Ignoring the LIES, DAMNED LIES, and STATISTICS: Fiesty & Fabulous 40+ers TTC

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Open to all 40+ers TTC.

We're friendly - not cliquey (sp?) and would love to know you{smile]

It feels like this thread is starting to fizzle out................

I was feeling positive, but that's the only positive I've had!!! AF was due yesterday, I've tested and retested but still BFN.

I told hubby I was going to buy a kit from ebay to check his sperm count and motility, and suddenly maybe we shouldn't be taking such a scientific approach! So, it's ok for me to POAS twice daily just in case I'm OVing, and stick a thermometer up my you know where every morning to get an accurate BBT reading, but I suggest he produces a tiny little sample just once and it's time to stop taking it so seriously! Men!

So sorry Latestarter,that must have been quite a rollercoaster.

Still waiting over here but as usual feel premenstrual so don't anyone hold their breath!

Hope you're all set now for Hungary Rowing? Not long now.

Bump, are you still firing on all conception cylinders? I am still caffeine free, apart from Lucozade(?) and choc now and again.

Is everyone lurking, or moved to pastures new? It is feeling a bit quiet on this thread now.

Latestarter- I've had so many wierd periods while ttc that I have given up trying to understand them! But I do suspect that some of the rogue ones are very early m/c.

I feel so lousy that I can't tell if I am expecting AF or imminent death; have some delightful bug which is making me feel achey and freezing, which is rather less than fun, and I was kept up half the night by a trapped nerve in my leg. Mmm, life is good.

And to top it all, I have to run a stall at an antiques fair on Sat all day, then drive to Devon on Sunday to see DH's gran (which we have cancelled twice, due to snow and colds, so Have to Go.) I'm sure my full time career wasn't half as tiring...

Hope you are all more cheery than I am!

fifitot - you sound so low at the moment, anything we can do to help?

latestarter - sorry to hear that the old witch got you. I think a one-off spotting is not an issue, but see what happens next month.

Vons - sorry to hear you are not feeling well, we are all so low here at the moment.

I am in the 2ww with raging pmt and wanting answers NOW, When I first ttc I was 35 and was pg after 4 cycles, a year and bit later I concieved again within 4 cycles. When 39 it took me 8 cycles to concieve, now at 41 I am on my 8th cycle again, and just hoping that maybe maybe I won't have to wait too much longer????

Seems we all need some cheering up, anyone got any ideas?

hi everyone - trying not to get too excited but on day 26, have been to the loo 6 times already this morning and feeling very nauseous. Got niggling bit of backache too though which is keeping me from getting really optimistic.

Going away for the weekend to my parents and don't want to alert them this early if it is good news so will be having to be careful what we say and do.

Keeping everything crossed....

I'm still lurking! Working loads at the moment and use the iPhone at work which makes it such a faff to post.
Boo to AF Latestarter ! I wouldn't worry about one spotting episode though. I too am convinced that this TTC business makes wierd stuff happen. I think I am getting ov pain this cycle for the first time ever. Or perhaps I just didn't notice it before ?
Result of my ov microscope evaluation is a big resounding ..... Maybe ! Fiddly to use and doesn't work if you have eaten or drunk within a couple of hours. I also never got ferning in the morning for some reason. Liking the monitor though, good for POASaholics !
My chart looks a bit busy at the moment but that's probably the combination of cm observation, opks, monitor, and microscope saying roughly the same thing but not quite. Plus my rocky temps. All looking very crazy !
Hope everyone having a good day x

AF. Sigh. Am starting to think that it's really not going to happen.

Hmm, thought twice about posting this, as it will not contribute to an uplifted mood here on the thread. However felt the need to moan for a bit to you lot rather than DP who has gone for a takeaway!

Believe it or not the Obs/gyne rang me up at home this pm! That was great, as some of you may recall that he bailed out of my appointment last time due to feeling unwell and needing to go home! (him not me!!!). Anyway, apart from reeling from the shock of him turning out to be such a caring guy, he assured me all hormone levels 'normal', but I have simple hyperplasia in my uterus.

