First time TTC?!! Let's get through this together!!

[DawnAS]

Hi All,

This is a difficult time for most women (and men) I think.

Certainly for me, I've waited a long time to get to this stage , having not met Mr Right until the age of 31. Now 34 and got married 2 months ago and now want to complete the family!

So, just started "trying" for a baby and due to my impatient nature, have already started using Ovulation Kits. (Probably not a good idea). I also did the Female Fertility Test and that seemed to have a good result aswell.

I was on Dianette for 8 years and came off of it 3 years ago. My cycles became regular again but every 5 weeks instead of 4. I had previously come off of the pill for 6 months and my cycles were regular, so I guess all this is a good sign.

Anyone else had similar experiences and fallen pregnant quickly? I know everyone's different but any good news stories help move us all along!! .

xx

Summerbird you are currently on cycle 5 ...will keep my fingers crossed for you. Funnily enough, even though I haven't even OVed yet this month, I don't think I'm going to conceive this month either...no idea why...just like a sort of feeling...a sixth sense...

Flirty x

PS. Glad the list is helping... x

oh Dawn - I'm keeping everything crossed for you. Please go for the scan - everything might be ok, and if not then at least you'll know for sure. I've had 2 early MCs in the past and in some ways I actually feel that it may be the best thing if the embryo isn't forming properly or there's something else wrong. It really helped me to feel like it happened for a good reason, is that makes any sense.

Here's a bucket load of babydust for the pip:

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cheers flirty

Bonifacio - TTC no 1, Cycle 1, CD9
BSL - TTC number 1 (obviously) Cycle 2, CD 9
FlirtyThirty - TTC no 1, Cycle 2, CD 9
Heverhoney - TTC no 1, cycle 1, CD 14
Saz - TCC no 1, Cycle 1, CD17
Eth 37 - TTC no 1, Cycle 1, CD 20
Summerbird - TTC no 1, Cycle 5, CD23
Crunchynutter- TTC no1, no cycle as of yet!

Graduates:
Kalikaroo - EDD end March/beginning of April?

Dawn - on a break for now.

Summerbird - you are the frontrunner...oooh fingers crossed for you!! You must be on your 5th cycle, if it going to be 6th AF!

Flirty - I know what you mean about a 6th sense...I think I might have a June baby for some reason!! That doesn't mean I wouldn't be very happy with an April one though!!

Bonifacio - TTC no 1, Cycle 1, CD9
BSL - TTC #1 Cycle 2, CD 9
FlirtyThirty - TTC no 1, Cycle 2, CD 8
Heverhoney - TTC no 1, cycle 1, CD 14
Saz - TCC no 1, Cycle 1, CD17
Eth 37 - TTC no 1, Cycle 1, CD 20
Summerbird - TTC no 1, Cycle 6, CD23
Crunchynutter- TTC no1, no cycle as of yet!

Graduates:
Kalikaroo - EDD end March/beginning of April?

Dawn - on a break for now.

OOOoops made changes to the wrong person...sorry Flirty!

Bonifacio - TTC no 1, Cycle 1, CD9
BSL - TTC #1 Cycle 2, CD 8
FlirtyThirty - TTC no 1, Cycle 2, CD 9
Heverhoney - TTC no 1, cycle 1, CD 14
Saz - TCC no 1, Cycle 1, CD17
Eth 37 - TTC no 1, Cycle 1, CD 20
Summerbird - TTC no 1, Cycle 6, CD23
Crunchynutter- TTC no1, no cycle as of yet!

Graduates:
Kalikaroo - EDD end March/beginning of April?

Dawn - on a break for now.

BSL - Funnily enough...I have strong 'June' feelings too...?! I will doubtless be kicking myself come December when I'm still TTC but there you have it... x

Do your DH/P's all think that you will just fall pg at the drop of a hat or is it just mine that thinks he has "super swimmers" sorry TMI

Hi Saz - I have laid it on thick that getting PG can take agers and we have several friends who sadly cannot have children so my DH is well aware that is may take ages or not happen at all
It is one of my greatest fears not having children...so he is senstive to that.

