ttc #4 ? come over here and join the noisy section..

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TTC #4 and lurking in the shadows really as some people may tut and say surely 3 is enough!
Anyone else doing the same?

Oh blimey, I will cringe if no one comes over!

Same here! We get it then it goes out straight away! We're always skint but we get by.
We were about to be ok after I graduate and get a job but I went and got myself knocked up so job will have to wait

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Haha... I don't think it matters how much money you make and how many kids you have... you will always find a way to make it work! I told the kids only small pressies at Christmas so we could afford our holiday. I also lectured DH about packing his lunch from now on, rather than doing take-aways everyday. We struggle... but I wouldn't trade it for anything.

(oh... welcome newbies )

All you ladies are right about not caring what others think. I ranted about this when I told people about my bump. I had tonnes of rude comments and questions (whether I know what birth control is and so forth). But considering THEY won't be raising my kids, I really don't care what they think! My extended family still has yet to call/email me to congratulate me (I'm 13+ weeks)... which is more hurtful than anything (especially since they still call to ask me favours). What can you do?

I spent all day cleaning out the luggage and doing the washing! LOL... how soon the relaxing effects of a vacation fade!!

No, seriously will not be telling my mother-in-law at all when (if) I get pg, as she has made each of my previous pregnancies murder. She had four children anyway so she has no right to be commenting on the number of children I have. It is a cultural thing, I think that she can't cope with pregnancies. So I will wait until she notices the bump and asks. So as I am not telling her (and she lives just 500 yards down the road), I will not be telling people here, and just wait for everyones shocked looks when they realise that the bump is a baby rather just the usual fat .

I will be telling my mum, but she already knows we are ttc, and so I know she will just be excited for us.

As for activities with the children, with the oldest of mine just five years, we have only just started activities other than swimming. I started both my ds and my dd in ballet in september.... ds is now refusing to go (not surprising as he was the only boy in the class). Going to try and find drum lessons for him instead.

Money-wise it is madness for us to be ttc, as my dh's job is only until May, then he is unemployed again. But he has managed to be unemployed each time I have given birth, great for him staying at home for time after baby is born, but not so fun worrying about if we can pay the mortgage that month...!

Good morning all.... well it is day 35 of groundhog days, still no af and still BFN.

Can I just ask the funny crowd on here that used ebay cheapy tests with others wee, how did you pursuade them to do it? There is no way my dh is going to volunteer, and my daughter would be mortally offended at age 4 to wee in a potty for me. But I take it using water as a control for the evaporation line, is not going to work? Or is it? I keep getting evaporation lines, on the old tests I had I never before got evap lines. I have now tested with the new tests that arrived and again I am getting evap lines. EEKKKK! I just suddenly realised it could be menopause!!!! Oh well perhaps a trip to the doc's is required if nothing happens in the next couple of weeks.

How is everyone else this morning?

Morning! Wecome SANDY Some good advice there about coping with family etc. I know mine have a good bitch behind my back, but would rather that than to my face . Have had the usual 'don't you have a telly' comments, and of course, trying for a boy??? , but have managed so far just to let it wash over me. And you are not old!!!

KAT, re: CBD with conception indicator, I was exactly the same but with a 2-3 weeks when I was 1-2 - was worrying about too much HCG etc etc and ended up ringing the helpline where they said the way they calculate how pregnant you are is based on averages, so about a week leeway for each 'band'. Ie. if it comes up 1-2 weeks pregant, you can actually be anything from a few days after implantation to 3 weeks post-concpetion. If you look at some of the websites on measuring HCG (which is what the conception indicator works on) the variation on levels for the same date of conception is immense (we're talking anything from 500-20, 000 for 5 weeks etc). So don't worry!!!! My sister is a midwife and she says that these tests are causing chaos in clinic as people are asking for early scans etc. Plus they're using them to find out who thge father is My concern (having had a mmc) was that I would be checking to see over the weeks if I was 'more pregnant' on the tests - managed to resist that! Sorry for the essay, but hope I've put your mind at rest .
BABYBLUE - holiday sounds a bit of a nightmare with that flight, you poor thing! Hopefully you are well into recovery mode now! How are you feeling sickness-wise?

RAINBOW, your MIL sounds a bit of a nightmare! Think that's a good tactic you have in place. My MIL is very strange too and while she knows about the pregnancy (told dh 'well, it's your life....' ) she hasn't mentioned a thing about it to me...very odd! I keep on saying to dh, are you sure she actually knows???!!!
Hi Mrsd, TWIG, and the boob! Re: activities we are currently just paying for dd3's jo jingles classes as older dds have got sick of ballet (thank god! twas a hassle getting there etc first thing sat morn) and at the moment they are 'resting' . I do feel a bit guilty about after school stuff, as because they go to a child minder they can't actually attend the after school clubs as obviously childminder can't be waiting around with her other charges. If they were keen on anything I think we'd try and work some kind of rota out, but luckily no enthusiasm for stuff yet!
Right, better get dressed .

x-posts RAINBOW! Think water would work ok?? Are you absolutely sure they are evaporation lines and not faint positives? And we'll have no more talk of menapause please!!!

Hello to everyone. Just briefly:

Rainbow - Once I dipped the stick in my daughter's potty. second time, she leans forward on the loo (that's what she does) and I managed to catch a bit in a wide pot as I leant over her while I was waiting to wipe her bottom - she didn't know I'd done it. yes, yes, completely obsessive and really quite weird, but think my dh would have refused or thought it very odd.

Activities: feeling guilty about doing none this term.

