TTC and Waiting to TTC? The ever addictable wagon awaits.....

[LaTourEiffel]

Over here ladies, and a big Wagon welcome to any newbies!

I'll post the list in a minute too....

Thank you Dalrymps. I have to admit I have followed the every other day advice, and basically tried to make that happen for two weeks from one week after AF. We conceived dd1 the first month of trying, and this time around, as I said, twice since mid September, so it seems to work quite well for us. I've heard of other people really going for it and getting nowhere, so maybe there's something in it...

Ah I see, we tried every other day for the last few months but no luck. Having said that though we did miss the odd day due to illness so who knows.

We're real tired anyway so have agreed to go back to every other day next month if no luck...

hiya, haven't been on in a while, just popping in to see how everyone is

we have been bd every other day and i still haven't got a clue if i'm even ovulating so frustrating! they say you can go by cm consistency.... does that go for breastfeeding cycles as well? does anyone know if that still applies?
so if that's the case....looks like it should be imminent so fingers crossed!

how far into their cycles is everyone now?

I noticed some EWCM a few days ago so I may have already ov'd. I'm on day 18 of my 28 day cycle

I think the CM thing still applied when bf but don't take my word for it!

oooh so hopefully the every day regime will have paid off this month for you!

maybe i'll just start googling and see what i can come up with

Hi all had a BFN yesterday. I was all 'it's not the right time for us anyway, I'll be a hugely fat DP was gutted and I secretly was too!!! It's only our first month of half trying so I don't know why, I think we just expected it to happen like last time- immediately.

Hmmm... all down in the dumps now and PMT'd up to the max.

We are in a quandry at the moment- should we try to get pregnant so that we go abroad to get married pregnant with all our family in July? Or should we wait until afterwards so that I can drink and sun myself on hol? Which means that I'll go on maternity leave at the end of my work contract so I won't get maternity pay and probably won't get re-employed next year (I get re-employed each year, but I doubt they'd re-employ me if I was on maternity leave IYSWIM). What does everyone think? We've thought about it too much and confused ourselves, so need advice!!

Sorry that was meant to say 'a hugely fat bride'

sorry to hear about the BFN mumofbaby
i'm sorry that i don't have any definite answers for you as what to do... i guess the best advice i can give is to really try to envision what you want the next year of your life to look like. try to see what would make you the happiest and whether you're up for the challenges that that choice would bring up. do you really like your job, is that something you're worried about losing?

I am worried about losing my job. I think I want to get pregnant before the holiday. Oooooooooo it's so difficult to decide. N there's no guarantees anyway I guess! I'm so hormonal today lol.

lol, i'm always hormonal according to dh

i'm sort of in the same situation (just in whether getting pregnant now is the best idea).... we're planning on moving to the states in June and we're both keen on expanding the family but some days i have my reservations and worry about health insurance and moving over whilst pregnant, getting a job, how ds is going to do with the move... but i think the desire to have another baby is stronger than my worrying about the future. ds was quite a shock and a lot of life-rearranging but we made it work so i'm confident that whatever happens we can get through.

i think that pregnant brides are quite cute

Welcome Biccy.

Well AF decided to play an extremely nasty trick on me & arrive 2 days late just as I was getting my hopes up. Now feel crap from coming on as well as depressed as I really thought we'd done it this month. I still don't understand how I got pregnant with ds within a week of coming off the pill & have been trying for 6 months so far this time. Can't shake the feeling something must be wrong.

Mumofbaby - I'd timed when we started trying this time to ensure I'd be on mat leave when ds started school. As you'll gather from my previous whinge that really hasn't worked out. I'd say if you're ready to have another baby then go for it. Everything else can be worked out if you're lucky enough to fall pregnant straight away.

I'm sorry Claire236 - isn't it just crap how you're at your least able to cope with disappointment (as in PMT time) when you have to deal with the disappointment of not this month then, and really annoying that starting to feel pregnant feels so much like PMT (well, it does in my case anyway...).

Really hoping it happens for you next time.

Claire236 - So sorry you got your AF . It's so anoying! Fingers crossed you get lucky soon.

MumOfBaby - I agree with bringonthetrumpets that pregnant brides are cute

I'm also in a bit of a predicament as to getting pg as if it doesn't happen in the next 3 months or so i'll probably have to wait until dh finishes his pgce which will be sept 2011, unless we get pg whilst he does it in which case i'll still have to wait till sept 2010 . The reason for that is that i'm going to work evenings for a year to fund dh doing his pgce for a year and I don't want the baby to be too young when I do that...

Thanks Biccy & Dalrymps. I'm not feeling quite so sorry for myself today although I am having the period from hell. I'll just say it's disgusting & leave the rest to your imaginations.

Dalrymps - that's a long wait. I really hope you get your BFP very soon.

dh thinks we should go & have a chat with the GP as I'm concerned something's wrong. I said there's no point as they won't be interested until we've been trying a year. Does anyone else think it's worth going now?

