First time TTC?!! Let's get through this together!! Part 3

[summerbird]

A new thread for us to carry on.

Bring on the BFPs!!!

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Hi guys,

had some really bad news.

The hospital has phoned and confirmed that my test results have come back with a high risk of Downs. 1:59.

I now have to make a decision on which test I'm going to have and we've decided on the CVS test which carries a slightly higher risk of MC but gives a more final result and can be done next week.

We're devestated as you can imagine.

Speak soon guys.

xxx

dawn i am going to email you - big hugs x

Dawn I'm thinking of you. Keeping everything crossed that the test goes well next week for you. Sending massive hugs xx

dawn were all thinking about you what date is the test? Try to stay calm xx

Hey all,

They've managed to book us in for the test on Monday at 12.30pm so we've got the weekend to get through.

Since the shock of the call this morning, I'm starting to feel a little more positive now, knowing that in percentage terms, the risk is 2% which means that it's 98% chance that it will be fine.

One of the girls on the other thread had a risk of 1:3 and everything has turned out to be fine for her. So we're keeping everything crossed.

Thank you so much for all your support, as usual.

I hope that all of you are OK this week....

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what a shock Dawn, please let us know how it goes and try to stay positive and calm.

2% is very low so nothing to worry about yet, it's just medical science being protective as usual.

Hello girls,

Just got back from Oz and killed with jet-lag so haven't had time to catch up on everyones posts, except the most recent ones.

Dawn I just want to send my support and prayers that everything will work out fine for you and little beanie.

What a rollercoaster this TTC thing is. My AF returned with a vengance whilst I was on hols. Its amazing once away from the whole everyday work stress, things return to their natural order. Kind of makes me wonder what the hell I'm doing with my life. Phew!

Anyway, big hugs to everyone

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dawn i am pleased to hear you sound a little more positive, i agree with the odds in that it is not even a 2% risk. Look after yourself on Monday, get plenty of rest afterwards. x

Hey Dawn

Just saw your message. Big hugs going out to you and DH. Get lots of rest and will be thinking of you monday

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Dawn I'm thinking of you and keeping everything crossed that you get a good result on Monday. Please try to stay positive and relax as much as you can this weekend. Big hugs.

Fairy and Michaela... hope the 2WW goes quickly for us and we get some BFPs at the end of our wait!

Good to see you Saz. Hope you had a nice holiday. I can't believe you've got your 20 week scan before Christmas! Wow.

Lovely to see you too Hever... and what a way to celebrate an anniversary and bring in 2009!

Crunchy sorry things have been rough for you, but glad your horse is better and your AF seems normal.

Linwin long time no see... hope you had a good holiday and great news that AF appeared.

Big HELLOS and WAVES to MAF and Summerbird and anyone else I've forgotten.

We're off to Florence in the morning, for 4 nights. I can't wait! Hopefully it'll make the 2WW go a bit quicker!
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I am gutted - DH is off to a party in London tonight (dont worry i made him go! ). The reason i havent gone is because i know i will be knackered by 10pm and they are all heading out at 9.30! It is his good mate's 30th birthday.

It makes perfect sense for me to stay at home but i am soooooooo jealous!

Anyway how are you all today? Dawn i hope you are having a relaxing weekend, i will be thinking of you on Monday x

Big waves to everyone else - and fingers crossed for all the 2WW's

Hi Everyone,

Hope you are all OK.

Dawn i will be thinking of you on Monday, and will keep everything crossed that everything turns out OK.

Linwin congrats on the return of your AF!!

Big hugs for everyone else, i am just about to watch X Factor, woo hoo what a wild life i lead ha ha!!

I am on CD 8 at the mo and am feeling quite chilled about this month. Will keep you all posted!!

xx

Hi summerbird I know what you mean and I'm not even pregnant! I just got back from my DH's business partner's stag night. We were both invited. It was fun, but I was ready to come home around 10.30 and DH wanted to stay out. I stayed and stayed. Around midnight I said no more, and we decided DH would stay out and get a cab home, I would drive home alone. Its great being back but i'm so annoyed we didn't decide that earlier and I stuck around for 90 minutes being fed up when I could have been home in bed. Phah, suspect I am full of PMT which means another month without any sign of baby.

so grumpy.

michaela i get like that too, even before i was PG, i am the type of person who knows when she wants to go home. I get really fed up if i have to stay out!

Now even though DH isnt around i am having a lovely relaxing Sunday, maybe it is because he aint here!! He is a bit of a jumping bean and cant chill out - i am having a great time!

