Anyone want to join me in a waiting to conceive thread ? Anyone else really broody but can't TTC yet ?

[Hobnob76]

Hi everyone! Hubby and I are desperately broody and have been for a few years. We're hoping to TTC later this year, we're having to wait til Hubby finishes his degree as we just can't afford to have a baby whilst he's a student. Am wanting to come off the pill round about May, and hopefully TTC about Nov/Dec. Want to come off the pill a few months early as I've been on it for over 14 yrs, and would like to know what its like to have normal periods!

Be nice to know if anyone else is in a similar situation.

lol, Daphne and Freddie! I love the greek name Eleni - I thought it was pronounced Eh-LAY-ni, but have since been told by a greek that it is pronounced Eh-LEN-i...love it either way though.....DH thinks it's 'alright'....

Don't get me started on names lol! DH usually hates anything I suggest. I really had to fight for Phoebe (my DD). DH likes anything plain and IMO dull! Boys names are much harder to be interesting without sounding OTT! I like Elliot (DH said NO) I like Oliver but it's massively popular round here. God help us if we have a boy as it will be very tricky, we have middle names sorted (after both our Dads) so if we had a boy it'd have to go with that! For a girl I am completely stuck on Tabitha, I am working on DH in oh so subtle ways! I got my way with Phoebe in the end! Names and nursery planning are all very exciting & I'm 5 months off TTC!

I am always going through the baby name threads looking for ideas. I am dreadful, I wanted to buy a baby magazine last night but I was at work. I don't really want everyone knowing that we are planning another.

I told my fiance how incredibly broody I am at the moment. His answer? "Shush!"

He's just too rational for his own good. I KNOW we have 8 months to go, but it doesn't mean I can switch off my broodiness until then . Boys can't understand our biological urges, can they?

Slowshow - everytime I try & bring it up at the moment DH changes the subject & says 'we'll have to see how things go'! What the hell is that supposed to mean?!?! They just don't get it do they!

OMG kayzr I was in the Co0Op the other day and had to physically stop myself from buying a pregnancy magazine !!!! I had to talk myself out of it with things like 'you already bought every magazine going with both of the other two', 'there's likely to be very little in there that you don't already know/haven't already read online....' etc...buying a magazine just felt like it would make it more real and not just something, that at the moment is mostly in my head...! No men do not understand...my husband, although he was the one who said he's finally ready for another, he could wait however long because he is so practically minded...he wants to wait until everything is in place. Me? I'm sure I've bored him silly with all my nursery talk and my "when we have our next one we can/I want to...."

Yep- I've done that too tanmu only problem is that the further into the magazine I get, the longer my 'waiting period' seems!!! very frustrating!! especially as DP would happily conceive tomorrow (tonight even) if it weren't for the fact that it's just not the right time at all for us- living with his grandparents while we save as much money for the future as possible. xx

No not Co-Op!!! I work in a Co-Op!! It's a very small town and I know as soon as I bought a magazine everyone would know.

I think DH would happily conceive tomorrow too. But I need to lose all this weight first so I have to wait

I am waiting primarily to lose weight too, which seems silly when I think that I'll just put it all back on again! But don't think I could face the disapproving looks and comments from the MW's again! DH wants to delay but I know I could win him over if I really wanted to!

slowshow - thats not really the answer you want to hear and no you can't switch off of your broodiness. It's a funny thing isn't it, you start thinking about it and suddenly these flood gates open. Then BAM you found yourself hanging around the baby aile in Boots swooning over the sudocream. Slightly undignified but it gets us all in the end.

Me and DH are waiting until the end of the month to start trying. I can't imagine what eight months must feel like. I hope time flies soon for you.

Until then, baby aile at Boots??

Hahaha, swooning over the Sudocrem

I'm probably not far off that.

Honestly, I have a wedding to plan, the next eight months should fly by. And then there's the incentive of not wanting to be a pregnant bride... I keep telling myself this but it's hard, dammit.

I know, my DH found me in that particular aile the other day when we were in Boots. He gave me such a look.

Wow, whens your wedding. How exciting! I love weddings, they're billiant.

Remember how fabulous you'll look in the pictures and the fact that after that it won't matter. It'll fly by before you know it.

Slowshow - I was 6 weeks PG when we got married, started trying the month before & happened straight away which we didn't think it would! Did mean I couldn't drink (& no one knew) also couldn't eat the pate starter that I had been particularly keen on having, but hey never mind! On the plus side it was so close to call that people still think I got PG straight away

I love weddings, seriosuly thought about being a wedding planner but not to be!

morning all, i almost forgot i posted on here as it was a bit quiet at the time. ah broodyness is nice but horrible isn't it? i am dying to have another one and am having to make do with planning an new kitchen instead which is just not the same! (although will be lovely as ours is currently horrible). congrats on the wedding slowshow, at least you can try to concentrate on that!

Hermia321 you are so lucky to be able to start trying in such a short amount of time -I hope it goes well and you don't have to try for too long!

