July/August baby threads, where are you now? Wishing, Sunnydale, Homeinthesun, Headfairy, Bubble, etc..

[Issy42]

Please don't be offended if you're not named, you're still welcome, I just have a rubbish memory. I can see a couple of you on November thread but there's a whole load of people not there. Just wondering if you wanted a little thread to keep in touch?

Headfairy - just replied to you on grapefruit thread. So sorry about your sad news. Was hoping a new thread might provide you with support from old friends.

And Sunnydale, I know you're wary of new threads, so though you might also like the company of old friends.

Wishing and Bubble having your weird long cycles and missing whole month's threads, thought this might be one for you too.

So what do you say? I'll start a list just in case:

Issy, ttc#1, cycle 14, ucl 28ish, cd 23/10dpo, mc Mar08, cp Sep08, IVF in April.

Head LOL at queasy jet - we call it sleazy jet or squeezy jet up here (used to fly down to Luton regularly in my old job...)

Have a great weekend everyone, we're off to Crieff for an extended family (18 adults, 12 children) long weekend and its sunny!!!

I'm 'doing' my bikini line as we speak x

Hey ladies,

Just in the airport in paris waiting for the flight to Korea so said I'd hop on and see if tehre was any news\Congrats Suzi I did find myself wondering if you were going to come back to us - well done on the BFP I'm so happy for you \Blue nice on e on the scan - getting kicked off now - talk to you all later.

Hi everyone,

Firsty congrats to Suzi for you BFP and to Blue for hitting that 12 week mark. I am so envious of you Blue but feel guilty for feeling that.

I have been having a rubbish morning. Ended up bursting into tears while in shower and have been crying on and off pretty much since. I am convinced my symptoms have been fading throughout the week when they should be getting stronger. On Tuesday when I was home with ds I felt dreadful, exhausted and queasy but it seems to have got better since.

I've had no bleeding or anything but then I didn't before and that turned out badly. I've been torturing myself trying to remember what I felt and when with ds but it was so long ago now. And in those days I didn't make notes.

I have moved my scan forward to Weds morning so I just have a few days to wait. I just feel like I can't do this anymore. I've got no trust in my body or instincts as they were all so wrong before. I feel like I was duped into believing I was pg when I wasn't YSWIM.

God, I'm gibbering. And crying again. I need to get a grip before I pick up DS from nursery.

Sorry this has been a really selfish post.

(((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))) Wasabi. Poor you. I hope the next few days fly by for you. There's nothing sensible really I can say, because the wait is agonising but I'm sure everything's fine.

wasabi - it is torture plain and simple. Did you use a digi HPT to test? The reason I'm asking is you could use one today as it shows how many weeks and you should be getting a 3 week +. Although I've heard they are notorious for being wrong but did reassure Issy and me. Anything that can give you some tangible proof that your HG levels are rising.

FWIW I didn't feel sick until 6 weeks and although its lasted longer than with DS wasn't the acute throwing up in a shop when I sniffed butcher meat way so every pg is different.

I echo Head in giving you a massive hug and some hair and back stroking thrown in. Try your visualisation and hypnotherapy techniques.

You will look back on these weeks and thank God you made it through them xxx

Hey irish - enjoy Korea!

Thanks guys, you are lovely.

Blue, I used the digi tests right from the beginning and it went up to 3 weeks Sunday before last which was pretty much on schedule. I had the blood hormone tests too so up to last Friday it was all looking good. This flappery has been bought on by the fact that symptoms don't seem to have markedly got worse this week but now I have calmed down a bit I can see that I might be overeacting.

I am knackered now but I think that is expenditure of emotion rather than pregnancy related exhaustion.

I do understand that all pregnancies vary to some extent. I am just ultra sensetive because I had no symptoms on the one I lost so am obsessing over the tiniest thing.

Oh well, we'll see. I might have a nap now ds is snoozing.

