July/August baby threads, where are you now? Wishing, Sunnydale, Homeinthesun, Headfairy, Bubble, etc..

[Issy42]

Please don't be offended if you're not named, you're still welcome, I just have a rubbish memory. I can see a couple of you on November thread but there's a whole load of people not there. Just wondering if you wanted a little thread to keep in touch?

Headfairy - just replied to you on grapefruit thread. So sorry about your sad news. Was hoping a new thread might provide you with support from old friends.

And Sunnydale, I know you're wary of new threads, so though you might also like the company of old friends.

Wishing and Bubble having your weird long cycles and missing whole month's threads, thought this might be one for you too.

So what do you say? I'll start a list just in case:

Issy, ttc#1, cycle 14, ucl 28ish, cd 23/10dpo, mc Mar08, cp Sep08, IVF in April.

Morning girls!

Thanks Suzi i am trying hard to think of other things but its very consuming. I dont wish she wasnt pg. I just wish i was. we have been trying since oct and she has only been ttc the last 2 months. Then i think of the mc and think that i should be 10 wks now. was i stupid to think that the mc hadnt phased me. i feel like denying what happened then has made it worse somehow.

i cant wait til dh is home tonight.ive missed him this weekend and need a hug.

Happy mothers day and happy mum to be (in the near future)day!

"I don't wish she wasn't pg, I just wish I was" - oh bubble I can soo relate. You'll feel better when your DH gets home and you get a big cuddle.

You have to go easy on yourself too, I've had 2 mc and feel fine 99% of the time but then wham! it floors me, what I've lost and what could have been (I should be on mat. leave as was due 6th April, instead I'm getting through tampons like they're going out of fashion )

We have to be strong and look forward, it WILL happen I just know it.

Suzi - how are you today?

Head - what's you 'double bluffing fate' dress like? Ooh I do love a good wedding..

Bubble So sorry you're feeling so down. I too understand that feeling that you're ok 99% of the time and then something triggers the tears. I read an article about a woman who lost her baby at 35 weeks the other day and it finished me off, sat there sobbing for ten minutes. Actually sometimes it's a good thing, a really hard cry, admitting your feelings. For me it kind of opens a valve and releases the tension for a bit. It builds up again for sure, but for a while I feel better. I hope your hugs tonight make you feel better too.

Blue this is the dress I bought. It actually looks particularly underwhelming in the picture but it's really nice. The colour is slightly stronger in reality, and it's a great shape for me. I've found a really pretty coat which I'm going to try with the dress next week to see if it goes. Otherwise I'll get a silver pashmina and silver shoes to go with... I'm quite looking forward to this wedding too. It's a group of friends we always bump in to at weddings, and the last three I've either been pregnant or breastfeeding and have been very of how glamourous they all our, so I'm determined to look good. I've started body scrubbing every day so I'll have lovely shiney soft skin too.

Happy Mother's day to everyone.. I'm at work but I didn't start until 2 today so I had a morning at home with dh and ds. Poor ds has a stinking cold so he was particularly miserable, but it was still nice to get some time with him. Hope everyone else's day is good

xx

oh Head the dress and coat are gorgeous, what a lovely shade of green and I do love a well placed bow on a dress . If you are 'with child' by then it looks like the kind of style that could easily accomodate a wee bump .

Thanks Blue I've written off all hope of being with child by then now... not in a bad way, more in a "oh my gawd I'm going to get squiffy" kind of way. The wedding's at the end of May so if by some kind of miracle I was knocked up, I wouldn't have any bump to accomodate, but it is very handy for hiding my saggy belly (might have to invest in one of those boobs to knees spanx thingys!)

Thanks Blue and Head. You were right. I had a good cry this afternoon and i feel better now.

Head that dress is lovely! you will look gorgeous

Ah bless you bubble. Glad you're feeling a little better. There's never any harm done in having a good cry every now and then. It's like

Af came this morning for me, and I thought, ho hum at least I can have a glass or two of wine over the next few days as I've really missed not having a drink and then I remembered.......

DAMN DAMN AND DOUBLE DAMN!!! I've only fecking given up drink for Lent haven't I? Grrrrr!

I hope God is looking

dont laugh Head but i cried coz i thought my washing machine was broken It just all got too much for me. i sat sobbing til my dad turned up and cleaned the filter.but It is fine now and im shocked at what came out of the filter [shocked]

sorry that the witch got u. heres to this months trying its a damn shame about the wine.

