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Can we have an 'aiming for a September baby' thread?

266 replies

mosschops30 · 29/10/2008 13:39

Ive seen July and August today so thought I'd start my own.

Me and dh gonna ttc No.3 shortly, although have no idea when to aim for september baby? Having my mirena coil out next week and then just gonna go for it

OP posts:
bubblebell1 · 26/11/2008 08:33

hi girls!

can i join you? i was trying in the august thread but af hasnt arrived and still a bfn when i test.
this is my first month off the pill so no idea when af will rear her ugly head.

im on cd30 ttc#3 usual cycle 30 days .

xxx

iloverosycheeks · 26/11/2008 10:05

Hi bubblebell and welcome! What is going on with late AFs this month! I was five days late and was convinced I must be pg but no, just my body teasing me!!...BTW what does CD stand for - have often wondered that

bubblebell1 · 26/11/2008 12:37

hi iloverosy.
ikwym... just want af to arrive so i can try again

cd is cycle day cd 1 is the first day of last period.

bratnav · 26/11/2008 22:00

Hi bubblebell!

I was trying to work out when my AF is due, based on when I finished taking my pill, but I have no clue, I think it should be this week???

bratnav · 26/11/2008 22:05

OK, judging by my posts on this thread I stopped taking the pill around 31st/1st and had a tiny bleed that only lasted 1 day, so what is that?

DevilsAdvocaat · 27/11/2008 08:27

hello everyone,

thanks for your reply bratnav

my af usually starts on the 10th so does that mean i am ovulating around the 24th?

never done this cycle counting before.

if we conceived the first cycle then the baby would be due mid october.

omg it's weird thinking about it!

i've already had names going around my head for the last few days

DevilsAdvocaat · 27/11/2008 08:29

also, do you lot already have kids?
if so how many? how old?

bubblebell1 · 27/11/2008 08:37

Hi girls!

Brat i assume the lil bleed was the 1 that happens between packets but i too am a novice. I finished my pill on the 25th oct and i still havnt had a period yet. I think i missed when i ovulated so dont think im pregnant now. just have a mixed up cycle from the pill. strangely im wishing af was here!!! dont think i will be doing that in the next few months

Devil It depends on your cycle length when you ovulate. so i asumed i would ovulate day 14 to 16 but as i have longer cycles i ovulated day 18 and missed my slot for this month

i bought some ovulation test sticks from ebay for £3 so i am going to try using those this month.

are you all actively trying now?

xxx

bubblebell1 · 27/11/2008 08:38

devil

i have 2 ds's aged 7 and 21 months.

you?

Ruby01 · 27/11/2008 09:23

Hello All - I am currently ttc for my 1st child, I suffered an eptopic pregnancy in july - my first pregnancy- and luckily got away with only having the metathrexate (is that how you spell it!) injection. I was advised to wait 3 months before ttc again and I actually wanted an August baby. My AF was late (please someone confirm that AF means period otherwise I have no idea what I have written)so this morning took a test which read negative- half an hour later I started AF. So all those weird sesations were nothing more than usual pains

I am just 37 a little nervous and willing myself not to become to obsessed about falling pregnant but I fell pregnant the first time I tried before and am surprised I didnt fall right away this time (silly I know). Anyway fingers crossed for next month and I hope we all have good news to share in the new year.

p.s have only ever written on a thread once before and am unsure of abbreviation etiquette

Ruby01 · 27/11/2008 09:49

Hello All, trying for a baby hopefully in September but really also wanted one in August July and June and will be happy with one in October or Novemeber.

I suffered an eptopic in july and luckily only needed the metathrexate injection, fell pregnant the very first time I tried and after having to wait 3 months before trying again am surprised not to have fallen right away again( silly I know).

I was a day late and so took a pregnancy test this morning which was negative and then started my period half an hour later!

Anyway am willing myself not to become to stressed or obsessed - can you tell that is going to be a loosing battle- but am 37 and have spent far too much time on the internet to not worry.

Looking forward to trying again this month and look forward to getting to know you all

Ruby01 · 27/11/2008 09:51

sorry nearly same message twice couldnt see that it had been attached lol

TrixieVix · 27/11/2008 09:57

Hi Ruby - sorry to hear about your ectopic pregnancy. We're all feeling positive on this thread (at least we were last time I checked!!) so welcome to the 'gang'!!

Still no AF here which is v. confusing?! Am getting the usual aches though, so think it might be on its way...watch this space.

I have got a lot on at the moment - just taken on a more senior role at work (which I've been patiently waiting for for ages!!)and got DS's 2nd birthday and party to be organised at the weekend, 1st wedding anniversary (yes, we did it the wrong way round!!) and Christmas obviously, so am wondering if this, combined with the housemove is why I'm late. We shall see

How is everyone today?

Sorry Bratnav - no idea what that is?! I did used to get similar when I'd forgotten to take a pill before though, so maybe your body adjusting?

Ruby01 · 27/11/2008 10:04

Thanks Trixie - how late are you now? I used to have a very regular 26-27 day cycle but since the summer its been all over the place was over a week later than usual last month and a day late this month - also have had a couple of very hectic busy months. Try not to think about it too much (much easier said than done I know) get on with all of the lovely events you have coming up and then if still not there test again not test is 100% accrate.

