He didn't apologise to me, which then made me even madder and at that point, the traffic warden had to step in.

Following this we went to Waitrose to buy a load of organic food for DS, but before we could do this, we had to park. However, all the parent and child spaces were taken up by men with mid life crisis and flashy sports cars, supposedly disabled people (it's amazing what passes as being disabled these days) and the ignorant elderly (usually a woman). So after circling the car park for 15 minutes a space became available, DH was just about to indicate when a woman in about her 50s manouvered into it. Before DH could say or do anything I got out the car and caught the attention of the woman. I informed her that parent and child spaces were for parents with children. Not 50 somethings dressed as 20 somethings wearing far too much make-up. I further informed her that she was a dispicable human being and reminded her that what goes around, comes around or what comes around goes around (I can never remember which way around that saying is said). She was not happy and walked off. The point was made.

We then visited DH parents. For a refreshing change, they didn't try to take DS off us as soon as we walked through the door. We were chatting about Cornwall, DS and other general stuff when DH's father started telling us the football scores off teletext. He does this everytime and it's baffling as neither DH or I like football or know anything about it. Then DH's mother started worrying about DS when I put him on the floor to crawl. She kept covering all the corners on furniture etc and tried to make DS sit with toys that she wanted him to play with. Normally I would have tried to compete for DS affection, but it's a lost cause and I'm just going to focus on DC#2 (IF THAT EVER HAPPENS). It really pissed off DH and I, we would rather he explored and received a few knocks etc so that he learned.

And on top of all of this, I made the mistake of taking another test - a BFN. I've absolutely no idea what is going on with my body. Something should have happened by now.

cheepz to be honest I've no idea if I am in the testing window. I have PCOS. My last period finished at the end of July and lasted about 6 days. So I would expect that around the very end of this month I would be due another period . Anyone any thoughts?

zayja good to know I'm not the only one who writes big essays .

Cheepz · 30/08/2009 23:17

just had a lovely day out at 'wings and wheels' festivsl - air and car show, i know - sounds like a drag but it was pretty cool and dh and ds loved it and we had alot of fun doing the family thing so that was cool.

dh actually came swimming with us on saturday (normally i take ds) and that was good too

tomorrow we are going to visit my brother and family for bbq and so ds can spend time with cuzzies so all in all busy weekend and has taken my mind off all things ttc for now - which is good because on day 7 there is shag all to do about it - would be too early even for a punt in terms of doing the bd with a purpose in mind! so best to focus on other things until midweek at leaet!

mrsr missed your ranting but so know what yu mean about dh saying why did you not do what i asked when you actually did - bothers me so much when mine does that i want to poke his eye out with a pencil. sounds like your day was a shocker! glass of wine would be a necessity at the end of that day for sure.

everyone else - any news, any early testers, with so many people on day 26 we coulde xpect at least one grad this month - especially with all the holiday bonking that should have been going on!

apples any progress
chamo ? dyou know what happening

am hoping that some of those who have been and seemingly gone will be back to update us on their progress...

hope everyone is having good time off

Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 CD41
Chamois TTC#1 UCL ? cycle ? CD33
becky78 TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 3 CD26
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD26
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD26
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD22
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD21
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL ? cycle 1 CD?+19
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 4 CD18
VivCliquot TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD16
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 1 CD7
Waiting TTC#1 UCL 26-33 cycle 1 CD5
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 1 CD5

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt
boodleboot BFP 21st August
Stressy BFP 22nd August

Meita · 30/08/2009 23:28

I'm telling you, ladies [makes a serious face] - I like the position at the bottom of the list. You'd better keep it that way. The only way of you getting below me that I'll accept is by graduating!
And then I'll graduate myself and beat you all to the bottom of the graduates list .

Good night!

zayja · 31/08/2009 16:17

Hi Ladies - quick update - I'M OVULATING! Although this brings new concerns as you mentioned meita, I'm just happy that I'm doing it on my own - promising.

Now I feel terrible for worrying so much on here and taking up your time and (good) advice. Thank you so much for your supportive words, I feel this is the only place where I can find people to relate.