Have a lovely weekend everyone and thank you for your kind words in my crazy, self obsessed hour of need xx

wasabs I really hope you see this message today because I TOTALLY understand how you feel. My sickness seems to wax and wane and that has totally fried my brain. 2 days ago I could barely get a piece of bread down me and last night I ate sag paneer and daal. I freaked myself out so badly about the fact that i was able to do that, and then have sex (first time since the BFP) that I booked myself in for a private scan today. I was convinced that my sickness had totally evaporated and that that could only mean one thing. Anyway suffice to say, £100 later (THANKS MUM) I am the proud owner of several pics including a 3D one of a 9wk old little jelly baby measuring 25mm. I had my eyes closed as the lady started to scan and it was very sweet because the first thing she said was, 'can you hear this?' and i heard this really loud and fast heartbeat! It was amazing. So I'm spot on for my dates and she even told me the nuchal fold was very thin which is a great bonus. My poor mum says that I took ten years off her life. DP who is on a business trip today couldn't speak cos he was crying! No one has any nerves left.

Oh and they gave me a report that says viable pregnancy on it. Just reading those words helps so much.

Point is I was so convinced it was all over because last time bleeding was my last sign of MC not first. For 4 weeks maybe I had thought I was growing a baby when i wasn't and the only thing that was different was that my nausea had decreased a lot. So PLEASE see me as living testimony that symptoms come and go. Without rhyme or reason. I was sick as soon as I got home. But feel fine again now as long as I keep eating. Hormones don't produce very regularly. I will now just try to keep that in mind. It's SUCH torture so just be super easy on yourself for the next 3 weeks. Get signed off work if need me. Not being at work has definitely helped me.
Back on Monday so we will see what that brings. One step at a time. Scans are totally the way forwad. It's just always better to know. Big unmumsnetty hugs to you. I really do know EXACTLY how it feels! xxxxxxxx

blue you are so good doing your bikini line. I was looking at mine this morning - i forgot it got so bad when untendered.oh dear. I saw in Superdrug that you can get a ladygarden topiary kit. It's called femme fatale and comes complete with trimmer and stencils!! However much time I have on my hands - I don't think it's ever going to be that much time... but then again...?nononononoo

head hiyerr. SO jealous of your house in the South of France. heaven. sisters are so annoying. You had better book your 2 months now! That is exactly what I fantasise on doing. mind if pitch up? Agree that we need to stick around so that Irish and Bubble can catch us up. How about the name Issy's Posse? or am i just a sucker for rhymey things?

ok need a snooze now. too much drama for one day.

Big GROUP hug xxxxxx

so glad you're feeling a bit better wasabi, sometimes it's really no bad thing to have a huge emotional let down. The stress we carry in times like this can be such a burden, so letting it all out and howling like a baby is no bad thing.

Agree too with Sif that symptoms do come and go so much, I sometimes freak out that I don't feel that sick and then I get these ridiculous nipples pinging out making me look like a porn star and I feel such a fool. I also get growth spurts too, days without feeling anything and then the dull achey stretching pains (v diff to mc pains so I'm not to worried) for a few hours then nothing again. It's all ups and downs.

I think every mc is different too, I had bleeding first with both and no pain until it all came out. But I did feel very different to how I do now. Plus I never at any point felt huge iyswim. This time I felt I needed maternity clothes at the ridiculously early stage of 7 weeks (well maternity jeans anyway, still fit in to other stuff) and at 11+5 I'm eyeing up maternity clothes like a loon (will most definitely not buy until after 12wk scan)

Ok I'm rambling now. I hope you can get some reassurance soon that alls well. I'm sure it is.

Sif so glad you had your scan and everything looks good. Bonus too about the nuchal. I'm bricking it about that now as I'm 39 next month. Last time (at 37) I had a risk factor of 1:1000, I'd love love love to have another result like that.

Feel free to pitch up next summer, we can sit in the shade with our babies and then drink lots of local wine in the evening

Hi guys,

Thank you so much for your support on Friday, although it did make me cry again when I read your messages! Sif you totally hit the nail on the head in your statement that bleeding was the last sign of your mc, not the first. That is why I have been obsessing over every tiny symptom. I did read your message on Friday night but was too knackered to form a coherent reply so thank you for taking the trouble to write it.

I am so happy for you that you got to see your little 9 week old jelly baby. I hope you can make it it to the 12 week mark without anymore scares. Great news about the nuchal fold too x

Head thankyou for your message too. Have just realised that you should be exactly 12 weeks today. Hooray!! Big congratulations to you and Mr Head Fairy. Now you can go wild in Isabella Oliver or wherever.