I'm not laughing

The silliest things can set me off at the moment too, I bawled my eyes out at Gavin and Stacey the other day... I wish they'd all just be happy

I'm missing chocolate and wine too much to not be a hormonal mess

oh Head - sorry to hear TEW turned up this morning (didn't want to ask earlier as I knew you were due @same time as me). Well done you for sticking to no booze rule, your liver will thank you for it .

bubble - good to hear you had a 'let it all out cry' and re: your machine filter, I had our timble drier for a year before I realised you had to remove the lint from the lint tray - one year's worth of belly button fluff .

Here's to a good week!

my italics never seem to work...

headfairy love that dress and coat and im sorry AF got you!!

blue so how are you doing?....

Im now on CD 42 and AF still hasnt appeared... I dont think im pg so i really want af to appear so i can start trying again... its soooo long to wait. I think a trip to the docs might be due

Hi everyone,
bubble i know everyone has said this, but its totally normal to suddenly get an unexpected wash of sadness, it can totaly take you by surprise, which makes it worse somehow.

head sorry AF got you, and doubly sorry you cant have a glass of wine to drown your sorrows. The dree and coat combo look fab though! lovely to have that to look forward to!

Suzi hope you get some answers soon!

Hi everyone else, hope you are all looking forward to a fun week ahead!

Hi ladies - not long to post unfortunately so must be quick.
What a shame none of us struck BFP gold this month. I am gearing up for my week's attempts right now. Not sure how to do it in terms of DP. I really like the thought of keeping it as fun and relaxed as possible but then that's how we missed the magic time last month (if there was one) so i think i am just going to have to turn into a wee sex pest.

The disappointment is a gutter isn't it, but thanks to our hormones or whatever, at least we always somehow manage to bounce back don't we.

It will happen for all of us. I am feeling very positive today and am happy to spread it around.
Have bought opks this month (damn they are expensive aren't they!) and am staring at them willing for any line to appear let alone one that is darker etc. I really hope i ovulate. I haven't got any ewcm yet and not for want of a good old rummage either however I am having impure thoughts so hopefully that is a good sign...

hmmm anyway I am sorry that people have been having a crappy time.

Oh and sorry not to do individual catch ups, i don't mean to be rude just am so snowed under and feel guilty even being on here.

xx

Hi, TMI alert...

so I am only on CD8, but was feeling a bit.. ahem... damp... so went to check and it was definitly EW consistency. Now we did BD last night, but I don't think it is leftover (sorry, but i did warn you!) However it is way too early for OV. I have found a grapefruit juice that I can stand, but only been having it for 3 days. It only increases it when you would normally get it anyway doesn't it?

I have some OPK's at home, am I mad to poas at this point in my cycle?

I hate all this, why cant we just know when we are ov'ing, when we are definitly PG etc.

definitely poas - you never know. I have been drinking gf juice and have not had any ewcm yet (day 11 or something not sure)
fingers crossed - that would be a result wouldn't it! xx

Hi everyone. Afraid I can't do personals as I'm full of cold and my head is exploding just trying to read the thread - I don't seem to able to remember what I've read. Have spent most of the weekend asleep (one advantage of ttc#1). Really sorry that AF got so many of you and that you've been feeling down. Is there anyone left with a hope of a BFP this cycle?

I'm struggling a bit too at the mo - always feel down when I'm sick though. I miscarried over Easter last year, so have been feeling sorry for myself thinking that it should have been my first mother's day but in fact was anniversary of miscarriage. Trying to look forward. Have my stock of drugs ready to start a week on Thursday and finally got the nurse to talk me through my antral follicle count, which was 13 on one side and 16 on the other. They reckon about 60-70% having eggs to collect, so ~ 17, so fingers crossed I might have enough to go to blast then success rate is 70% rather than 40%. Need to temper that slightly as all of my results are really good so egg quality could be the reason I've not got pg yet.

Girl - I'm with Sif - definitely poas. I once went for a monitoring scan on day 9 and already had a follicle at 2.3 (they look for 1.8) so entirely possible to be ov'ing this early. Good luck!

Hi LJ - nice to hear from you. Head - lovely dress. Wishing - good luck for Thursday.

Morning girls!!

Issy Hope you feel better soon.

Jumping good luck.. im keeping my fingers crossed that you get a BFP

Girl def poas. then you can be sure.

Sif good luck with your bd marathon my fertile window is next weekend. so im too preparing myself

has AF arrived yet Suzi or is she still beig a pain? could you of ovd late? have you tried testing again?

Im feeling much better now. DH is home as its his birthday and im making him a cake. Chocolate, my fav... lol

i was thinking that i wouldnt be bothered if i didnt catch this time round. i would be due just before xmas and i would have a cs so it might ruin xmas for the boys?. i know 1000s of women have a cs at xmas and have other kids but im worried about managing. do you think im stupid??? also dh isnt allowed time off in dec so how would that stand with paternity leave?

