First time TTC?!! Let's get through this together!! Part 3

[summerbird]

A new thread for us to carry on.

Bring on the BFPs!!!

x

Summer I know exactly what you mean about it not feeling real with no symptoms. I still kinda feel like that now just hoping the midwife doesnt send me away and tell me I'm imagining the whole thing

I've still got my pg test and I keep looking at mine too! Altho the CB digital freebie does disappear within 24hrs - which was kinda disappointing

Thanks for our lovely new thread

I was just typing a message saying that we are out for this month as spoke to non bio daddy and agreed with him that because of personal family issues bio daddy is going through we would put things on hold for a month or , anyway as i was typing got a call from bio daddy to say like hell are we putting things on hold and so its yoghurt pots for us again this month

Just gotta wait for my PEAK reading now

Thought i'd brin the list across. If your not on it get adding

Linwin: Cycle 3 CD31
Thandeka: Cycle 1 CD27 10DPO
Dawn: Cycle 3 CD25 7DPO (hoping for a 30 day cycle...)
Makingafamily: Cycle 2 CD15
Questions: Cycle 1 CD10
Wildfig: Cycle 4 CD5
Bluestar: Cycle 4 CD2

FULLY PROFICIENT FROLICKERS
Flirty - EDD 24 April 2009
Hever - EDD 2nd May I think
BubbaP - EDD 1st May
Saz - EDD????
Summerbird - EDD????
Bumpsadaisie - EDD????

Thanks for bringing the list with you MAF!!

Linwin: Cycle 3 CD31
Thandeka: Cycle 1 CD27 10DPO
Dawn: Cycle 3 CD25 7DPO (hoping for a 30 day cycle...)
Makingafamily: Cycle 2 CD15
Questions: Cycle 1 CD10
Wildfig: Cycle 4 CD5
Bluestar: Cycle 4 CD2

FULLY PROFICIENT FROLICKERS
Flirty - EDD 24 April 2009
Hever - EDD 2nd May I think
BubbaP - EDD 1st May
Saz - EDD 20 May 2009
Summerbird - EDD????
Bumpsadaisie - EDD????

Oh and whoo-hoo and not having to wait a month

way hay MAF i am loving biodaddy's positive mental attitude - you go girl!! It is probably exactly what he needs to re focus his mind.

hehe well here i am!

FIRST TIME FROLICKERS
Linwin: Cycle 3 CD31
Thandeka: Cycle 1 CD27 10DPO
Dawn: Cycle 3 CD25 7DPO (hoping for a 30 day cycle...)
Makingafamily: Cycle 2 CD15
Questions: Cycle 1 CD10
Wildfig: Cycle 4 CD5
Bluestar: Cycle 4 CD2

FULLY PROFICIENT FROLICKERS
Flirty - EDD 24 April 2009
Hever - EDD 2nd May I think
BubbaP - EDD 1st May
Saz - EDD 20 May 2009
Summerbird - EDD 5 June 2009
Bumpsadaisie - EDD????

Hey girls,

Hope you're all having a lovely Saturday. My BIL was doing a cooking demonstration at the local Food Festival today so we went along to watch which was nice. Other than that it's been a quiet one.

I'm already on DPO9 and don't have any symptoms at all so really think that nothing's happened this month. Boo hoo... My temp had a slight dip on DPO 7 but has been soaring since so I'm expecting a big drop in the next few days. Oh well...

Anyway, I've updated my DPO days in the list

Linwin: Cycle 3 CD31
Thandeka: Cycle 1 CD27 10DPO
Dawn: Cycle 3 CD25 9DPO (hoping for a 30 day cycle...)
Makingafamily: Cycle 2 CD15
Questions: Cycle 1 CD10
Wildfig: Cycle 4 CD5
Bluestar: Cycle 4 CD2

FULLY PROFICIENT FROLICKERS
Flirty - EDD 24 April 2009
Hever - EDD 2nd May I think
BubbaP - EDD 1st May
Saz - EDD????
Summerbird - EDD????
Bumpsadaisie - EDD????

