First time TTC?!! Let's get through this together!! Part 2

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Hi guys, new thread for us to carry on!

BSL x

Evening all!

Hi Fairywing, glad you're back...you should have stayed, you weren't being a fraud!! And neither are you, Crunchy!

Anyhow, I'm off to Jersey this weekend, so might be a little quiet over the next couple of days. Will try to post, but might not get internet connection too easily over there!

Love to all and I hope you all have a fab BD-tastic weekend!! Saz - good luck with the test on Sunday!! Dawn - have fun getting back into the BDing too! MAF - your last weekend as a single girl! Have you guys had a hen night?? Me and DH had a joint 'hag-do'!! It was a blast.

Oh...really have to go, as i have to finish packing.

BSL x

sorry about the crazy repeAt posts-internets been playing up!

sorry for crossed post but book club hunnies dawn and I have suggested a time and date for the first chat if you wana check the other thread and see what you think!

Evening ladies! I missed you today Had my parents down. They are in their hotel now and we are off to Kew Gardens apparently tomorrow.
Still got AF and am desperate to start BD-ing for this month....

So how is everyone?
Sazgood luck for Sunday!!!
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MAF are you getting nervous???

Hello everyone. I am very hungover! Didn't get in till 5am this morning after way too many vodka and lemonades. I figure seeing as I am definately not pg this month I may as well enjoy myself!! Though i'm not enjoying feeling this poorly. And now i'm just about to get ready to go out for dinner tonight ti my fave Thai restaurant yey

So question, was talking last night to my pg friend and she was telling me about a lovely kidney pie she ate the other day so I say goodness you can't eat that while your pg its too high in vitamin A, and she says oh i've been eating all sorts that your not supposed to? Is that bad or is it just me?? I know the guidelines change over the years etc but my thought is you should just follow it as they're there for a reason and they're not going to be making this shit up??

Also when you all have your babies, will you be having a nanny or a ya ya as they're called here. I mean like a full time live in person?? And would you have an elective caesarian so you don't have to go through labour?? Just curious of your opinions!!Good luck BD'ing and testing everyone!! x

Hi ya bon.

I am tempted to go on a bit of a bender myself tomorrow as I am off to watch the football.

A nanny is a no no - currently we are living in a 1 bedroom flat (but are looking to move obv) and as I am going to have to go back to work after mat leave I will just want to spend as much time with the bub as I poss can.

As for c-section TBH I am not sure. Both my sister and I were C-Section babies and when I was little I just assumed that was how babies arrived!!! I had seen my mums scars, which were a cross as I was a planned section and my sis was an emergency, and even when I played doctors with my freinds our "babies" would always be cut out! Nothing else made sense!! Right at this moment I dont think I would elect but I wouldnt feel bad if I had to have a section as me and the sis turned out ok!!

Food- I have already given up liver, brie, peanuts and am cooking steak through (even though I love it medium rare)Just in case! - Anything else I should add to my list?? Also is darylea ok to eat I just assume its pasturised (I looked on the label but it doesnt say )

hi B I have talked about this stuff too. My DH would not like anynone living with us, he is quite a private person and likes his space! I think our best option is for me to have the full nine months off work and then I am hoping to go back part time and do 3days a week until he little ones are older. My mom has recently taken an early retirement from nursing so I would like her to have then 2/3 days a week but I would like them in a nursery at least one day (or half a day!)as I think it helps with their development and to build immunity. My mom doesn't know we are officially trying but o think she has an idea as I have discussed this win her (I would also want to pay her a little so she doesn't feel taken advantage of!)
Second question, I want to ask for an elective Caesarian (at the moment that's my plan!). I have read that in can be safer for the baby and I am a little scared as women In my family have diffcult births, my mom and my sister nearly dies and it really puts me off! (I think that's the only reason I stalled my husband for a year before agreeing to TTC!)

hope you are ok you lil party animal xx

bonifacio i think your friend needs to work out what she wants to do, if you think about it we were all conceived between early 70s and mid 80s and my mum has said to me that she wasnt given any guidance. Certainly when she was PG with me in '72 she smoked and drank alcohol and joking aside i turned out absolutely fine!

These days we get a lot of scare stories and you will notice that the guidance changes all the time - sometimes they say you can drink a little bit of alcohol then they say nothing at all. In fact they have always said the best thing you can have is a half pint of guinness per day!!

When i am PG i am going to see how i feel, i love brie, smoked salmon and runny eggs so i am going to be buggered!! I think i am actually going to consult my mum about it - she works in the health sector now so is pretty clued up as is my MIL who is a nurse.

What is your team then heverhoney ? I am a Newcastle United bunny and my DH is an Aston Villa fan - oh and we live about 8 miles from Old Trafford so we are going to seriously have to rein that one in - we have joked that our children are going to have to make that 'quasi-religious' decision when it comes to footie - although DH is adamant that Villa will emerge victorious!!!!

I have just reread my post and it looks like i am a smokin' drinkin' lush!! - i will of course be sacking the alcohol unless i fancy the occasional guinness

ps - and i have never smoked (summerbird skulks off now!!!!)

Old trafford is my spiritual home (Yes I know I am a londoner but have been supporting them since the mid 80's so its a bit late to change now!) DP is a Spurs fan so we are off to WHL for the friendly against ROMA tomorrow.

