Mid Thirties First time TCC

[donttrythisathome]

Anyone feel like joining this bus??

I'm 36, TCC 1, never wanted children and now have done a complete u-turn!

TCC 1, Cycle 2, UCL 28-33ish, CD12

Good luck ladies.

I was 37 when I had DS last year. Like most of you, never wanted any, then had a "Oh my goodness, this is IT????!" moment, at about the same time DH decided that he wanted someone to call him Daddy.

DS is now 8 months old and I am 38 (DH is a whippersnapper at 33).

DS is the best thing I have ever done. Ever, ever, ever, and I would have 10 more. But I don't wish that I had started earlier, as I would be agitated about other things I wanted to do. I have done them and am so happy and settled in myself, that DS only make it better.

Good Luck Ladies!

Welcome Aussie! I am jealous of your chickens!

8 nights in a row is dedication - we are trying for every second night for a month until we figure out my post-pill cycle.

"And skaterrrrrr with a ghettoblaster on her shoulder, baggy below the knee shorts with her DH on a skateboard made for 2."

Ha! I can't skate I'm afraid so my name is a LIE.

Oh my god, you can't skate??? Next you'll be telling us your cat is stuffed, your DH a blow-up doll and that you've never tried gin!

Hi Ladies - Sorry been away for a few days - hope your all keeping well. Sorry to hear about the toothache dontry - you have my sympathy.

My name is acually the nickname I give the cat - Talisker becomes Liskey when I'm rubbing her tummy and also when she's really good - (very rare indeed).

I've been stressing totally the last few days about my Gran who's very ill. I keep trying not to but its impossible - then I worry that I'll miscarry because of that.

Liskey - sorry to hear about your Gran - sure your baby will be ok, if everything's ok they are pretty tough.

BikeRunSki - welcome and thanks for your encouraging words!

Just saw this over in Chat - I've barely told anyone we're ttc, certainly not any family members

eeewwww, that's horrible.

We haven't told anyone we're ttc. In fact I've blatantly lied to people who have asked me outright (usually drunken friends desperately trying to persuad me - wooaargh (evil laugh) - if only they knew).

I'm on CD29 but actually not thinking too much about it. Have an odd week ahead, thankfully a few days off but also facing first anniversary of grandfather's death. Not to be morbid, haven't planned the day off so I can sit in & cry & mope, just he's on my mind. Trying not to stress 1. He would not be happy & promised to haunt any of us who moped for too long, 2. stress delays AF, blah blah. Could be seen as an emotional week ahead, but at the moment I'm kind of floating along in a bubble ignoring everything & everyone!

Sorry about your grandad laurielou.

(Stress doesn't delay af if you've already ovulated apparently.)

VAM I saw that on chat too!

Hi Ladies,

I hope you don't mind if I join you: This thread feels like homeyou ladies have an amazing positive attitude and SOH. I'm 36 (just!)I met the man of my dreams (FINALLY!) just under two years ago and we got married at the beginning of the month. I am cycle 1, CD22 (yes--we actually started on the honeymoon...how old fashioned can I get?)...and am really trying not to get my hopes up (the odds are slim, it turns out we shouldn't have used the lube we did (apparently, there is some special lube you are supposed to use...who knew?? )). So your humour and support is JUST what I needed to see!!!

x
Sarah

Welcome to the thread SarahAbroad. Please can we have your thoughts on gin, number of cats / dogs / chickens and paint colour of your living room. I think that'll do for now!

Oh--I should mention we have a mostly white, but SMALL flat (with a good garden) in central (just outside "zone 1") London and two very spoiled 2-year-old neutered male cats that were born in a barn in France and that have lived with (infested??) us for about 1-1/2 years.... And I have been broody for a few years now, but am STILL having up and down feelings about the whole parenthood thing. Am I REALLY up for 18 years (PLUS) on the roller coaster???

Ohsorry Cosmosis, must have crossed messages with you I haven't covered the gin point. I think gin is an excellent thing, although I tend to it's cousin vin (or wine, if you prefer).... Am working on figuring out how I can (1) cope without aforementioned vin/gin for the foreseeable and (2) how I can spend the next several weeks/months somehow convincing others that I am actually enjoying them so that I don't have everybody prying into our conception plans!!!

Eww (but LOL) to the thread on Chat! I'm not telling anyone that we're TTC. I don't need everyone in my family commenting on whether my DH has "super swimmers" or not! Plus not to be negative but the thought of then having to break the new if things go wrong

Welcome Sarah - we're on the same page re the alcohol point!

I was checking out LoNo.co.uk which looks like an option for having people over. But out and about is more problematic. It's my cousin's wedding in 3 weeks time and I have aidinner with friends and a party in June too and I'm trying to think of how to deal with the drinking question. Thing is: no-one would believe that I just don't feel like a drink or that I would drive or that I would take anti-biotics... I was planning to just drink bitter lemon and say that there is gin in it BUT apparently bitter lemon is a no-no (WTH?). And gardening is risky too...I really had no idea what I was getting in to!

re the lube: I loved the bit in TCOYF regarding the use of egg whites as lube. I don't think I could look my chickadees in the face again!

Aussieng I'm not sure doing it in the coop is really in the best possible taste anyway...