I think this means I have an overly thickened womb causing heavy periods. I doubt that it will be a lovely soft spot for an egg though, probably not the best environment, and if it starts to get more of a feature could be indicative of potential for endometriosis, or cancer. Great! Just when I thought we stood some sort of a chance - This! Boo . Feeling grim and premenstrual this eve. Hope everyone else isn't!

I'm with you vonsud - 2 more people told me they are pg this week! Grrrrrr.

Rainbow days - thanks I guess I am down, feel really weepy all the time these days, so think I am mildly depressed. DD is a little love though so should concentrate on her more than worrying about the potential to have another. Feel bad that she's an only though, thats the trouble.

Ah well - it's Friday so weekend and no work for 2 days so that's a nice thought. Just remembered that we are away during my peak time next week so doubt we will be able to BD. In a cottage with inlaws and sharing bedroom with DD so if we manage it once it will be a miracle. Typical.

At least while we are feeling we can also post with some , , , , and !!!! Perhaps this will help us all feel a bit better?

Am waiting for AF to turn up. Day 26, cycle normally 29 so should be here by Monday. Have already been having mild cramps, so here we go again. So much for our shagathon in Brighton

We definately need a BFP on here soon.

hey everyone - thanks for your comments, they have helped me put it all in perspective.

nanbred, I am way impressed with the caffeine restraint, maybe this is where I am going wrong...haven't attempted to cut back yet and am thinking this month might be the time

vonsudenfed, the good news is that you are probably not dying and i agree about the career being easier, i've decided it's because you feel more like you are in control....I had to do dh's parents today and it always seems harder beforehand than it really is.....your anitques fair and your dh's gran will be over before you know it and the worst of AF will hopefully also be over and you will feel a little brighter

rainbow it sounds like your time is very near....and i'm sure all our fingers are crossed....loving the new emoticoms

spiralqueen..so far so good

beamel....i think you are probably completely bonkers just like me...the more tests the better i've had a look at ferning and decided that is one extra effort that i'm not sure will work for me..have decided to do one more month of monitor and temp just to get some consistency and understanding and then after that just chill a bit as i'm fairly comfortable i know what's happening with my cycle....you sound like you're still really engaged in your career and i'm envious...that must help a bit?

nanbred - hope the moan helped a bit.....it didn't sound like much of one anyway...has it helped a bit having the name for a possible problem?....the good news is that it doesn't rule out your chances for this month or the next of getting a bfp and i hope the pmt feelings turn out to be something else

juicy the odds are with us, that somebody will have a bfp soon...what's the name of this thread...someting about lies and statistics? sometimes statistics work in our favour and statistically one of us will get lucky soon and you never know if could be you

sorry if i've come over all intense tonight, feeling a bit philosophical and also positive that there's a good chance that most of us will come out of this happy......i hope you all have a good weekend and do good things...xx

Morning Ladies !

After 6 weeks of 6am temping have now reached the point where I am incapable of having a lie in ! Am now waking like clockwork every morning at 5.30 - darn ! Oh well.... who says you can't teach an old dog new tricks ?

Nan - good that the gynae chap bothered to contact you. What happens next ? Is he planning to follow you up or do anything else ? Hope you are feeling better and have Fx that the PMT isn't.

spiral - Fx for you too, do let us know how you get on.

Lates - Bonkers indeed, couldn't have put it better ! I must admit the microscope is one gadget too much. I am also not planning to temp indefinitely, the monitor seemed to work really well for me so will probably rely on that alone eventually. Hope you are OK after the spotting episode ? It must have been pretty stressful ?
Yeah the job thing is great, and definitely keeps me busy but has completely messed up the BD schedule this week. Me working 12 hour days, arriving home with the 'arse' and falling alseep as soon as I was horizontal did little for our chances this time round! LOL ! It also limits drastically the number of sticks I can pee on in a day !

Sorry the general mood here is a bit low at the moment. We definitely need a BFP here soon. I check out the over 40s board on FF and they are getting them regularly, it just there are far more of them. So I reckon our turn will come ... and soon !

And some nice weather would help too.

