First time TTC?!! Let's get through this together!! Part 3

[summerbird]

A new thread for us to carry on.

Bring on the BFPs!!!

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hello and welcome broody! April is creeping up Good luck and baby dust to you (and everyone else who needs it)xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hey! I'll have some babydust!! In dire need LOL! I haven't really got anything exciting to share but thought I'd check in and see if everyones okay xx

wildfig you have now got me thinking about my own grandparents sex life - shame on you lady!!

welcome broodydoody - we are a fab bunch here, stick with us if you want any pre TTC advice to get you prepared! Exciting!!

My top 2 pre-conception tips!

1. If you cant face drinking grapfruit juice (and I couldn't) try dinking your body weight in Grapfruit tropicana spirit. It is something like 20% grapfruit juice but is diluted so is a lot easier to drink - Beware costs both your arm and your leg!!!!

2. OV sticks are evil!! they start you off with a p-ing on sticks obsession, cost the earth and their main purpose it appears is to stress you out.

Will buy a carton of both and see! I never did like eating grapefruits but will see if I can drink the stuff!!

I went through a phase of drinking a shot of cider vinegar every morning so it can be as bad as that, or can it!!!

I am going to start getting more of an idea of what my body is doing but not sure where to start. My cycle is 28/29 days and I am currently on 3rd day of AF. I can tell when I am hopefully ovulating due to CM but will start to note this down I think. Any tips?

Hi girls,

vix hope you had a fab time in Dublin! Were you there for work or pleasure? Have you heard from the assisted conception unit yet, or got any more idea about the length of the waiting list? Fingers crossed that 2009 is the year for you!

Hi hever! Glad you?re well, and your EDD is getting closer!!

MAF hope your PMT hasn?t been too bad.

Hope you?re OK too Linwin, great that you?re back to TTCing.

Been thinking about you Fairy and if you?re reading this but just not posting for a while, we?re all sending you our best wishes and hugs.

Hope your cold and chest is better Dawn? glad to hear your little bean is moving around again!

Hi summer, hope you and the summerbean are well ? the scan and the photo of your bump are fab!

You rant away on here wildfig, it?s what we?re here for, and we?ve all had annoying comments and questions ? people can be so insensitive and ignorant!
I?m keeping my fingers crossed for you. Here?s hoping you have a great Valentine?s weekend

Big welcome to broodydoody! And good luck for the start of your TTC journey!

Hey crunchy long time no see?. Here?s some baby dust especially for you **

As you know, I?ve been symptom spotting like mad this month and the list of symptoms seemed to be getting longer so I decided to get some CB digital tests in the supermarket yesterday. I decided last night that I would test this morning??a day before my AF was due and??????? I got a BFP!!!!!!!!!!

DH and I are thrilled but we know that anything can happen over the next couple of months, so we?re going to keep the news very quiet and keep everything crossed.

If anyone?s got any sticky baby dust, please send it our way!

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PS I?ve updated the stats!

FIRST TIME FROLICKERS
Vix: Cycle7 CD 22
Wildfig: Cycle 12 CD5
Thandeka: Cycle 3 CD5
Linwin: Cycle 4 CD 10
Crunchynutter

FULLY PROFICIENT FROLICKERS
Flirty - EDD 24 April 2009
Hever - EDD 2nd May I think
Saz - EDD 15 May 2009
Summerbird - EDD 3 June 2009
Dawn: - EDD 10th June 2009
MichaelaS: - EDD 13 Aug 2009
Fairywing: - EDD 15 Aug 2009
heylottie - EDD 11th Oct 2009
BubbaP: EDD 18 Oct 2009 (MC Oct 08)

Yeah buppap that is such wonderful news! you must be over the moon. Sticky bean dust coming your way

Hope you're all doing well ladies and having a good weekend.

Hey Bubbap, that's brilliant Congratulations!! - and as a previous "MC"er myself, I am sure that just like me, that was your body having a brief practice before the real thing - this one!! You will be fine. The first few weeks will be tough, but just relax and remember that EVERY PG is different and has as much chance as any other of being perfect. Look at me, coming up to 23 weeks with a little one who is now actually kicking me loads, enough so that DH can feel it ALL the time virtually!! This will be you in a few months hun, I'm so excited for you!!