I am looking forward to getting into the maternity wear. I am already thickening around the tummy although whether that is due to Peanut or the vast amounts of food I have been eating is somewhat debatable.

I have calmed down a lot over the weekend. I think I had a big hormone rush yesterday because I got really car sick when we went for a drive to look at houses and this morning I was so dizzy, queasy and spaced that I think I was quite close to passing out. I think it was because DS very kindly (and unusually) slept until 8.30 and we didn't have breakfast until much later than usual so my blood sugar must have been on the floor. I had to get dh to pour me a big glass of orange juice so I could basically mainline sugar.

Its odd - when I was pg with ds I just felt sick rather than dizzy. This time round the sickness seems to be related to dizziness rather than coming from my stomach alone.

Anyway, I promise to try not to freak out and ramble on too much anymore. I am 7 weeks tomorrow and have the scan on Weds so not long to wait now to get some reassurance hopefully.

Hope you are all having a lovely weekend.

Hello all

wasabi just wanted to send you lots of big hugs. I have been so incredibly fortunate to not experience a mc (only a cp a long time ago) and yet I still find early pregnany incredibly tortuous, as symptoms really to was and wane so much and each pregnancy (for me) has been so different it's very easy to be convinced things are not going well. And it's impossible to be laid back when you have wanted a LO for so long. Add to that the nasty hormone cocktail of early pregnancy and it makes for lots of tears and an emotional rollercoaster which I'm convinced is almost, if not more, exhausting than the physical aspect of early pregnancy. Really hoping this week is calmer for you, and will be thinking of you lots on Weds.

irish hope you are having a FAB time in Korea, not jealous at all!

bubble how are you this week? How's the clomid going down?

Head congrats on reaching the 12 week mark- yippee!!

blue so so pleased you had a good scan, hope you can relax a bit more now- and you've made it through the interminable first trimester yippee!

Sif glad you got another scan for reassurance, it does mean so much, I just feel so lucky to be alive in this day and age to be able to have scans (which my mum frequently reminds me were not available at all not so long ago- and she's convinced now us pregnant ladies are more paranoid because of them,which I can see some sense of...)

Hope you are doing ok Issy- how's the ms?
Sunny how are you?
suzi how are you feeling?

Well I saw my GP on friday, and she listened to baby's heartbeat while warning me it might not be possible to hear if I'm only just 14wks, but lo and behold there it was! Such a relief, felt so much reassurance. GP is convinced I'm at least a week further on than the last scan put me at, as my womb has risen up quite a bit out of my pelvis (hence why it was easy for her to get a hb) and I do feel like I'm showing quite a bit now. Have the 20 week anomaly scan on 23rd July (seems forever away) so guess we'll get another look at dates then. Am now booked to see midwife at GP surgery every 3 weeks to get a baseline of my blood pressure so that hopefully later on any symptoms of pre-eclampsia will be detected early and managed better. So far so good though, BP behaving well (phew!).

Right have lots of write this week as off for ten days at the end of the week for my Mum's 60th and to do our annual tour of rellies in the south of England! Looking forward to getting away, will also be meeting my new niece (who'll be 2 months old) and lots of time to show DCs my favourite childhood places... I do get quite nostalgic at times!

Hope you all have a stressfree week and those growing beans can relax a little and those on the TTC rollercoaster are feeling full of optimism xxx

hey jumping so pleased for you.... im glad your scan went well. i have an early scan tomorrow and i am dreading it. im so nervous that they might not see anything. i think i will probably have to close my eyes and let dp look

Good luck for tomorrow suzi, will be keeping everything crossed for you xx

thanks jumping..... will let you all know how it goes

Hi everyone...

wasabi I'm so glad to hear you're feeling a bit less stressed. I hope the next few days fly by so you can see your baby on Wednesday and put your mind at ease. Every day is a bonus in my book.