Claire236 - One thing I have heard of people doing is going to the docs and saying they've been ttc for over a year. That way you might get some follow up tests, worth a thought, after all the doc has no way of knowing how long you have actually being ttc

Sorry you're having such a crappy AF, hope it packs it's bags soon!

I've had slightly tender/tingly breasts for the last few days, trying not to think about it in case i'm just imagining... Do you think it would be possible to have symptoms this early if I had concieved? I'm on day 19 of my 28 day cycle. Don't want to get my hopes up though, I hate the dissapointment.

Claire236: I am saying this tentatively and really hope it isn't more of a disappointment than a note of optimism, but, if you were a couple of days late, and are having a really bad period, is there a chance you had a chemical pregnancy? Are you normally bang on time? I really hope that doesn't upset you more.

I would go to the GP. My GP said to go and see her if it hadn't happened in six months (though maybe that's because we are trying for dc2 - not sure if you have any others?). Either way, at least then there'd be something on your record as 'proof' you were trying? They may agree to do the blood test to at least check you are ovulating.

Dalrymps - hope your tingling is a good sign - although, I have a funny feeling tingly breasts can be a sign of ovulation... so I suggest you go and get on with it, just in case it's that (I think I ovulate quite late in my cycle, which is normally 27 to 28 days) .

BIccy - Thanks for the tip, We've got a gof scheduled tonight so will get right on to it!

Hello everyone. Nothing to report here. Things arent working as they should be with my DB so not much chance of me getting a BFP any day soon...

clare236 i have a friend who was tested quite early on and they discovered thyroid problems. NOT that i am suggesting it is that, just that they may well test you early, otherwise i know i would tell a big fat lie and say i had been trying for a year

motherofbaby go for it i say. I am still waiting for DB to propose but know it's imminent as we have discussed it, and i intend to carry on ttc as well as plan a wedding x

well ladies, looks like i'll have to just be a lurker on this thread from now on .

dh has decided to tell me the other night that he doesn't want to try for another until this summer. right at ovulation time . just out of nowhere he asked me if we were trying to get pregnant. i was just like ????? erm, i thought we already talked about this! then he said that he wouldn't get mad if we got pregnant right now but he wouldn't be that excited . we talked about this at the beginning of this cycle and we both said that we were keen on trying again right away, but we weren't going to start getting intense on trying as to avoid disappointment if it takes a while.

so basically i'm like, wtf (?) right now and he's just been cut off in the bedroom department. sorry hun, since you don't want to try getting preggers again, best for us not to have any. too bad, so sad for him

wishing everyone the very best of luck! hoping for lots of BFP's!!!!!!!

Oh no bringonthetrumpets that is terrible, you must be so upset / angry. I would be. hugs Am utraged on your behalf. Talk about play with your emotions!

Kittycatcat - Sorry things aren't working as they should be at the mo... Is it just a temporary thing?

Thought as we've had a few newbies we should update the list. Here it is, please copy it then add yourselves in

Heebeejeebee - 36, TTC Now afer 2 mmc
OhSnap - 27, TTC Now
Dalrymps - 27, TTC DC#2 Now
Claire236 - 31, TTC#2 now
Kittycatcat - 33, TTC DC1, AF due 20th March
LaTourEiffel - 32, TTC DC2, CD26/31

The list is right for me. I dont know tbh. I have never had a high sex drive so he is loving it at the moment. Cant really explain without detail so dont read on if you dont want tmi.......... it seems that most of the time he cant ...you know....inside me. But can other ways. Am i making sense. Sometimes he cant even perform inside me. So not going to get pregnant at this rate. Sorry for the detail....

Kittycatcat - Nothing is tmi on this thread so don't worry about it!

Has he had this problem before? Do you think he's just feeling the 'ttc pressure' and therefore it's affecting him subconciuosly?

My dh got a bit stressed out when we started ttc, even though we both agreed we really wanted to ttc he just felt under pressure. It affeted him in the way that he just didn't want sex at all some nights as he felt too under pressure to perform.

We discussed it and he said that if I mentioned having sex during the day he would feel pressured all day knowing he had to 'do it' that evening. He would rather just not put so much 'focus' on the event and just do it as if we were just doing it spontaniously once we got to bed itswim.

I don't know if me babbling on is any help but thought I'd share in case it made you feel less alone...

He's diong better with it now, we've discussed it more and he's kind of in the mond set that we just have to get on with it and 'do it', even if it's not mind blowing every time.

I have had problems getting in the mood so often too so it's not just him. Sex is a lot different when you're ttc IMO.

at the amount of times I used the word 'pressure' and the typos!

Haha to pressure
it happened long before we started ttc so isn't linked. and he is quite relaxed about ttc as he says we aren't trying as such, as we expect it to take a while as i have been on the pill since i was 15, and am 34 in August. He knows it could also happen quickly though so maybe there is an element of holding back?? A few weeks ago after succesful sex (but af arrived a week later) he asked if the timing was right so obv is thinking the right thoughts. confused.com!! My turn to babble!