Saz and Flirty - oddly my DH is the one trying to make me be more realistic. When I was in tears at the BFN a weeks ago and telling him that 25% of women conceive in their first month of trying. He told me that it takes time and to stop being impatient. Only last night he said that each month there's only a one in five chance of getting pregnant, so I had to be patient for 5 five months!! he said he'd read it in one of this 'Dad' books I bought him! Some times he can be annoyingly calm and laid back, but I know it's good for me!

Thanks ladies, I think it's DH friends who have been telling him how easy it's been for them. Hopefully we can both be realistic about this

Mine is now updated:

Bonifacio - TTC no 1, Cycle 1, CD9
BSL - TTC #1 Cycle 2, CD 8
FlirtyThirty - TTC no 1, Cycle 2, CD 9
Heverhoney - TTC no 1, cycle 1, CD 14
Saz - TCC no 1, Cycle 1, CD17
Eth 37 - TTC no 1, Cycle 1, CD 20
Summerbird - TTC no 1, Cycle 5, CD23
Crunchynutter- TTC no1, no cycle as of yet!

Graduates:
Kalikaroo - EDD end March/beginning of April?

Dawn - on a break for now.

lol i have just come on here to check on you girls- with a glass of wine well it is my holiday and i have done even more ironing today!

I was having this problem, i dont drink a lot any way- maybe one/two glasses a week maximum and thats not every week (have a bottle in incase i have a bad day but its not always open if you see what i mean!) However, on the rare girls nights out we have i do binge drink quite badly i have always been known as 'the mad one' and the last night i made it out i tried the cutting down/diet/ husband shouted when i threw up on him last time... all sorts! But they found it funny and kept buying me drinks (they like my drunk dancing i think so the last girls night out was friday... and i cancelled! I did have my migraine but i told them i was broke (which to be fair i am enjoying spending my pennys on my nesting and decorating anyway!) but i knew they wouldnt leave me sober and we always buy rounds cos its easier to get to the bar that way and they ignore me when i say i don't want alcohol i really dont want to avoid them for ever but dont want them to know how obsessed i am with TTC (one of them has three lovely children and seems to get pregnant if somebody sneezes by her ) IT is difficult isn't it girls!

Oh and Eth I teach English- i am looking forward to September as it should be much less stressful! However i don't have my own classroom and have found it tricky racing round to different rooms with boxes full of books/folders/pens/ laptop/books etc! Am quite worried about how that will work when i am pregnant because i do carry lots about. I'm sure ill be fine though!

I have been trying to keep an eye out on the old CM front as i read something on that too- i dont seem to have anything going on down there though i am waiting patiently...

Just to let you guys know, Dawn posted a message on the Bonkers thread....

thanks BSL i have been so for her. if you are reading this dawn i am sending you lots of hugs and good luck for the scan next week. xx

kalikaroo i just looked at your BFP picture - got me all excited and but in a way!!! good for you girl!!

Summerbird i have just shown my husband the link to the hotel- he thought it looked great too so fingers crossed for April

Dawn Good luck for the scan- try to stay positive- they really can't be sure until then xx

On a lighter note- it looks like we are finally going to get the hallway plastered thats the only BIG job left but it is a huge job and its been driving me mad- i am starting to feel really positive that i may actually have a nice home by the time im back at work- you have no idea how long i have waited for this!! xx

I am very jealous of you ladies in lovely exotic countries with maids and chauffers! So where did you meet your husbands again...? hehe only joking- mines great just the was he is! I am still very though! xx

AAAhhhhh I am sooooo useless. Less than a day after telling you all I wasnt gonna tell my DP about the OV sticks I've gone and done it!!!!

Had the serious hump about no ov today even though FF said today was the day and OH made a joke about the likelyhood of me getting up for night feeds!! I snapped and told him as I wasnt even producing eggs a baby was not exactly likely I am such a moody madam!!!

crunchy we got our hallway plastered a while back - and oh my god you have no idea how much mess they make! i thought i could just stay at home and chill when they were doingit but as they were doing my kitchen as well i ended up leaving them to it and buggering off to MacDonalds!! The clean up took days BUT it is all worthwhile as my 1930s house now looks like a new build! (well it will when finished).

heverhoney it does us all good to let loose on the DH's every now and again! We never really argue as he just laughs at me when i go off on one!!