Hope you're all having a nice day.

xxx

Dawn temp soaring is great and remember summer and saz didnt have symptoms and got BFP's

Fingers crossed for you

Thanks MAF.

I don't know why but I'm feeling really down about it at the moment. I think with work and with trying to get the house and NOTHING seems to be going my way, it's just making me feel low.

Then DH didn't help last night. I was saying how thrilled I was for Summerbird but that I was feeling bad for me (selfish I know...), he just shouted at me and told me to stop whinging and be more patient. You know when you really just need someone to listen? Well I did... and he didn't.... I just felt really let down which added to my misery.

What didn't help in the week, was that DH swore to me a few months ago that he'd given up smoking. When I took Tilly out for a walk the other morning, I borrowed his jacket (that he wears to take her out every day) and he had cigarettes in the pocket and aftershave to mask the smell. I know they weren't in there the day before because I'd borrowed it every morning... I felt so let down. I left them on the side in the kitchen for him to find. I didn't say anything but he obviously knows that I know. Why would he do that when he knows that I'm trying everything to let us have a child, even cutting out caffeine in tea and the only thing I ask him to do, he doesn't do...

So anyway, I know I sound spoilt and selfish considering that I'm lucky enough to have a job, but I just don't feel particularly lucky right now....

Sorry to moan everyone!! Congratulations Bumps by the way!!

The rest of us need to catch up!!

xxx

hello all! Wow out third thread!! How amazing! LOL!

Dawn I have been a miserable cow today and just can't snap out of it! I am fed up with everythi by at the mo so just to let you know you are not alone!

Lots of baby dust flying around now so let's just stay positive! I have two of those free clearblue tests as my sis changed her mind and gave me hers. I have no symptoms or AF still. But part of me wants to test as everyone seems to be getting lucky. I'm not going to!I am going to be strong!

Xx

Wow - congratulations Bumps - another BFP!!!!!!!!! Yay! Fantastic news.

...And a brand new thread for us to talk on!

crunchy and dawn sorry you're feeling fed up, but there's a lot of baby dust and good vibes on this thread to help cheer you up.

MAF great to hear that bio daddy's got a positive mental attitude - yog pots all the way! Thanks for bringing the list over!

saz and summerbird - i didn't have any symptoms either - just some spotting after my AF had finished - I had NO IDEA that I was pg!

TBH, I still have no major symptoms and I'm now 9 weeks PG. Just feeling tired and bloated, but only had 1 episode of sickness so far! I feel so lucky.

xxx

Hey Crunchy,

I thought the exact same thing today, that I should test, but like you, I'm going to be strong. I wasted a couple of tests last month because I wasn't sure what my cycle was going to be after the MC, but I've got no excuse this month so I won't do that again...

It's so difficult to stay positive sometimes isn't it?!

Oh well, DH is doing his special old-fashioned tea tonight, something that his Mum used to do for them on a Saturday night when he lived up North in Leicester. It's basically sausage meat, mixed with onion and a packet of dry stuffing and then put in a pyrex dish with a lid on, with a small amount of water in it. You then cook it for an hour and then have it in nice crusty rolls. It's yummy and very unhealthy .

Oh, I've put weight on aswell so that hasn't helped. Really need to get back to doing my Weight Watchers...

xx

Hi all, i'm back after a few weeks off. Congratulations summerbird and all others with small beans!

I was hoping for a good month, I'm on CD 29 of cycle 4 and gave in to testing this morning - but BFN. aargh.

Well, here goes for cycle 5 in a week or two...

good luck everyone!

Dawn - glad it's not just me feeling sorry for myself!

