Ei so sorry to hear about your sister. It never ceases to amaze me how insensitive people can be, especially those who are supposed to know us best. What do you feel like you want to do about it? You said you had a good relationship before, is it worth talking to her about how she's made you feel? When DH and I had a bad patch about him not really getting how I was feeling I ended up saying to him that I would rather he felt the same as me and understood how I was feeling, but that if he didn't I just needed him to accept it, to accept there was nothing anyone could do to magically stop me feeling that way, and to support me. Maybe you should say something similar to your sister? Along the lines that you know she's only trying to make you feel better, but all she's done is to make you feel worse. To say that everything happens for a reason and you should accept it is very short-sighted IMO - that's like saying if someone close to you died you shouldn't be upset because everything happens for a reason... etc. If that was the case surely none of us would ever feel anything? FWIW when we saw our vicar before Thomas was born I asked him whether he thought this was something which was always going to happen to us, I couldn't stop wondering whether our lives would have been totally different had we waited for a month, and he doesn't believe it's all pre-ordained, hapening for a reason. I suppose the only possible reason behind it I can see is to think that your future DC2 wouldn't exist if either of your previous beans had stuck, but until you have your DC2 in your arms (and I hope and pray that day comes soon) I don't imagine that's any comfort to you at all.
{{{hugs}}} to you, I hope some of this makes sense - haven't even been drinking and still talking rubbish
Glad to hear everyone's keeping busy, the best way! Had a nightmare day - I had a conference in STAINES of all places that I didn't know about til the last minute, NOT how I had planned to spend my afternoon But had a very productive evening with DH unpacking the dining room now the decorator has finished in there, and though I say so myself, it's going to look gorgeous
Georgie I think we probably won't/shouldn't try this month, it doesn't look like we'll get all our test results before I OV, and on a really selfish level there are a couple of weddings early next month that I'm not sure I could handle sober - I also couln't handle the questions about why I wasn't drinking... But fingers crossed October will be napalm-tastic! Let us know how it goes with the accupuncturist!
Am really looking forward to out meet-up, not long now! I have arranged to stay at a friend's place in clapham on the friday night so I can get to Wimbledon at a reasonable time on the saturday without having to get up at sparrow-fart Does mean I might be a bit hungover though...
Night gorgeous girls xxx