First time TTC?!! Let's get through this together!! Part 2

[bluestarlavender]

Hi guys, new thread for us to carry on!

BSL x

Hello bubbap and fairywing!

Ooo my first time on MN on my phone, how exciting lol! Just sitting in the hair dresser's with a head full of foil's lookin rather silly. Just managed to skim through the last few pages so will have a proper read through tomorrow. We're not havin a hen night due to lack of time as only decided to get married 5 weeks ago. But have met up with friends over the last few weeks. Am getting really excited now. Hope your all havin a fab weekends x

welcome bubbap and welcome back fairywing

i would rather not have a C Section unless absolutely necessary, i had a laparoscopy a few weeks ago and agree with wildfig ie you really dont appreciate how much you use your belly button and stomach muscles! I would rather have the full natural birth but if my or my baby's health is at risk then i would go for the CS.

As for childcare, neither DH nor i can afford to give up work - i may go to 4 days per week but i reckon we will be scouting out local nurseries, i would want my child to learn to socialise (and share!) from as early an age as poss.

your friend does not sound very maternal! She may change when the baby is here you never know, i've known people who have said similar things then as soon Asthe baby Is there they change! I am goon to try to find that research again but it was
Something like VaC birth without intervention is safest
Then elective cesarian (risk to mother higher)
then natural birth with intervention (forceps etc can me traumatic for baby)
Then emergency cesarian that leaves risk to both

However, with this there were also facts (I don't remember figures sorry!) but natural births without intervention are actually very rare (hence all the deaths in childbirth before advance in medical science!)

I personally am going to enquire about an elective c section due to family history (my mother almost died as did my sister in childbirth) and after the botched emergency c section my sister had to have she was told she may not be able to have any more children. In my experience safe and normail VAc births just don't happen!

However, of your friend is just worried about the pain I suggest she lives for a week with somebody who has just had major Abdominal surgery! Having a baby is going to hurt either way! I think people just need to add up the risks and discuss with close
Family members their experiences.

Maybe she is putting on a brave face as she is really scared? If you are quite close to this girl I would fry to have a serious chat with her and get her to look at All options

that's awful! She should have just adopted if she's that bothered about her figure LOL

Does she know you're TTC? I meet a lot of parents to be honest that just Make me feel sorry for the kids I hope she doesn't turn out to be one of them. Let's hope she is just putti g an act on for you! Xx

Hi all,

Just a quick update. Still haven't tested yet, I discussed this with DH yesterday and we've agreed to wait until tomorrow morning as AF was only due today (I know I was the impatient one who couldn't wait last week!!!) One good thing is that AF hasn't shown up yet

Hello and welcome to bubbap and fairywing

Bonifacio I'll be doing my best to stick to all the gudielines as I agree they've been put in place by those that know more than me. DH and I are looking to go to Florida at the end of the year and I will have to pass up going on the rollercoasters - but it's only for one trip so I'm not that bothered

Girls,

Thanks for the welcome messages!

saz007 - good luck for the test tomorrow, keep us posted!

oh bubbap! I'm sorry I don't k ow if I said hello or not! Hi and welcome!

Saz you are beinG very good and it's a great sign Af is not here! Fingers crossed for you sweetie xx

Hello all,

Welcome to Bubbap and welcome back Fairywing!!

Gosh, loads to catch up on!!

So, Food first. Well, as several of you have said, our Mum's didn't have to follow any guidelines other than unpasteurised stuff and pate. So I'm with Mum. I'm going to avoid anything unpasteurised, shellfish and runny eggs. I don't eat liver anyway so that's not really a problem.

I think the most important thing is to have a balanced diet. I don't drink coffee anyway (love the smell but have never liked the taste) and have changed to decaf tea already. But only because I don't really drink anything else so I thought as I drink so much tea that I should cut out the caffeine! With peanuts, they only say that you should avoid it if you have a history of asthma or excema within your immediate family and we have none. I won't eat them all the time, obviously, but I won't not eat something just because it has peanuts in it.

Nanny question. No chance for us. We just won't have the money. We're about to buy our first house and are looking for a 3-bed because I work from home. But the child will be in full time nursery from 3 months. I only get 6 weeks maternity leave at 90% pay which is rubbish. But I'm going to try and save enough beforehand to cover us for 3 months. I'm the main breadwinner aswell so if I don't work, our mortgage and bills won't be paid!!

