TTC for the cautious!!!

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OK well not sure my title is good enough really and feel honoured you let me start the thread. So heres to a new month and new start on my cycle! TTC is going to be a very nervous and aprehensive time for me but i know oyu are all in the same boat and with your support im sure i can do it. So im on day 1 of my cycle. Should ov on day 10 although am not certain if D&C has mucked up my ovulation but will guess that. Am almost thinking that im ttc just to lose another baby and i know thats wrong but cant help it. With 2 mc already its hard to believe it will ever happen for me and DH and im almost convinced i will never see a healthy happy 12 week bean. Ok enough doom and gloom.

HERES TO ALL OF US WHO ARE NERVOUSLY TTC AND MAY LUCK AND FAIRY DUST SHOWER OVER US IN THESE COMING MONTHS!

CONGRATS YINGERS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

that is just great news

mish - hope you are feeling ok. do feel for you- CD27 onwards is soooo tough.

and a big welcome to Mizzan - great to have someone the same age as me on the thread! i was feeling like the thread grandmother at times

I think Yingers is the boost this thread needed, I feel like its definately lifted the mood and feel very hopefull for the rest of us now.
Welcome Prunegirl

I'm going home at five now I've finally finished for the week DP's flight gets in at 8.00 so going to enjoy a quiet weekend with him as much BD as possible. I will speak to you ladies on Monday.

I have high hopes of more BFP's for all of us.

Enjoy your weekendsss and good luck.

(wow it sounds like a mission statement

thanks to everyone for their kind words.

DQ - i am still in disbelief and have just got hold of some more tests, I really don't know how many I have to do before it sinks in. I am dearly hoping that morning sickness will start soon as horrible as it is it will make the situation a lot more real.

mish - yep i did not get a post m/c af.

oh and too late I did the hoovering!

sending out some babydust to all those bding tonight or tomorrow morning even!!!

Yingers so glad to hear you fab news. Take care of yourself and let the hoovering go to pot for the time being.

This news had really lifted my spirits as feeling completley crap today. Think I have picked up DH's bug and not helped by the fact that af is due beginning of next week and already having loads of cramps. Generally feeling sorry for myself - also eating a piece of cooking chocolate as nothing else in the house - not a good sign.

Yingers, what fantastic news. Am SO pleased for you!

Yingers taht is good news congrats take of yourself.

morning all
this thread is soo long ..lol

yingers hope u r resting hun

well i am on cd 30 of 28/35 am not bothering testing again..still no sign of af so will wait and see if the ob turns up. if not then wil test next week. Am going to upset/angry by the whole thing..lol
Funny cos i know i want to be pg but half of me is like well my ds is only 16mths so plenty of time etc etc but then another part is arguing saying yes but if u had pip u would be 5 1/2mths pg now..lol
sigh typical hey

Joining this thread cautiously as so many friends here! Some stats for those who don't know me:
TTC no. 2 (ds nearly 3)
Me 45 [blush}
Dh 50
m/c op last month at 13 weeks but had known it was a m/c for 3 weeks
think I am CD 16 but AF after D&C didn't seem normal so waiting for a proper AF to start counting from.
Haven't tried this month. Usually keep temperature chart - as long as I remember every morning- it's great both for ov and knowing if p/g (stays high after ov).

Huge congrats to Yingers and we're all absolutely with you on the bliss/panic feeling - fantastic to be over the first hurdle though. Happy hugs to you!!
Dyzzidi - very interested in your fibroid op as I have a large one and am wondering what is best to do about it - can we chat on another thread or CAT?
George - funny that your dh might get moody if feeling used - for that very reason could NEVER tell dh when it was SERIOUS b/d!! Anyone else tiptoeing round a sensitive soul?

oops Double blush!! (got it right I hope!)

Congratulations yingers! I just saw your news on the other thread - how wonderful! All the best to you!

Went to see the acupunturist she said i should take these tablets this time £132 my god, anyway i am really wondering what to do as dh has said "tell me when we have to do it and i will" so lovely of him but i know it won't work i have said every 2-3 days and well he is still lieing on the floor hence it taking me 2 bloody yrs can i drug him???????????

hey ladies, in abit of a funk this eveing but trying to snap out of it! you know that mood where you dont like your hair/clothes/house ETC!? sigh..... anyhow wanted to say i actually changed my 'tactics' this time of ttc and told dh everything - when we should Bd, what the opks say, what the 'experts' say we should do when - and hes been fabulous. making the effort to bd when he is late for work/not in the mood etc, asking after my opks, ovulation calendar, the whole thing. it really feels good to be like this. luckily he is as much of a hurry as me to get pg!

disappointed on my opk 'faint' line today AGAIN........agggggggggghhhhhhh! if i was just going by ewcm i would think it must be the right time......guess i will see if its a better opk result tomorrow. i only have three left.......
do you think they might be 'wrong'??

slink -tablets ?£132? bloody hell! never mind that then!!! get dh to be ready for bding fest instead!