My laptop is fast running out of battery so I'd better log-off now. Sending loads of sticky bean-dust for you Bubbap and loads of hugs and kisses to all beans and their Mums and all ladies TTC!!

I have this week off so I may not be on as much this week, but I'll be thinking of you all. Off to Ikea to buy our nursery furniture on Tuesday. Cold is getting slightly better but still very bunged up...

Hope everyone is Ok. Hello to all newbies!!

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Bubap thats amazing - you even brought a tear to my eye!! Sticky bean dust a go go for you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Congratulations, BubbaP - how wonderful! Two BFPs in the space of seven days! Is that the most successful week yet?

Woooo Hoooo Bubbap that is fantastic news .. congratulations!!
I was in Dublin for a relaxing weekend away with DP!!
I am going to ring the doctor's secretary tomorrow to see if I can get an idea how long my initial appointment will be, so fingers crossed it won't be too long!!

Welcome to the ttc thread broodydoody , good luck on your journey hun!! Be warned about the obsessive weeing on sticks , I am one of the addicts ha ha!!

I'm on CD 23 and have no symptoms just sore boobs which i usually have before AF. I have been for a blood test today to see if i have ovulated without the clomid ( this is my first month without clomid ). I will find out later on in the week if i have or not.
I am praying that i will start and ovulate naturally now because then i can keep trying every month until I have to go for IVF.

Anyway big hello to everyone else and lots of special baby dust and sticky bean dust to you all!!

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Congratulations bubbap !! That is fantastic news :-) and dawn you must be very excited about getting nursury furniture (I have planned ours several times LOL) there is some really cute stuff in ikea too . Well I know I will get lots of disapproving tuts now but I have no idea what CD I am on!! I was that disheartented when I came on last time (and two more friends announced they were pg the next day ) that I have just sulked and eaten lots of chocolate! I have managed to cut out tea and coffee though as I have found some lovely herbal teas LOL.my husband is taking me away a week on Friday though for my birthday so im having a break!! I don't think my body is back to normal yet despite the cycle return as I am getting frequent (and quite violent!) migraines and have another coldsore so I think the hormones are still raging! I guess it will happen at some point though. I am now just waiting for some of your baby pics so we can have our virtual baby shower xx

OMG i have just logged on after a couple of days - congratulations bubbap that is fantastic news, brought a tear to my eye too. My advice is take dawn's advice and remember that every pregnancy has the same chance of succeeding. The next few weeks will be weird but we will all be holding your hand throughout. OOO i am so excited for you xx

hey crunchy where is your DH taking you then? How fabulous!! And you eat chocs away lady - it is the answer to everything

vix i am keeping everything crossed for you hun, the 2WW is nearly over

dawn that is brilliant that DH can now feel the kicking, as i know your placenta was being a little obstructive!! I know that my DH was amazed when he felt ours kick last week

big waves to linwin hever broody MAF wildfig heylottie and all of my lovely ladies

Ah bubbap this is good, very good indeed!!! There is obviously an abundance of baby dust floating around - I feel we are destined for a glut of autumn babies!
Have doctors appointment today as I think I fall into 'high risk pregnancy'. Years ago I was on Femodene and I was one of those girls who had a blood clot. My haematologist said "when the time comes, don't have a baby in the jungle" which I think meant "get lots of medical help"

So I will find out what the doctor says - I think it involves a daily injection. Ho hum, not down about it, just low level nausea!

Love to all - wanna see the nursery furniture dawn x

Hello lovelies,

Hope everyone is doing well.

Crunchy I am suffering from terrible migraines at the minute as well. I was thinking it was the weather, but I've had to cut out coffee and red wine just in case!
Your trip away with DH sounds wonderful.

MAF where are you?

Hi to Summerbird, Dawn, Buppap, wildfig, hever and broody - Phew sorry if I missed anyone!

Vix I wish I realised you were going to Dublin sooner, I lived there for 6 years so could have given you lots of tips. Hope you had fun.