Wedding will be the first weekend in Sept and condoms will be abandoned on the wedding night (that's assuming we consummate the marriage on the wedding night - how many couples do, do you think?)

I was really busy with planning things when we first got engaged, but we've hit a bit of a plateau now, so nothing needs doing for a while. It's allowing my mind to get preoccupied with other things!

We were planning to start ttc in April however now its getting nearer we still don't see how we are going to afford it. Own our own house got good jobs but until I really looked into it didn't realise that maternity leave is only for 6 weeks at 90 and then 100 a week which we can't survive on and we live extremely cheaply so no real areas to cut spending. Hoping DH may get a pay rise over the summer which should make it possible. Been feeling very sorry for my self though as feeling super dooper broody! I walk so slowly up the baby isle at the supermarket.
Poor DH feels so guilty as he knows how much I want to start a family and he really wants to as well but he feels its his fault that we have to wait-but of course its not.
Slowshow good luck with the wedding plans. You never know it may happen on your wedding night I assumed we wouldn't but sometimes you get a second burst of energy!!!

Florin - smp sucks but make sure you factor in Child benefit & also child/working tax credits which you can also get whilst on smp. Most of the baby 'kit' you will either purchase before LO is born or be given as gifts etc. If you BF then the only day to day cost is nappies really for the first 5-6months & even then you could use re-useables which would cut down the cost even more. Not that I am trying to change your mind, just things to consider & look into. DH & I never thought we would 'cope' either but it has been easier than we expected, other factors (ie. not DD) have been the ones to put a burden on our finances & stretch us to our limit.

Florin, is there any possibility of going part time after your mat leave? Any family around to help with childcare? Babies can be had on pretty much any budget, just depends how influenced you are by the 'latest' in pushchair/baby clothes/gadget fashions......

Florin do you have any deals attached to your mortgage like a payment holiday? it could cover the time you are away from work maybe?

I'm worrying about exactly that too Florin, but people that i've spoken to say you just do manage. Could you go on interest only mortgage repayments? I know that since the credit-crunch, the government have told banks to use reposession as a last resort, so if you show you are able to pay most of the monthly bill, you should be able to work something out with them? Goddness, even typing the word reposession has made me want to re-evaluate our finances before TTC! Plus, you can save as much £ as possible whilst your TTC & for most of your pregancy - if you get knocked up in the first three months of trying, that's still almost a year of saving.

Thanks for everybodies support! Actual baby stuff doesn't really worry me as we both come from quite well off families and my dad already jokes about how when we have children my mum will spend a fortune! MIL is also desperate for us to have children she loves making stuff I think she has made at least 7 cot quilts already plus play mats to go on floor and is now making clothes-we are not even ttc yet! The worry is day to day living on just one wage dh earns a decent wage so we will only be eligible for very tiny amout of tax credits. Mortgage is already interest only on a fixed deal so paying reasonable amount of interest. Only live in a 2 bed terraced house but where we live houses are expensive! Plus still paying uni debts. Dh due a big pay rise as had a massive promotion last April but not the payrise that would have normally gone with it due to the recession. But he might get the pay rise this April. The other thing that is difficult is without sounding to awful but it would change our life completly our family business was sold a few years ago and I know I have quite a substantial inheritance coming to me however no idea when (know it will be in next few years) However would never ask my parents as like to be independent and carve our own life out. I want babies just not good at waiting! Oh and did I mention I'm a twin and we have twins in every generation on my maternal side just to add another complication! Sorry for long post!

Florin - don't get too disheartened about it, tiny amounts do all add up. Plus you may actually find that living costs go down if you aren't at work, think Petrol & lunches & stuff like that. Like I said babies don't cost that much in the beginning unless you go OTT! Plus you will have at least 9 months to save like Floopy said. DH & I are having financial issues at the moment but we know that by the time a possible DC2 is born we will (fingers crossed) be in a completely different situation. So I know how you feel, it's just the waiting to see if the income we have goes up or not!

I've got three pill packs left. Is it silly to think that I'll be ttc from the moment I take that last pill? I know lots of people wait longer to track their cycles, but it can surely happen right away, can't it?

Also, if I get pregnant before May (that really would mean falling pregnant instantly on quitting the pill) I would not get OMP. But just in case, has anybody fudged the truth about their cycle just a little to get a due date that suits them? Or is that just plain wrong?!

tanmu82 thank you, we've been thinking about it for a while and we were gonna wait longer. But we've had cousins who been TTC for ages and they haven't managed it yet. So we cracked and figured we'd start now just in case it takes us a while.

In all honesty we're not in any kind of real financial state to go OTT for any new arrival. I figure that I know so many people with kids that I'll be ok for baby stuff plus ebay is always good for a cheap deal.

Florin I hope you get sorted with the pay rise and that you'll get to a place where you can start TTC.

slowshow I know what you mean, I got to that platau stage and it was well boring. That was when I decided that I was gonna hand make my invites and favours. I tell you now, I have never hated tissue paper as much I did then. I was finding paper hearts for weeks.