Hello, bikeskirun and sarahAbroad!

now, listen. I think you/I/one has two options with this whole 'not drinking' thing. Either you get DH to supply you with mineral water with ice and a slice (and I am saying that ironically obv) which you pass off as a G&T,

OR, more proactively

you go for the sort of deep sigh moral high ground approach that I frequently encounter from Mummys. 'No, I'm NOT drinking. Are YOU drinking? Do you know what it does to your liver? My doctor's put me on a three week detox. Please don't tempt me, he's blood testing me next month, and I've gone private and it's costing a FORTUNE.'

OR say, 'I'm doing a no-booze detox for Cosmo, they're weighing me and everything, and there's going to be a photoshoot.' This will make you sound glamorous and interesting and since mags have a 3 month lead time, everyone will have forgotten all about by the time it's supposed to come out, or you can claim they binned you because you looked so great and it wasn't dramatic enough. I've blamed all manner of odd behaviour on 'doing it for a feature.'

OR, you could flash a discreet glance at DH and say, 'Don't say anything, but Barry's told me not to drink tonight because he's got a surprise planned for later....' No one will ask why. They will be too busy wondering whether it's a hot air balloon or some kind of athletic swing in your room.

OR, you could just wallop the ball out of the park and say, 'can't drink, medical reasons, can't say why.'

To be honest, I don't think the occasional evening out makes much difference at this stage, does it? Surely it's only if you're caning it, night after night? (In which case, Kate Moss/Kerry Katona/Britney, etc, etc, as usual)

PS sorry about the stress laurielou and liskey

Has a 15 year old ever become pregnant WITHOUT caning a bottle of Pink Lady?

I don't wish to come across all "holier than thou" because god knows when I drink I don't stop until I hit the gutter and someone's been arrested... but isn't it such a fucking shame that you can't go out/socialise these days without "not drinking" becoming a huge issue?

TBH, I think it's something you notice yourself, and your noticing makes it stand out for other people. I was at a wedding last weekend where I only had one glass of champagne for the toast (I had to work the next day and didn't want a hangover, not for any other reason) and despite everyone else being steaming drunk while I was obviously sober no one even mentioned it. Keep a glass of wine by your plate, let DH sip from it so the level changes - if everyone expects you to drink, they'll sort of assume you are anyway.

now, turning down coffee...

Welcome to the fun house Sarah!

Sorry to hear about your gran, Liskey. I wish her better!

I'm not telling anyone we're TTC - not even my sisters or my best friend! Who needs the added pressure of everyone expecting an announcement? The only people who know are me, SkaterBoy and er, you lot!

"Oh my god, you can't skate??? Next you'll be telling us your cat is stuffed, your DH a blow-up doll and that you've never tried gin!"

PMSL... okay, when I met Skaterboy I was dating a few guys (joyfully playing the field after dumping EvilEx). In conversation with my girlfriends I would refer to my dates by their distinguishing features rather than names, so there was 'Mysterious Smoking Man', 'Witty Articulate Crouch End Man', 'Long Thin Pointy Willy Man' and my now husband who I dubbed 'Pretty Skater Boy'. Fast forward 4 years, SkaterBoy & I trying to sprog, I'm signing up to Mumsnet and need a moniker and came up with SkaterGirl!

Just to prove my cats are not stuffed here is a picture of them.

You'll have to take my word on my love of mother's ruin.

I would just like to say that, as a newbie to these boards, I am very proud I got all of the formatting in that post right!

Cute cats skater although you have shattered my delusions with non-skating admission.

Laurie and liskey look after yourself. I think you're lucky to have such well-loved Grandparents.

Mine died many moons ago. Except for....Disco Nan! The whiskey and stout drinking, dancing diva, gansgster pub frequenting, stiletto heeled, peroxide haired, mills and boons addict.

She wasn't at all the loveable maternal type.

Welsome sarahabroad and congrats on the nuptials.

Since I heard that saliva harms sperm therefore scuppering any "oral pleasure" at a time in the month when you most need it, I turkey basted myself with pre-seed.

Only for DP to point out that it actually makes it harder for the sperm to swim. Duh.

Then today I used clove oil or toothache.

Only to find out its an ABORTIFACIENT!!

Now for the hat trick, I'm off to stick a knitting needle up me fango

Em, I meant have or had such well-loved grandparents

Saliva kills sperm?!

Is that a scientist-in-white-coat fact or an I-read-it-on-the-internet-so-it-must-be-true fact?

"Read it in TCOYF so must be true" fact

Nor sure if it kills, but the book says it and other lubes (apart from pre-seed if you're short on CM yourself )doesn't help

Thanks for all the welcomes...

On the alcohol point...last year at a Christmas party people were actually following my sister-in-law around to see if she was drinking because some of her friends (acquaintances) wanted to know if they were TTC/PG. They faked everybody out (she was about 10 weeks in), but the mere fact that people would be so bloody nosy was a bit shocking.... (Incidentally, I DID figure it outit wasn't the booze, she just looked pregnant in her face. ) So I have this post-wedding party that my MIL is throwing us (totally blown out of proportion, more people invited than to the actual wedding (and almost none of the same people), etc., etc.) and I am wondering if people are going to be watching me the whole time.... Anywaywill stop going on. I think "It's a medical problem" should shut everyone up....

What is TCYOF??? (Clearly a newbie here....)