First time TTC?!! Let's get through this together!!

[DawnAS]

Hi All,

This is a difficult time for most women (and men) I think.

Certainly for me, I've waited a long time to get to this stage , having not met Mr Right until the age of 31. Now 34 and got married 2 months ago and now want to complete the family!

So, just started "trying" for a baby and due to my impatient nature, have already started using Ovulation Kits. (Probably not a good idea). I also did the Female Fertility Test and that seemed to have a good result aswell.

I was on Dianette for 8 years and came off of it 3 years ago. My cycles became regular again but every 5 weeks instead of 4. I had previously come off of the pill for 6 months and my cycles were regular, so I guess all this is a good sign.

Anyone else had similar experiences and fallen pregnant quickly? I know everyone's different but any good news stories help move us all along!! .

xx

thanks for that girls, my coworkers are byatches, funnily enough they are single girls about town, and one of them is so bitter and twisted it is unbelievable (dont think she has ever had a BoyF), i forgot to mention that two of the other girls (early20s in relationships) are lovely and over egged the congrats to mask the bitchiness,

i woke up feeling a bit sicky this morn and was convinced i was pg - then realised i havent even OV'd yet! D'Oh!!

Got friends visiting this weekend so abandoning all caution and getting bladdered!

Have a good one girls, enjoy your curry bonifaco! i am taking boots own folic acid, they were running out in my local one - seems all of Manchester is TTC!

Hang on in there Dawn - how exciting!

Hey all,

Summerbird - aahhh, that explains it (but still doesn't justify it...). They obviously have nothing in their lives apart from going out and getting pissed. Although saying that, that was me in my 20s aswell. Not out of choice though! If I'd have met "the one" back then, I would have settled down too. Unfortunately it just didn't happen for me...

PMSL about you waking up feeling ill thinking you were PG!! Sure it wasn't just "thinking" about being PG that made you feel a bit queasy - . I'm not looking forward to those sort of symptoms at all!!

So, all, I have now bought some PG tests from Ebay. Hoping that they'll take a couple of postage days at least to arrive, will be looking at Monday. Went for the 20 ones so high sensitivity. So if AF is due on Wednesday and I do one on Monday/Tuesday, that should be fairly accurate I would think...

Have to say though, when I look back over some of my symptoms, like lumps under arms and stuff, I wonder now whether I was already PG since last month's AF was only 2 days..... No, pull yourself together, now you're just going mad!!!

xxx

Jesus Dawn!!!
"I wonder now whether I was already PG since last month's AF was only 2 days..."
Maybe you are going to be one of those women that gives birth having failed to realise they were PG!
You'll be posting a birth announcement by Wednesday at this rate...

Well Flirty I am looking a bit chunky and I keep getting these sharp pains every 4 minutes - only joking!! (Obviously durhh!)

Trouble is, I only started writing my diary of symptoms in the last week or so, so I can't actually remember when the little lumps under my armpits started... Strangely it was at the time I noticed them that someone sent me a link saying that someone's pregnancy had been diagnosed because of the little lumps...

I really don't think I was though!! You are all going to laugh so hard when I get a BFN!!!

xxx

Dawn what have i told you about positive thought! I am very excited for you though- i have everything crossed!

Summerbird don't let them drag you down- stick with the nice girls, i think every work place has a bitch or two its just knowing when to ignore them that keeps you sane!

My new healthplan baby diet is starting as of this weekend now i have officially broke up for 6 weeks gives me plenty of time to focus of the improtant things lol!
I shall have to get some folic acid too i think- have any of you just got those pregnacare tablets? I was wondering if they would be best? xx

Hi Crunchy,

I have the pregnacare ones with the fish oil capsules too. You take two tablets a day. They're good (if only I remembered to take the, every day!! oops...

They aren't cheap, but I think Boots have them on buy 2 get 3rd free.

My sis swore that krill oil (hope I've got that right) helped her and she got not a single stretch mark. but I guess that's more for when you're PG!

BSL x

Im vegetarian though lol- i shall have a look! there must be a good veggie option thanks though- i really hadnt thought much about taking supplements- what would i od without you girls!

Sorry Crunchy, didn't realise you were veggie!! Well, I think it's just about making sure you get your omega 3 oils...I guess you need to check that??

I've been so forgetful about taking my pills. DH has o keep reminding me!!

Right taking them now and sleeps...

BSL x

Haha i am awful at remembering my iron tablets never mind anything else! I am due my bloodtests this month though- i am supposed to take tablets 3times a day though and am lucky if i have remembered one! Oh well... i tried doing it through diet too!