Have a sneaky feeling any DC will be heavily influenced by their dad (But will try to sneak my own bit of influence in there)

oops sorry heverhoney out of all the teams i happen to diss yours!

one of my FIL's (i have two MILs and FILs due to the usual reason!) is a spurs fan too so maybe my DC will have that to contend with too - we are such a cosmopolitan family!

oo and MAF i got you right - but your DP would look v pretty in a prom dress as well as you! so are you both on your hens this weekend - i think it was BSL who had the hag night - i like it!!

summerbird dont worry about it as you can tell I am used to having to fight my corner my sister is an arse!nal fan as are most of DPs family - will have to fight that one off with a vengance!! Glad I am not the only lady footie fan on the board!

Forgot to say with the music can we replace the abba megamix with - duh dum duh dum dum de dum de dum -I love you baby

Hi guys and Morning!!!

I'm trying to read through all the posts on my blackberry - it's proving tricky! But wanted to add to footie fans, I support Spurs, as does my DH!

Anyhow hope everyone is having a good weekend! I'm off to carry on reading through the posts!

BSL x

Hi! Don't worry i'm always on my iPhone too!

Just to let you know I have had a very sexy morning with my DH and am now blowing balloons for my baby shower! It's all about babies today girls I hate footba and pretty much all sports! My husband is obsessed though Ms is insisting our babies are in football teams as soon as they can walk! xx

Oh, also want to add to the live-in nanny debate! I would like one, but we only have a two bed house at the moment. Both DH and I fairly hectic jobs and I will have to go back to work full time after 6 months. Luckily we live very close to my family, so we'll have some help. My mum is also a pre-school teacher, so has all the school holidays off. My sister is a stay-at-home mum too. If we move away, then we will certainly consider a live-in nanny, but we have no plans at the moment.

EC's - I don't know. I would like an easy natural birth...but you don't get to pick...EC's are a major op and I wouldn't make the decision to have one lightly.

B - with regards to your friend. I'm inclined to say it depends what the food is. In different countries the PG advice is different. E.g. In the UK, they advise no sushi, but PG Japanese women still eat it. I think there are some cases which you need to listen to the advice and some where if you're used to eating it, it's unlikely to cause too many problems. I just think the guidelines change so much, so just be aware of potential risks.

BSL x

Hi all,

Just popped on for a quick catch up...

I'm a footie fan too - Sunderland (stop that laughing Summerbird!!) and DH is a Man U fanatic - god help our DC At least we both agree on the cricket team!!!

Still no AF here. Is this bad, and sorry if TMI but every time I go for a wee I have to double check...told you TMI...sorry!

DH jumped me last night but also !! I guess he still wants it to be fun and not just about the TTC...bless his cottons! He's a bit worried if I do get a +ve test this month that I'll push him away as "his job is done"

As for my outfit for Thursday, I have a chocolate and gold prom dress with gold shoes and a gold fascinator (I'm with you Dawn I don't do hats!!)

MAF I lovE that song! I'll be singing along at 2.30 on Thursday!!

Bon no we wont be having a nanny. I'll be back at work after my mat leave, but am hoping to change my hours to work 5 over 4 and do a couple of days from home. I think PIL will help out looking after the baby for a day a week and we're thinking of childcare/nursery for the same reasons as you Crunchy. As for the c-section, I'm not sure about this yet. I am scared of the whole birthing process (the head thing is terrifying me!!), but I think I kinda want to go thru it IYKWIM?

Whew! That was a long post

saz - I KNEW IT!!!! coming from Shields the odds were on that you are a mackem (sorry i wont use that term anymore - but i had to have one little one!!)

anyway, you go girl, i too check every 5 mins when i am due AF so to me that is not TMI...

heverhoney that song is fine by me! oo as long as we can also have 'Where Love Lives' by Alison Limerick - god i am such a 90s geek!

ps - hope you are having a fab time BSL and that the weather is better than it is here. We are off to South Wales next weekend and my DH and best mate are going to teach me to surf - i cant wait! x

How about a bit of TIFFANY to add to the list - I think we're alone now???

omigod an absolute necessity (summerbird does the hand over face movement....)!

MAF sorry looks like we are hijacking your wedding!! CHEEEEEESSSEEE all the way

Hello ladies!

Can I please join this thread? Been lurking for a while and thought it was about time I added a little message...

Here's a bit of info about me so I can be added to your charts: I'm 30 and been married almost 3 years. Just recently had "The Conversation".

So.... I'm TTC #1, Cycle 1, CD14.

I think when my mum was pregnant with me in 74 the doctor actually recommended halves of Guinness and red meat (?!) And I suspect she smoked too, although she fervently started denying this when my sister and I were of an age to ask! I'd go with the sensible options about dodgy shellfish and unpasturised stuff - it's only for 9 months, after all. It's giving up coffee that'll do me in, not the booze.

And as far as elective C-sections go (I'm a C-section baby too!), I can't make up my mind whether it's easier or safer than squeezing out a bowling ball. In my family, you seem to end up with a stack of stitches either way. I had a whole load of fibroids out 2 years ago, which was effectively like half a c-section what with the general anaesthetic/stitches/morphine/no-driving recovery time and so on, and it took me longer to get over than I imagined it would. Who knew your stomach muscles were involved in basic actions like driving and standing up? The scar's healed, but my stomach is Not What It Was. Don't celebs book in for 8-month c-sections, before the serious stretching starts, then get lipo'd out at the same time?

And no to nannies. DH and I are both freelancers, so we're planning on sharing the childcare between us and putting any nanny money towards a house with a shed at the bottom of the garden, so we can take it in turns to go to sleep in peace.

Can I put in a dancefloor request for Groove is in The Heart by Dee-Lite and Jump Around by House of Pain?