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The WIMBEWAI(N)F Club

962 replies

Bucky2008 · 19/11/2008 08:56

OK, so how about we start of on a positive....

I bought the test.

I did the test.

BFP .

Job done.

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MrsHappy · 11/02/2009 07:32

Oh Ei I am so sorry to hear your news.
Lots of hugs for you and your DH.

PicknMix · 11/02/2009 08:26

Oh Ei I'm so sorry to hear that You take care of yourself and your family xx

GorgonsGin · 11/02/2009 17:48

hello all,

erm....Does anyone remember me? i was wondering if you would have me back on the wimbewai(n)f thread even though I haven't been around for a while....? I stayed away because i had to get my head together and i think i was becoming a mumsent/BFP obsessive, so had to go cold turkey for a while, but I missed you all and wondered if I could come back?

i haven't had time to read the whole thread, so apologies if I am making stupid or crass comments!

ei I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and take care of yourself. Grandparents are wonderful and you will miss him so much, but hope you are bearing up.

picknmix - I hope you are feeling better after that nasty bout of tonsolitus. last time I was here you had a gammy leg Get well soon!

MrsHappy - i am thrilled at your news!!! BFP!!! That is fantastic for you! You say that you have no job though - i am so sorry. i will go back and read through the thread.

Big hello to lovely bucky and caitni and all the old gang.

jollybear and mibbes - it is wonderful you both have little ones. So excited and pleased for you!

madoldbird -a re you still on the wimbewaif after your fantastic news? Sopleased for you!! i am hoping my luck will hold and I get a BFP too

sorry to anyone I have missed and not name checked!

No BFP's to report from the Gorgon household. Currently, DH and I are having fun and games sticking a variety of needles in my tummy every morning. No, not some weird BD-ing game - it's for our first (hopefully last ) cycle of IVF which is both exciting and also fairly uncomfortable, but if it works (keep your fingers crossed!)it will be worth it!! I am getting lots of lovely menopause stylee hot flushes, but actually it's not too bad at all. But it does mean there is not much gin being consumed in the Gorgon household

GGx

MrsHappy · 11/02/2009 19:54

Mrs G! You're back!

It's lovely to see you and we all understand needing a break from talking about TTC from time to time.

Yes, I am jobless (wretched downturn) but I reckon that if this bean is in the right place that will more than make up for it. Third time lucky and all that...

I'm looking forward to hearing all about the IVF. I find it completely fascinating and miraculous. Fingers crossed it works first time for you (although be warned, this thread seems to cause twins!). It's great that it is all going well so far.

PicknMix · 11/02/2009 21:13

Awwww, GG you came back to us Is lovely to have you back - am echoing MrsH a little here but look forward to hearing all about the treatment as find it amazing. Really hope it goes as smoothly for you as it did for MOB

Thanks for the info last night MrsH, that was pretty much what I was after, my google skills had escaped me! Had a look at the Agora website as well but it would be well over 1.5hrs drive away, likewise if we went the other direction to Southampton so am wary of dealing with somewhere so far away if we needed further treatment and therefore more visits.

Will give it all some thought!

How have you been feeling today? How did the interviews go?

MrsHappy · 12/02/2009 08:39

PnM the interviews were on Tues and were ok. The problem is that a lot of it is speculative right now. People aren't sure if they have the budget to hire. Still, we are battening down the hatches and should be able to ride this out quite well.

I feel ok. After eating I feel sick which is a new one on me and makes me hope that this one is normal. Looking at my chart I take back my disbelief in implantation dips and triphasic charts...

Is it quicker for you to get to London? Lots and lots of clinics up here...

Caitni · 12/02/2009 12:36

Wow, loads of activity on here in the last few days!

First and foremost, welcome back GG! Sounds like taking a break from MN was just what you needed . And it sounds like the IVF is going swimmingly too though the hot flushes don't sound like fun. If you're injecting you must be stimming yes? If so I hope those follicles are growing nicely . Here's hoping you have as eggscellent a time as MOB did (can you tell I'm happy to have an eggscuse to wheel the old egg puns out again ). I'll be keeping my fingers firmly crossed that there'll be no gin for you for a very long time to come . It looks like ICSI is our next step too though am taking a few months out to get my head and body (and finances!) in order, so am eggstra interested. Did you do anything in particular to get ready?

Ei I'm so sorry to hear your sad news . It's awful to lose someone you love, and I'm thinking of you and your DH (and DD) and all the rest of your family at this sad time.