I think this last 1WW is worse than the 2WW for some bizarre reason! It is sooooo dragging

he took it quite well I have to say. He did however say "It cant be this hard to get pregnant surely!!!! How come there are so many unplanned babies out there!!!"

I have been wondering this for years - If you can only get preggers 3 days a month how come all the accidents happen in those 3 days????

I agree, I cant believe that all these accidents happen in the three days. And to think that i spent my entire 20s and early 30s trying hard NOT to get pregnant and here i am now obsessing over it!

I have just realised - i have joined a social networking site basically dedicated to bonking!!!!!!!!

PMSL!!!! Summerbird!!!!

This is a forum basically consisting of what in RL would be considered to be TMI

I NEVER speak about this kind of stuff in RL and would at just hearing the WORDS cervix mucous! and BD fest - te hehe

Also who do you know in RL who talks about brands of sticks to pee on ?????? so surreal yet it feels so natural on here

Ok, i'm very sorry i've not looked at anyone elses posts to see how you all are, I am very annoyed and need to know if I am right to be?

So DP comes in last night an hour and a half later than he was supposed to be (I ignored it as didn't want to spoil the mood for BD'ing by arguing) He doesn't even mention that I look nice (which isn't often when I am just in the house) I get him his dinner (his fave) and settle down to watch a film (9 and a half weeks for gods sake practically porn) make some sexy suggestions about been slathered in ice cream (never gonna happen brrrr way too cold) I suggest we go to bed (10pm FFS) he agree's we get into bed start getting a little frisky (sorry sorry I know TMI) and then he suddenly goes cold and starts rambling on about something and nothing. I ask him to kiss me (why did I ASK ffs) he then sayd I am being very wierd and he doesn't want to BD, so obviously I ask why as I was getting all the signles that he was up for it too until he went cold. He is tired aparently. So I say well you wren't a minute ago. Then he says i've put too much pressure on. Which may or may not be true but I was actually trying to take the pressure off by dressing nicely and trying to make it fun. And he said but its not is it and I said well it would've been if you weren't such an arse. Then I completely flipped and pointed out that he knows you only have 3-5 days to BD to stand a chance of getting PG and we have already missed one. Then I storm out and end up bloody having a cigarette. Get back into bed a while later wake up this morning and he's being all cuddly (but still not BD'ing) and then when I send his a text saying how upset I am about how he acted he claims no knowledge of it even though I threw the remote at him.

Sorry needed to offload that, i'm just worried that thios is his not so subtle way of telling me that he's (still) not ready. I don't know what to do now when he gets in tonight part of me want to be really arsy and refuse to BD even if he wants to (stubborn streak) but obviously that would be stupid. I'm thinking about just leaving it to him to approach the BD'ing. I was so upset because I have been waiting so long for him to be ready.

Oh Bonifacio!
I'm so sorry that all your efforts and hopes didn't work out... Right, let's quickly go over what happened and then move on to a positiove step forward...no point in wallowing too much. Onwards and upwards as they say...

Right...and I may play devil's advocate a little, but bear with me. It is possible that your DH does feel too much pressure to perform, and that may frustrate, embarrass or upset him, thus killing the mood. And he may feel a little sad that you aren't dressing up, making his fav food etc etc just for him, but rather so that you can get what you want (ie. a baby). That may make him a little sad/disappointed. He may well be worried that this is the start of you always putting soeone before him (men think very differently). So...just as you have all these emotions fltying around, so will he...but they are likely different. And on top of that...he may just have had a crap day. Maybe, he just likes you the way you normally are...that's what he married after all...

Now moving forward...

I think he did feel too much pressure yes, as I stupidly have talked quite a bit about it over the last year. I dress up every weekend when we go out jst not when we are in the house alone, and that is just for him. His main worry is that he will be second best instead of coming first as he always has but I have tried to explain that I will now come third too (work comes first now)

Thankyou for your post made me feel a bit better!!