Can I gatecrash really briefly? I wish I had found this site last year when we were desperately TTC. Perhaps can share my stats to say "it can happen" even when you think it won't!
Me 32
DH 32
TTC number 1
Used Persona, CM, everything. I come from a long line of women who accidentally get pg well into thirties and forties. Thought it would happen easily, was really taken aback when it didn't. I have always had regular periods, 27-29 days. Ovulated every month according to persona machine.
We tried for eight months, perhaps every other day around ovulation, or three out of five days. I became more and more distressed/upset with every passing month. Whole world seemed full of things for babies, everyone and their sister was getting pg. My 16 year old cousin got his girlfriend pg when we had been trying for 7 months, even my dh's drug-addicted cousin got pg with her third child by another drug-addicted prisoner while we were trying. All the time I was eating truly healthy food, running on the treadmill, never smoked, rarely drink. I even have child bearing hips and an enormous arse to balance a baby on, FFS!
Oh yeah, and we were surrounded by people asking us when we would have children (had been married for a year at the time), giving helpful advice that I was getting quite old, parents dropping heavy hints. I wanted to curl up and die.
We conceived at the end of september. It was the only month we managed to "do it" every day for five consecutive days! I am now happy to report am 29 weeks pregnant, baby kicking furiously at this laptop as I type! Dragged dh to GP after 8 months, he went for semen analysis. Got the results back on the day I got a positive test! His sperm count was exceptionally high as well!
Was convinced I wasn't pregnant that month. Had AF type cramps from day 21, spotty, moody, the lot. Went to a party when I was around day 22, felt unusually drunk after 2 glasses of wine, and felt ill in the car on the way home (unusual). Had an awful headache all day on day 28, tummy felt bloated (couldn't fasten my top button when sitting down). Did a test and was really shocked that the word "not" was missing from "not pregnant". It was only the second test I did in the eight months (too expensive).
I really do wish you all the very best of luck, I know how distressing this is, but I didn't understand that before we started trying. Hope to meet you all on other boards, just sorry I didn't have this supprt last year!