I too have lots to work on and clean. I'm making a large sculpture right now for an art compitition and need to really get going on it! Also, work starts for me again this week, so I won't have time to obsess.

Well, positive vibes being sent out to you all!

Meita · 31/08/2009 17:05

cheers @ zayja for ovulating! Way to go! I'm so pleased for you!

By the way, I meant to tell you that when I first charted my temps, they were quite low, too - 35.9 to 36.3 pre-ovulation. BUT then I changed to waiting the full five minutes before reading the measures, rather than just until the peep, and bingo - they settled at 36.3 to 36.75 pre-ov. So maybe the hypothyroidism-thing was just a scare? Still, if you have any doubts, I'd discuss it with a doctor.

I suppose you'll get busy with other things than sculptures and housework tonight :-) Have fun!

Our cat has fleas - so we're spending bank holiday Monday by thoroughly cleaning the house and spraying stuff and cat with anti-flea spray. I can imagine nicer things to be doing right now. On the other hand, DP's mum is arriving for a weekend on Friday, so it's a good thing to be getting a head start on cleaning the house for her arrival anyway.

MrsRigby · 31/08/2009 21:47

Evening

I highly doubt DH and I will be having sex tonight. He's in a mood with me (says I've been a bitch to him all day) and has gone uptairs whilst I'm down here. He cooked dinner - spaghetti bolegnaise, but put quite a bit of wine in (I don't drink alcohol). I just couldn't eat it, it was discusting. This has put him in even more of a mood, but what was I supposed to do?

I wouldn't mind, but I've been feeling sick all sodding day. Not due to pregnancy. POAS this morning as I woke up feeling sick and put 2+2 together and = . Wasted a Clearblue digital with conception indicator .

LeeWT · 31/08/2009 22:36

hi all! havent been on in a while wanted to check how you're all doing.. MrsR your essays keep me cracked up, keep em coming! and how rude of your dh not to apologise when he realised he was wrong - men all over that is!!!

congrats on the ovulators and am waiting on tenderhooks for the testers!!! looks like there's a few headed for that part of the room!

as for POAS i still have to restrain myself from re-testing even though i am 8 weeks now. Scan tomorrow, will let you know how i get on, hopefully it will be hope for us all

xxxx

Meita · 31/08/2009 23:36

LeeWT good to hear from you, do let us know how the scan went, I'm hoping for lots of good news and a strong healthy heartbeat!

Apples, Chamois, any news, any developments? Sending you patience vibes.

becky, em and trixel looking forward to hearing hopefully bfp-related news from you!

Zayja I hope you're busy right now!

cheepz and waiting: let's gather some strength and energy for in a week's time or so .

Good night!

Monday:
Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 CD42
Chamois TTC#1 UCL ? cycle ? CD34
becky78 TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 3 CD27
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD27
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD27
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD23
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD22
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL ? cycle 1 CD?+20
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 4 CD19
VivCliquot TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD17
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 1 CD8
Waiting TTC#1 UCL 26-33 cycle 1 CD6
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 1 CD6

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt
boodleboot BFP 21st August
Stressy BFP 22nd August

Cheepz · 01/09/2009 11:42

morning
had a wonderful bank holiday weeeknd and feeling pretty good, coming into bd window although no signs yet - temp, ewcm, persona readings etc

mrsr hate that whole situation where you have had a row but need to try and find the will to shag!

meita good to hear you sounding so much more upbeat after such a long stretch of waiting for AF

zayja how are you - hoping you are coping a little better

apples and chamo news from the top, and all the day 28ers whats the score - there must be some grad action this month surely.

heres the list

Tuesday:
Apples TTC#3 UCL 28 CD43
Chamois TTC#1 UCL ? cycle ? CD35
becky78 TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 3 CD28
em22 TTC#? UCL 28 cycle 3 CD28
trixel TTC#3 UCL 28-35 cycle 7 CD28
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD24
TFLS TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD23
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL ? cycle 1 CD?+21
Zayja TTC#1 UCL 24-27 cycle 4 CD20
VivCliquot TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD18
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL 27-28 cycle 1 CD9
Waiting TTC#1 UCL 26-33 cycle 1 CD7
Meita TTC#1 UCL 30-34 cycle 1 CD7

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
leewt
boodleboot BFP 21st August
Stressy BFP 22nd August

TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 01/09/2009 16:31

Just wanted to pop in and say hi. Sending loads of baby dust your way this month

becky78 · 01/09/2009 19:32

Evening all, hope everyone is having a good day.