God, I have to attend the evening do of a wedding this week that I realllly don't want to go to as there will be at least 2 ex-boyfriends there and its just going to be super awkward. What to do? I can't even get really really drunk as thats right about OV time.

Get you linwin it will be like that scene from Four Weddings and a Funeral. Will you all be sat at the same table with the guys all telling tales and swapping notes about you!! you poor thing - i would just get hammered!!

Hi, just popped in as i thought i owed people an update after all the kind words and support on here. I miscarried at home at 11+5weeks. It was the most horrific, painful, heart wrenching, soul shattering experience i have ever been through. I saw my baby. I went for the scan a few days later to confirm. Unfortunately there was still some tissue in my uterus so i had to go in for an ERPC after all. The very thing i wanted to avoid. It was fine and i have now almost completely recovered physically. Emotionally however, i'm not sure i ever will. This weekend we will go and buy a tree which will be planted in memory of our baby who will be buried beneath it.

I had no idea that i would react so strongly to something like this. That the desire to hold my baby in my arms would be so overwhelming. That you could miss and grieve so intensley for someone you never even met. I have cried buckets of tears and am feeling stronger now and will be returning to work and my 'normal' life on Monday.

I am not sure i will be brave enough to risk putting my body or my heart through that again. Time will tell i guess.

Good luck to all of the ladies here in whatever the future holds for you and thank you for your friendship over the last few months.

Rest in peace Baby Rowan. Mummy and Daddy love you very much xxx

fairywing am so so very sorry for your loss. We are all thinking about you at this horrible time. Completely understand why you need to grieve for your baby, even though you 'never met.' Physically maybe, but emotionally and spiritually you knew Rowan, so it's bound to be so very hard.

Take care of yourself, be kind to yourself, and know that we are all here, if you need us x

Oh fairywing I don't know what to say really - reading your post has given me a lump in my throat.

I am so so sorry for what you and your DH have been going through. I can't imagine how hard it must have been and continue to be for you both.

My thoughts are with you my dear. We will be here if ever you need to talk.

L xx

fairywing I'm so so sorry. Planting a tree is a beautiful way to celebrate a little life - I hope it brings you some comfort during this sad time for you both. x

I?m so sorry to hear your news fairy. You have been in my thoughts over the last few weeks. Whilst I haven?t been through the same physical experience as you, I found out at 10.5 weeks that we?d lost our baby. It?s an experience I?ll never forget. I grieved for our baby in a similar way to losing a close relative, but it?s different as it?s your baby you?re grieving for. Nothing can prepare you for those feelings.

I promise that given time, lots of crying and lots of talking with your DH that you will be able to move on from what has happened. Dawn and I are living proof of that and I hope both our stories will give you some inspiration if you feel you can go down this path again sometime in the future. We will be here to support you whenever you need us.

I think your idea of planting a tree is a lovely dedication to Rowan.

Big hugs to you and your DH xxx

Fairy,

Your words made me cry and my heart is with you honey. All of your lost relatives will look after baby Rowan for you now. You need to continue to heal yourself and it will take time but the tree is a lovely idea and may help you to heal.

When you are ready, do bear in mind Bubbap's words.

Please stay in touch, whether or not you decide to try again, we will always be here for you. Look after your DH aswell. It's always slightly different for men and sometimes even worse as they feel that they need to support you aswell as dealing with their own grief. Look after each other and in time, even though you won't ever forget Baby Rowan, the grief will eventually fade and you will start to feel stronger.

Please look after yourself darling.

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Fairy i am so sorry, your post made me cry at my desk and i didnt care! However sad you feel do not forget that you are incredibly brave, and if you need more time off work then dont be ashamed to do so, you will appreciate it in the long run.

Time will heal but you will never forget baby Rowan and i think planting a tree is a beautiful way to keep him with you.

I dont know if you will stay on this thread (i hope you do as we will all be here to hold your hand) but if you dont then please take extra care of yourself and DH as he will be torn to pieces too.

With all my love
Summerbird xxxx

Fairy i am so so sorry that is so sad. A tree in memory of Rowan is a beautiful idea. I honestly don't know what to say , because I am sure at this moment in time nothing will make you feel better.
My thoughts are with you and your DH and I will say a prayer for baby Rowan.

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