DQ, wish i had your dh. I told mine everything and it has scared him, i'm the sex crazed one in our relationship, Dh wants another to as he is 40 and i will be 34 in may arhhh i'm still young i think

evening all,

had a busy day today and am just relaxing now watching comic relief fame academy, cheesy but love it!

Being pregnant still seems a bit unreal, saw family today but have told no one, and have still not made an appointment with GP as feel apprehensive about returning to the doctors.

Anyway, enough of that, I am sending loads of babydust to you all, especailly those who are b-ding this weekend.

Slink - feed him oysters and if that fails, use force. I sometimes had to resort to that with my dh too as he too could be a little lazy when it came to ttcing even though he also wants another baby.

I always used to hate Mother's Day as it reminded me I wasn't a mum so if you're ttc No. 1 please hang in there - it DOES happen eventually (I was 42!!). Woke up today to a lovely bunch of flowers and a card with a couple swinging a single child between them - really sweet and appropriate and I do count my lucky stars every day having ds - but would love him to have a sibling (I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters!) which is why I'm on this thread. Good luck everyone, whatever stage you're at!

Teatime - thanks for the thought for those of us not yet a mum, yes mother's Day does feel like a little bit of a slap in the face at the moment!
Had my brothers and their partners over for dinner last night and when they arrived they thought I was going to announce I was pregnant and that is why I had arranged a dinner to tell them all - ARH ! I managed to drink a lot after that so felt ok, just had to do that forced laugh and go "no way not yet"!
anyway ladies, the sun is out, Yingers is up the duff, life is going great so far!
DQ - sounds an amazing DH, lucky you! Did you read on the other thread that i baked a cake for my dinner party - thought you would be proud of me

mornign all
mothers day is a bit bitter sweet this yr, am soo glad that i have ds and dont want to seem ungrateful as he is a star..but i also should have been nealry 6mths pg..sigh
anyways still no sign of af and on cd 31 just hope the ob doesnt pick today to turn up..i tested again yesterday afternoon and nothing just hope she isnt deciding to mess me around and not turn up for a few months which she did to me last year...
sorry to maon all just feeling a bit fed up
lotds of baby dust to u all

Morning, just need to rant here...

Had a great early am wine cards smellies (i love smellies) chocs.
Then dh and i were talking about my trip to the herbalist told him they said£132 for the teas etc for 1 month, anyway went on to say look you eithere want another one or not. Ans well it ended up in an arguement with dh saying tell me when your ov and we can just do it then, how cold is that i know he wants another one and i think he thinks it will fall from a tree, anyway i said that he did not sound as if he wanted another he said he did just didn't want to do it every other day then said i started and has left the house for a drive.................................. I guess in a way i am to blame but never meant for it to get heated just that he doesn't seem to be trying and sounds so cold about it,dd is 4 in may i will be 34 and i think the gap is big enough already plus... my sister has announced she is getting married in Feb next yr.

Thanks no need to reply just needed to do that.

I guess taht shows the pressure taht can develop me and dh had that when trying for dd - he just gets so protective everytime we have an m/c that it takes time to get round to trying again - having said that he is a start and held fro ages when I finally break down about teh latest M/c - afetr fat friends strange what sets you off. Baby dust to alladn hang in there

wELL HE IS BACK BIG HUGS AND ALLS WELL, LETS SEE

True it can be very stressful, god i spent have my married life trying not to get pregnant and now look at me
Good luck to all, off to eat my roast..dh has prepared (i finished it off when he went out)

aww slink im glad hes back..i asked dh before why when we ask them to go every other day they flip..surely its every mans ideal type of thing and he said he doesnt know why but he likes sex just not for only one purpose...sigh cant win can we

I know nemo, men have become mice i think, thats why i feel confident dh would never havean affair he couldn't handle the sex... ha ha his all mushie now bless hime, i have just had coffee and cream cake,

hi Slink - so glad the barney ended happily - I love happy endings! In my case (with dh) I think that any hint of obligation to 'perform' would make the whole thing impossible so I have to keep it to myself about when the b/d is more important than other times. We do have the easier time of it in terms of 'performance' - if they're not 'turned on' then the necessary just won't happen so we can't be too hard on our guys (oops no pun intended!)
Went to the village church for the Mother's Day service (the nursery kids do a turn and there's coffee afterwards, very low key and friendly) and felt a pang spying a hugely happy older mum who looked about 6 months pg. I don't blame her for the smug radiance - just wish it were me!
Hope all the mums were royally spoiled today and for the rest - next year's Mother's Day could be a biggie!!