Anyone want to join me in a waiting to conceive thread ? Anyone else really broody but can't TTC yet ?

[Hobnob76]

Hi everyone! Hubby and I are desperately broody and have been for a few years. We're hoping to TTC later this year, we're having to wait til Hubby finishes his degree as we just can't afford to have a baby whilst he's a student. Am wanting to come off the pill round about May, and hopefully TTC about Nov/Dec. Want to come off the pill a few months early as I've been on it for over 14 yrs, and would like to know what its like to have normal periods!

Be nice to know if anyone else is in a similar situation.

about a month ago, totally out of the blue, my DH changed his mind and decided that he would like to have another baby! I've been certain for a long time that I wanted to have more, but DH was never up for it. Only problem is, things aren't right just yet. I am sooo broody, and it's not helped by the fact that a friend has not long given birth, my sister just had her 3 month scan and, as I write, my cousin is at the hospital with his GF in labour! I have 2 DC already (DS is 6 and DD is 5), and don't know what to do with myself to make the time pass until I can start trying sometime next summer.......I find myself hovering on MN, and on Babycentre and whatever other baby sites I can find......

OneLonelySock thanks for the welcome! First it was simply early days into the relationship, then it was moving to a new place and all the settling down associated with that, and now it is financial uncertainty!
grr.

well TBH we rally started getting brood at the last stage ie when the financial uncertainty hit! Problem is things have been tanking for so long..

Hi

I think/assume (note to self: double check this one ) that we will TTC in May when we get married.

I've never wanted babies before. Ever. But find myself with a lovely loving man now that I'm 36 and can't keep away from these TTC threads! No really, I've trawled them all!

I'll be 37 by the time we get married, so I'm very fidgety.

Partly I want to come off the pill now and give my cycles time to find their feet. But even women of my age can catch quickly, and I don't want to be preggers for the wedding. But then it might take a month of sundays and I don't want to hang around. There's no right blinkin answer!

I've stocked up with FA and Angus Catus (something like that anyway) after reading here it might help bring AF back quicker (no AF with current pill).

Anyway, "Hi"

BB

bexaa you asked whether I'm going to do the ovulation stick thing? Weeell, my gut feeling is not straight away... but I'm a control freak so this may change when the time comes.

I do have a copy of the famous Taking Charge Of Your Fertility book, though. And I charted one cycle to give myself some reassurance that I was ovulating when I thought I was. And I still track my cycle length in Fertility Friend (gawd, I wish they were a bit longer, mine go 25 25 28 24 24 24...)

waves greetings at newfolks.

Tanmu, good luck with everyone around you popping out the children, that's got to be difficult.

BB congratulations!

Oh lord, the waiting to start ttc is terrible, does anyone know if this will get harder or easier once we actually start trying?

Also I'm going to post this as a main thread, but has anyone felt any emotional/hormonal changes since starting on the FA/pregnacare pills?

Hello new people, this is a good place to do the frustrating waiting (thanks to Hobnob for starting the thread and hooray for now being able to ttc ).

I've got less than a week of pills left and then ttc can begin. Keep thinking "I could be pregnant in a month" and have to firmly remind myself that that's unlikely, not least cos who knows what my body will do once the pills stop. But I so want it to happen.....

Being indecisive about the whole temperatures/OPK etc stuff - still being on the pill's meant I've not started on anything like that already (seemed little point when I shouldn't be ovulating) but I don't know whether to go for it from the beginning or wait a few months and see. Any experience/plans?

Thanks Ocarina! Sounds like you won't be too far behind me!

I've got 2 months of pills left. I wonder if I could get away with no re-filling the prescription after that (end of Feb). It will then be 2 and a half months until the wedding. Although sods law would be that AF returns on wedding night!!

I've already been reading up on CBFMs and I'm just a click away from the infamous "managing your fertility" book!

Sad, oh so sad!

I'm confused by all the abbreviations - some not even listed in the help guide!!! What is 'AF' and 'CBFM'???

Sorry. That's just proof I've been lurking here far to much!!!

AF is the kitch term used here for period (Aunt Flo).
CBFM - Clear Blue Fertility Monitor. A thingy that you put sticks into after you've peed on them to tell you if you are ovulating.

HTH (Hope that helps [fwink})

thanks for clearing that up!!! I snuck a look at some of the TTC (!) threads and slunk away after I could barely understand even one post for all the abbreviations being used!

Hello all! Welcome newbies!

Tanmu82 - before you know it all the abbreviations will sneak into your subconcious & you will be using them in everyday life & wondering why no one understands you!

Bexaa - I'm still working on DH too! One day it is 'Everything is looking up we can start TTC in Jan', the next day is 'Maybe we should wait til June', the next day is 'Don't think we should have another one next year or TTC next year', then 'DD is so cute lets have one now', then 'DD is a PITA lets wait til she starts school'. I swear he changes his mind when the wind changes direction! It's doing my head in! I will be pregnant next year even if I have to seduce him & get him very drunk & jump on him! (Sound like a crazy person! Oh well!)

Have started charting on fertility friend just want to be uber prepared for when I get the green light from DH. We have talked about trying to conceive a boy, but of course would be delighted with another DD. So have been doing lots of 'research' into what we can 'do'. DH thinks I'm mental... probably am!

