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Can we have an 'aiming for a September baby' thread?

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mosschops30 · 29/10/2008 13:39

Ive seen July and August today so thought I'd start my own.

Me and dh gonna ttc No.3 shortly, although have no idea when to aim for september baby? Having my mirena coil out next week and then just gonna go for it

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cantwaitforxmas · 28/11/2008 10:43

Cheers bratnav - we've actually made that step already. I stopped taking the pill 3 months ago (and so far AF is behaving and arriving every 28 days which is good) and we are using condoms. I have considered getting him drunk and hoping he forgets about the condom but a friend of ours got pregnant that way (she was fairly open about the fact she had done it deliberately) and DP was quite angry on his mates behalf so not sure it's the best idea .

bratnav · 28/11/2008 10:49

Nah, you can't do the get him drunk bit, that really is cheating IMVHO. Also, if he is drunk not so much chance of you hitting the top note which I understand helps the swimmers (as well as being generally fab)

If you have been together 10 years then personally I would think that if he isn't ready now then when will he be? Sorry, absolutely not my place to say that, feel free to give me a virtual slap.

iloverosycheeks · 28/11/2008 11:04

Cantwait My DP is a bit like this as well - though as previous posters have said if I did not drive things forward we would prob not even be living together yet!!
DS was a happy accident for me but DP was not pleased at all as the timing wasnt great. I have always thought how nice it would be to be trying for a baby and to get the BFP and for us both to be jumping up and down and delighted about it. But I don't think that is going to happen as DP just isnt like that about big life changes, he tends to focus on the negative.
Up until recently when we were asked if having any more kids DP's reply was 'not a chance' and then I would pull a face like 'thats what he thinks'! However it did worry me that he seemed so against it - anyway we stopped using condoms last month so I took that as his agreeance and we have sort of discussed it but I feel we just have to 'let it happen' and he will just come round to the idea as he did with DS and then when baby born will be delighted to be a Dad again. No words of wisdom to help you really - hope your DP comes round and accepts his fate! just as mine has (i think!)

Ruby01 · 28/11/2008 15:19

Dear cantwaitforxmas agree the getting him drunk soes not sound like the best option but he needs to know that his indecisiveness is not fair on you. I know once my DH and I decided to try I was straight into the 'im going to have a baby soon mindset'. It is understandable that he may be a little apprehensive about becoming a father but thats part and parcel of it you dont have children without a little apprehension. Once he knows his actions upsets you he may be much more behind the idea and if not its the shag me and deal with the consequences approach !!!

Trixe came to the same conclusion will ignore dates ( well really try to) and just enjoy the trying

I love this thread!

bubblebell1 · 28/11/2008 17:06

trixie im 4 days late too. no bfp and no af, just want it to hurry up and arrive so i can try again

DevilsAdvocaat · 28/11/2008 20:02

cwfxmas,

why don't you get him to speak to some other dads? my dh was the same, he wanted kids but was scared.

it might really help to get a bloke's REAL opinion and story iykwim.

it'll be ok you know. biologically i think women get more of a drive towards babies. men need the softly softly coaxy monkey approach

cantwaitforxmas · 28/11/2008 21:03

Hooray! DH has agreed we can start ttc NOW!

He realises that he does want us to have kids and that putting it off for a few months won't make him any less scared. I'm so excited! His only 'requirement' was that we don't start counting days or GOFing just because I am ovulating' so it doesn't become clinical which I totally agree with.

So excited (and VERY surprised)!

bubblebell1 · 30/11/2008 12:53

hi girls!

how was your weekend?

cantwaitforxmas · 30/11/2008 17:49

Hi bubblebell,

I've had a lovely weekend. Now that we have finally decided to ttc DP and I are much more relaxed. Had family over for dinner on Saturday then went xmas shopping today. I've almost finished so I might try to get everything wrapped tonight. We are off for a weeks holiday next Friday and I want to be as organised as possible before then otherwise the last week before xmas will be mad.

How about you?

RaspberrySouffle · 30/11/2008 18:21

Hi all, can I join? Am hoping for an Autumn baby... September would be lovely!

Have one DS who's 2.6. Have had 2 MCs since then so I'm hoping I won't have 3 in a row!

Best of luck everyone...

Gateau I'm from the May thread (but have namechanged since). We had similar EDDs... ring any bells? Sorry to hear you had a MC. Best of luck ttc again.

bubblebell1 · 30/11/2008 18:23

hi cantwait

ive spent most of the wkend knicker checking... AF still not here and still bfn this morn.

DS2 is poorly and was awake most of the night... i think im coming down with something too..... i feel achey etc.

today was better... we put up the xmas tree and then i went to my mums for dinner.. was a nice break.

glad everything has worked out for you...
are you going to chart your fertility or just go with the flo?

bubblebell1 · 30/11/2008 18:24

oh and welcome raspberry

cantwaitforxmas · 30/11/2008 18:46

Welcome raspberry - so sorry to hear about your MCs and I hope your lovely DS has a little brother or sister in the autumn.