Age: 41 in April, really feels too old, but lost a couple of years with miscarriages, and these things can't be helped. Just feel very fortunate and content to have what I have

No doubt about it, it IS very odd

Hiya girls!
Diege thanks for that, I was getting increasingly paranoid as still getting faint lines on ebay cheapies too. Gonna stop testing now as it's making me worry too much! Also the fact Im getting a lot of cramping which is normal for me. In fact last month when I was pregnant I didn;t get any and I mc. When I was preg with Lily I got loads of very painful af type cramps and everything was fine so I need to relax.

PMSL at you lot usin g the kids' wee! I can just imagine my DH's reaction and DD2 is 5 so she'd be VERY confused and most upset if I asked for some of her wee! .

I'm very lucky with my in-laws, they're lovely but MIL has metastatic breast cancer and she's basically dying at 61. She's responding well to chemo and the dr says she could have a good few years left in her if they can keep it from spreading. Anyway I know she'll be over the moon about pregnancy but we're not telling her until 12 weeks. She and Lily were very close as she had always wanted a daughter (she has 2 sons) and cried when she was born! She's looked after her a lot and Lily misses her loads.

My Mam is like my best friend, I speak to her or see her everyday and she's really pleased about it but a bit worried. She had 3 children under 3 so is a bit mad herself! She understands my insane broodyness!

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Hello KatB. Sorry to hear about your mil, I hope they can do their utmost to stop it spreading. My mil died 12 years ago (before she had any grand children) and would have been an amazing grandma and I'm sure would have done LOADS to help, so it is very sad she is no longer here - it is always nice to hear of lovely mother in laws, as there seem to be so many grim ones around.

my nausea and indigestion has stopped which is worrying me today.

Well, if it sticks then I'm really looking forward to shocking people with my 'pregnant with 4th' news. I do know one woman with 4 children, but 3 of them were 'accidents'

twig i am really worried about telling people,esp my mum,we are close but i'm not sure what her reaction will be,and my mil she never has the kids antway just visits once in a blue moon for 30mins but no hiding it forever as i show really early
look at me a grown married women frightend to death of telling her mum she's pregnent

Don't worry thebeoob I brought pregnancy up into conversation with my dad today and after that I don't think I'll tell him until after 'possible' baby arrives and I'm not even pregnant yet!

Oh dear, I feel very lucky now! I'm sure all your 'rents will be over the moon once baby/possible baby arrives!

I like shocking people too Twig. So far I haven't told people other than the few who knew about the m/c and they've all been really nice and supportive. I think maybe because of the age gaps I have people don't judge quite as much? DS will be 13, DD1 11 and DD2 nearly 6 when (hopefully sticky) baby arrives so I'll only have one at home.

My Mum was 28 when she had her 3rd within 4 years and she got offered an abortion despite being married and happy abaout the pregnancy! She got a lot of negative comments too I'm the oldest and my brothers and I are 29,28 and 27. We get on really well and I loved having siblings cvlose in age although a sister would have been nice

Advice needed here, I am 10 days late for usual af time, I am 1 day later than my latest ever af, so now I am thinking perhaps I should think about a doc's appointment or is this a waste of time? If I was to arrange a doc's appointment how long should I leave it til booking? Should I wait until I have missed a second af, in about 2 weeks time? This not knowing is starting to really annoy me now. Arrgggg.

LOL... Boob, you could be me! I stressed out about telling my mom to the point of being sick! I even chickened out and had DD1 tell her the news! I figured she could not yell at her first-born granddaughter the way she would yell at me! LOL... It worked ok! She asked me if it was an accident and then did not speak to me for the rest of the evening. (I told her during Christmas dinner). The next day, she was insisting she be in the labour room with me since she has yet to see any of her grandchildren be born. And lately, pretty much treats me like nothing was different. Does not seem cross with me, but doesn't ask how I am feeling either. She was much worse with the last 3 prego announcements... she must be getting soft in her old age!! LOL

Well... went for my 12 week scan this morning, and baby was doing well. My DC would not stay still long enough for the technician to do her measurements, so I was there for some time! LOL... it took 2 techs to finally get some pics they could be happy with. If thats a sign of things to come.... lol. Baby measured big for my dates, so they are now saying my due date is July 19th. I don't believe that, and will stick to the original date. None of my DC came early.

Diege - my morning sickness has kicked into high gear again this past week and a half. While I was in the warmer climate, it was better. But now that I am home in this cold weather... its a balmy -10 Celcius today compared to the -30 it was last week... its back with a vengeance!

OMG bb, where do you live?? It's about 4 C here and it's freezing!

Good news about the scan and your Mum Bet that's a weight off your mind!
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well i told her and she is really happy
DH just has to tell his mum tomorrow and then we can enjoy the announcemnt,hope you are all well
rainbow i hope something shows up soon

Rainbow,

Maybe it's worth going to the docs even if it's just for reassurance. I'm sure everything is fine and no doubt af will show before you get an appt

Hope you get it sorted.

xxx

not got much time, but wanted to say, Rainbow, yes, do go to the GP. It is worrying and I hope you can get a sympathetic doctor to listen to your concerns.

Agree with the above Rainbow (think I posted to you about this on another thread!), hang in there and good luck! Hello everyone else....going to attempt to catch up on the housework.......

Hi! this is reassuring - I thought I was being paranoid worrying about people's reactions!

hope all is well with everyone . haven't made my mind up yet, but am planning to have a quick look at all the cute babies in the mothercare catalogue!

Lol Sandy4....is it watch this space then