Anyone want to join me in a waiting to conceive thread ? Anyone else really broody but can't TTC yet ?

[Hobnob76]

Hi everyone! Hubby and I are desperately broody and have been for a few years. We're hoping to TTC later this year, we're having to wait til Hubby finishes his degree as we just can't afford to have a baby whilst he's a student. Am wanting to come off the pill round about May, and hopefully TTC about Nov/Dec. Want to come off the pill a few months early as I've been on it for over 14 yrs, and would like to know what its like to have normal periods!

Be nice to know if anyone else is in a similar situation.

Ah Bebe, what a beautiful Freudian slip!

Thanks Kawaiiko for introducing me to the thread!

My position is...

DH has finally agreed that we can start TTC in June - timing works out because of jobs/finances etc - but the waiting is sooo hard!!

We've been married for 18 months and together for 5 years - have a flat & a mortgage etc so babies are the next step (although its taken a while to convince DH!)

He's still a bit nervous about it all so I feel I can't really talk about it too much with him but I'm so excited!

I know about taking folic acid etc and will start 3 months before - but is there anything else I can do to make the time pass!? (Apart from giving up smoking which i'm planning to be my new years resolution)

Thanks bexaa - good luck with convincing your DP - sure you'll manage it!

My DH was away yesterday so I thought I'd go to the library and get a book about pregnancy and childbirth (I also feel the need to research things massively!)

Big mistake! Scared the cr*p out of myself! Feel I have been totally misled my entire life (I obviously knew it would be hard and painful etc but there are so many things that people don't mention!)

I'll be the first of my friends and family so don't really have anyone to speak to about it all - so now terrified, but sure it must be worth it otherwise people would give up after one!

Pls tell me I'm right!?

Oh no Panda!!!

Pregnancy & giving birth for me, not great I won't lie, but it's such a relitively short period of time when you think about it. You will have the precious child at the end of it. What in particular scared you? Maybe we can help? It can't be that bad or , like you said, no one would do it again!

I'm getting married next September and we plan to TTC straight away. It was something we'd both assumed was going to happen, but insecure ol' me needed to hear him say it. I grilled him last weekend (and as usual, he couldn't believe I was feeling insecure about it and didn't think I even needed to ask) and I've been ever since.

I'm not the world's most patient person so it's not going to be an easy wait. At least I have wedding planning to occupy myself with!

I'll admit to some early insanity though - I'm so paranoid that we've already left it a bit late. I'll be 30, so my train of thought goes something like this:

"OMG if I want more than one child I'll have to have TWO by the time I'm 35 because my fertility will OBVIOUSLY plummet after that, and what if it takes us YEARS to have our first?"

slowshow, I'm glad it's not just me that does that kind of paranoid. I try and convince myself that until we start ttc there's no point worrying, which sometimes works but not always. Have fun planning the wedding - are you going to be bridezilla?!

Got sent pics of a friend's baby that arrived this morning and am desperate to go visit but it won't happen till the new year. Have to keep biting my tongue to stop myself telling people about ttc plans, but I know I'll regret it if I do and they're then waiting for news. So thank you all for keeping me sane (ish!) by giving me a space to chat about it.

Oh no, it's not going to be a big wedding and my fiance has permission to kill me if I turn into a bridezilla. We're aiming for low key and sophisticated... whether we'll actually achieve that is another question

So, how do you let go of your paranoia? I keep telling myself that there's no point worrying about problems I might not even have, but it's SO difficult. I think about having difficulty conceiving, about miscarriages, all sorts of scary stuff...

PandaSam - I feel the need to research things massively too. I've read books about childbirth/midwifery, which don't scare me too much, but what DOES scare me is the state of NHS maternity care.

I am using ovulation predictor kits, looking out for EWCM and now taking temperature too! Don't know if it will really help but keeps me occupied! The fertility friend website seems great for charting, and has a great email course. I didn't realise how much I didn't know: they don't teach you about stuff like cervicalucus at school do they? ;)
I'm now just waiting for AF as after tomorrow the next AF is time to start ttc and still be eligible for my maternity pay! Not expecting AF til end of month though.

Hello, planning on ttc #2 in feb. Have ridiculously irregular cycles (56 days at the last count). Have just started taking my temp in the morning and am getting excited!