Hi everyone,
How are all you ladies?
I've been really busy at work so didn't have time to pop in y'day, but I wanted to share my positive scan story with you, particualrly as you've been so supportive.
As you know, I was scared witless about my nine week viability scan last Thursday. But thankfully, all turned out really well.
We saw, not only the heartbeat but also the head, tummy and teensy weensy arms and legs. It was truly amazing! I never thought we would see that much so we felt truly blessed! After my last two mcs, this is a miracle for us. They dated me at 8 weeks, five days, which now makes me nine weeks, three days.
It goes without saying that we are absolutely delighted and feel a lot more positive, but are still very cautious as it's still early days.
I haven't read your latest posts as, as I mentioned, I've been really busy, but I'm really hoping my positivity permeates the thread.
Any other good news stories thazt I've missed?

Hi everyone.

izzy that all sounds really positive, well apart from the cold! What happens next?

bubble if it was me I would just keep trying, you never really know what is going to happen, and as we all know trying to time is the least of our worries. However I don't think you are being stupid, it sounds like your issues with DH's work would meake it really difficult, only you really know if the problems outweigh the desire!

gateau thats fantastic news! congratulations! I understand your nervousness, but to have already got this far is fab!

So, i went to the dr's this morning, luckily she is pretty supportive. She wants me to have day 21 tests (which for me is day 33!) and also early - day 4-5 ones. DP came as well, and she has given him a little jar... she just wants to rule it out, but I can tell he is really worried that its something to do with him. I am sure it isn't. She was also really nice about my long cycles, said we couldn't really do anythign about them, but she understood how frustratig it is... sometimes its just nice to have someone understand! So no real answers yet, and we just keep on trying for now, but I do feel a bit better.

Hello to everyone else!

hi all

well I am feeling tremendously perky since I have just discovered my first bit of EWCM since the MC. WOOOOHHHOOOOOO. sorry for the TMI. I know you ladies a) don't mind too much and b) understand. I am also feeling seriously (that is the closest I can get to a howzaboutit emoticon. Sorry, I know I am disgusting, but where else can I share these thoughts?

bubble i do understand the timing concerns. If I don't get lucky this month I will think twice about trying for a january baby. It's just such a shit month. Having said that I wouldn't be able to help myself, so...Why don't you just consider it a month to chill and not cycle spot and whatever will be will be etc?

head I hope you are in good spirits. I worry about you when you go quiet but hopefully you have just been playing with DS.
blue I hope that you are feeling perkier again today. I saw on another thread that it's getting closer to your EDD. I just found out that my sister is having a big party on mine. I didn't say anything. It's not her fault. But i did have a big gulp. I also got another letter from the NHS this morning telling me i needed an antenatal appointment as I was over 20 weeks, THANKS!!! They'll be telling me to book in for delivery next or something. idiots!Anyway it is a tough time for you and I am sorry about that.
girl good that you have gone to the docs. are you going to try any alternative medical routes?
suzi how are you holding up? Have you buckled yet?!
Issy thanks for your lovely posts and thanks for posting on my deadest thread ever!! Hope your cold has cleared and yay for you on the abundance of eggs. It must be a relief that it has all been good news thus far.
jumping you have done very well to keep such a low profile in your 2ww. keep us posted.
and finally gateau HUGE congrats to you. I love a happy scan story. You must be delighted.

as an aside - i haven't had GF juice for a couple of days - ran out - but started to worry that it might make sperm-killing acidic EWCM. Am I just insane? I hope so.

ps girl did you poas?

Hi y'all. Sorry I've been a bit quiet. I actually had a day off yesterday without ds, he was at the cm. He's had a cold and has been up and down all night so yesterday I was shattered and flumped on the sofa all day watching old Derren Brown programmes and having cups of tea and eating my own body weight in custard creams

Sounds very promising on the egg front Issy, I hope it all goes well.

sif I'm not sure what gfj does but last month on cd 16 I had the most massive amount of crystal clear wobbly ewcm, from watching that programme last night it can only be a good thing. I'm back on the gfj again after a little break when we ran out, so this month I'll be visualising little sperm climbing ladders up to my cervix

girl glad you'e got an understanding doc. I'm seeing mine this week, hopefully he's as good. Hope the tests go ok.

gateau that's fantastic news, I hope the rest of the pregnancy is uneventful and healthy

bubble you realise saying you don't want a December baby means you'll get pg this month don't you?

jumping hope the 2ww goes ok and the opks work their magic.

Big hi to everyone else xxx