Have a good weekend everyone. Sorry if this post rambles a bit - think I need to go back to bed.

xx

Hello all, am feeling a bit brighter having watched daffodils bobbing in wind for last hour. I am now 14?dpo and AF is due today, but no particular sign of arrival. Still feel generally premenstrual though so not at all interested in testing . FF says not to til 20th so will test Wed if no sign - FF has more restraint than me!

Thanks for kind words Late and Bea. Discussed with DP, over takeaway, that I should have asked loads more questions, but tbh I was preoccupied with work when Gynae rang, and found it hard to get ttc head screwed on and mouth engaged! Now DP wants me to go back to doc pronto and ask for another appt with Gynae guy to discuss whether we'd have more chance with some tx eg DandC or progesterone. Looking things up on the internet can open up a can of worms! I'm inclined to do nothing 'til AF.

Hope you are feeling better Fifi and VSF, hope some suitable indulgence is lined up for you both. I'm counting how many lattes I'm missing out on, and will catch up at some pt. Meanwhile DP is wondering why ebay packages keep arriving thick and fast. Displacement behaviour is my excuse!

Fx for everyone, this spring must bring some BFPs here for us sooooon!!!

hello all,

I agree with whoever it was that said statistics were on our side.... someone's bound to get to get a BFP soon, spring will be luck for us so hang on in there ladies .

I've got another question though, last month I was six days late. This month everything has shifted 6 days forward, so af was six days early.

Its like I am back to the dates I was on before last month's six day delay, anyone got any idea what that means?

Good luck everyone

Hi gps, not sure about that one. Do you chart, I'm thinking of becoming a rep for FF as I am so delighted with everything since I started charting. My cycle lengths vary between 28 and 33 but not experienced a 'correction' cycle that I know of, could just be a fluke.

Meantimes, I have good news!

At the grand old age of 44:11 I had a huge temp leap this morning and decided to test. I am pleased to say it was positive with clearblue digital (1-2 weeks), so am now convinced, and going to make appt with GP to confirm and ask for scan at EPU asap. Does feel very scary as well as both of us being completely phased, amazed and bemused. Actually the stress seems exactly the same level, but perhaps it just hasn't sunk in yet!

Hope that keeps us all going for now, will keep posting for a while, as sure there will be more BFPs to come on this thread.

Nanbred - a BFP????? What brilliant news!!

Hugh Congrats.

Hope we can join you soon.

Sorry can't help GPS, may just be your body readjusting.

Fantastic news nanbread. ! Congratulations !
Really happy for you .... and inspired !
Can't do smileys on iphone but am smiling for real !
Xxx

Wow, that's so great Nan. I can't believe somebody finally has a bfp.
Not sure about the 6 day thing GPS? I will put my thinking cap on - it's a road cone, so I won't go outside.

Hi Ladies

Bloody hell Nanbred that's ace! Everything crossed for you x

Sorry peeps are feeling a bit low and bleurch-y. More virtual chocolates required me-thinks! I've brought some classy chocs for the discerning over 40s sophisticated lady - finger of fudge , cream eggs, terrys choc orange, frys chocolate cream, terrys all gold, curly wurlies, black magic, marathons and cadbury's flake. Any more retro delights I've forgotten? Help yourselves gorgeous ones!

Well after last month's chemical PG, I'm due to start taking CLOMID tomorrow and frankly am cacking my pants. Just read the list of side effects: STROKE listed amongst headache, nausea, hot flushes etc. Can you believe it?? Bloody hell.

Anyone have any personal experience of side effects at 100mg and when in the cycle they're likely to come on [biting fingernails emoticon]

xx

Good luck with the CLomid Fruitbowl. Don't think the liklihood of those scary side effects are very high as have never heard about anyone having them and know tonnes of women who've used them. Hope they work for you xx

Will now help myself to that chocolate orange thank you very much

Fruit, please don't cross everything, you won't be able to pass the chocs....Admiring the well chosen over 40s range, 'Only the crumbliest' etc for me pls!
You and your doc can always work out the lowest and best dose for you with ref to the clomid. Side effects are always really scary anyway, aren't they? Some of the side effects of pregnancy scare the pants off me!

Cheers ladies, yes I must stop googling and scaring myself to death - aggh!

Nan, don't know about you but I always look like the gorgeous birds in those flake ads, even first thing in the morning. Haha!