The addictable wagoners have abandoned the waterlogged field back to the safety of the Wagon (with Spa facilities). Thread for those waiting to TTC, those TTC now and other graduates alike!!

[GYo]

New thread over here!!

Well, hope you've all enjoyed your tv viewing, now get yourselves to bed

Goodnight all!!

Morning All

Quick hello - working at home today so starting early.

Morning all

Ses agree with everything Cal and everyone were saying last night, it is absolutely completely normal to feel so worried and scared, there is always a fair amount of worriedness when pregnant, but it is 1000 times more when you have a history. Also agree about getting a scan ASAP, they will be able to tell you if everything is looking well, even if it is too early to see a HB. The most important thing you can do is take it easy, take time off work if you feel you can, make sure evenings and weekend are as relaxed as possible, don't push yourself in any way.

GYo, good luck for this afternoon - how exciting And we must have pics (realises I still haven't put my 20 week ones on )

How is everyone today? I think it is going to be a bit of an odd day today. The baby I MC'ed in Jan would have been due today, not really sure how I feel or how I should be feeling. Answers on a postcard please! At least it is Friday, so very nearly the weekend, not that it really matters, DH is on call so weekend is out of the window, but still, it is the thought that counts - or so they tell me!!

Ooooooooh and BB final tonight, not sure who will win. Am kind of edging for Sarah I think.

Morning Nat- thanks, will definately post pictures....

On the date today, Im certainly no expert on m/c due dates but feeling odd must be completely normal.
Can you do anything to mark the day? at least something nice for yourself and DH.... Either way will be thinking of you...

Woman next door, who is like Monica from friends regarding cleaning, is hoovering. It started at 7.20am. I think thats plain rude myself!

I'm not sure, I don't know if I even want to mark it, it should have been full of thoughts of the births and just how overdue I was going to be, and how quickly the labour was going to be over with etc. It feels like to be thinking of those thoughts now is cheating because I'll have all of that to come in December/January. It doesn't feel 'right' in my head to be sad about it, because it is still going to happen. And if we marked it, when does it stop? Do we mark next Sept 5th? What about the one after? What about in 30 years time? But then, it isn't as if I am going to forget it, so it will always be marked by at least thoughts I suppose.

Sorry

Not rambling- sounds like a good solution, do what feels comfortable.
Just remember you can talk or "think outloud" about it here anytime...

This is the first year I've not seen any BB.... is it me or has it gone on for much longer than normal?

And is Davina really NOT pregnant this time!?

morning

just popping in quickly before we take dd to nursery

LOL Yep, she really isn't pregnant! I think it has one of the shortest for a few years (might be wrong though), but I think it always seem to drag by if you've not taken much notice of it. We only started watching it on about BB4 I think, so all the years before that it seemed to go on forever!

Tink, hope she has a good day

Morning ladies

Got my AF today to definately not pg! I've decided (for now) i'm going to go to the gym lots and try and get myself in shape a bit more before ttc. I know it'll all go to pot once I am pg but I read something somewhere about being fit helping pregnancy and labour so thought i'd give it a shot.

In some ways I really want to go for it and ttc now but the reasons I ahve for waiting are valid (for me) and I think I should listen to my logical side. I think it's mostly to do with the fact that ds wasn't planned as such so I really feel like this time I want to do it 'properly' and plann every little detail just because I didn't get to last time iyswim.

Anyway, enough about me!

GYo - Don't work too hard today, good luck for the scan, very exciting, can't wait to see the pics!

NJ - I'm not sure about what to do about the date as I haven't experienced a mc. I think if it was me I would probably just write down the thoughts I am having about it in a journal just to clear my head and record my thoughts and feelings itswim. Not for everyone though and you're kind of doing that on here aren't you?!

Hi tink

Dh is addicted to BB but he is VERY annoyed at the thought that Rex might win, he hates him! I think he's a prick too.

Morning . Hope dd enjoys nursery today TINKS - is it full day or half?
NAT, I think 'thoughts' as opposed to something concrete are perfect if that feels right for you. It is a sad day, so take it easy and do what feels best. I'm sure being pregnant doesn't lessen the sadness, but maybe some comfort? I don't know, many people want to be pregnant by due date (me included) after mc, but obviously don't know yet how it must feel to have the first date pass. I'll be thinking of you anyway .
SES, as other have said, perfectly natural to feel as you do - in fact would be odd not to have some level of anxiety. What has always helped me when I worry is to think in 'day tight compartments'- something I read in Dale Carnegie's famous book on 'How to Stop Worrying and Start Living'. Might be worth a read? I have to admit I'm quite enjoying the respite from worry in my ttc bubble, though no doubt will start with the worry if BFP doesn't happen!
Have abandoned plans for today as weather is the pits - really heavy rain, not even risking PO today!
Enjoy yout scan GYO, and look forward to hearing all about it

Hi DAL! Sorry about af, but at least you know where you are. Your plans sound good too . Agree, Rex is a prick!