I had a lovely day out at the Hawk Conservancy in Andover but spent the day miserable as sin and even wept a couple of times. I am a wreck at moment. And am actually thinking about quitting MN just for my own sanity. DH thinks it's not helping me, as I am happy for other people's BFPs, but bitterly disappointed at our current situation. I was surrounded today by little ones and it made me even worse.
To top it all, I got some bad news Friday afternoon that the new job role I was proposing, and was given a tentative go on last week, might not be going ahead as planned. I don't know about anyone else, but I could have coped with my current role if I thought it was for the good of my family. Now I know things aren't going to be easy with TTC, I need to throw myself in to my work to forget but right now I loathe certain things about my job and am miserable.

I also know I'm lucky to have a job and nice house and lovely DH...but I still feel like things suck!

Anyhow, Bumps Congratulations on the BFP! I am happy for you guys really! But I've just had a bad week.

Bubap = 9 weeks here too and exactly the same as you symptoms wise. Only 1 lot of sickness (thank goodness)but quite a bit of nausia but other than that I still dont really believe it is happening.

Congrats summer and bumps - summer you actually made me cry!!

Hugs to everyone who needs it!!! Bluestar my thoughts are with you I went through a very very long time thinking we would have problems and I know how heart wrenching it is xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hey BSL,

Maybe we need to start our own thread for "Miserable, Bitter and Twisted", it's mad though isn't it that we're probably really lucky, we just don't feel it.

I don't know if you feel the same, but I seem to feel a lot happier for people on here that get BFPs than people in RL. Maybe because people on MN are generally in the same situation and are really genuine.

I sort of understand what you mean about MN aswell. At the beginning I was obsessed with it, although I'm not quite so bad now and I really would miss all the "Virtual" friends that I've made.

If you want to write to me separately and have a whinge, I've set my profile up so you can do that.

Waves and to everyone else.

xxx

Big hugs to Dawn and BSL

Feeling low is crap. Two weekends ago when AF turned up i felt so low, i spent the weekend in bed, very tearful, drinking buckets loads of wine and didnt leave the flat. Spoke to DP and said what the hells wrong with me? I've got a good job, a lovely home, an amazing loving partner and we're gonna start a family but the reality is when you feel low, you fel low and everything else tends to go out the window

I love reading about BFP's but there's always a pang of "i cant wait for mine" and i've only been trying a month!

Now two weeks later i'm feeling much better again, so i guess my point is things do pick up

BSL if you do decide to leave for a bit and you want to stay in touch let me know and i'll send you my email addy

I feel like we've built true bonds on this thread and thats lovely

Hope you feel better ladies x.x.x.x

oh and i meant to say, winge away ladies, we're hear to listen

Umm, this may sound silly, it sounds silly to me...but my (.)(.) have been sore for a couple of days and now the soreness is in more my right one and I've noticed that the areola (sp?) is now quite a bit bigger and lighter than the left one. MY DH has noticed this too so I don't think i'm imaginging it. What's going on? i'm confused, my boobs only hurt like this in the lead up to AF and I just finished

Hey Questions,

Was your AF normal? Sometimes you still have the first AF if you're pregnant, it's quite common apparently.

It may be worth doing a test just in case as changes to the breast are often the first thing that people notice. I did when I had my PG. My (.)(.) have never been sore, even around AF, until I was PG. That's also how I knew that things weren't right because just before the MC, my boobs stopped hurting and went almost back to normal, although saying that, they haven't completely stopped hurting since... ...

Hope that helps!!

MAF, thanks for your kind words... Very confused about my temp chart though because only DPO10 but temp has dropped by a whole .2 this morning. I'm hoping that I don't have a short luteal phase to add to my worries!!

Feeling a little more positive this morning, could all change by this evening though...

xxx

Hey guys i am just catching up from last night and am feeling really that everyone has had such a shit week.

dawn much as your DH is lovely i can completely understand how upset you were when he told you to stop whinging, my DH says things like that sometimes and doesnt realise how hurtful it is. (thank you for your kind thoughts and congrats though!).