However, I have found recently that our company do a flexible working agreement where I can do my standard weekly hours over 4 days if I want to. So I'll plan to have Fridays off. Also, we do have an option of my SIL who doesn't work through the day and may have the child for 1-2 days a week (paid obviously). Lots of options (hopefully!).

C-Section question. My elder sister had one natural and one c-section and said she would go for the natural every time. She said that the recovery from the C-Section was horrible and she couldn't look after herself, the baby and her toddler. So it was really difficult. Especially since they ran a restaurant at the time so my BIL, the Chef, was in the restaurant all hours so couldn't help her.

But I'll do whatever is best for the baby - not saying I'm "Too posh to push" - but just don't fancy it much!! Ha ha ha!!

Need to go and put the dinner on - be back soon!!

xxx

oo saz how exciting! are your cycles regular? mine are like clockwork so i know if i am a day or two late then something is up, i did have a false alarm in April when i was 3 days late and i was almost convinced i was PG until the evil witch called in a little late!! keep us posted.

and a big HI THERE to everyone else - hope we are all havinga fab sunday

Saz, keeping everything crossed for you for tomorrow!!

xxx

Dun-dun-DER... could this be the first BFP within 2 days of starting a new thread?! Fingers crossed!

Oooh good luck Saz I can't wait to find out!! xx

Morning everyone,

Got back very late last night. Everyone's been super chatty! And Bubbap, welcome!!

Saz - good luck this morning!! Fingers crossed it's good news!

BSL x

Morning everyone,

Well did the test this morning and.....BFN

I'm not being too disappointed tho as it was our first month.

AF is still not here. Summerbird I'm usually fairly regular (usually 27-28 days) so if she doesn't turn up in a few day I may test again

Oh no, Saz, I'm sorry!

Thanks for welcoming me back everyone

Saz sorry about your BFN

I'm now on CD4 and AF seems to have pretty much disappeared so it looks like my normal cycle has returned since my treatment which is that AF only lasts for 3 days folowed by a bit of spotting. So let the BDing begin!!! I'm feeling a bit scared now the time has actually arrived! I have confided in a couple of friends for support and one of them is also trying for her first so its nice to be going through this with someone else and it would be lovely if we did actually get pregnant at the same time!

As for taking all the recommended precautions, i will be giving up caffiene as of now which will be really hard for me.I don't really drink much generally If i do manage to get pregnant i will avoid the bad foods, i dont like most of them anyway so that should't be a problem. I will continue to ride my horses though for as long as they can carry my weight and i can comfortable manage it. I will be more cautious but my horses are pretty safe - i have only fallen of once in 3 years. I know some people choose not to but i really think it is down to individual choice and judgement.

woohoo im actually trying for a baby

yep i would test again in a few days as i read on another thread the same thing happened to another girl - had the BFN on AF day but a few days later got a BFP. And as you say it is your first month so you can look forward to another month of BD fest!!

Thanks ladies. As they say it's not over till TEW sings

And if she does show up, at least we've got a BD-fest to look forward too!!

Ah Saz sorry to hear it! Hopefully your AF won't comme and you can test again in a few months!

Hi Fairywig just looked at the guidelines again and it says Horse riding is ok until you get big when your balance will be thrown off by the extra weight out front!

Looking forward to BD'ing next month, we will be on holiday so should make it more relaxing than it was this month!!

BSL did you have a nice weekend away? Sorry for not asking earlier

Morning ladies! Sorry been away from MN - had v busy weekend with parents visiting from Friday morning until yesterday afternoon and then last night DH and I felt the need to go out on our own and ended up getting quite drunk!

saz sorry about the BFN but good that AF not here yet! And as you say, more BD-ing if not!

How is everyone? welcome to new people!! I love this thread, have missed everyone this weekend!!

AF has just finished (now on CD 6) and it was long and horrid.... BD-ed last night but I am guessing that would be ridiculously early to conceive?! CD 5.... OH well, no harm in trying!!

What's everyone up to today?

oo yes BSL how was it? i am sooo ready for my break this weekend - am off work from Thursday until after the bank hols - woo hoo!