MrsH oooh implantation dip and triphasic! Please post a link to your chart (you know me and my chart stalking tendencies ). I'm still so happy for you (as is MrCaitni), though it's perfectly normal for you to be anxious until you get that scan. But your remaining tube is healthy so I'm going to stay hopeful that this little bean (or beans, god knows you might catch twins from MOB and RFN2 ) settles in snugly. Also loved those affirmations from your CD - may look into that one myself .

Bucky hope you're not too jet lagged after your red-eye and sounds like you had a fabulous time in Miami . Here's hoping the law of pregnativity works for you too

RFN2 (or should that be RFN2and3 ) that's great news about your scan! Must have been some surprise to see them but I'm glad to hear that your pregnancy's going well

PnM glad to hear that horrible tonsilitis is on the way out but still major at your GP and her amazing telephonic diagnoses (not!). I understand that GPs must get a lot of hypochondriac patients but taking more than a year (I'm hazy but are you at nearly two years now?) to conceive and not miscarry is just not normal and needs proper investigations. From my brief skimming of the PCOS threads (back when i thought I must have it because I was convinced there was something wrong with me ) it seems like you need to be persistent. Perhaps changing GPs is an option? I had a horrible GP when I first moved to London, and stupidly assumed this was my lot in life until my DH moved over from the states and was allocated a charming and efficient GP so I switched and my life was transformed. And since then I've had no qualms about researching GPs surgeries and expecting quality treatment before I register with them...the HFEA has a handy clinic search so you can use your postcode to find clinics. I lurk on the assisted conception thread and NappyValley on there really rates her clinic in Southhampton (I think, or maybe Portsmouth? My English geography is atrocious ). On the quackolgy front, I saw a post on here recently that said wild yam and sweet potatoes were like nature's clomid (or something ).

Big to Jollybear and Mibbes - lovely to hear from you and hope your babies are thriving.

Not much going on with me. Am trying hard not to spend too much time on MN as want to get some headspace back from all the ups and downs of the past 14 months before we take our place on the IVF rollercoaster. But shall be keeping an eye on you all and keeping my fingers crossed for lots of lovely BFPs (and healthy pregnancies!).

JollyBear · 12/02/2009 13:36

Ei I'm sorry to hear your sad news. I hope you and your family are bearing up as best you can.

GG How lovely to see you!

MrsHappy · 12/02/2009 14:13

Caitni Link to chart is here.

Bucky has my email address so if you get in touch with me through her I can always let you have my CD. It's on my ipod now so I can pass on the original.

MrsHappy · 12/02/2009 14:19

Sorry - cocked up that link.

Try this one

Caitni · 12/02/2009 16:32

oooh lovely chart MrsH! Looks like a lovely implantation dip to me .

Caitni · 12/02/2009 16:34

PS thanks for the offer re the CD - think I may take you up on it! Perhaps when we meet up at end of Feb (you're coming along to that aren't you?)

GorgonsGin · 12/02/2009 17:42

caitni I can vouch for the CD (think we have the same one MrsH)

nothing much to report from here apart from a tender tummy after lots of injections. I am doing the stimulating drugs now, but so far don't feel very stimulated. Just short tempered and bruised

How did your interviews go mrsH? any news or feedback? It's rubbish isn't it. Lots of my friends are in a similar boat at the moment and my job security is crap, so i expect that I'll be in the same situation. I am just praying for a BFP soon, because my thinking is that if they try to make me redundant I can claim discrimination (actually, i told them we were doing IVF for the same reasons). It might not change the outcome but I might get a bigger pay off . I'd be happy to go anyway TBH I am not very happy in my role and was only hanging around for the maternity pay/not wanting to move jobs while TTC.

How is everyone else. . It's quiet on here. How are you doing today picknmix. bucky are you home yet from your adventure in Miami?

i am excited about the meet up at the end of Feb. Is everyone going?

Thanks for the lovely welcome back. I was really quite nervous

MrsHappy · 12/02/2009 20:37

Hi all

No feedback on the interviews yet GG. The problem is that with lots of the jobs advertised people are not really sure they have budget so it's a bit of a fishing expedition. Very frustrating! I suspect things will get better in a few weeks but I really need a job before I start to show!!! You shouldn't have felt nervous about coming back. You've been missed and it's great that you've reappeared. Hope the bruises are not too eggstreme. (I am happy about the egg-puns too!)

Caitni unfortunately I won't be able to make it to the meet-up. When I found out about my job I booked DD and I onto a flight to south Africa to visit some rellies and we leave the day before the meeting, providing that there is nothing wrong with this bean. But if you want the CD I am sure we can figure out a way to get it to you! Especially now we are nearly neighbours.

