ttc #4 ? come over here and join the noisy section..

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TTC #4 and lurking in the shadows really as some people may tut and say surely 3 is enough!
Anyone else doing the same?

Oh blimey, I will cringe if no one comes over!

Oh KAT so sorry to hear this. If it is an early mc then they may start doing investigations it being twice this has happenened now? Really sorry this (seems) to have happened again, and hope that you and GP can get to the bottom of it. Thinking of you xx
TWIG, hope your spotting has settled now? I had pink/brown spotting with dd1 and this pregnancy at around 6/7 weeks, and it did come back from time to time rather than just stopping. Great that dh is so lovely and sympathetic
Fingers crossed for you RAINBOW, any plans on more POAS-ing?

Well midwife's went well yesterday (hope I'm not being too insenstive talking about it). Found heartbeat straight away, although she warned me she may not find it as 18 weeks still early apparently , and tummy measuring spot on for dates etc. Just the 19 week scan to go on Tues, then I can start to relax. I am not a lover of scans I'll admit, mainly because of past experiences, so will be very relieved when it's over!

Lots of horrible horrible sad red blood. Definitely a miscarriage and feel utterly miserable as was pregnant at same time as my sister, so was looking forward to sharing this pregnancy with her. Can't even tell people why so bereft as no one knows about her (she has tried for 7 years for this baby).

In my positive moments, I am SO glad it is me and not her as (touch wood) I've conceived fairly quickly and am SO glad that it has happened at 6 weeks and not 11+ weeks like my last 2 mc.

Got my son's birthday party to get through this afternoon, which is not brilliant timing, but will be good distraction if pain and blood calms down. Also good reminder of the blessings I do have.

Not insensitive at all Diege. After my first miscarriage I hated seeing pregnant women and seemed to be surrounded by them. Felt it was very unfair until a wise friend pointed out gently that we have no idea what that person has gone through to achieve that pregnancy - helped me feel better. Good luck with the scan next week.

How are you Kat?
Keep us posted Rainbow.

Oh TWIG I am gutted for you . Please take care of yourself, and when you feel stronger maybe seek out some medical advice if that is what you want to do. You have a wonderful attitude regarding your sister, but I know from my own miscarriage that you must be hurting deeply. So very sorry, and thinking of you xxx

Thanks Diege, am crying in between packing party bags. It does hurt, even this early on, you start making plans and thinking about the future.

Kat - hope you are ok, let us know how you are doing.

Twig - sorry to hear that. You sound such a wonderful woman to even be thinking of your sister at this time. Get some rest and keep strong xx

Twig, I'm SO sorry to hear you're going through this , please take care of yourself and take it easy, if you can. Big big hugs to you x x

Oh Twig I'm so upset for you I know how you feel about your sister, mine is due in a couple of months and I would have been the month after, so yes it is hard, good luck with the party.((((hugs))))As Scorpio says please try to rest.x
Kat been thinking of you too, hope you're ok.x
Rainbow any updates?
Diege I'm really pleased that you heard you baby, makes you relax just a bit more x

Hope everyone else is ok.
I'm waiting impatiently for a week today when I'm due AF, this will be my first real chance as DH was home at the right time this month so I guess it will be 50/50 instead of basically 'hope'! Will resist urge to test until after though.....oh the wait!

Hi
Twig I'm so sorry you're going through this too. It's miserable isn't it.
Been to the Drs this morning, she was lovely, thinks it's just bad luck that it's happened twice since I have had 3 healthy pregnancies/babies previously.

Still bleeding, horrible red blood Not getting cramps but pain in my cervix area? Weird and not nice

Got dd2 off school today, can't believe her timing, she's fine grrr said she was gonna be sick so had to keep her off really but she was driving me mad at the Drs running about being a loony. Still, if she wasn't here I'd be sitting feeling sorry for myself, instead she's keeping me busy.

Onwards and upwards anyway. Not sure if I want to try again yet or wait a while. Not sure I can go through the uncertainty again... have to think about it.

xxx

Oh and I'm the same as Twig. I know I concieve really easily (also touching wood) - can't imagine what it feels like to go through this having waited years to conceive.

Hello Kat, feeling sad and sorry for both of us, but some comfort in the solidarity.

Don't feel time is on my side with waiting to conceive, so will have chats with my dh about getting back in the saddle asap (so to speak). Am a bit worried two mc on the trot might put him off trying for a 4th . At least this one is early, so hopefully my body will recover quicker.

Sorry, forgot to say, thank you for all your kind words - they really do help.

MrsD, sorry to hear that you and your sister would have been preg together - it makes it doubly sad doesn't it.