O.k ladies- what would you do?
As you know we are trying for a baby- our two year old labrador has calmed down lots (although he is still very excitable and likes to jump up etc!) so we think in another 9months minimum he will be quite calm with a baby. WE just got back from taking him for his booster jab though and saw some puppies for sale...

Now we both work long hours so it would be nice for him to have the company, I am now also going to be home for 6weeks to settle in and train the pup.

HOWEVER, My doggy is VERY spoilt (sleeps with us and everything so obviously we couldnt spoil another that much and i worry incase ours resents a new pup. Also, if puppy is as excitable as our current lab then he/she would probably be a bit too much around babies. hmmm {hmm}

So whats the verdict- i am not pregnant and am feeling like i probably wont be for quite a while but i could have a baby puppy to look after... So should we or shouldn't we?? Pros and cons considered!

Hey CrunchY,

That's really weird, we have a 2 year old lab too!! She's a yellow lab called Tilly. She's also very spoilt and has really put our Bengal cat's nose out of joint.... But she's definitely our baby (although she's a bit of a Daddy's girl...).

We were thinking of getting another puppy too, but have decided against it as I know a lot of people that have given up puppies as soon as they get pregnant or have a baby due because they forget what hard work puppies are (I never realised until we got Tilly, they really do change your life!!).

The other reason is that we need to buy a house before Xmas this year and a new house with a new puppy and (hopefully) a baby, would be a nightmare I think!!

I would make a suggestion that you wait a few months to see if you become PG. It's taken Tilly 2 years to calm down properly and I'm sure you'll be PG before then, so you'd have a lot to cope with... Just my opinion though hun...

We will get another dog one day though, although probably when our child is about 2 or 3.

Just out of interest, were they labs that you saw? We didn't realise how much they moult, so we've decided on a Labradoodle or a Cockapoo. They're both gorgeous and because they have poodle type fur, they don't moult at all!!

xxx

Hi guys,

Crunchy - my vote is to go for the puppy...but truth is that I've never owed a dog and have no idea of the level of commitment etc. But I'd love a dog. If we didn't have our cat, I'd get a dog!!

We have a very spoilt cat, he doesn't like children, or I should should say, he's not used to kids and is frightened of them. We have an Egyptian Mau, he's naughty and excitable and like to play nibble...great for a baby...not! Oh well!

Dawn - can I ask a question about your Bengal?? Are they bigger than normal cats?? I thought it was just their markings that were unique but my friend was saying last night that they are huge too...??

Oh and went to Howletts zoo today with our friends little 2.5 year old...DH and I had such fun playing mummies and daddies...he's such a good little thing! Made me even more desperate for little ones.

BSL x

Hi folks

Has anyone been trying raspberry leaf tea? I've read that it's supposed to be beneficial when ttc and also for pregnancy and birth. I found some in our cupboard (DH went through a herbal tea drinking phase last year )It might be out of date now, but it tastes ok.

Is all that herbal remedy stuff just mumbo jumbo? What do you reckon?

Hi all! Dawn you are so much like me lol our lab is our baby too and we had a big talk last night and decided against the pup too- exactly the same reasons as you have said! ours has only just calmed down and i did mention the moulting- we seem to have to hoover non stop! He is only a short coat too! The puppys were labs too though- we love ours that much i think we'll always have labs we did say when our babies are a bit older that another puppy might be nice then but i think babies and a puppy would be a nightmare! I would worry about the amount of hair floating around too

I could never not have a dog though- he really cheers me up when iv had a bad day and hes always soo happy to see us- i think hell be very protective over our babies (well thats what im hoping anyway!)

dawn are you still planning on testing? Anything else happened? I confided about trying yesterday to my sister and she gave me a bit of a shock!
She asked if we had considered nursery fees as if not i may have to leave work and could we survive on 1 wage, had we got a birth plan, had i considered a doola( WTF?!) had i chosen nursery furniture or prams and costs of these etc etc... it was a bit disheartening- have any of you ladies looked into all of this??

Hey Crunchy,

I think it's probably a good move to leave getting a puppy for now...

Well, I usually get CM with blood from today for 3 days until AF, but nothing. Bad lower back pain today and a constant feeling of just not being entirely with it. Sort of what I would imagine an "Out of body" experience to be, almost watching myself do stuff. It's most bizarre. Am permanently exhausted aswell, boobs still sore but not as bad and that's about it really.