Hope everyone else is well.

Bucky2008 · 13/02/2009 16:43

Ok, apologies about this being all about me before I even begin....

Bucky is very depressed today. BFN . I am going to be the last one here and I am petrified of you all leaving me .

DP says he does not want to go for IVF because he thinks the fact we don't shag like rabbits now means we don't deserve it. He said if we tried harder it would happen naturally. . Much as I want a dc I am sick of feeling like a peice of meat that is jabbed so that it can reproduce and am developing a severe condition of frigidity. The idea of this being repeated over and over freaks me out. I just want it to be like it used to be . I just want a baby .

Like I said....its apparently all about me today. Sorry.

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GorgonsGin · 13/02/2009 18:07

Bucky - I am so sorry it's a BFN Bless you, I am absolutely sure you are not going to be left behind. We are all here for you and everyone is allowed to have a me me me post. Hell, I've done it often enough . please don't be sad. Thinking of you.

Is your DP really against the idea of assisted conception or is it just because he is stressed too? You may not be shagging like bunnies but that's because there is so much prssure on you both, as you say and BD-ing is not about pleasure and enjoyment, it's about BABIES!! If anything, i think that undergoing IVF has actually take pressure off us. It is good again because it's about pure fun and not TTC. When you did shag like bunnies, it was when there was no pressure. I am sure it will all come right in the end. (((((Big hugs))))) Or is it (((("higs"))))

MrsH - sorry you are not going to be at the meet up. South ASfrica is fantastic (I spent my honeymoon there!) I am very jealous

hello to everyone else,

GGx

PicknMix · 14/02/2009 11:48

Happy Heart Day everyone,

Just wanted to pop on and give Bucky a massive huge Its all a bit shit this ftc business isn't it. Gone are the days where I spent my time daydreaming of babies and buggies and pregnancy and googling 'early pregnancy symptoms'.

However, I think what GG has written is very interesting about IVF actually taking the pressure off ttc and worth taking heart from. Your DP must be feeling the pressure - is it possible he's trying to protect you from further heartache by not wanting to go through with IVF?

I know my DH is properly stressed by the whole ttc thing and it's proving to be quite a major obsticle as sitting between us is this big white ttc elephant that kinda gets in the way whenever we attempt to shag for shaggings sake rather than 'bd'.

Anyway, speaking of which, I appear to be on the internet instead of spending time with said DH so best go but, again, sending you

Hi to everyone else, apologies for no personel shouts to you all, hope you all have a lovely weekend

xx

Bucky2008 · 14/02/2009 13:13

Thanks .

You know me, I'll be OK. Coming back from my hols where I had so much fun, just emphasised the stress this is creating here at home. I try not to think about it, but its always at the back of my mind. I either have to take some kind of contraception and admit defeat (so I don't have to worry every 2ww that I may be doing something damaging), or I think about it. Vicious circle.

Sorry I am such a moany old bag though, its just been so long. I told DP what GG said and he brightened up a bit, so maybe he will change his mind...xx

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Bucky2008 · 14/02/2009 13:14

ooh and on a brighter note, I got flowers woo hoo . Happy valentines day girlies (higs).

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MrsHappy · 14/02/2009 16:00

Hi everyone. I hope you all received lovely flowers today.

Bucky I am sorry you've been having a shit time. I know well the feeling that sex has become a chore, and god, it's so disappointing when you get a BFN and you know you timed sex well, had lots of it etc.

I think what GG says about IVF taking the pressure off must be right. Once I became The Unituber I had to accept that I might not have another baby, especially when a couple of my nearest and dearest suggested that it might never happen for me. Hard though it was to swallow, it did take the pressure off to realise that there are no guarantees and that life will go on and be good, even if it does not meet my expectations. If you can find a way to be less focussed on ttc it really might help you, or at least help you to not feel so bad when you get a BFN (although with any luck you don't have many of those to go of course...).

Will be back later, DD is throwing a tantrum and I am the boss of her so have to go referee...

Caitni · 14/02/2009 19:08

Happy valentines ladies - hope you're all having lovely days...

Just a quick post to give some to Bucky - so sorry to hear about a BFN and that ttc is getting you down . The contrast from holiday fun to real life is horrible...I just wanted to second what GG said about IVF taking the pressure off. Hearing that ICSI is our only realistic chance of having a baby has taken a huge weight off me and my DH's relationship. We're actually shagging for fun now instead of just bd-ing around ov time! Tis great! It makes me realise how dutiful our sex life had become . And while I'm still sad that I can't just get pregnant naturally with the man I love, I'm happy that IVF gives us the chance to have the family we dream of. And honestly, as long as we love our DC I don't give a monkeys how they were conceived .