BSL in all honesty the first thing i thought of when i got my BFP was how i was going to break it to MN as i knew that this last week was so shitty for everyone and i felt so elated for me but for you guys. Again i completely understand how you feel as i felt like that a couple of months ago, and considered leaving MN and giving up TTC altogether. But you were all here to support me and i got through it. I would really miss you if you left us as you are a very lively and fun member of the thread. My email address is on the book club thread if you would like to email me privately.

I have decided anyway on this thread to concentrate on supporting the TTC'ers rather than mention my symptoms as i have set up an ante natal thread to discuss all that.

Here's to a sunny Sunday
x

Hey girls BSL and Dawn we can be miserable together. I know it's probably not nice to admit to but find it quite comforting knowing I'm not the only one. Without you girls I think I would be a mess as everyone around me seems to be getting pregnant or having babies and I feel like a bit of a freak that it's not workin for me. Maybe it's just that people don't really discuss about TTC in real life but it is nice to know I'm not the only one having problems. Don't leave us! We are all here to listen to the good and the bad!

summerbird feel free to tell us all about your symptoms and bump growing. I'm sure I'm not alone but I find it quite nice to hear about! Kind of makes me think about what I may have to look forward to!

Hey Summer,

Crunchy's right, we still want to hear about your symptoms, although if you could keep the MS talk limited I'd be grateful, due to my phobia - ha ha!! It's fine to say that you have it, but I don't really want to know the colour and whether it's chunky or not...

Crunchy and BSL, I really think that our time will come, by whatever means necessary. I guess that when other things are going crap aswell, it just makes everything 10 times worse. I look at my dog sometimes and just wish for her life. She has more love (and more food....) than any dog could wish for, aswell as lots of exercise and lovely doggy friends to play with. She's been my practice as a Mum, now I want the real thing...

Anyway, to cheer myself up, I've cooked roast beef for dinner with all the trimmings and we've even got Jam Roly Poly and Ambrosia custard for dessert!! It'll be ready in 5 so I'd better go.

Hope everyone is Ok today and sorry for bringing the thread down... Although I'm sure the sound of my lunch has made everyone feel better!!

xxx

Hi guys.
I'm off the list this month- got the witch this morning. Boo Hiss.

We are not sure if we will keep trying at the min as DH has major exams and we don't want a bub born in the middle of them, maybe start trying at Christmas again, and spend interim time getting fit and healthy.

Good luck to everyone else for their BFP's.

grabs coat and runs round to Dawn's for dinner
Hows everyone doing today?

FIRST TIME FROLICKERS
Linwin: Cycle 3 CD32
MichaelaS: Cycle 4 CD30
Dawn: Cycle 3 CD26 10DPO (hoping for a 30 day cycle...)
Makingafamily: Cycle 2 CD16
Questions: Cycle 1 CD11
Wildfig: Cycle 4 CD6
Bluestar: Cycle 4 CD3
Thandeka: Cycle 2 CD1

FULLY PROFICIENT FROLICKERS
Flirty - EDD 24 April 2009
Hever - EDD 2nd May I think
BubbaP - EDD 1st May
Saz - EDD 20 May 2009
Summerbird - EDD 5 June 2009
Bumpsadaisie - EDD????

List updated! I really must have too much time on my hands. Ladies be warned this is what happens when your DP works shifts lol

Welcome back Michaela, i missed your post yesterday and sorry about your BFN but it aint over yet girlie

Sorry about AF Thandeka.

Dawn i think your being amazing resisting the urge to test. I have everything crossed for you hun. I'm a bit clueless with temps, have had the BBT thermometer next to my bed for months and am crap with it. I get the oddest readings, when i remember to turn it on lol. Dawn and BSL any points for us temping amateurs? Is it too late for me to start this month, think i'm gonna OV within the next 5 days?

And just wanted to say this isn't a fair weather TTC thread, this is a good days/bad days, tears of joy and tears of sadness thread and i know i for one want all you ladies about so we can share our journeys through the good bits and the bad

(Yes, TTC has turned me into a soppy cow!)