We've already discussed the nursery and childcare thing. Unfortunately for us, I'm the main breadwinner and DHs salary wouldn't even cover the mortgage so, hard as it's going to be, our child is going to need to be in full-time childcare... Really gutted about it but these days I just think it's a fact of life.

My sister had to do the same and my niece is the most rounded, wonderful little girl of 3 years old. She's just amazing so it's obviously done her no harm. I would love to stay at home with my child, but it's just not feasible.

Saying that, my work does have a flexible working policy for mothers of young children, so I could squeeze my hours into 4 days instead of 5 AND we're going to ask my SIL if she'll have the child for maybe 2 days a week. She's profoundly deaf (as is her husband) but has bought up 3 very intelligent and fantastic (hearing) children of their own. The two youngest have just made it into Grammar School and the eldest is a assistant teacher to assist deaf children at their local school. All three are fluent in sign language too!!

I was worried initially, but then I thought, as long as our child is mixing with other children for at least two days a week and at home with us in the evenings, it wouldn't have any impact on her/him at all, other than teaching him/her even more skills!

Not that I wouldn't prefer to be at home all day with my own child, but it's that and don't have a place to live, or, both work but make sure that our child can have the best life that we can possibly give it, full of loads of love and family time, when we're all together.

Sorry if that sounds a bit melodramatic but people do make you feel quite bad for using full-time childcare. Like we'd do it if we had the choice??!!

So, what do you guys think?!

xxx

I agree with you Dawn. My mum had to work when i was a child as she was on her own for a bit, so i stayed with my grandparents or went to day nursery, i still knew who my mum (and new dad from when i was 4yrs old) was and have a really close relationship with them. It was the same with my sisters. I actually think it is good to teach children how to socialise and mix from as early an age as poss, especially it it is your first as they wont have siblings.

My colleague (the nice one who is PG with #2) has her 18mth old DD in day nursery, and she is developing really well, she even looked after her ickle friend when he hurt himself, bless her she was patting him better until the nursery nurse came along - d'aarrrgghhh I want one!!!

Am on day 14 so is a crucial time to get BDing!

Oooh, go for it Summerbird. I'm still waiting to find out if I'm PG. Been getting loads of weird symptoms that I've never had before so I'm very hopeful...

Had what I think was an Implantation Bleed last Sunday night, Monday and Tuesday morning, accompanying cramps which are still there now. AF isn't due until Wednesday. Sore, big and tingly boobs (never get that during or before AF), terrible headaches (never get those either unless I'm getting a cold...) and just feeling severe exhaustion...

So I'm keeping everything crossed right now. Normally get Red/Brown CM from about today until the blood comes on Wednesday, but nothing so far....

xxx

Hi! I do actually want to return to words after taing a longer maternity leave- and then hopefully initially with reduced/part time hours (hopeful again!) as i believe we will 1)need the money! and 2) it is beneficial for children to be with others. it makes them independant, builds social skills and confidence, helps build immunity and general all round goodness! However my sister seemed to imply that nursery fees would cost more than i earn and so this wouldnt be possible! I have not looked into costs and am not confident my mother would be able to have them every day... it really is quite worrying but i suppose other people survive so it has to be possible...

Dawn it is very exciting. i really do hope you are expecting- not that you can leave the rest of us when you are!! xx

Sorry!! i deleted my first post and wrote that one quite annoyed! i want to return to work (obviously words would also be nice ) and i meant after taking

Hi Crunchy,

I do know what you mean about nursery fees and it does depend where you live. But remember that even if your Mum can have your child for just 2 days a week, it would reduce the cost dramatically.

It depends where you live aswell, the cost of nursery. I think where we are, it's about £35 a day and we're allowing around £600 a month... I am lucky enough to earn quite a bit more than that so it wouldn't be feasible for me to give up work. In a way, I wish I didn't earn it because then I could stay at home... But the problem is that because we haven't bought a house yet, aiming to find somewhere and be in by Xmas, our mortgage just for getting a basic 3-bed (which we'll need because I work from home so need an office...), will set us back about £1400 alone, without bills, food and nursery fees on top!! Even though the house prices are dropping, they're not dropping enough to reduce what we'll need to pay dramatically...

Don't worry, if I am PG, I won't be going anywhere. I think it'll take a while to sink in to be honest, considering it was Cycle number 1!!