GG hope those eggs are coming along nicely - when's your next scan to see how things are progressing?

MrsH your chart's still looking lovely . But I hope you stop temping at 18 dpo (cos I don't want you stressing out if your temp goes up and down!). Sorry to hear you won't be at the meet up but South Africa - sounds fab!

Waves to every one else. I'm off to cook up all the lovely food we bought in Borough Market today .

GorgonsGin · 15/02/2009 10:07

Happy Valentines Day ladies (for yesterday - sorry, I'm a bit late ). Hoep your DP/Dh's all spoiled you rotten. I got a lovely bunch of spring flowers. Bless DH . We don't normally bother with Valentine's Day (too commercial, who wants to eat pink heart shaped food in a restaurant, yadda yadda), but I was extra sensitive/emotional this year with all the IVF stuff - blame the hormones - so they feel more like my "Brave Soldier" flowers not fainting when going through the injections .

caitni - blood test tomorrow to check hormone levels and Day 9 scan on Friday, then day 12 scan next Monday, so next week is the biggie for us. So far I have been very "tunnel vision" about this - just treating every day as it comes, not looking far ahead and not allowing myself to get too focused or excited, but today I felt a bit more "up". It's good to have the time out to think - we were referred back in July, but our number didn't come up until November and then drup treatment started last month and that breathing space to get my head round everything (and I don't mean in a detailed, "let's let everything sink in, gentle, gradual acknowedgement/acceptance of the fact we are undergoing ICSI way, IYKWIM )

bucky - I bet your flowers were gorgeous!! and it's great your DP seems interested in IVF. It feels like you are doing something really positive, in a way, and men like it because there is a definited path/list/series of steps. i think men can be quite binary and logical in how they approach things and playing russian roulette each month with sh*agging with no result, as we did, confused and demoralised DH. This has given hm somehting to focus on and he likes it because he's doing something. Let me knwo if you want to chat any time.

mrsH - just had a look at your chart. fantastic! Hope your DD has stopped her tantrum. Just wait until you have two .

picknmix - My DH is quite clingy these days. I am typing this really quickly so he doesn't see me on MN again and moan he isn't getting attention. Have you thought any more about a clinic on the south coast that suits you?

hello to anyone missed! Check in later. I am off to Soho today for the unveiling of a blue plaque to Peter Cook (best friend is a journalist who's covering the event and she's got us on the guest list). Stephen Fry and Ian Hislop and people are going to be there So excited.

MrsHappy · 15/02/2009 14:06

Hello ladies

Sorry for the me me me rant which is to follow, but I need to get this off my chest...

Today, because I am a muppet, I decided to pee on my second CBD and it still says "pregnant 1-2 weeks" even though I am 4+2. I know these things are hardly definitive, but now I am chewing my nails off in terror and wishing I could have a scan NOW. (Which I can't as it's too early).

Just wanted to rant, thanks for reading.

Will be back later to check on you all properly.

readyfornumber2and3 · 15/02/2009 15:10

MrsHappy I wouldnt worry about the test, you may just have implanted a couple of days later than you thought.
When is the earliest they will scan you?

Caitni · 15/02/2009 17:59

Oh MrsH I'm so sorry about the CB digi - damn the bloody conception indicator - but I agree with RFN2&3 (love the name change btw ), these things aren't definitive and the bean may have implanted later than you thought. Your chart is looking excellent, very reassuring temp rise today, and I'd put more stock in that. Your temp is so nice and high, please try and take some comfort from that while you wait for a scan to reassure you...just about a week until you get your scan so keeping my fingers firmly crossed until then

RFN2&3 hope you're doing well and that the beans are doing well

GG I think your tunnel vision approach is very smart - IVF strikes me as easier if you take each day/mile stone as it comes. Let us know how your blood test is tomorrow - am hoping you get an eggscellent haul of eggies to fertilise

Bucky I hope you're doing OK.

Waves to PnM MOB Ei and all of our graduates

I've been very naughty today - lots of pints (nearly four ) at the pub watching Ireland beat Italy in the rugby (yay!) and I even had a sneaky cigarette. How bad is that (especially considering I'm actually post ovulation ). Still, really enjoyed it, felt like old style caitni iykwim . Not that I've actually smoked in yonks...