The addictable wagoners have abandoned the waterlogged field back to the safety of the Wagon (with Spa facilities). Thread for those waiting to TTC, those TTC now and other graduates alike!!

[GYo]

New thread over here!!

Nor us . Not sure I can be arsed with the radio tbh!

Nah, nor me. Plus 10 pm is hours past my bedtime .

Is this any use Diege? Perhaps you could listen live or again whilst MN?

Thanks Cals! I'll give 5live a shot I think, and see how long I can keep awake sitting at the laptop . Of course I could go old school and turn the radio on so I can lie in bed, though dh might not be too happy!
Right, I am going to do an exercise dvd as my weight loss has stabilised and I need to shift another half stone..

i so want to know what gender i am carrying seem to be only one on both threads who hasnt managed to find out 3-d scan is in just over 3 wks cant wait

Diege, do you normaly do much exercise? I could do with losing some weight but (and no, this isn't just an excuse) I thought if I started now it could have a negative effecct on ovulation, or have I just made that up so I can continue being a lazy cow?

(Please be kind ladies )

Oh Tink - I do think its such a shame when you can't find out at the 20 week scan, but think its quite common not to - the other ladies must have been very lucky! Roll on 3 weeks, what is your gut feeling? I read somewhere that 9/10 women can correctly predict the sex when hypnotised - which I think means that inwardly we must know, IYSWIM?

I knew DS was a boy but didn't want to say anything in case people thought it meant that I would be disappointed with a girl, which I wouldn't have been.

(But secretly a bit releived as am rubbish at doing girls hair!!! )

Not long to wait now TINKS, though I tell you it's a girl! .
Phew, just done Davina's boxing workout - only 30 mins but quite good and not so tough you won't do it. CALS, I used to do cross-country and have also taught aerobics, but now just do videos and lots of walking. That think about ovulation...hmmm, well it has a grain of truth in that atheletes who train excessively and have a very low body mass index can fail to ovulate as their body isn't healthy enough to sustain a pregnancy, but we're talking running 50 miles a week and in the gym day and night...so ermm think a bit of gentle exercise would be fine (unless you are planning a 50 mile run ). I'm trying to get fit now and into the exercise habit so I can carry on without too much effort in a future pregnancy [smug emoticon]

Just home from work as my afternoon meeting was cancelled and my mind's just not on the job. Going to catch up on my emails from here.

I phoned the EPU and they just phoned me back and have arranged a scan for 1st October - that's a whole 3 weeks away!!! I'll be 8 weeks in theory then and I appreciate it will be 4 weeks earlier than my scan last time round but it just seems a long time away. They said they don't see you before then unless there is a sign that something could be wrong.

I ended up watching all the tennis last night. Following my afternoon sleepathon I wasn't really sleepy and then couldn't go to sleep. Murray did play really well and I think he has a chance against Federer. Not sure whether I'll be staying up tonight though.

Sorry everyone, bit of a rant/ opinion needed please I?ve got a bit of an eccentric/weird friend and I?m not sure if I?m over reacting to something she has said.

I?ve know her for 4 or 5 years or so but she has this habit of not knowing where the boundaries sit when she is offering her opinions. When we told her about being preg I knew she wasn?t keen on babies (she refers to them as aliens) which is fine as I know its not for everyone so I was really pleased when she was sounding quite enthusiastic about it, while I'd never expect her to be hands on or even hold the baby, I do hope she doesn?t call my baby an alien to my face?.

After the scans I?ve had, she has made a point to saying a couple of times that she doesn?t want to see the picture - when I wasn?t going to send it to her anyway. She made this point again when I said we had a reasonable picture from Friday?s 12wk scan (she asked me how it went, I didn?t offer information).

Today she asked me if I?d have a bump by November (when we have something planned) I said ?maybe but I have a tiny one now if I feel in the right place? ? she responded to this and said well I wont be feeling it if you don?t mind. I certainly wouldn?t invite her or anyone other than my DH to feel it at any stage!

I am now borderline offended by her and think she is plain rude. Am I overreacting? If its at all relevant, she is nearly 40 and very single, never had a serious relationship with a DP etc.This isn?t the first time- she was similarly rude about the features of my wedding venue that I particularly liked- saying it wasn?t her taste?It just wasn?t her business to comment IMO.

Maybe this belongs on the ?am I being unreasonable? thread?..

Hi Ses- glad you have a date at least, even if it feels ages away. At least at 8wks you will see a HB... any time before that shows you a sac but thats it really.

When i went at 6wks they wrote uncertain viability all over my notes as they didnt see a HB (as you wont at those dates) - we chose to ignore that but it was quite disturbing....

Sorry not sure that will help much...