I've had some rotten dizzy spells this time around, I had a couple of moments of dizziness last time, but this time I've had a couple of spells that have lasted over an hour. Horrible... I'd rather be puking

Thanks for your kind congrats. I'm holding out until this afternoon as I've got my nuchal and I'll get the results of my bloods too so I'll get a good idea of our risk of Down's. If I can get through that I'll be a lot happier. Last time I went from a baseline risk of 1:230 to 1:1000 after the nuchal. I'm hoping for anything above 500 really to put my mind at ease, but I'm bracing for anything really.

jumping thanks for the congrats... it is a milestone. I did say a little thank you prayer yesterday morning... this is the furthest I've been for a while. Enjoy your trip down south and seeing all your rellies.

I hope everyone else is fine. sorry not to do more personals, I've got to dash off and get my house keys to my mum as we've had a major diary clash tomorrow so she's picking ds up from the cm, and then I've got to dash across town to be back in time for the scan.

Hope everyone's well xxx

Good luck for your nuchal scan Head, really hope you get favourable odds, and that you then have one less thing to worry about.

Good luck head please let us know how you get on.

jumping so pleased you heard the HB and that you may even have gained a week. Result! Happy nostalgia tripping too. I am such a nostalgia queen - and children love hearing stories about when mummy was little so they'll love seeing your old haunts i'm sure

suzhi good luck with your scan too - i kept my eyes shut til the scanner lady said all was fine!

wasabs great to hear you sounding more optimistic. I feel much more relaxed and like i might actually be having a baby for the first time this pregnancy! It's a very nice feeling and one which I had begun to worry I would never have. only 2.5 weeks until i will hopefully be able to breathe out completely. Til then obviously all fingers remain permanently crossed. painful and inconvenient but necessary ;)

It's my first day back at work today and i feel OK. Have probably eaten half my body weight but whatever keeps the sickness at bay frankly. It's a lottery as to what stays down but hopefully most of it will today!

can't remember how to do work Do I have to?!

Hi to everyone else. Where is Issy? I hope she's ok xx

Sif - PMSL at the ladygarden topiary kit - with stencils no less!! As long as I can wear a swimnming cossie with nothing 'peeking out' - that's groomed enough for me . Fab news that your saw your jellybean and hope your ms is subsiding... I didn't look at screen at any of my early scans, just held DH's hand and waited for the sonographer to speak...

wasabi - hope your feeling a bit clamer this week. As Head says, one day at a time and one day closer to 2nd trimester... BTW I 'heart' Isabella Oliver' clobber although only treated myself to a vest and two bra's last time around!

Head - hope all is going well today and your results are A-OK.

jumping - so please you got to hear your bay's heartbeat, that's just lovely .

Hey suzi - will be thinking about you tomorrow x

Issy - please let us know how your doing. I know you have another scan lined up soon...

Crieff was lovely and the sun stayed out , we told everyone our news and I didn't throw up once all weekend . Don't know if its hitting 12 weeks, or change of scenery or just being busy and not fretting but really hope I've turned a corner nausea wise. Bump seems to be growing daily and I'm waddling floating about in empire tops, its so good being able to let it all hang out .

Anyhoo, enough of this chit chat, need to go and do the washing - domesticity beckons x

Hey everyone,

Thought I had better check in so you don't think I have gone completely potty. Thanks again for all the nice things you have said. Because so few people in RL know about my little peanut, I need my virtal friends more than ever.

Blue Glad you had a lovely weekend and that the nausea is starting to subside. I guess its about the right time for it to start fading. I heart Isabella O too although it is scarily expensive. I bought their purple ruffle dress for a couple of weddings when I was heavily pg with DS. I cringe now when I look at pictures. I thought I would look terribly sexy and womanly with my big bump. In fact, I looked EXACTLY like a hazelnut quality street - same shape to a T.

Sif So glad to hear you are starting to relax a little. I hope work isn't too much of a shock to the system!

Head Best, best, best of luck for nuchal and Suzi best of luck with your scan too. I will lurk tonight for news!

Jelly Really glad all is going well for you and that you heard LO's heartbeat. I hope you have a great UK tour and enjoy some r & r.

Well we had a fairly relaxed weekend (sort of) house hunting which took my mind off things a bit. As much as my mind can be taken off things anyway. I only have 48 hours to wait now for the scan.