Quick update as I am on CD28 - no pg symptoms at all (last time I was pg I had allsorts of symptoms) so reckon I will be back at the bottom of the list in the next couple of days (sorry for stealing your place meita ). Will wait and see what happens and if no AF by weekend will do a test.

Am holding on to a little bit of hope because I saw 4 - yes 4 - pairs of magpies yesterday. On the basis that 2 are for joy then I must be owed some good news! DH thinks that using magpies to predict the future is a risky strategy and that maybe magpies just hook up in pairs this time of year but I like to think it is for joy. AND, today on the way home our house was right underneath the middle of a rainbow - I don't think there is technically a superstition that this is good luck but it seemed like a positive thing.

Anyway, have decided that I'm not going to let it get me down too much if it doesn't work out this month. I think I was desperate to be pg again as a replacement for the baby I lost so that I could still be excited about etc. and it would just be like a really long pregnancy but now there has been a bit of a gap I'm starting to feel a bit more rational as if it will happen when it happens. Obviously will keep trying and make sure we grab every opportunity to BD on the best days and is still hard with two of my closest colleagues at work both expecting, one a few weeks before I was due and one 4 weeks after so I have a running commentary of where I would have been up to but going to keep my chin up and chill out about it all.

Right, written tons and all about me, how self indulgent! Hope everyone else is doing well, updates from other potential testers would be appreciated.

Cheepz · 01/09/2009 22:20

good to hear from you becky and see what the next few days bring - it seems you are in a good head place about it though which is cool.

what you wrote about immendiately after just wanting to be pg agains as quick as possible to 'replace' the previous pregnancy resonated so much with me and I have found that as the time has passed although I am still really wanting to get pg and get on with having another baby I am equally a little more sage about when it may or may not happen.

before I was thinking I wanted to be pg again before I was 37 (in early aug) because then it would fit with my work plans and be a good age gap with my ds and be good timing for this and that, but the mc has shown me that with the best will and all the planning in the world if its not meant to be it wont be

it is so easy to get totally tied into the ttc to the extent that you lose sight of life, and although the months go by slowly the time passes quickly - iyswim - when we were ttc before the mc it took 3 months of trying and they seemed to take ages from one day to the next - but at the same time a quarter of a year passed and all i had focussed on was ttc - not my ds, not my dh, not my job

anyway your post really highlighted for me what i have been feeling that is we will try on all the right days and i will monitor the temp, cm and use persona, but i am going to try and be less obsessed about having it be on my terms, to my schedule and so on ... that road led to the crushing disappointment I had when the mc happened and I don't want to be back there again

someone else put it well on this thread when they said its rough post mc because for subsequent preganancies the innocence that its all straightforward is gone.

on that happy note actually am feeling very good at the mo - am thinking a warm up bd tomorrow might be on the cards! just for fun!

LeeWT · 01/09/2009 23:34

Sorry to be bringing negative vibes girls but am devastated the scan didn't go well at all. Suspected molar pregnancy which has all sorts of issues as well as being an mmc. Comes with very high levels of hcg which would explain my chronic sickness.

Am very angry with the world and even if the dr had t advised waiting a few months i don't think I'd have wanted to ttc again for a good long while. Everyone situation is different but like cheepz said life for me anyway has revolved around ttc for sox months with two failed pregnancies so am going to try and focus on dh and dd oh and me for a while and give up my mn habit!

Thanks for all the help advice and support on here and I truly hope that everyone of u gets the bfp and healthy bean you deserve..