Twig - I am hurting for you I know what you are feeling! I lost my last one at 6w5d... the day before DD2's first birthday. We had rented a party room and a caterer for 40 people. I had to put on a brave face, since only a few knew I was even preg. I was in pain and all I wanted to do was cry. Instead, I watched my baby play with the balloons and realized how blessed I was to have my children. I cried for 2 weeks (I was very emotional). At the time, I didn't really have any support system, and thats when I found all you lovely ladies. So we are here for you to lean on, cry with, or just vent on!

Kat - for you too. How are you doing?? Talk to your doc and make sure everything is well with you... but don't give up! I'm sure things will turn around for you... third times a charm?!

Diege - soo happy that your appointment went well! Isn't it the best sound to hear your little beans heart?? Don't worry... your scan will go well. I know what you mean about scan fears... between my m/c and early on in this pg, I seem to have developed the same fear. I am waiting right now for the reulsts of the 12 week scan. I am worried that because the baby was moving around so much, that their measurements may not be accurate, and as a result, I might get a bad reading. My doc called me yesterday to tell me she found strep b in my urine. But as soon as I found out who was calling, I began to panic about the scan. I was so relieved when I found ou the real reason! Sometimes I think pregnancies turn women batty!

Rainbow - any news??

How is everyone else doing? Thank God its Friday! I have only been at work for 3 days this week, but it has gone by soooo slowly! I am still trying to catch up on chores, but I have been so tired this week. I leave work, pick up DD2 from daycare, go home and cook, and pass out on the sofa. I think I have gone to bed before my DC everyday this week! At least the weather has been a little warmer these past few days (about-2). This weekend we enter into another cold snap with -16 degrees (which becomes -20 with the wind chill). Sigh... time to hibernate!

Twigs - I really feel your sadness. I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks last year, and I was surprised at how hard it hit me. But I was fortunate enough to concieve ds2 just two weeks later, and it helped, but made his pregnancy very worrying for me. Do take time to feel the pain, it is only right. We are all feeling it with you here. I hope that the physical side of the miscarriage passes quickly for you. I hope that the party is not too much for you later, but can help take your mind off it for a little while.

twig and katb thinking of you both right now xxxx so sorry

Kat and Twigs - thinking of you at this sad time. So sorry to find both of you in this awful situation. I hope that you both get some rest tonight.

Diege - It is good to have some good news on this thread too, so pleased that you got to hear the heartbeat. I hope that the scan on Tuesday brings even more good news.

BabyBlue- good to hear that you are having a warm snap , I would definitely be hibernating in those sorts of temperatures!

I better head for bed soon, as my ds2 is having a bad time sleeping at the moment. Waking me up at midnight, 2am, 4am, 5am and then 6.30am..... oh for a full nights sleep! Tomorrow I am starting a course on learning how to teach CPR and using an AED (defibrillator), it is a full day from 8am til 5pm, I think we get a short lunch. break.

twig and katb, big hugs to you both

rainbowdays, I hope you enjoy your training tomorrow. I used to teach CPR and FAW and really loved it. I didn't train to be a de-fib instructor because you have to re-train every 6 months!

Thinking of you Kat and Twigs, get some rest....xxxx

Hiya,
Had my wonderful Mum round tonight and she cooked me a lovely dinner and we drank wine and watched crap telly.

Feeling a lot better anyway. Bleeding is REALLY heavy though which is annoying.

Morning all

KatB - good that you had your mum with you last night.

Twigs - how are you feeling this morning?

Hello girls....just passing through....hope everyone is ok

KatB your Mum sounds like just the medicine you needed along with the wine. x x

I have come in to confess that I am joining Kat and Twigs now.

I had two positive tests yesterday and the day before, showing up within the timelimit etc, I was just beginning to hope for the best.

But extreme lower back pain yesterday, followed by a negative test today. I think it is clear that I am miscarrying. No bleeding yet, but it is just a matter of time.

In december I only reached 4 weeks and 2 days before losing the pregnancy, today is 5 weeks and 5 days, just waiting for the bleeding to start as I said. Early losses but they still make me

Now with so many miscarriages here, it is time to turn the tables back around, so MrsD and Scorpio - I think you are next in line, unless I have forgotten anyone. So it is your job to get some sticky ones this month. No excuses

Oh rainbowdays not you too , I'm REALLY keeping my fingers crossed for you, no bleeding is a good sign. Did you test first thing this morning, if not, it could have been diluted wee that made it neg. ((hugs))

rainbow - they sound like chemical pgs, do you think? I'm so sorry for you, sweets.

I'm cd25 and my body is behaving weirdly - really high CP still

This thread isn't so lucky anymore I really hope you are all ok.

Rainbow...I don't really know what to say I really feel for you, hope you're ok and we're all here supporting you, Twigs and Kat xxx