BrassicaBabe, meant to say earlier, although I can think of squillions of reasons to not want to be pregnant for your wedding, we were at one earlier this year where the bride was 16 weeks pregnant and looked radiant! Huuuuge boobs as well which worked really well in her dress. So it can be no bad thing (and this was no shotgun wedding!), although like I see, I can see why you'd want not to.

I'm rapidly concluding there are no 'right' answers with all this ttc stuff - when to come off the pill, when to start trying, how will the money work out..... There seem to be a million what ifs so I reckon you have to make a decision and just go for that, and hopefully it'll all work out for us all.

I don't have a ticking clock so to speak, as before this time last year I never wanted to have children, but I do seem to have someone screaming in my ear "Dear God Woman, THIRTY SIX"!!!

'Friad I've done the white wedding thing before, but DP hasn't and for a bloke is surprisingly keen. So I'm doing my level best that he gets the ideal wedding.

I have eleven more pills left in my last pack. Not long! My friend at work is going for her 12-week scan tomorrow, I am so excited for her! Will have to bury myself in boring things at work so no-one can see me bouncing up and down and carrying my phone with my EVERYWHERE waiting for news...

Hi guys can i join ye? Iv two ds's and dh and i hav decided to ttc n the spring, i was booked to take out my coil on monday at g.p's but hav been stressin and feelin like im rushing (it's dh who would really like more dc's close in age where as i wouldnt mind leaving a bigger gap...) so i called and cancelled my appointment this morning i 'think' il leave it until iv weaned ds2 off bf'ing when he turns two in april then start ttc... I feel 'wierd' though cause i had gotten excited about ttc earlier and thoughts of our baby, even talking names etc but was just stressin so much wondering how on earth il cope with 3dc's... thats why i think waiting 6months will hopefully be better as i think it'd be slightly easier having a newborn if my ds2 was closer to 3yo and potty trained and dare i even wish he might be sleeping in his own bed... But anyways it'd be nice to wait here with ye ladies if ye'l have me

Hi everyone!

I would really like to join this thread please, although I'm not too sure if it's exactly the right place.

I'm 25 years old, and am living with fiance in SW London.

Myself and partner have been casually TTC since February 09, and I finally got pregnant in August only to lose it 6 weeks ago I was told I had had a missed miscarriage, which was heartbreaking.

It was a terrible shock and 6 weeks on most days I do find myself needing to have a few moments to gather my thoughts and look after myself emotionally. Physically I'm alright- except I haven't had a period yet not since I lost it.

I know the loss of any child isn't something one can just get over but I'm starting to psyche myself up for TTC again. I really had to be careful- the instinctive urge was to (excuse the pun) get back on the horse and start trying again right away but I know I'm not mentally ready.

So I've got quite a complex action plan to maximise my chances of success. I will be starting my action plan in the New Year or thereabouts.

One of my thoughts is to start taking pre-pregnancy vitamins such as Vitabiotics Pregnacare Conception Vitamins. Has anybody used any of these? I would love to hear if anybody has any opinions on how to make waiting to TTC easier and less stressful. If anybody else has an action plan, please share it!!

Anyway I have read lots of your posts and ladies I am really hoping the best for all of you, the yearning for a baby is such an amazing feeling- intense and overwhelming, but also strange to be feeling love for a person you don't even know yet, that you haven't even created yet.

I am sure that the right time is out there for all of us. Just the waiting is a nightmare!!!

Take care everybody and hope you are all doing well tonight

Lou x x

Poohbears mum welcome to our chat. My dh and I going to start ttc in April so hopefully we can go through it together although it will be our first! So excited! I'm on my last 2 weeks of my pill then I give it up but will use alternative forms of contraception till April so my cycle got time to sort it self out x

I am finishing my pill this month and although waiting a couple of months before ttc want to start taking prenatal vitamins. Anyone know if they are on offer anyway at the moment?

Thanks florin it'd be lovely to go through some of the journey together, if we manage the wait! And hiya lou i used pregnacare vit's with both my boys and plan to start them again n few months but hav started folic acid now on top of my usual multi vit. I plan to make myself the healthiest 'home' possible for my darling baby #3. Iv started to loose weight and very slowly starting to exercise which is new for me! Iv started to track my cycle too thats my planning so far anyways... Im very sorry about your mc lou, its so hard to get through but i hope its starting to get easier for you

Well, I took my last pill this morning, so I guess this is it. Who knows how long my body'll take to sort itself out though - I must say I'm going to miss being able to predict things to the day, but that's no great loss really in the grand scheme of things.

Thanks for the company in the waiting, and I wish you all much patience for however long it takes - will still be nosying to see what you're all up to. Can't quite believe that this time next year we could be parents

Florin, boots seem to have vitamins on 3 for 2 online, dunno if that's in store too.

Hi there, I'm new to mumsnet and have just started a thread in case there are other newbies but then saw this one and thought I'd say hello.
I will take my last pill on Thursday... can't wait!!
It's my first time to TTC and it's all very surreal but just want to get on with it now. Good luck to all of you in similar situation

I looked online at quite a few places and boots still come up cheapest with the 3 for 2 offer on branded ones, but same price and no delivery if you go in the shop. They often do offers where you get a load of extra points if you spend over £25, just put your card in the machine and it prints one off for you!