I had a really vivid dream that I started bleeding last night so woke up in a panic and had to go to the loo to check. Nothing there but really hope it wasn't my intuition trying to tell me something. The dizziness I have experienced today would hopefully indicate not.

Hope everyone is getting some decent weather where they are!

not really here am working honest but wasabs just wanted to say I had the same dream. It's just anxiety not inuition xx

Hi everyone. Sorry not caught up properly (again), but thought better just post to say I'm OK. Thank-you for thinking of me. Very sweet of you to suggest naming the new thread after me, but I think 'abandoned by Issy' would be a more appropriate name given my recent posting frequency .

Had friends visiting this weekend, hence lack of post. Will try and catch-up tomorrow. Am working from home so can come online in lunch break. First midwife appointment at 1:30.

Good luck for your scan Suzi. Wasabi - I had that dream several times too. Will do more personals with next post, but glad to hear all the good news.

Take care everyone and good luck to those still ttc xx

Morning everyone...

thanks for all your kind wishes... the scan went very well. Little fella was bouncing around, waving arms and legs. My nuchal results were pretty good too, 1:400. It was a bit of a wake up call as to how old I am because just over 2 years ago my risk was 1:1000, so a 60% increase in risk in such a short time is really sobering. However, it's good enough for me, so we're leaving it at that. My baseline risk (ie baseing it just on age) is 1:100 so it went down fourfold after my scan which is very reassuring.

wasabi glad the house hunting has helped take your mind off your worries. It's really helped me. Not long now...

I've had some crazy dreams too, not bleeding ones, but I dreamt there was a lion loose in our house last night and we were all barricaded in a room while it prowled around. Odd! I hope your dreams become more wierd like mine and less anxiety inducing. I do remember having crazy dreams when I was pg with ds, and during my second trimester they were really dirty

Issy glad everything's ok.. we'll always be Issy's gang

Blue so glad you had a nice weekend away. It's great that your puking has slowed down too. You must feel like a different person

Sif I hope the return to work isn't too much of a shock to the system Glad to hear you're starting to keep food down too... I find eating my own body weight in biscuits does really help, but then I've never been sick, so I'm now really porky

suzi good luck with the scan today. Each time I've been for an early scan I've been lying on the couch with my eyes screwed tightly shut and frantically muttering prayers and promises to never be nasty to anyone ever ever again, if only just please let this baby be ok.....

Jumping so glad you heard your baby's heartbeat, that must be such a reassurance for you. I hope the blood pressure stays low... I had the most horrendous water retention when I was pg, I peed out about 2 stone after ds was born, and I was convinced I had PE, but luckily not. I can't imagine how scary it must be to have it though. My friend has had it four times

bubble how you doing? I hope you're not suffering with the Clomid. Keep us posted.

Hello to everyone else Irish sunnydale girlwithacurl and anyone else I've forgotten. Hope you're all keeping well.

I'm off to buy a load of new clothes I actually fit in to... now I can actually stop sucking in my stomach it's all hanging out!

Have a great day xxxx

morning all..........how is everyone today??

well i went for my scan and they think im too early as they couldnt see anything yet . they did say though that the lining of my womb is thick (what they expext to see). they have taken blood so will get results today!! they are hoping the hcg isnt too high and isnt too low.... so fingers crossed everythings alright!! i will get another scan booked for next week, depending on the bloods!!

thanks for all your support x

HEad - congrats on the scan and popping a bottle open for you to wish you a very happy and bloosoming naughty dream filled second trimester

Suzi annoying about the scan but at least they're checking the bloods. Always nice to know you're being monitored closely.

woops posted instead of previewed - soz.

Hi everyone!

Hope all is well and things are progressing nicely.

Congrats HF on reaching that 12 mark

suzi im sure everything will be fine.. gd luck for your next lot of bloods and scan next week.

Well..... its day 11 and god im in such a foul mood. even my new lil puppy isnt cheering me up and i feel awful. im picking fights with dh and the kids cant even ask for a drink without me snapping at them.
I dont know how the clomid is supposed to help coz down below is drier than a cowboys slipper and i dont really feel like doin the deed. (doesnt help that dh cant stand to be near me either)
I am going to have a think about wether i want to take this again it really is awful.
Im sorry to rant, i will come back when im in a better mood.

xxxxxxx