Back to the maternity and child care thing... The other thing with us is that our child will have to be in full-time childcare from 3 months old because I only get 6 weeks at 90% pay then it drops down to £100 a week which is nothing and certainly won't pay any bills!! I'm going to have to save enough (after buying a house!!) to cover the mortgage for the other 6 weeks or so. OMG, that's going to be such a difficult time financially!!

Oh well, everyone else copes so we'll have to aswell!!

xxx

Hi Crunchy - i just re-read your earlier post about me knowing when to ignore the cows at work, thanks for that, it is so true.

And Dawn - OMG!!! fingers crossed, sounds like you have the classic symptoms, a friend of mine who was PG last year said she just knew before she even took the test, as she was constantly exhausted.

I wonder what surprises this week is going to bring...

Dawn I'm so hoping your PG we need a first in the thread!

I definately am not! AF was 2 days late (never happened before!) and I was so convinced but then it arrived yeaterday and is now here with a vengance causing me the worst pain ever (my mum always told me that labour was no worse than her period pains so i'm hoping mine will be the same.....hmm although i'm sure she had C sections

My friend who is pg, has had no symptoms at all and is now in the second trimester, no morning sickness at all! I am hoping that when I am eventually pg I am the same (though I seriously doubt I would be that lucky)

Luckily for me though I won't be working when we have DC as DP's wage is enough to support us all (don't work now either) so won't have to think about the costs, childcare is so expensive now though, I have looked at it! Although as we are here we could get a nanny for around 100gbp a month, which is worth looking into I suppose. Also yes crunchy I have looked into the cost of furniture etc and for everything that I plan on getting not including baby clothes or anything maternity or nappies etc it is approximately 1,800gbp but thats just mine, I am sure you could get things cheaper.

Please if you can look at my other poest about folic acid as I have added some info and would like feedback!! I'm still confused!

Good look BD'in Summerbird!!

Hey B,

Well, as I mentioned on the other thread, I don't think Sanatogen would put 700mcg in their tablets for Pregnant Women if it was too much, so I'm sure yours at 500mcg will be more than adequate.

If it turns out that I am PG now, I'm going to save as much back from my salary a month as possible and actually start buying things. Luckily Mum and Dad have got quite a large house so will happily store things for us, like cots and stuff. Don't want to tempt bad luck by bringing things into our place too early...

I'm going to ask both of my sisters whether they've kept their cots and what clothes they've got. I'm also going to buy cheap on vests and babygros and things as they grow out of them so quickly and you also get given so much as gifts....

My Nephew and Nieces have clothes that they never wore, even though they wore new outfits every day, because they outgrew things so quickly. I would ask people to give us stuff for 3-6 months and 6-9 months to give them chance to grow into things!!

Hmmm, am I getting ahead of myself?! Yes!!

xx

Ha ha no not getting ahead of yourslef!! The only things I intend to splurge a little on are the nursery furniture, pram and car seat. Though the thing thats going to cost us the most money is the shipping as the baby stores here are shite. Though at least Mamas and Papas / John Lewis / Mothercare all do international shipping, and if I am right DP's company will have to pay for it (thank god!!) Though we don't plan on buying nursery furniture until baby is around 6 months old as we will be using a crib in our room until then, so that should spread the cost a little, although shipping can take a while to get all the way out here!

I am getting quite worried about these new multi vits I bought as the levels of everything in them is REALLY high, may just take my extra strong Folic Acid...... hate not knowing what to do....

Morning girls.

Just back from a weekend at home where babies was main topic of conversation. My sis is due in September and also spent time with my 18 month old niece who is gorgeous.

....and then this morning AF comes. So disappointed even though knew was very unlikely this month. Still means that poor DH is going to have a very exhausting August! Hope the weather isn't too hot.

Good luck Dawn - so keeping everything crossed for you. I'm sure that once we have our first BFP of the thread, the rest of us will fall too like a set of dominoes!
No pressure. Lol.

Talking of baby equipment - went shopping with my sister for her pram etc at weekend - £550 for the full set of pram/buggy/car seat. Gulp, at least have at least another month of saving up!

Ahh Linwin its a pain when AF arrives, Hopefully next month will be a good moth for all of us!! Except Dawn who hopefully will be this month!!

I just looked in one of my books and if I do get pg next month my due dat will be 27th April!! WHich would mean I wouldn't be able to go to the wedding I mentioned ages ago!! Damn

I too am shocked at how much prams cost, thing is you can get them cheaper but the marketing people know that mums to be are an easy bunch to pray on! Shame on them!!

Makes me so broody when I am out with pg friends and friends with babies!!