Lee xxx

amyboo · 02/09/2009 08:01

lee - hope you're OK. So sorry to hear your news. x

boodleboot · 02/09/2009 08:37

hi girls. so gutted for lee. i HATE that this happens to us and some people who don't give a crap about their kids seem to spring them out relentlessly.....very unfair.

i hope you are all doing ok on here, i am very nervous at the mo as this is the point my preg failed last time so trying to remain optimistic. have midwife fri to book in and hopefully get very near date of early scan...i need to see for myself what is happening.....

AF got you yet mrsR??

any other testers?

Cheepz · 02/09/2009 09:25

leeWT as I said on other thread so very sorry, don't be too much of a stranger but can see that a break from all the noise could be just what you need to come to terms with everything - clearly it is too soon to jump back on the bandwagon and we all have to work through these things in our own way

boodle hang in their hon. Lee's news would throw anyone and I can only imagine that coming up to your previous mc date will be nerve wracking but all you can do is try not to stress and look after yourself. There is no reason for you to think anything bad is going to happen to your bean because of whats happened to Lee.

I am getting back into normal cycle it seems - EWCM arriving so I know things are at the right stage. I keep forgetting to take my temp so not fully into that yet but am at least remembering to do my Persona tests at the right time.

Determined to have a productive day at work today, its about time I pulled my finger out on that front.

xxx for Lee

chamoiscreased · 02/09/2009 09:39

Oh Lee I am so sorry. I know all too well that feeling of devastation post scan, my heart aches for you. I hope the sickness eases soon as that for me was one of the cruellest parts, still feeling so pg despite the mmc. Make sure you take care of yourself.

I think I'm on cd2 now as AF seems to be here - though its the weirdest AF ever - perhaps to be expected post mc?

Becky and Cheepz you are so right. I too need to worry less about what happens when and stop trying to replace the pregnancy I lost.
Becky I don't know how you are coping with your colleagues being pg, it's all I can do not to run away screaming from any pg woman at the moment.

Em and Trixel - any news?

MrsRigby · 02/09/2009 10:10

leewt I really don't know what to say. I'm so sad for you . I'm so angry that this happened. Getting pregnant is hard enough without shit like this. I'm so, so, so sorry.

I've just quickly read up about molar pregnancy, wow, so much I never knew.

I'm here for you leewt, we all are.

I really don't know what to post after this. My issues are nothing compared to what's happened to leewt.

Boodleboot I still haven't had a period, I estimate I'm now on CD33.

Morning everyone else.

Meita · 02/09/2009 11:14

oh lee... I'm so sorry. How very, very horrible. I can't believe you are going through this.

Please be assured that you are always welcome to come here for a moan, no matter if you are TTC or not. I wish there was something we could do for you.

Take care.

tigerbear · 02/09/2009 13:07

Hello all,
Did one test last night (First Response) and one this morning (Clearblue) - both positive, however started bleeding again yesterday and feeling like I have my period (but much more emotional and weepy than usual).
Just saw the doctor, who pretty much said it was a false positive or a very early mc. She said to test again in a week.
V sad and teary now.

LittleOneMum · 02/09/2009 13:53

Hi there,

Am new here (waves!) - MC 28 days ago and still no AF but BFN today. Am so happy to have found this thread, and thanks to everyone for being so honest on it.

Tiger that sounds awful. Big hugs. That's exactly what happened to me and despite everyone's 'oh, that was such an early one, you had hardly any time to get used to it' comments, it IS hard and be good to yourself, OK?

Can someone add me on to the list -have no idea what to do

Cheepz · 02/09/2009 14:22

tigerbear hi hon, sounds like an early mc - you just don't get falso positives as a general rule and to have two would be unheard of. Sending lots and lots of hugs although nothing really helps for the first few days.

littleonemum so sorry to hear about your mc, but glad you have found us here, you are right this is the place for honesty, and understanding, hard for someone whose not been there to get it. Happy to add you to the list just need to know a few things... is this number 1 or do you have other children (TTC#)whats your usual cycle length (UCL) and if your mc was 28 days ago we will put you on CD28 although first cycle post mc could be lnger than normal.

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