Bratnav - agree with Trixie

upsyandiggle · 27/11/2008 14:31

hi all, can i join. TTC DC2, would love a september baby.

bratnav · 27/11/2008 20:26

Hi Ruby and upsy, nice to have you along!

I am trying for DC3/4 depending if you count DSD whom we have joint care of! DDs are 4, 5 and 6.

mrsdisorganised · 27/11/2008 20:39

Hello everyone! This list just keeps growing...

Ruby01- Sorry to hear about the time you've had, hopefully you won't have to wait too long. I had the whole 4 days 'late' thing and just plucked up the courage to do a test this morning only to find, like you that AF arrived an hour later! Body plays tricks on meAt least I know where I am now...

Hope everyone is still feeling positive! Babydust to you all!

DevilsAdvocaat · 27/11/2008 22:07

i have one ds aged 1 and a half.
we are trying at the mo but aren't using contraception iykwim.
we will start trying after christmas for mostly selfish champagne and soft cheese reasons
last time i was pg it was over christmas and i was still suffering morning sickness at the time and it wasn't that enjoyable!

i can't wait though, it's really exciting and feeling very positive

cantwaitforxmas · 27/11/2008 22:36

Hi all,

I need to rant - sorry. DP is driving me crackers! When I first said that I wanted to start trying for a DC he said that he agreed and was quite excited about being a dad although he was also very nervous. He then had a change of heart and said that although he wanted children he hadn't realised I meant right away as we hadn't really talked about it before (actually I've been talking about it for 2 years and all our friends and family knew I wanted children soon but he is a very here and now person and tends not to really hear if I am talking about the future). For the last couple of months he has swung between being very excited and saying he wants us to ttc in the next month or so then changing his mind and saying he just doesn't feel completely ready yet and doesn't want to make the wrong decision.

I know it has to be a joint decision and he has to be happy for us to ttc (although I think most people never feel 100% sure they are ready for a baby right now - how can you ever be certain it's the right time?) but I'm finding this really upsetting. I'm so excited about ttc and feel I'm on an emotional rollercoaster with all this 'yes we will, no we won't' stuff. He is away this week and I have said he needs to make a decision - either he does want us to start trying now or we decide to wait for 6-12 months then see how we feel then. I think it's the right thing - he is one of those people who hates making decisions and will just keep saying maybe forever. At least if he says no he doesn't want to yet I can try to forget about it for a while - at the moment its on my mind alot of the time. I'm really nervous though as I REALLY want him to say yes and I actually think he does want children now - it's just hard for him to commit.

Do you think I am doing the right thing or am I being hard on him? I am very impatient but I have had to push him to make most big changes/decisions in the 10 years we have been together (change job when unhappy/buy the house he wanted/buy car/move city.....). Ironically, once he decides to do something he goes for it 100% and is very happy but just finds it tough to make that decision.

Sorry for the long rant and me me me post - just needed to get that off my chest. Please keep your fingers crossed I'll still be going for a September baby.

mrsdisorganised · 27/11/2008 22:42

I feel for you CWFXmas! My Dh is a bit like that, but I think the more you think about the realities the scarier it gets! Our first DD was a happy accident and we have decided that that was the best way to do it! We've been 'planning' this next attempt and I find his dicisions change from one day to the next Good luck and i hope you can pin him down!

cantwaitforxmas · 27/11/2008 22:53

Thanks MrsD - I think a happy accident would have been easier!

bubblebell1 · 28/11/2008 08:10

Hi Everyone!

How are you all?

cwfxmas, my dh is very much the same.all decisions are left to me. he kept saying he wanted more but not yet etc he too is very indecisive. so i sat him down and explained that it could take up to a year to fall pregnant.i need to prepare my body. it was better to do it now as the kids would be closer together in age and that when the kids were adults we wouldnt be ancient. and that i felt we could cope. ( i had terrible pnd with both babies before so i think he was worried about that) He has since agreed and we are now activly ttc. (when my blasted AF arrives)

I suggest talking to him and i am sure he will come round. if we argue my dh always throws in 'oh and you want another 1' but i just ignore him.

AF is 3 days late and it feels like forever.

xxx

cantwaitforxmas · 28/11/2008 08:44

Thanks Bubblebell1, I have tried to explain to him that ttc could take a while, that we don't want to put it off until it is harder to ttc and we are more set in our ways so find it harder to adapt to having a baby etc. I've also pointed out that most of his worries (will I be a good dad, is it the right time, will it change our relationship etc) won't just go away. When we talk about it he agrees with what I am saying and agrees we'll always have some worries. Then I'll say 'so we should start trying now' and he says 'yes - we should start soon' but he says he just can't take that last step and say 'okay lets start now'. It's still too scary.

bratnav · 28/11/2008 10:25

cantwait - if you really feel he is ready, but just a little nervous (and everyone is, it's a big step) why don't you tell him you are going to stop using your current method of contraception and tell him to use condoms if he doesn't want/isn't sure about a child yet? Not sure if this would be an option for you, but just a thought?

mrsdisorganised · 28/11/2008 10:30

Good idea Brat! We did that and got very drunk one night, forgot about comdoms... decision made!