It took us a year to conceive our little boy so am preparing for the long haul...

xxx decaf

hi all, lots of action on here! Welcome to new people.

I'm also a big FF fan jennimoo, I love playing with all the graphs! Normally the sight of a graph would transport me back to GCSE maths but it turns out it's more interesting this time round... (and when it all gets updated automatically!)

have a good weekend everyone

Ooo, one more week at work remaining, and then it's nearly Christmas, and after Christmas there's hardly any time left to wait at all! Yaaaaaaaaaaaaay!

slinks back in after a huge absence! Sorry everyone! (if anyone remembers me!)

Been so busy recently that I've not had time to get on here. Nice to see that the thread has taken off again.

Thought I should pop in and say goodbye! As of 2 weeks ago, we decided to ditch the condoms (only a month earlier than planned) and go for it! I'm due my period in about 5 days, don't think we'll have done it this month, not sure we did the deed on the right dates, but hell we've sure had loads of fun!

Back when I started this thread, I thought I'd be on my own! Never thought there'd be so many people in the same situation as me.So thanks for all the help and support over the last 10 months, I really appreciate it.

Hi to any newbies, these ladies in here are fab at keeping you sane! And to any oldie, long time waiters (if there are any of the orginals left), I wish you good luck when you do start to TTC!

Farewell ladies!

Hello everyone, I am new!!!!

I have been with my partner for 7 years and I have been extremely broody for the past year but timing with work just wasn't right.

My job was made permanent in August so knew that I was one step closer and started to mention to OH how I was sooooo ready. (I'm 29 and he is 34)

I never got a straight answer other than "One day!" Until recently that is.

Then one night this week he came home from work and sat there and said - "I've been looking at our finances. If things keep going the way they are we could start trying for a baby next Christmas!"

My jaw nearly hit the floor!!!!

My job situation is unlikely to change between now and then, but he is self-employed but business is really taking off. We don't have any really big debts other than our mortgage but he wants us to have savings so we don't have to worry.

I know that I have a bit longer to wait than alot of you ladies but I am so happy that I have a date to look forward to rather than 'one day'.

Sorry for the long post. Kind of got carried away in the excitment.

December 2010 here I come!!!

Steps out of the cupboard, closing the door in Mr Tumnus' face

Love and pink gins to the ladies, and hello to everyone new, old, fresh and stale alike!
Missy, let me be the first to say welcome. HOBNOB!!! Huge zen hugs, great news and good luck!!
Great name EvilGiraffe! "I shall eat more leaves from this tree then prehaps I should" I shall raid my dvd collection this evening in honor of your name. I could do with a good laugh.

So I'm back again, still thinking of babies every day, but going weeks without feeling too broody. Until a couple of nights ago when I woke up at one in the morning sobbing my heart out and unable to go back to sleep. Took an entire series of farscape and an iceburg of swedish glace before I trogged back to bed.

What I'd really love to see is everyone suddenly coming down with unexpected-not-yet-trying-to-concieve pregnancy all in the same week, like a bad epidemic of swineflu. You never know, if we've all wished for the same thing when stirring the christmas pud it could happen. crosses fingers and sends wishes to Santa

Thanks OneLonelySock!

me too! add me on! waiting to start TTC since last christmas! but it has just not been the right time for a variety of reasons

Today taking the first pill of my last pack of pills. For some reason I am super excited about it. Not trying to concieve straight away after coming off the pill as want to give my body time to sort itself out and then start trying around April time hopefully. I can't wait! Had lovely weekend as DH's best friend stayed for most of the weekend. Him and his wife to be are the only people who know about our plans of ttc and stangely for a guy dh best friend is just as broody as me so loves talking about when we all have kids so keeps me happy!

Welcome Seagreen! sighs why does it never seem to be the right time eh? Do you have any ideas as to when you might be considering starting?

Personally it's never been the right time, I've been broody since being 25, made him promise I'd be pregnant by 27, and am now having passed 30 am about to hit the age that both my mum and maternal nan had to have hysterectomies. You'd never believe that he really wants kiddlings too (silly man will not stop thinking things through logically - stop with the head talk or we'll never get there.) Still the plan is on for february!!!
Talking of plans makes me think of hardhats and blueprints for some reason.

Florin - Hope your AF settles back into its swing nice and quickly. Sounds like you had a fantastic weekend.