Bubblebell - lovely of your DS to share his bug with you . I hope you are both feeling better in the morning. For now I think I will just go with the flow. AF is very regular but anything beyond that looks very complicated to me (I know people talk about temp charts and OPK sticks but I'm not really sure what it is all about ). If it doesn't happen for us in a few months I'm sure I'll feel differently but I'll worry about it then. Until then I'll just go with lots of GOFing .

DevilsAdvocaat · 30/11/2008 20:16

hi everyone,

had nice weekend, mil and fil came to stay and it was surprisingly relaxed
ds has been poorly the last couple of weeks and his sleeping this week has been terrible. he always sleeps 7.30-7.30 and in this last week he's been waking through the night and getting up at 5. then he's grumpy all day.

he's been in a good routine for such a long time that it has hit me hard this week and left me feeling dazed like in the early days with a newborn. i have been thinking how the hell do you manage situations like that when you have a newborn too?!

jeez. i'll be walking about like a zombie.

TrixieVix · 30/11/2008 20:59

Hi all - have had a fantastic weekend! It's my DS's 2nd birthday tomorrow, so we've had a tea party for him today (who knew it could be so stressful?!) He's been a little poppet and although a bit frantic, but now it's all over and everything's washed and packed away, and he's peacefully snoozing in bed, I realise it's been worth it. Definitely a village hall next year though....a die cast car was thrown at the LCD TV and there was very nearly meltdown of my DH!!

So, still no AF, but not bothered to do a pg test again, just yet. Must be cause I'm all stressed up at the moment, but am clinging to the hope that it'll regulate itself, or that I'm still ovulating even though there's no AF...is that a possiblity do you think?

Pleased you've had good weekends too - I'm very nearly there with my xmas shopping too, but still go a few bits to get. DS is totally sorted, as are our numerous nephews and nieces, but not done parents or in-laws yet. Will hopefully get that done next week and then......relax!

So - what's new with everyone? Everyone else sat back and relaxing to Top Gear?!?!?1

Oh, and Hi Raspberry

bubblebell1 · 01/12/2008 08:11

hi trixie, i too was wondering if it was possible to ovulate and then not have af.. have you been on the pill before or were you regular before and this 1 just not shown??

im 8 days late and keep getting bfns i dont know whats happened..finished my pill on the 25th oct... then nothing

happy birthday to your ds... my ds2 is 2 in feb.. such a lovely age

bratnav · 01/12/2008 09:42

Hi all, still trying to work out when AF is due, will test on Friday if no sign. Feel truly lousy with a cold, and have come into work to find my boss has piled a huge amount of rubbish on me, blaming me for a HUGE problem which, having checked, she briefed me incorrectly on

Happy flipping Monday (sorry for rant)

iloverosycheeks · 01/12/2008 10:40

Mornin' Bratnav - sorry your Monday off to bad start. I had to call an ambulance at 8.30 this am for a poor old man who slipped and fell on the ice, he cut his head and was really shaken up - so I was late for work but at least had good excuse
Have worked out if conceive this month EDD would be my birthday in August! so that would be right at the end of the month but as DS was 16 days late would prob still be September! It would be nice to be able to have a drink at Christmas and NY but if it happens before then all the better!

bratnav · 01/12/2008 12:47

Hi Rosy, oh now awful, was he ok?

True for me too, baby for birthday???? hmm not sure about that

iloverosycheeks · 01/12/2008 12:57

yes he was okay. cut his head and broke his specs tho, I felt so bad for him - bit of dramatic start to my day !
Keep meaning to say - love the name Bratnav! genius

Gateau · 01/12/2008 13:19

I got my first AF after my m/c at the weekend. So at least I know my system SEEMS to be back to normal. Have also worked out that I will know if I'm pg or not on Christmas Eve!! If I'm not, it will be awful but at least I'll know if it's sfe for me to have a drink over Christmas and New Year.
Not sure whther to start with OPKs or whether to just start going for it? What are you lot doing?

bratnav · 01/12/2008 13:42

Thanks rosy, it's what DP called me when we started seeing each other as I hated his tomtom and insisted on giving (good) directions around my hometown.

I am carrying on just 'going for it' gateau, I will test either Friday if AF doesn't arrive, if it does then I think I would find out around new year, which is a bit of a scruple.

Gateau · 01/12/2008 14:29

Good luck Bratnav!
I looked at ov tests at lunchtime; can;t justify spending that money TBH. So we'll just go for it too. Was disappointing getting my AF - it came four weeks after medical management for my missed m/c. But at least we've got a clean slate to start af
gain, I suppose.

bubblebell1 · 01/12/2008 15:24

gateau i got my hpt and opks from babymad on ebay... cheap too! not started using them tho as i havnt got to cd1

i am using fertility friend to chart my temp and cm and when af arrives i will use the sperm meets egg plan.

Gateau · 01/12/2008 15:59

Now that's what I call going at it all guns ablazing, bluebell!
Good luck!

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