Thanks for the thoughts everyone Think I am just going to spend the day lazing round, and using it as an excuse to veg for a bit! Can't do any harm can it?!

Sorry for your period Dal, sounds like your plan is a good'un though Rex is a very big prick, but TBH, if he hadn't have been there over the last few weeks, it wouldn't have been worth watching. They went wrong getting rid of Luke and Rebecca IMO. As bloody annoying and cringe worthy as they were, it was certainly never boring with them in there!

Think I might do some shopping, just don't know what to get LOL Should I start on DS2's birthday and christmas? It is September now, and I have seen xmas stuff in shops, so it has to be OK to start it now, doesn't it?

But, where the hell am I going to hide it all till xmas?

No Nat don't start the Xmas shopping!!! It will only make the rest of us feel guilty, and if you start now you'll carry on till Xmas anyway...have I convinced you yet? . I think we should have a room 101 for the wagon..so first things in are Nat's Xmas list and SES's HPTS!!!!!!

LMAO, don't forget double buggies, that dusty stuff and BD'ing.

In all seriousness I do need to start it soon-ish, I want it all done for DS2's bday (beginning of Dec.) am not doing the crowds and fights in Woolies at 35+ weeks pregnant!

Morning Diege, Dal, Ses, tink

Sorry about AF Dal- but as Diege says, you know where you are and can plan the GOF marathon for a couple of weeks time!

Cal- I've got cal-style porridge here again today. Really yum. Think you should trade mark that Cal!

Tink- hope DD enjoys today.

Diege- good move to avoid wet weather... not looking forward to walking miles across hospital carpark in rain with a DH on crutches...

Hi GYO, you never know, it might have stopped by then
OK Nat, will let you off on the xmas front then . Double buggies deffo in there, also that buttock clenching DFS advert where they all mime to that rockstar song .
Right, better get dressed in case parcelforce van arrives.

Can we add Safestyle UK to the wagon's room 101? If they knock on my door one more time this week I think I might put him through the sodding window grrrrrrrrrrrrrr! How many times do you have to politely say "no thanks" before slamming the door in their face?

Oh and TalkTalk, they keep bloody ringing, good job we have caller ID I can just ignore it, but they rang 4 times in a row yesterday, for what? Just incase I suddenly realised the forth time that I actually want to change to them? "I'd like to save you money" "No thanks, I'm rich enough to afford BT"

Morning!

LOL at Room 101 with Nat's Xmas list and my hpts!! I haven't done one since Wednesday.... I guess we might let Nat off but DFS advert - oh yes!

Ok, so we have:

Ses's hpts
double buggies
DFS advert
Safestyle door to door
TalkTalk cold calling

What else??!

Not like our usual list??!

But it's such a cool song, so only the advert gets in OK?!

LOL SES, spot on! . Agree Nat, song is great though I will always associate with advert now (how could they have let dfs use it? . I think we should add the Picture Loans advert too (the one with the annoying bloke spontaneously deciding 25 grand would be a good amount, and the hair-ruffling head shaking wife).
STILL not dressed - what is it about rainy mornings and lethargy?

Morning all - see, I laze around on other threads expecting this one to be quiet and find you've all been chatting away merrily...

Diege, DH has just instant messaged me from home to ask what I'm doing and have had to confess to yet more MN in my pj's. However, I have texted the mum of one of DS' friends to arrange some time together out of nursery for them, probably next weekend now, and have booked a hair appt. and eyebrow shaping (phew) on Monday afternoon.

Oh, forgot to say...

Ses - sorry to hear you have been worried. I think the others have given you the best advice. I hope that as more time goes by and you get a scan you will feel more reassured and will be able to enjoy this time more.

I haven't been in your situation but I can't imagine just how worrying it must be. I was incredibly worried when pg with ds, especially for the 1st 12 weeks, I was checking my knickers every time I went for a wee! As the others have said, absolutely normal to feel as you do.

Oops, I just ate a dairy milk caramel and a piece of chocoalte cornflake crisp. I think it's allowed as i'm suffering stomach cramps with af. Will have to get to that gym before the damage is beyond repair!

Hullo all! I have many things to add to the 101 list but I will not fill the thread with 'em

NJ - I was like you when it came to my 'due' date...pregnant and kinda confused. My SIL was also due 2 days after me and had gone into labour and I was raging that she was going to 'steal' my due date and forever brand it in my memory (she didn't, btw, baby was born after midnight...

Anyway, I felt like it was a real marker for moving on and allowing myself to feel excited and look forward to this baby without feeling guilty or like the lost baby had been simply expendable. Hard to articulate but I hope you know what I mean.

I was definitely comforted by the fact that I was pregnant at the time.

I actually (not sure I should admit this) played 'Time to say goodbye' at full blast and cried happy/sad tears all the way to work and back . The older ones amongst us may remember a certain couple on That's Life doing ballet to this song...

The last couple of years, I think about it but I always think that if that baby had made it I wouldn't have my DS.