Hi all and thanks so much for your thoughtful messages.

I continually go through ups and downs. To be honest I'm generally feeling positive but then I check myself and think that I'm almost better to keep thinking on the bad side so that I'm prepared... I just wish it was Xmas and everything had already been confirmed as OK.

I did read a book yesterday that my friend had lent me by Dr Miriam Stoppard who said that there really wasn't any reason for concern until your risk is around 1:30 and that made me feel a lot better. But then I started worrying about the risk of MC if you have the test. So we've decided that we're just going to wait and see what happens tomorrow and ask loads of questions about the Consultant's experience at performing the CVS. If her personal miscarriage rate is lower than the average, I think we will go for it.

It's so scary though to think that this time tomorrow, something could have gone wrong. But on the other hand, this time next week, we could have found out that our baby is fine. It's a really difficult one...

Anyway, I hope that you're all having nice weekends!!

xxx

Dawn you have really given me and DH a lot to think about and a lot of soul searching ourselves. I am thinking of you and pleased to see you are thinking positive. x

Hi All,

Well, just to fill you all in, the hospital phoned this morning to cancel my appointment because the consultant has a cold. As you can imagine, I was gutted since I was feeling sick with nerves this morning and just wanted it over with and now we've got another day to wait.

They've rescheduled for tomorrow and will call again in the morning if the woman is still ill. But I would much rather her be 100% fit than her having a massive sneeze when trying to insert the needle! But it's still yet another blow for us.

Thanks all for all your thoughts and Summer, if I could go back in time, I don't think I would have had the nuchal scan because it's caused us nothing but worry. We're obviously hoping that everything turns out Ok, but this worry really is the worst thing that's ever happened to me in my life and that's a big statement. If someone could take it all away from me, I'd be a happy woman.

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Hi all,

Dawn that's not good that you're having to wait, but I def agree that it's better to have a fully fit person coming at you with a needle! Good luck and all the best for tomorrow. I will be thinking of you xx

I had my blood test for the Down's screening taken today. I have to phone up on Wednesday for the results.

I wasnt offered the Nuchal Scan, I need to decide whether i want the blood tests, but that isnt until after 16 weeks which is on 18 December. Then if the risk is high then i need an amnio which will prob be over xmas!

We werent going to even have the blood tests but have done a lot of talking over the last few days and have decided we will want to find out. We are taking one step at a time though.

Good luck Dawn and Saz i will be thinking of you over the next few days.

So who is next to test then?? We want another BFP!

Summer I wasn't offered the Nuchal scan either just the blood test, I don't think Durham offer that.

Yes, is no-one testing at the minute? It seems like this 2ww is lasting ages....

Summerbird, whatever you decide, I wish you loads of luck. Remember that I'm in the minority. Apparently only 3% of people get a high risk result. I didn't realise but they take into account your height, your weight, your age and your BMi. My BMI was 22 but if it's too low, apparently it causes more problems than a high BMI (how biazarre), because the blood is more concentrated or something. But mine is in the normal range so I can't imagine that would be my problem.

Saz, good luck to you aswell. I'm sure that your results will be fine.

Bloods can be tricky and sometimes come back with problems, even when there aren't any. Apparently even having a boy can make the bloods appear worse than they are, trust the boys to cause the problems hey? Pah!!

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Dawn- I have only popped on to see how you got on. I have been thinking about you. That really is frustrating but try to have a good night a sleep. You'll be in my prayers tonight for tomorrow xx crunchy

dawn fingers crossed today goes well, i am thinking of you x

Hello guys,

Well I had the test today and it bloody hurt!! But at least it's over with now.

It turned out that based on just the NT Scan, the risk of Downs was only 1:734 but the bloods came back as 1:35 which gave a combined result of 1:59.

Apparently my PAPP-A result was very low, which indicates possible growth issues with the baby and generally means a smaller baby at birth, but very spookily, for those who remember that I went to see that Clairvoyant some time ago before I was pregnant with this baby, she said to me "And remember that doctors aren't always right. They may say your baby is too small, but it will be fine." So I'm hoping that may be the issue with my results and not that the baby has Downs. We will find out on Friday.

The pain that I was expecting to suffer after the test, seems to have stopped already which is really good news and the best bit, was that the woman who performed the test does one CVS a week and has done for 5 years and had NO miscarriages. So I was very happy with that. Just keeping everything crossed now.

Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers everyone.

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You take care of yourself Dawn and get plenty of rest. x