Hi GYo!

Your friend does sound like she is a bit eccentric and as if she just totally doesn't understand the idea of having a baby. The fact that she's behaved in this way with other things though suggests to me that she may suffer with Aspergers. I don't normally like making judgements like that but it does sound possible, in which case she really probably doesn't realise how she's making you feel and she could be concerned about how the dynamics could change with you being pg and then with a baby.
Not condoning how she's reacted because it's been inappropriate but it really does ring bells of Aspergers.
I don't think you are being unreasonable. How do you think she'd react though if you said something to her to try and reassure her that you don't want her personally involved although you hope she can understand it is exciting for you and DH. What does your DH think?

And thanks for encouragement with scan. Just not sure how insane I'll be feeling after another 3 weeks!

Thanks Ses thats really interesting. Im very open to the idea that that there might be good reason behind her behaviour.

Thing is I've said a few times that I dont expect her to be involved, see pictures, hold baby etc. So its the fact that she keeps re-emphasising her dislike that is getting to me.....

DH is a good deal less tolerant than me and gets fed up with me when I complain about her comments and dont say anything to her...

He would definately back me up in dealing with the issue head on.

Meant to ask Ses- how are you feeling? Any symptoms yet? Tis early days though..

Does sound like you need to say something then if she keeps re-emphasising. Maybe next time she says something say something like "You have made that clear to me already. I understand and have told you that I don't expect you to be involved but we have had that conversation now so can we just agree that you find the idea of me being pg and having a baby difficult and I understand that and don't want you to have to be involved. Now can we accept that and move on so that we don't have to have the conversation again?"
Don't know... you may have already tried that...
It must be sooo frustrating for you.

gr8 news about scan being booked in not long now.
gyo your friend does sound rude would just ignore it.
got dds school forms from our catchment school as she will be starting school next year, have booked an app to look around on wed. going to an open day of another school in oct.

Thanks Ses- I may be more direct with her when im feeling more like it. Right now I've blocked on MSN as Im feeling a bit

However- Im really interested by what you said about Aspergers- I looked it up (wikipedia, so not sure how accurate) but the characteristics are very inline with her personality. Might read on some more...

Maybe she knows she has it and hasnt ever let on....

evening ladies.

Thank you so much for the warm welcomes. I am getting there thanks, have been through a tought time but hoping that we are coming out the other side. I am still very upset by everything but we are working at things... I really dont want to go to far into things if you dont mind because I will get upset all over again, I am just trying to move on now.

DP and I are doing lots of talking and getting there so hopefully things will be back to normal really soon and we can start acting like a family again (and I can move out of dd's room boy does she snore!!!)

I am a bit worried though about what all the stress and anguish has done to the baby!!! Have we harmed it in anyway or created any problems for it??? I guess I will never know!! I had midwifes appointment last week. I have high blood preasure (no shock there then) and a high blood sugar count of 6.6. Midwife said it can not go above 7 and that she will have to monitor it so I am having to go for another blood test in 3 weeks time but have to starve for 5 hours before hand... (does the women not know I am a fat biffa who can not go more than 5 mins without food )

Anyway you must all be bored reading this me me me me me note so I will stop now......

Diege I didn't get your email until today as I was staying at my parents who dont have internet access mind you they are 70 you know!!!!!!

Have had v strange sleeping patterns. First 3-4 days woke up at 4.30am each morning, then settled out then over the weekend got v tired. Yesterday afternoon I went to sleep between about 2.30 and 6pm. Meant I then couldn't get to sleep later and I ended up sleeping between about 2.15am and 6am this morning!!

Not sure whether it's the pg hormones or the worry or both! Likewise though with the crying. It just suddenly creeps up on me and I can't stop it but that could be hormones or anxiety too.

Also have sore boobs and stretching pains in lower abdomen.

Unfortunately though I don't find any of the symptoms reassuring as last time I had all the symptoms including MS until about 4 days after the ERPC!

Hello LL- not sure I said it before but welcome back.

glad things are sorting them selves out for you

Sorry for x-posting - am multi tasking with MN and a conference call!!

Hi LL- glad your back, and hopefully sorted things at home!!

Cals & Diege (i think)- i need to go back to the GP someday later this week to see if he will give me more medicine... will mention that it's not doing so much and see if there is anything else he can prescribe... however he did say that if it didn't do the trick then i'd have to be admitted to hospital so they could treat me and give me meds over a week period or so just to make sure i dont develop hyperemesis again... think he's just wanting to take extra precautions because of how bad it was allowed to get last time!!

GYo- sorry forgot to say this morning but congrats on the scan!!

Hi Glaskham!
Sorry you're suffering. Hope it does start to ease off. How many weeks are you?